KensingtonHomo

wrong approach bc it’s way too vague.  
2-3 texts max to schedule, including your preferred time & place.  some flexibility, but not for the flakes.
a key decision point is how provider responds to inquires & ease of scheduling.  If it’s cumbersome & problematic- then you can expect that to carry through if there is ever an actual appointment. 

We see two providers who no longer advertise. In one case, he's busy with filming and collabs but still seeing his existing clients when he can. The other is focused on his day job, but also will still see us when we want. He also lets us know when he leaves or comes back to town due to his day job.  

There's a lot of projection in posts like these. Speaking for myself, I am conventionally attractive, look ten years younger than my (middle) age, and am a lot of fun in and out of bed. But you - and a few others on here - seem to think most of us are hideous and obese.
A significant number of us hire, not because we can't find sex but because it's much more convenient. We're paying, so we don't have to spend hours on apps to schedule a hook-up. And "good looking" is incredibly subjective. I'd say 80 percent of the providers who get posted here by members looking for information, hold zero appeal for me. But most guys are salivating over them. 
Lastly, the "slavery" comment is just horrible. Not only do we have a history of chattel slavery in this country, but there are people all over the world, including the US, who are being trafficked to have sex against their will. And, they do not get paid. In fact, by definition slaves don't get paid. 
And that rimming is what set you off, feels very personal. It's a practice you find distasteful or abhorrent, so you cannot imagine someone enjoying it. So it's worse to you then "fuck me or I won't hire you", "let me fuck you or I won't hire you", "blow me or I won't hire you." Really, they're all the same. 
Lastly, no one should ever coerce a provider into doing something they are uncomfortable with. But if I hire someone who says they provide a particular service - and let's stipulate that everyone involved is pristinely hygienic - and they will not perform, I would let it go. But I also would not hire them again. 

I do a weekly massage.
But like many people didn't meet up with anyone all through the Covid panic of 2020 and then stayed cautious through 2021.
As far as escorts I only (usally) hire when I'm traveling alone for business. I dislike being alone for too many days in a row. So will typically hire someone to have dinner with me one night and if I liked him, ask him to stop by a other night for some fun.
 

I typically hire once a week, mainly for massages. While there are occasional dry spells, my booking frequency tends to increase significantly when I travel, which happens about every other month.

I did a 3hr with one of my Philly guys recently and my body was shot from that!  He can be intense!

I know that this is a thread about providers who rim, but I just want to memorialize a friend/client of mine who passed away last summer.  I have a rim chair and one of our favorite things was for me to sit in it, him underneath.  I'd have my coffee, and we could stay like that for nearly an hour.  My butt would be so sore from sitting and so happy from liking.  His neck would NOT be sore because we knew JUST the right pillow to put under his head.  HAPPY DAYS!

I have found that all the providers I have been with come with butts prepared for my eager probing hungry tongue!

Three times a week - all regulars. Sometimes may do a newbie or visitor to NYC. Lots of great options;) 

Over the past year I've met up 32 times, 7 of them for massage, another 8 with a local regular, and then only a few other repeats. Most of them were in bursts while traveling. This is after going 3 years without any sensual/sexual contact. I'm recently starting to feel caught up on that deficit, so I foresee the frequency dropping dramatically.

We average once a month with escorts and a bit more for massage. And it's a mix of regular guys and then new guys. 

We average once a month with escorts and a bit more for massage. And it's a mix of regular guys and then new guys. 

Unlike many others who I will not tag or name, I rarely comment on providers’ appearance or desirability. And what I said was he’s not for me. I hope you find the time to call out all the posts saying providers are fat, ugly, old, etc. 🙄

I prefer more average and diverse-looking guys in porn. Similar to what advertising and porn have done to women, gay men constantly pressure each other to appear like the statue of David (or better). It's very unhealthy for us, individually and collectively. 

Off the top of my head, I can think of four providers with no tattoos who are young, and in shape. Two of them also do porn. 
I can understand not being into someone heavily tattooed. But if a guy has one or even a few discrete tattoos but is otherwise your type, I cannot fathom caring about it. 
But we're also due for the quarterly hysteria over guys wearing nail polish, so what do I know? 

early in my hiring career I tipped an escort with a check - I only had enough cash for the agreed fee, and he deserved more. 

I'd probably do drugs too if someone took me to a food court

Same here.  I could have my ass worshipped for hours.
I also like to eat ass.  A guy with a hot ass can sit on my face and I can cum hands free (doing Kegels) just from eating it.
After several decades of rimming I've never caught a bacterial bug.  However, I recently had my first case of oral gonorrhea.

Even if I had unlimited funds, I would not give a 22-year-old thousands of dollars. Not to yuck anyone's yum, but I don't find this kid remotely desirable. 
If he can get that sum, good for him, but I know plenty of wealthy people who would look askance at the idea that just because they have money, they should throw it at anyone with abs. 

It's funny. This came up with my regular guy yesterday. He said he doesn't escort because he's not able to perform if he's not attracted to the person. And he's had a couple of experiences with crazy clients - like stalker shit - even just doing massage. So he just feels like escorting would increase the chances of dealing with crazy. 

In my experience, when you seem the same masseur regularly things progress naturally to the level they're comfortable. My regular guy definitely goes way further now than when I started seeing him three years ago. But we also have lovely chats, and genuine chemistry. But that unfolded over time. 

Even if I had unlimited funds, I would not give a 22-year-old thousands of dollars. Not to yuck anyone's yum, but I don't find this kid remotely desirable. 
If he can get that sum, good for him, but I know plenty of wealthy people who would look askance at the idea that just because they have money, they should throw it at anyone with abs. 

Interesting that there’s SO MUCH discussion here.  My two cents 
Paying more doesn’t mean it’s better 
a provider maximizing his price is his right 
for me I could I would I have done $1000 - 1x - it was amazing 
very few that I would do that for 
I’d prefer a flight somewhere nice lol 

I think that’s great. I go further with regular clients than I would if he’s a new client. Firstly with a new client you don’t really know yet what he’s comfortable with, and secondly I think for it to feel right one needs to know that the client is the respectful type. It’s also rewarding for regular clients. If he’s been a few times I know he likes my massage and my company and so that naturally leads to a better connection and then to a better intimacy during the ‘extra’ elements of the massage. 

In my experience, when you seem the same masseur regularly things progress naturally to the level they're comfortable. My regular guy definitely goes way further now than when I started seeing him three years ago. But we also have lovely chats, and genuine chemistry. But that unfolded over time.