Reddit: Guys who have paid for sex, why?

[Mocha]

Here’s what’s on dating-hookup apps:

1. Catfishes

2. Time wasters

3. Serial killers

4. Serial chatters

5. Incels ( socially retarded)

6. Bad manners

7. Fakers

8. Potential poor performers in bed

9. Cheaters

10. Bad Hygiene/ Ettiquette

 

Besides the serial killers, You just defined the current state of escort sites in 2019

[Hadakanbo]

Here’s what’s on dating-hookup apps:

1. Catfishes

2. Time wasters

3. Serial killers

4. Serial chatters

5. Incels ( socially retarded)

6. Bad manners

7. Fakers

8. Potential poor performers in bed

9. Cheaters

10. Bad Hygiene/ Ettiquette

 

For some reason, I find incels strangely hot.

[+ Just Sayin]

I just do not want to be in a relationship at this point in my life; hiring is a convenient way to fulfill the need for intimacy with no strings attached

[thickornotatall]

I agree with all the good comments above.

 

As delightful as I am sure I am to the discerning souls who take the trouble to get to know my inner self, my outer self is not exactly thrillingly attractive. I love well-built guys who are almost always moving in the other direction when I work up the courage to say hello. What a godsend good escorts are! Polite, interested, sexy, and available. Sad old man? Maybe. Do I let it get me down? No. Well, at least not on a good day. And anyway, why not hire the best? My sex life is at least as problematic as my house’s plumbing. Give me an expert every time.

Sorry you are feeling unworthy..My husband and I always say there is someone for everyone...I see all sorts of odd couples....look- a- like couples...Mutt and Jeff couples....How did they meet couples....what does he see in him couples....You may be seeling yourself short...

[bostonman]

I still tend to look for hookups more than for escorts - part of that is for budget reasons. But when I do hire, it might be because I'm looking for a certain physical type or age range I'm not finding elsewhere, or a certain type of experience that an escort might be better at. For instance, I enjoy roleplay/fantasy stuff a lot, and I will often look for escorts who enjoy that sort of play. Or, perhaps I'm in the mood for something more sensual that doesn't involve going "all the way" sexually, and it might be that an escort is more willing to go with the flow for his client, rather than the expectation that it's all about getting off, the way hookups can be. A few months back, I had a wonderful session with an escort I've seen a number of times - and it really became more about cuddling and simple intimacy more than anything else - it was just what I needed. Of course, what helped in this case was that indeed we have been together a number of times, so I felt very safe and comfortable doing that with him. It might not have felt right with someone I was with for the first time.

 

Is there a sort of thrill in the potential danger of hiring? I think so. But hookups come with their own danger/thrill aspect too, so I guess it's just different sides of the same coin. My problem is that I can get a bit hesitant to hire because I know I can't afford it as much as I would like - so if I'm going to go for someone, I want to make sure he's really the right choice for me, etc. I tend to envy some of you who clearly have the resources to make escorting a full-time hobby rather than the occasional splurge.

 

One other interesting thing - I don't get to travel all that much, but when I do, I can find it fun to plan a session with an escort in the city I'm travelling to. For instance, my job currently does have me in NYC for a weekend each November (though not this year, unfortunately) - and pretty much each year I've been able to plan for 2 extras - seeing a Broadway show, and hiring a local escort. The shows have been uniformly wonderful, the escorts tend to vary - but it's still been fun to know that travelling can have some extra perks.

[+ keroscenefire]

I do actually date and hook up somewhat often. But I actually also really value the client/escort relationships I have developed. I wouldn't consider any of them quite a friendship, but the intimacy I get especially with my regulars is hard to receive even in an established romantic relationship. Plus many of the escorts are really interesting, smart people. I've gotten everything from great podcast recommendations to travel tips to lively political debates with escorts who in many cases are more well-traveled than I and yet often share similar interests.

 

I've kind of wondered if maybe my hiring escorts is getting in the way of pursuing a more long-term romantic partnership. There is probably some truth to that because with some of my regulars, I really do get many of the best benefits of a romance with the no-strings attached.

[+ Just Sayin]

@keroscenefire, I believe the word for that in the business world is "outsourcing"