RandyVue

Which is only fair.
Dealing with the general public and gentlemen walking in your door with no idea how repulsive they may be...you SHOULD have some ability as a provider to maintain some limits about how much poor personal hygiene and health you are willing to overlook.

I try to support Buy America whenever I can.

But you didn't, did you? 
You wrote yet another overly lengthy rant. 🤓

Are you now descending to using racial slurs to get leverage? Should I just go ahead and report that? Because I can do that too…
It’s not the occupation, I’m certainly getting pleased. Just because I talk about an issue, doesn’t imply unhappiness or incompetence. 
 
People  have to step away from this thinking that someone wanting better treatment, equates to not liking what they do. You see it all the time with teachers, in schools, even companies like manufacturing. Flight attendants just as all. Sex work is the only industry, where people don’t want to fight for us. Hell, we don’t even want to fight for each other. It’s very clear even on here, you guys don’t even acknowledge the issue exist. You sweep it under the rug, try to shame and embarrass, while others devil advocate situations and deny the underlying reasons.
 
 

I hope that you receive this in the spirit in which it is intended. I retired from being an escort in 2014. I retired from it young. I'm also Black, so you might appreciate my perspective in a different way, but maybe not. Here are 9 actionable things that you can do to help make your life better in my opinion:
 
1) Think about if you want to stay in the business, and for how long.  Think about whether the pros of the business outweigh the cons for you.
 
2) Move! If you want to stay in the business, you'll need to move to a different city and quickly! You mentioned that you wanted to take care of some things before moving, but you might find it easier to take care of those things if you move first.  If you have the means to move, make it a firm goal to do it within the next 30-60 days. 
 
3) Be very selective about where you move to. I did not experience nearly the level of grief that you are experiencing and there are many reasons why I think that is, but I think a lot of it has to do with where I lived and operated the business. 
 
4) Screen out flakes as best as you can. There are things you can do to limit the amount of time wasted with flakes. Be sure to control the conversation and guide them to the details of the appointment as soon as possible.  If they are dragging it out, that is a red flag. Move on! 
 
5) Don't engage with people who flake or cancel at the last moment. They are not paying you at that point, so cut off the contact; otherwise, you are donating your time, and engaging will only aggravate you more. If someone flakes, put them on your "do not book" list, and move on quickly! When they contact you again, (and they likely will), do not give them the time of day.
 
6) Have at least one other source of income. This isn't something specific to just you, but I think everyone should have multiple sources of income. You are less likely to tolerate nonsense from clients when you know you aren't relying on them for your bread and butter.  Having more than one source of income is empowering and good for your overall well-being.
 
7) Therapy. You mentioned having gone to a counselor. Make sure you are working with someone who is giving you actionable steps to help you deal with your responses to frustrations, feedback, and helping with develop a plan for a fulfilling life. Sometimes when people give you very sound feedback on this forum, I sense a sharp defensiveness from you. Defensiveness can be a natural response to protect oneself, but if it is unwarranted defensiveness it can indicate underlying emotional issues. I'm not saying you have emotional issues, but a good therapist can help figure that out. 
 
8 Have an exit plan. I have a handsome face, smooth skin, a nice smile, a 9 inch dick, and a round bottom. I made a lot of money, put it in the stock market, and got out.
 
9) Make sure you are doing activities and pursuing interests that you are passionate about and find joy in.
Okay, that's all I have to offer. I hope it helps.

Any provider who's offering budget friendly services? We can even skip the massage part, no need for that haha! NY/NJ located here. Hopefully somebody could reply 😅

Quote: "You must did not read the ad before hand."
Is this your idea of perfecting your message ?
Maybe some grammatical efforts would help people understand your messages.
But in all seriousness..although your argument for deposits-paid-if-you-want-to-get-laid,  may be valid. Most everyone who's been in the game for a while as a client, has been burnt or knows someone who has. So there's no reason to get all flustered and indignant when someone says NO. Most everyone with experience is in that category, no matter how much you try and validate your pro-deposit business model.

Even a monkey stops pushing the wrong button after a while.
You're still pushing the same button and expecting a different result.
 

I vote for @Jarrod_Uncut to find a new occupation that might please him a bit.

I wasn't being "mean and nasty".
Jarrod has done nothing but complain about his career in escorting for years.
It's a reasonable suggestion that he finally retire and leave all these terrible experience behind him.
No one should suffer daily from his job.
It's unhealthy.

@Jarrod_Uncut I stand by what I suggested. Neither you nor the client proposed a specific meeting time. That’s on you both.

