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    + KensingtonHomo reacted to + APPLE1 in General thoughts on interactions with providers   
    Often, MONEY speaks louder than anything else, and by the same token, so does lack of money.
    Stop paying, or at least tipping, in advance. My assumption is that if you fail to tip when he doesn't respect your boundaries, he will quickly commit your boundaries to memory.
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from + Vegas_Millennial in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    A preference is not an aversion. Preference is “a greater liking for one alternative over another or others.” I prefer men who are clean shaven but I also find some men with facial hair attractive and the  presence of well groomed facial hair would not deter me from a guy. 
    Aversion is a strong dislike or disinclination. I have an aversion to men with very long, unkempt beards. I do not find them attractive, even if they are otherwise handsome. 
    Another non-age example is I prefer men with chest hair but I also find smooth guys attractive. But I have an aversion to men who shave their bodies because I find it very uncomfortable to have sex with someone who has stubble all over their body. 
    Generally, I prefer men who are taller than me but I’m not averse to men who are shorter than me if I otherwise find them attractive. 
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from + APPLE1 in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    Someone put it very well above - yes, most people express preferences but there's quite a bit of aversion expressed on here. Oddly, it's not from younger provider men or providers. It tends to be men averse to those of their own age. 
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from Cbilly17 in Vetting   
    I read the reviews on their profile, looking for consistency and checking if the people leaving the reviews are legit. For example, have they reviewed other providers? If they have a link to their socials, I'll take a look at those as well. Then, I'll search for them on here and consider those accounts. 
    I'm really looking for an overall picture that is consistent. 
    I'm not really worried about danger, particularly if the provider has a decent history and shows his face, gives me his phone number, etc. From there, I ask questions to get a sense if it's a fit. 
    Honestly, I think Grindr might be more risky. 
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    + KensingtonHomo reacted to LookingAround in NYC Newbie Uesny   
    To be deaf and blind as a gay man in the age of HIV is pretty stunning. Your comment is as revealing as it is stunning. 
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from + APPLE1 in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    A preference is not an aversion. Preference is “a greater liking for one alternative over another or others.” I prefer men who are clean shaven but I also find some men with facial hair attractive and the  presence of well groomed facial hair would not deter me from a guy. 
    Aversion is a strong dislike or disinclination. I have an aversion to men with very long, unkempt beards. I do not find them attractive, even if they are otherwise handsome. 
    Another non-age example is I prefer men with chest hair but I also find smooth guys attractive. But I have an aversion to men who shave their bodies because I find it very uncomfortable to have sex with someone who has stubble all over their body. 
    Generally, I prefer men who are taller than me but I’m not averse to men who are shorter than me if I otherwise find them attractive. 
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from + DrownedBoy in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    LOL—the guy who ridicules anyone who isn't extremely fit and 25 saying I'm being "prejudicial" is the funniest thing I've read all week. Thanks for the laugh. 
    Again, we're not talking about a preference. We're talking about people who are either averse or completely uninterested in people their own age. Whatever someone thinks about guys in their 60s or 70s is what he thinks about himself. 
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    + KensingtonHomo reacted to pubic_assistance in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    So you "prefer" to sleep with certain men but you're "averse" to sleeping with a woman.
    Got it.
    We all have our preferences ...and aversions.
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from thomas in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    THIS! And one cannot be averse to or even just not attracted to someone their own age without some degree of self-hatred. That said, I don’t think this is a personal flaw. We are besieged by endless messages that only men who are super fit,  under 30, and mostly white or white adjacent are attractive. This shows up in most if not all of us. We can try to be more open, rather than naturalize it.
    I’m middle aged and I generally find men around 35 to 65-70 attractive. Of course, it depends on the man and a lot of other variables but I’d generally prefer a 60 year old to a 25 year old. 
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from Danny-Darko in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    LOL—the guy who ridicules anyone who isn't extremely fit and 25 saying I'm being "prejudicial" is the funniest thing I've read all week. Thanks for the laugh. 
    Again, we're not talking about a preference. We're talking about people who are either averse or completely uninterested in people their own age. Whatever someone thinks about guys in their 60s or 70s is what he thinks about himself. 
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from marylander1940 in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    A preference is not an aversion. Preference is “a greater liking for one alternative over another or others.” I prefer men who are clean shaven but I also find some men with facial hair attractive and the  presence of well groomed facial hair would not deter me from a guy. 
    Aversion is a strong dislike or disinclination. I have an aversion to men with very long, unkempt beards. I do not find them attractive, even if they are otherwise handsome. 
    Another non-age example is I prefer men with chest hair but I also find smooth guys attractive. But I have an aversion to men who shave their bodies because I find it very uncomfortable to have sex with someone who has stubble all over their body. 
    Generally, I prefer men who are taller than me but I’m not averse to men who are shorter than me if I otherwise find them attractive. 
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from Jamie21 in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    Someone put it very well above - yes, most people express preferences but there's quite a bit of aversion expressed on here. Oddly, it's not from younger provider men or providers. It tends to be men averse to those of their own age. 
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    + KensingtonHomo reacted to SouthOfTheBorder in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    go on RM and filter by age - there are huge drops in 40+ and even more drop at 50+ and very few at 60+. out of the hundreds of providers on RM - there are 30 guys 60yrs and over….a relatively small percentage.   if there was a preference for older, then there would be more older. 
    seems like this conversation is confusing preferences for hiring vs other preferences- big difference 
    btw - the ageism experienced in the US does not happen in the same way in other places. In Latin America & Europe, older gay men are much more visible & mix more frequently in bars/clubs without disapproval or stigma. It seems to be the worst in the US, followed by other English speaking countries - UK, Canada & Australia.  I think it has something to do with other cultures more general respect for elders. 
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from + Pensant in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    LOL—the guy who ridicules anyone who isn't extremely fit and 25 saying I'm being "prejudicial" is the funniest thing I've read all week. Thanks for the laugh. 
    Again, we're not talking about a preference. We're talking about people who are either averse or completely uninterested in people their own age. Whatever someone thinks about guys in their 60s or 70s is what he thinks about himself. 
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    + KensingtonHomo reacted to RyanDean in Vetting   
    Ditto. I try to crosscheck, from as many angles as are available.
    Before I make first contact I try confirm that (A) they are who they say they are and (B) their approach to the gig seems sane/safe/sensible.

