What to do when a provider's ad disappears

[viewing ownly]

A few years back, I had a great massage from a short, handsome husky man in the Palm Springs area. He relocated to Phoenix and dialed back his menu a couple of years ago, and now on both primary massage sites, his ad has been removed entirely.

I was planning a Phoenix trip to revolve around a massage from him, but this disappearance changed my plans. My hunch is that either his primary job was too time consuming, his boyfriend wanted him to stop, or he died.

I'm not sure what the best thing to do in this case is. Contact him since I still have his # to see if he's still seeing previous clients, or respect his indication that this isn't something he wants to do anymore and take his contact info out of my phone?

I'm aware that a reason some masseurs stop advertising is that they've developed such a regular clientele, it's merely a waste of money to publicly advertise any longer. I also know there's a big difference between having an ad expire, freezing an ad, and having an ad removed completely. He is not one of those guys who constantly changes names, but had been available consistently for quite a long time. He initially used his actual name, but changed away from that for reasons of privacy.

[+ keroscenefire]

I don't think it's a problem to contact an escort/masseur who takes his ads down.

Worse case scenario, he just tells you that he's no longer providing services.

Best case, he has an active client base, which includes you, and of course he'd love to set up a new appointment.

Edited April 29 by keroscenefire

[+ DynamicUno]

It's possible the number is no longer valid if a provider has stopped working and disconnected the line.  If so, the number could be reassigned.  It's advisable to be a little cautious until they've responded and confirmed the number is still theirs.  After that, if he says he's no longer seeing former clients you can delete his number.

[BuffaloKyle]

There is no harm in sending a text message. As @DynamicUno said just to be safe don't send too detailed of a message in case the number was reassigned. I'd send something like "Hi there. I'm going to be coming to Phoenix and wanted to schedule another appointment if you're available when I am in town." If he's not taking any bookings at all from anyone I'm sure he'll reply back to let you know or if no reply at all after a day or two then unfortunately start looking at other options.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

We see two providers who no longer advertise. In one case, he's busy with filming and collabs but still seeing his existing clients when he can. The other is focused on his day job, but also will still see us when we want. He also lets us know when he leaves or comes back to town due to his day job.  

[Rod Hagen]

Definitely send a discreet text, with your name.  He may be working but not advertising (that's me briefly now) and if he's not working you can meet up for lunch or coffee to convince him to keep seeing you...I mean to see how he is doing  :-)

Edited May 4 by Rod Hagen