The  answer to that has been banned on Companyofmen.org.
"You’re not implying that racial discussions constitutes someone needing to feel disconnected, right? "  I was observing that YOUR racial discussions frequently stink of bait. It's always leading to you talking about how your poor choices in life are because everyone's a racist, not because you make poor choices.
Multiple people on the site have commented on your habit of complaining and asking for advice, then ignoring the advice, telling everyone they can't possibly understand you..and then going back and continuing to make the same mistakes so you can complain some more.
The solution is called CHANGE.
It's time for you to get out of the business and CHANGE your life for the better.
And no...the world is not inherently racist. Some people are. Most people aren't. So I'm sure if you'd put on a smile and drop the constant complaining someone would be happy to bring you on-board with a normal job where you have a guaranteed salary and you wouldn't have to jump through hoops every day with strangers.
I hope some day you dare to listen to good advice.
Good luck.
 
 

That won’t help. 
No matter what one does, or where they go, they will always take themselves with them. 
 
Jerrod needs therapy. 
 
I’m not being sarcastic or facetious when suggesting this either. 
 
Otherwise, no matter what profession he explores, he will always have complaints and issues. 
 

I hope that you receive this in the spirit in which it is intended. I retired from being an escort in 2014. I retired from it young. I'm also Black, so you might appreciate my perspective in a different way, but maybe not. Here are 9 actionable things that you can do to help make your life better in my opinion:
 
1) Think about if you want to stay in the business, and for how long.  Think about whether the pros of the business outweigh the cons for you.
 
2) Move! If you want to stay in the business, you'll need to move to a different city and quickly! You mentioned that you wanted to take care of some things before moving, but you might find it easier to take care of those things if you move first.  If you have the means to move, make it a firm goal to do it within the next 30-60 days. 
 
3) Be very selective about where you move to. I did not experience nearly the level of grief that you are experiencing and there are many reasons why I think that is, but I think a lot of it has to do with where I lived and operated the business. 
 
4) Screen out flakes as best as you can. There are things you can do to limit the amount of time wasted with flakes. Be sure to control the conversation and guide them to the details of the appointment as soon as possible.  If they are dragging it out, that is a red flag. Move on! 
 
5) Don't engage with people who flake or cancel at the last moment. They are not paying you at that point, so cut off the contact; otherwise, you are donating your time, and engaging will only aggravate you more. If someone flakes, put them on your "do not book" list, and move on quickly! When they contact you again, (and they likely will), do not give them the time of day.
 
6) Have at least one other source of income. This isn't something specific to just you, but I think everyone should have multiple sources of income. You are less likely to tolerate nonsense from clients when you know you aren't relying on them for your bread and butter.  Having more than one source of income is empowering and good for your overall well-being.
 
7) Therapy. You mentioned having gone to a counselor. Make sure you are working with someone who is giving you actionable steps to help you deal with your responses to frustrations, feedback, and helping with develop a plan for a fulfilling life. Sometimes when people give you very sound feedback on this forum, I sense a sharp defensiveness from you. Defensiveness can be a natural response to protect oneself, but if it is unwarranted defensiveness it can indicate underlying emotional issues. I'm not saying you have emotional issues, but a good therapist can help figure that out. 
 
8 Have an exit plan. I have a handsome face, smooth skin, a nice smile, a 9 inch dick, and a round bottom. I made a lot of money, put it in the stock market, and got out.
 
9) Make sure you are doing activities and pursuing interests that you are passionate about and find joy in.
Okay, that's all I have to offer. I hope it helps.

I hope that you receive this in the spirit in which it is intended. I retired from being an escort in 2014. I retired from it young. I'm also Black, so you might appreciate my perspective in a different way, but maybe not. Here are 9 actionable things that you can do to help make your life better in my opinion:
 
1) Think about if you want to stay in the business, and for how long.  Think about whether the pros of the business outweigh the cons for you.
 
2) Move! If you want to stay in the business, you'll need to move to a different city and quickly! You mentioned that you wanted to take care of some things before moving, but you might find it easier to take care of those things if you move first.  If you have the means to move, make it a firm goal to do it within the next 30-60 days. 
 
3) Be very selective about where you move to. I did not experience nearly the level of grief that you are experiencing and there are many reasons why I think that is, but I think a lot of it has to do with where I lived and operated the business. 
 
4) Screen out flakes as best as you can. There are things you can do to limit the amount of time wasted with flakes. Be sure to control the conversation and guide them to the details of the appointment as soon as possible.  If they are dragging it out, that is a red flag. Move on! 
 