    So I look at the profile. Definitely search here. Then I scan any social media that might be accessible. Sometimes I sign up for their OF. If they're dancing at Adonis, I might try to make a trip. Then I contact them and see how it goes...

    But mostly I'm just trying to confirm that they're real and that they're professional in their approach to the gig.
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from pubic_assistance in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    THIS! And one cannot be averse to or even just not attracted to someone their own age without some degree of self-hatred. That said, I don’t think this is a personal flaw. We are besieged by endless messages that only men who are super fit,  under 30, and mostly white or white adjacent are attractive. This shows up in most if not all of us. We can try to be more open, rather than naturalize it.
    I’m middle aged and I generally find men around 35 to 65-70 attractive. Of course, it depends on the man and a lot of other variables but I’d generally prefer a 60 year old to a 25 year old. 
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    + KensingtonHomo reacted to jeezifonly in vague city requests   
    I myself am not an impulse shopper, and I bet I’m in a small minority. But when you’re in a hurry, I guess this place gets confused with Yelp!
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    + KensingtonHomo reacted to viewing ownly in vague city requests   
    It used to be when people wanted a good recommendation, some information was given as to what they are looking for, be it body type, race, height, and so on.
    I'm seeing lately far too many people just throwing out random cities - big ones - and asking for who the best person is without knowing at all any kind of simple details to be able to offer up some help. 
    In the meccas, there really is someone for everyone. In Minot, for example, you may have to settle for whoever is breathing. 
  19. Agree
    + KensingtonHomo reacted to Jamie21 in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    He’s right. I guess I’m one of the ‘older’ guys in the business - in the daddy category. There’s no shortage of younger guys wanting a daddy experience, and prepared to hire for it. There’s also plenty of older guys looking for things that older providers can provide that younger guys can’t or won’t do, such as intimacy, being empathetic and actually turning up on time not being hung over or high and treating their client as a person rather than just another punter (apologies to those younger guys in the business who are professional- I don’t mean to stereotype, younger reliable guys do exist but are not easy to find in the crowd!)
    That’s the other thing. There’s loads of younger guys doing sex work, with a wide range of quality. There’s far fewer older guys, and those who are doing it have stuck around at it because they’re good. People hire for all sorts of reasons and age is not necessarily a factor that matters for many of those reasons. 
     
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from + APPLE1 in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    THIS! And one cannot be averse to or even just not attracted to someone their own age without some degree of self-hatred. That said, I don’t think this is a personal flaw. We are besieged by endless messages that only men who are super fit,  under 30, and mostly white or white adjacent are attractive. This shows up in most if not all of us. We can try to be more open, rather than naturalize it.
    I’m middle aged and I generally find men around 35 to 65-70 attractive. Of course, it depends on the man and a lot of other variables but I’d generally prefer a 60 year old to a 25 year old. 
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    + KensingtonHomo reacted to soloyo215 in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    My position is that people can like and dislike based on age as much as they prefer. My only problem is that some seem to just have their preferences; they also attack those who differ in their preferences. That's where I intervene to either educate or set boundaries. One thing is what you like, another one is attacking others who don't share the same preference.
    When it comes to me, my saying is "I find both beauty and ugliness in all ages, shapes, races, ethnicities and types". Those things are not necessarily the most dominant factors for me to decide hooking up or hiring.
    I respect, so I can demand respect.
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    + KensingtonHomo reacted to Monarchy79 in Why is there a major aversion to "old guys" on here?   
    Because men are shallow, youth obsessed hypocrites. 
     
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    + KensingtonHomo reacted to TorontoDrew in Anyone else love rent men's new height changes?   
    I'm 6'4" and always amazed when I meet up with guys that say they are 6' or over.  If the top of your head only comes up to my chin you aren't 6 feet tall.
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    + KensingtonHomo reacted to + BenjaminNicholas in Anyone else love rent men's new height changes?   
    In addition to dick size, a lot of guys are bullshitting their height.
    5'8" is the new 6'
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    + KensingtonHomo got a reaction from pubic_assistance in Timofey - NYC   
    He's not remotely my type. 
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