KensingtonHomo

I want to build on what @DamizzonNYC and @Jamie21 have suggested. To me, emotionally intelligent people, whether they are clients or providers, can read the signals of genuine enjoyment. I get off on being desired, and I can tell when someone is phoning it in. Now, that desire doesn't mean they find my body (which is sexy but not that of a 25-year-old) the most appealing. It may mean that, as DamizzonNYC said, they enjoy giving people pleasure. Or, for providers we see regularly, we've built a rapport that transcends physicality. Since because we grew up in an anti-sex society, many of us get hung up on the sex part. When I see my trainer, I'm paying them to help me work out but we also have chemistry and enjoy each others company. And I'm paying them for their time and expertise.

Clearly I don't know you, but I feel like you're engaged in a lot of projection here. Perhaps you're newer to this hobby, but I can attest - as others have - that people who choose sex work (not for a quick buck) but as a career because they enjoy it, including meeting and connecting with new people, are among the best experiences you can have.

It's a very odd stance. I suspect many young people who go into sex work do it because it pays better than Starbucks. And there are certainly many people - usually poor, BIPOC folks, who are forced by circumstances into sex work - but we're not always in a position to discern who is who. You're not hurting them if you treat everyone with respect and pay them fairly. But I also think hitting up a day laborer because you think he'll be cheaper than someone on RM is creepy and predatory. It's shitty late-stage capitalism that has so many people desperate.

This is a perfect example of why this forum is so great. For those who had great experiences, that's absolutely awesome. But based on his "mercurial" personality, I wouldn't risk a bad or disappointing experience by booking him. There are other, more reliable providers with great reviews or whom I've previously seen to risk my money on someone who's giving "Jekyll/Hyde" to certain clients.

I think this is somewhat risky, so it's not for me. I do find some of the judgment hypocritical. So long as sex work is illegal and we live in such an economically stratified society, exploitation may occur in any encounter. However, if we believe that sex work is work, then it's not distinguishable in terms of exploitation from other kinds of labor. Personally, I'd rather have sex with one or two guys a day than spend 10 hours in the sun gardening.

I think the more reviews, the better. It sounds to me like you have some negative views about sex, which are worth exploring. I know plenty of gay men who've never once charged for sex who have a body count in the hundreds. A sex workers in the business for 20 years should have hundreds of reviews. If a provider sees 2 clients a week for a year, that's 104. Obviously some will be regulars but if they've been in business for 20 years, that's over 2,000.

THIS. I’ve had a lot of amazing and interesting experiences on a massage table. In fact, depending on the height of the provider and the table, it may be preferable to a bed. But for the massage part, the table is better.

Now, I want to see that profile. My guess is that is not a fee for a massage. It could be an overnight or a $500 "massage" with a $500 tip. It's annoying that you can't say, "I paid x and tipped y."

I believe he lives in Brooklyn and would host there, but I'm unsure.

I feel like "party gays" are their own species. Circuit party types are not really amenable to being friends with people outside that world. It's like the Fire Island gays versus Provincetown gays (we're the latter).

Honestly, as a child-free gay guy, my experience is 180 degrees from this. Nearly every friend I have who had children more or less vanished on me, whether straight or gay. I occasionally - like once a month on average go to a gay club - and we do see theater and musicals, etc. But none of that prevents me from attending a kid's birthday party. I'm also the oldest of 19 first cousins and have a 6-year-old nephew (who is the light of my life). The main issue I note is that a lot of my friends who are parents are overwhelmed with their kids' schedules. And several have moved to a suburb- which I have offered to visit. At the same time, I'm very friendly with many parents in our co-op, but their having kids prevents them from socializing. I don't think it's really about gays versus straights so much as parents versus child-free lifestyles.

I don't know exactly why but this descriptor always turns me off. I don't think I have an issue with most of the acts but I don't like "piggy" as an adjective.

Not yet. 😈

My understanding is that it dramatically varies, and there are intimacy coaches and sex surrogates. Most are probably closer to a therapist or life coach, who is just talking to you and offering advice and techniques. Then, some are closer to sex workers, where they will physically engage. And with sex surrogates, they are engaging.

We elected to do consecutive massages but will likely do a couples one next time.

We just saw him and he was terrific. Good massage performed nude. He is even more striking person because he's 6'5". Wolffdad has also been training as an intimacy coach, so he's open to discussing what you want from the massage. We're considering seeing him again to do some of that work as I have trouble finishing. And at $200 - though he charges more for the intimacy coaching - he's very reasonable.

Honestly, I could not be less interested in someone like this.

This is the point I was making. Asserting gay men commit sexual assault at the same rate as straight men is BS. No one has presented any evidence to support this claim.

Again. Please post a citation from a reputable source to support your frankly homophobic claim.

Again, I'll need a citation for that. As an SA survivor myself, two of my three assaults were by straight men.

Since RM is not based in the US, I'm unsure how this will impact them.

My feelings about this have not changed since the 1990s. Perhaps because I'm a bottom, but I do my best to protect myself. So if I'm going to bareback, I'm on PreP. I do think most reputable escorts are on PreP, and I have appreciated the two times a provider contacted me to say I may have been exposed to an STI. I did notice that in Mexico condoms were pretty standard, perhaps because PreP is not as accessible.

I didn't comment on whether or not he was handsome. I said he doesn't do it for me. Tom Cruise is handsome but he does nothing for me. Many of the guys here want hairless muscle twunks, and they can have them. If you go back through my posts you'll I don't generally imply or infer, I just say what I think.

The formulation doesn't preclude sexual desire being part of the equation. It just puts it after the use of force and power to get "sex" without consent.

I actually had a great massage from a guy in LA last week who prefers to speak on the phone. He's in his late 50s (though he doesn't look it), and I found it refreshing. Once I showed up we were immediately on the same page.