5) Don't engage with people who flake or cancel at the last moment. They are not paying you at that point, so cut off the contact; otherwise, you are donating your time, and engaging will only aggravate you more. If someone flakes, put them on your "do not book" list, and move on quickly! When they contact you again, (and they likely will), do not give them the time of day.
 
6) Have at least one other source of income. This isn't something specific to just you, but I think everyone should have multiple sources of income. You are less likely to tolerate nonsense from clients when you know you aren't relying on them for your bread and butter.  Having more than one source of income is empowering and good for your overall well-being.
 
7) Therapy. You mentioned having gone to a counselor. Make sure you are working with someone who is giving you actionable steps to help you deal with your responses to frustrations, feedback, and helping with develop a plan for a fulfilling life. Sometimes when people give you very sound feedback on this forum, I sense a sharp defensiveness from you. Defensiveness can be a natural response to protect oneself, but if it is unwarranted defensiveness it can indicate underlying emotional issues. I'm not saying you have emotional issues, but a good therapist can help figure that out. 
 
8 Have an exit plan. I have a handsome face, smooth skin, a nice smile, a 9 inch dick, and a round bottom. I made a lot of money, put it in the stock market, and got out.
 
9) Make sure you are doing activities and pursuing interests that you are passionate about and find joy in.
Okay, that's all I have to offer. I hope it helps.

I hope that you receive this in the spirit in which it is intended. I retired from being an escort in 2014. I retired from it young. I'm also Black, so you might appreciate my perspective in a different way, but maybe not. Here are 9 actionable things that you can do to help make your life better in my opinion:
 
1) Think about if you want to stay in the business, and for how long.  Think about whether the pros of the business outweigh the cons for you.
 
2) Move! If you want to stay in the business, you'll need to move to a different city and quickly! You mentioned that you wanted to take care of some things before moving, but you might find it easier to take care of those things if you move first.  If you have the means to move, make it a firm goal to do it within the next 30-60 days. 
 
3) Be very selective about where you move to. I did not experience nearly the level of grief that you are experiencing and there are many reasons why I think that is, but I think a lot of it has to do with where I lived and operated the business. 
 
4) Screen out flakes as best as you can. There are things you can do to limit the amount of time wasted with flakes. Be sure to control the conversation and guide them to the details of the appointment as soon as possible.  If they are dragging it out, that is a red flag. Move on! 
 
5) Don't engage with people who flake or cancel at the last moment. They are not paying you at that point, so cut off the contact; otherwise, you are donating your time, and engaging will only aggravate you more. If someone flakes, put them on your "do not book" list, and move on quickly! When they contact you again, (and they likely will), do not give them the time of day.
 
6) Have at least one other source of income. This isn't something specific to just you, but I think everyone should have multiple sources of income. You are less likely to tolerate nonsense from clients when you know you aren't relying on them for your bread and butter.  Having more than one source of income is empowering and good for your overall well-being.
 
7) Therapy. You mentioned having gone to a counselor. Make sure you are working with someone who is giving you actionable steps to help you deal with your responses to frustrations, feedback, and helping with develop a plan for a fulfilling life. Sometimes when people give you very sound feedback on this forum, I sense a sharp defensiveness from you. Defensiveness can be a natural response to protect oneself, but if it is unwarranted defensiveness it can indicate underlying emotional issues. I'm not saying you have emotional issues, but a good therapist can help figure that out. 
 
8 Have an exit plan. I have a handsome face, smooth skin, a nice smile, a 9 inch dick, and a round bottom. I made a lot of money, put it in the stock market, and got out.
 
9) Make sure you are doing activities and pursuing interests that you are passionate about and find joy in.
Okay, that's all I have to offer. I hope it helps.

I hope that you receive this in the spirit in which it is intended. I retired from being an escort in 2014. I retired from it young. I'm also Black, so you might appreciate my perspective in a different way, but maybe not. Here are 9 actionable things that you can do to help make your life better in my opinion:
 
1) Think about if you want to stay in the business, and for how long.  Think about whether the pros of the business outweigh the cons for you.
 
2) Move! If you want to stay in the business, you'll need to move to a different city and quickly! You mentioned that you wanted to take care of some things before moving, but you might find it easier to take care of those things if you move first.  If you have the means to move, make it a firm goal to do it within the next 30-60 days. 
 
3) Be very selective about where you move to. I did not experience nearly the level of grief that you are experiencing and there are many reasons why I think that is, but I think a lot of it has to do with where I lived and operated the business. 
 
