KensingtonHomo

I don't mind if providers contact me, if they're outside of NYC and passing through. Sometimes we can meet, sometimes we can't. If we have a great time with a provider, I generally send them a text within 24 hours saying we enjoyed the session and hope to see them again. They usually respond positively. For our regulars, we generally connect on Instagram and keep in touch that way.

Girl, this isn't even English.

You sound manic. Maybe it's time you seek help.

I don't know who you're hanging out with but your comments are bordering on homophobic.

Don't do that. Most of the providers I know don't live particularly extravagant lifestyles and many are sober.

It could mean a lot of things but I suspect at least that they didn't find their time with your unpleasant or objectionable. It could mean the rent is due. It could mean that they found you an "easy client" based on any number of factors: hygiene, looks, easygoingness, sexual prowess, etc. We have some regulars who will hit is up from time to time. I know we're pleasant, easygoing and attractive for our age, so I imagine we'd be high on desired regular client list. I think that more providers don't do it because in the US it's illicit work, and maybe they fear if they're seen as pestering, they'll get a bad review.

There is a difference between true professional sex workers like @BenjaminNicholas or @Jamie21 and many young, attractive men who want to monetize their sex lives. The latter I avoid like the plague; the former are cut from a different cloth.

Of course, this is my own blend of neurosis and being a virgo.

As I said, he belongs on Seeking Arrangements.

LOL - the amount of projection you're capable of is wild. And, no, we're not going to debate the use of the English language because you're not equipped for the task.

Oddly, I worry more about whether the house is clean enough; do we have something to drink; are the "hand towels" laundered? I'm conventionally attractive for someone my age (though I look ~10 years younger) - kind of a mash up of Domhall Gleason and Daniel Day-Lewis but GAY. My husband is a former model and actor, so quite handsome. He looks like Clark Kent. Similar to @jeezifonly we tend to hire guys closer in age to us - usually 30s or 40s. The only 20-something we've seen regularly is CollegeBoyforFun, and he's extremely mature.

You cannot disagree with facts. This is the equivalent of me saying "the earth revolves around the sun," and you saying "I think the sun revolves around the earth. Agree to disagree!" Edit: Let’s keep politics out of the discussion.

That is not objectification. It’s role play. Your failure to not understand what words mean is not my issue. One cannot consent to objectification nor can one objectify oneself. I am confident that you do objectify the men you hire. I suspect it’s necessary for you to get off. If they were people, you might have to be respectful of them and treat them as human beings. Regarding my one proclivities, I’m not remotely vanilla. But I don’t objectify or dehumanize the people I have sex with. 🤷🏻

This is not what objectification is, though. Objectification is the act of "degrading someone to the status of a mere object", which removes their humanity. It's not role playing or engaging in dom/sub activities or even having sex with someone whom you've just met or hired. It's treating someone as if they are not human, not a feeling, thinking person, but rather a tool. Fighting Sexual Objectification: How to Stop Objectifying Women | Integrative Life Center - Nashville, TN INTEGRATIVELIFECENTER.COM Uncover the negative impact of sexual objectification and learn how you can stop objectifying women, as... It seems like you're new here @DMonDude. I can see how you might think this is a disagreement over definition or interpretation. If so, @pubic_assistance's definition is incorrect. But, really, it's that over the past couple of years there's a pattern of him sexually objectifying providers to the extent that if he does not find them personally attractive, he makes dehumanhizing remarks about them. He also regularly opines that men on here who are older, overweight, out of shape, etc., "have to" pay to get anyone to touch them. That is also objectification. If these man are not sexually desirable in his eyes, they're worthless. And as you can see below, my insistence that every person deserve to be accorded basic dignity and respect is met claims that I'm full of "righteous indignation" based on an "elevated view of" myself. Not that I'm a sexual assault survivor, who is sensitive to providers feelings, or that I was raised to treat everyone with respect until they show themselves unworthy of it. Or that I'm extremely learned and well-read in social sciences, particularly with respect to the queer community. No, it must be that I'm trying to be a woke scold or some nonsense. You'll note that "white privilege" is in quotes because PA doesn't believe it's real. But I became aware of my white privilege before that was a regularly used term. In high school, everyone else who was out was black and latino. So those were my first queer friends, and I noted how we were treated differently whether shopping or in line for a club. Finally, a person cannot objectify themselves. Objectification happens in a social context and one cannot treat oneself as an object. At best, it could perhaps be argued that an Asian escort would accept that he's going ot be objectified or fetishized by clients. That doesn't make it right, nor does it make it healthy for either party.

For someone who spends 80 percent of their time on here railing against all the things they dislike and people they find unattractive, you certainly do not like it when your own "failures" are pointed out. No one is telling you to have sex with any of the providers or members that you endlessly criticize, demean, and dehumanize. Yet, you act as if you're besieged by a phalanx of 65-year-old morbidly obese men you MUST have sex with. You're very sensitive for someone with so much heat for other people.

You were not discussing a kink. You were claiming that it was required and natural and now you’re moving the goal post.

How many dicks have you paid to suck? Of course, I've heard of glory holes and they are not remotely interesting to me. You seem to need to objectify someone to get off. Again, I recommend therapy because that's not "natural," it's the result of religious intolerance, patriarchy, overconsumption of porn, and marketing and advertising. I don't even like dick pics. A dick detached from a human being is not hot to me.

I cannot imagine paying someone to suck their dick without reciprocation.

His ad reads more like he's looking for a sugar daddy.

Having self respect and agency isn’t a failure. If you need to objectify someone to get off, you need a therapist not a sex worker. Also regarding my “failures, you talk so much shit on here you would never say to my face and we all know it.

We’ve been approached by providers who see us review someone and - I assume - think they’d be a good fit. Occasionally we get on that is clearly just trying to drum up business. I don’t respond to those.

This is a hard no. For me, a sex worker is their own subject with their own agency. I do not seek to objectify them or treat them like a commodity. As an SA survivor, I want them to be comfortable and - to the extent possible given it’s a paid gig - enjoy themselves. Even if they wouldn’t pick us up in a bar, I minimally want them to enjoy us as clients. I did not enjoy being objectified when I was a 20-something twink and I don’t enjoy younger men objectifying me and my husband as “daddies.” There’s a myth that we have to treat each other as objected to get off. It’s very damaging to our sex and romantic lives. And it’s largely driven by marketing and advertising.

If you’re a citizen then a lot of what people have posted here may not be relevant. However, the basis of your status is under threat. I cannot say more because of forum “rules” that are applied unequally. That said, @Simon Suraci has given you the best advice of everyone here. From what you’ve posted, I do not think you’re cut out for being a provider. You want to he paid for “older men to service you.” That’s a pretty niche market. Based on your description of what you’re willing to do, your lack of desire to “get your foot in the door” for $200/hour (probably 6-10 times the average hourly pay in NYC), I doubt I’d hire you. Sadly, you will also likely attract clients who fetishize Asian men, which adds additional obstacles you’ll have to navigate.

I guess I'm not limber enough to do that while face down!

I agree with @d.anders. This seems highly suspect. The masseur literally has handprints from being spanked on his ass. What part of a massage is that? These are other incredibly stupid people or scammers or entrapment.