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If you live near or in a community that has an LBGTQ Community Center, they might have a lending library or book exchange.  That might be another good option.  

I saw him about two years ago when he was passing through the Bay Area.  He seems to travel all of the time.  Not sure where actual home base is. Massage was not great. Not very skilled from my perspective. He has been back a few times since then and I wouldn't repeat. I noticed the last couple of times his ad only said therapeutic, but he did do Erotic in the past, which is what I was interested in at the time. Included MT and HE.  He never asked for a photo when I saw him. Of course, as is the case with any of these guys, YMMV. 

You’re certainly welcome to that opinion regarding the logo.  But again… it’s one opinion among THOUSANDS. I’ve been involved with managing websites for literally over twenty years and one lesson that I learned early on was that I would never be able to please everyone.  While I do listen to all feedback, I can’t always do what everyone wants/asks. Instead I can only make decisions based on what I think is right for the community as a whole. Time will tell if that decision was the right one. 

Feel free to continue using the original theme once the new one is introduced.  Generally you won’t find that option available on other sites. So I would like to think I’ve done a respectable job of accommodating everyone as part of the process. 

 

In my view, that’s a very generous interpretation @Leyte2019. 
I’d take it at face value when he stated:
I knew of someone very similar a couple of years ago. I was friendly with a hot personal trainer (I was interested in him but hadn’t done anything). I mentioned him casually and a friend of mine confirmed he was ‘gay for pay’ but cautioned that the trainer had said that he found “having sex with old men repulsive”.
There are too many guys, not just on OF, who don’t want to work hard but expect others to pay their bills. I’ve no problem with a hot young man trying to monetize his physique, but he better be very friendly and perform well if he wants my money.

I'm just the opposite. I abhor getting out of work in the dark at 5 or 6pm. As a kid, that extra hour of daylight on a warm summer night was EVERYTHING!  And 'falling back' to 'Standard Time' in the fall was the most depressing day of the year.  Long live DST!!
 

I cannot speak for other forum members, but I am certainly skeptical of your assessment.  You joined the forum a little over three weeks ago and the extent of your posting has been four negative comments about Palmer.  

I cannot speak for other forum members, but I am certainly skeptical of your assessment.  You joined the forum a little over three weeks ago and the extent of your posting has been four negative comments about Palmer.  

I cannot speak for other forum members, but I am certainly skeptical of your assessment.  You joined the forum a little over three weeks ago and the extent of your posting has been four negative comments about Palmer.  

I cannot speak for other forum members, but I am certainly skeptical of your assessment.  You joined the forum a little over three weeks ago and the extent of your posting has been four negative comments about Palmer.  

I cannot speak for other forum members, but I am certainly skeptical of your assessment.  You joined the forum a little over three weeks ago and the extent of your posting has been four negative comments about Palmer.  

I cannot speak for other forum members, but I am certainly skeptical of your assessment.  You joined the forum a little over three weeks ago and the extent of your posting has been four negative comments about Palmer.  

Checking to see if anyone has seen this handsome looking young man currently in San Jose.  Pictures are vaguely familiar, so possibly a name change?!?  Not sure.  Would appreciate any info.   https://rentmasseur.com/SenseWellness

I always text the provider when I’m on my way and get a response. But lately, when texting upon arrival in the hotel lobby, I get nothing right away. I wait ten minsince I usually book a 2 hour session,  so no answer in those ten minutes… I go back home! Usually ten minutes later, I get the “Sorry dude come back” text. If you cannot respect my time when I show up at the agreed upon appointment, then you don’t deserve my business.

Twice I received a message like the following:
"Hi. I have to cancel our date for today because I just got asked to fly to XXXXXXX for the weekend and am leaving in an hour. I am sure you will understand."
I replied, "I understand completely, but you will also understand that I will never contact you again."

Rainbow colors are a big PLUS in my view!
My favorite (now #4)

Love this one
 

Checking to see if anyone has seen this handsome looking young man currently in San Jose.  Pictures are vaguely familiar, so possibly a name change?!?  Not sure.  Would appreciate any info.   https://rentmasseur.com/SenseWellness

I learned the meaning of vicissitudes and temerity from this thread. 
 
thank you. 

Wow. There really is everything imaginable out there…
Not my cup of tea.

It has been ages since I have posted here and I'm not sure if I should even get involved in this discussion, but it is a lively discussion.
OK.
9 in 10 posters here will give you the same basic line of advice:
"Fall in love with The Experience, but not with The Provider".
Write that line down and keep it on the back burner, "logically speaking", so that you don't over-analyze what can't always be analyzed so easily.
Now... I will play the 10th poster and throw you a curve-ball.
Life can be complicated. Human relationships can be complicated. I developed feelings for a masseur who doesn't just do "hands only" work with clients and, over years of contact with him (and I am talking seven years now), we have developed a relationship that has gotten much closer with feelings that have become mutual. Yes, there has been much activity occurring "off working hours". Of course, you can not be the jealous type in this kind of relationship because people must make a living at what they do best in a world where many need special tender loving care. In addition, you yourself may need to help out at times too as you would in ANY kind of relationship, especially during bad times like nationwide pandemics when clients become fewer in number and the rent needs covered. 
Think of "The Provider" in much the same way you would a physical therapist or psychiatrist addressing your needs and improving your life for the better. Sadly, the United States is still a very backward country in accepting all of this as it should be accepted. Then again, just being gay in the United States was considered a "mental disorder" as late as 1973, doing "gay" activities could get you in jail in multiple states as late as 2006 and same gender marriage (as well as so many other relationships of this kind) was strictly out of the question prior to 2015. Since you say you are still in your twenties, two of these events only happened in your own lifetime and, yes, much more progress needs to made. Most of us posting here have had to get over a great many, many family and environmental issues just to address our own needs.
But... pardon me for getting off topic here.
Back to you.
If this fellow put you at ease and allowed you to experience things without judgement, then definitely revisit him again when you physically and financially can. Become a repeat client and view him as a potential friend first and foremost. You have already read some posts here mentioning wonderful friendships that have developed from these experiences and that is something that should never be overlooked.
Don't fuss too much about the feelings part. After all, you only spent ONE visit with him! That is like having a blind date with a perfect stranger whom you know virtually nothing about outside those two hours or so. Maybe on that second visit a.k.a. "date", your feelings will change. Something that happens may change your perspective of him altogether. Again, go up to the line quoted above as a possible rule of thumb. Yet don't overlook what possibilities could happen in the future. Just take one day... and visit... at a time. View your developing emotions and relationships as a good thing and not a bad thing to be afraid of... and remember that there are many kinds to experience in life.

It's infatuation for a tall hot hung stud who took you places that you had never been. Totally understandable.   Allow yourself to feel it, but also see it for what it is.  If you don't think you can experience the infatuation without becoming obsessive, don't see him again and allow the infatuation to fade.   But if you think you can handle it, go back for more.

When I was teaching in a public high, on the first day of classes, I always told me students that my name was 1.) Mr. Smith, 2.) Smith, or 3.) Bill.  They were welcome to use any of those with which they were comfortable.  The were, however, NEVER to call me buddy, dude, mack, bro, coach, or hey you.  The funny thing was they had a hell of a time calling me by my first name -- they would stutter and the finally blurt out Bill.  Most preferred to use my last name without the Mr thus on campus I was commonly known as Smith. 

Is this an ad? Stop shilling 

Seeing the title, my first reaction was:  It's there where it's always been, right between July and September!

I wish @lonely_johnwell and hope that he returns soon.