4) Screen out flakes as best as you can. There are things you can do to limit the amount of time wasted with flakes. Be sure to control the conversation and guide them to the details of the appointment as soon as possible.  If they are dragging it out, that is a red flag. Move on! 
 
5) Don't engage with people who flake or cancel at the last moment. They are not paying you at that point, so cut off the contact; otherwise, you are donating your time, and engaging will only aggravate you more. If someone flakes, put them on your "do not book" list, and move on quickly! When they contact you again, (and they likely will), do not give them the time of day.
 
6) Have at least one other source of income. This isn't something specific to just you, but I think everyone should have multiple sources of income. You are less likely to tolerate nonsense from clients when you know you aren't relying on them for your bread and butter.  Having more than one source of income is empowering and good for your overall well-being.
 
7) Therapy. You mentioned having gone to a counselor. Make sure you are working with someone who is giving you actionable steps to help you deal with your responses to frustrations, feedback, and helping with develop a plan for a fulfilling life. Sometimes when people give you very sound feedback on this forum, I sense a sharp defensiveness from you. Defensiveness can be a natural response to protect oneself, but if it is unwarranted defensiveness it can indicate underlying emotional issues. I'm not saying you have emotional issues, but a good therapist can help figure that out. 
 
8 Have an exit plan. I have a handsome face, smooth skin, a nice smile, a 9 inch dick, and a round bottom. I made a lot of money, put it in the stock market, and got out.
 
9) Make sure you are doing activities and pursuing interests that you are passionate about and find joy in.
Okay, that's all I have to offer. I hope it helps.

To arrange a first meeting:
1. Hello, my name is ______.   I am in ____ city and saw your ad.  I would be interested in a 2 hour session tomorrow anytime between 3pm and 8pm.  I can host near ______ or travel to you.  What is your rate for a 2 hour session?
(I use "session" and do not mention massage or escort until they reply, to make sure I have the right person)
reply / if he affirms I have the right number
... But he says he's can't accommodate my schedule.
3. Thank you for the quick response.  I'll keep you in mind for when I'm back in _____ city.
...or his rate is too high
3.  Thank you for the quick response.  Unfortunately that price is above my budget at the moment.  I am sure you're worth it.  I'll save up more and reach out to you on my next trip.
...or if his rate is fine and he's available
3.  Thank you for the quick response.  That sounds good.  $$$ for 2 hours.  What time works best tomorrow?  How about 6pm?
(He'll reply to confirm)
5.  Great.  I can host at ______ hotel near _____.   Or, I can travel to you.  What are your cross streets?  I'll text again tomorrow morning to confirm, and for the address.
(He replies with location)
7.  Perfect.  A little about me: I enjoy starting with massage, but I really enjoy being rimmed and fucked without a condom.  I'll text you again tomorrow morning to confirm we're still on for 6pm.
(He replies with how eager he is for my hole)
Morning of:
9.  Hi this is ____.  Just confirming we're still on for today at 6pm.  I'll need the address.
(He replies we're still on, and with address)
When I am getting close...
11.  On my way, should be there at 6pm.
12.  Here
 
I cut my amount of texts by 2/3, just by removing most pleasantries (Nice day, nice part of town, you're very handsome) and combining rate and timeframe questions into one text.  And, we confirmed availability and rate within the first 3 messages.

What on earth are you sending 20-25 text messages about? I do not believe for a second that you are sending a provider 20-25 messages to book an appointment. There’s no way! I would be embarrassed and I’d feel like a nuisance doing that. It reminds me of that movie Swingers where he calls the girl that he likes and leaves her like 12 messages for something he could’ve easily said in the first one…..and she tells him never to call again.

^Amen to this.

Working their other jobs that pay them, studies if they’re in school, activities and hobbies that they are passionate about, spending time with their friends or family members, working out to stay in shape, working on their goals, etc.

What on earth are you sending 20-25 text messages about? I do not believe for a second that you are sending a provider 20-25 messages to book an appointment. There’s no way! I would be embarrassed and I’d feel like a nuisance doing that. It reminds me of that movie Swingers where he calls the girl that he likes and leaves her like 12 messages for something he could’ve easily said in the first one…..and she tells him never to call again.

Working their other jobs that pay them, studies if they’re in school, activities and hobbies that they are passionate about, spending time with their friends or family members, working out to stay in shape, working on their goals, etc.

Can we get this back on the actual topic?

If you have to say Obama, Trump, Biden, etc...  you're off topic.  @rvwnsd has posted a reminder a bit ago.  If it continues, folks will enjoy a nice break from the site for a bit.   Cut the crap.  Ya'll know better.