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Meh, I know it sounds like a reasonable question…but it’s not. It’s not the question that’s the problem, it’s the way it’s being asked. It’s creepy, lazy, and gives me absolutely no reason to give out anything about where I’m staying. People who don’t formulate complete sentences in a response usually aren’t serious or, 50/50 chance of being so. Also, since the person hasn’t volunteered any info on themselves…I have to ask something. Suppose I just give out my location, to a complete random from RM messenger, and he has bad intentions. How would anyone know who he was. Why do you think it took Jeffrey Dahmer so long to be found… Dahmer targeted LGBT people whose lives weren't valued by police - The Washington Post WWW.WASHINGTONPOST.COM What many depictions miss is that LGBTQ communities of color were easy prey for Dahmer due to histories of... This is where being educated and informed…even if there is no danger present, comes in handy.

Yeah, I just think some (gay) people have short attention spans. It just amazes me how detailed I have to explain stuff to people everyday. Like earlier, someone thought I was “already in town” even though the city he asked about was in my nearby travel cities. I’m like dude, no. I’m not about to travel hours away for $200. And no…I’m not just arriving magically into a city and hanging out waiting for guys to call. That requires gas, hotel, food, and then somehow have to stay entertained in between clients. It’s not something that’s done by default with no clients Pre-booked. I’ve been the fool and did it many times, sometimes I still do because I want to go to a city for reasons other than clients: but then I’m waiting days to get the first real booking. I can’t explain it any more than I have already tried to explain it a million times. Rentmen and RentMasseur doesn’t even give us enough space to talk about these things in the profile. I’m trying to move towards a different model of business where I’m available by appointment only, and willing to travel. But if people can only think in the “now” and assume before actually getting the facts, it can get confusing. I realize part of the issue lies with the websites. It’s not always the clients or the escorts fault. It’s the communication platform has somehow not been sufficient in conveying to clients how providers work individually.

That’s how it should be. No drama. You have a day in mind, and a time…If it doesn’t work I’ll offer mine. And we either can or don’t.

And here’s an example I refer to of WHY I don’t like to use messenger and give specific directions to contact me: Dude sent message at what, 20:57 on a Saturday, which is almost 9 p.m. at night. I didn’t notice until 11:15 the next morning. Now notice the single ✅ versus the double ✅✅? He never read the last message and ignored my auto reply with direct info to text me. I never received any text message, but it wouldn’t of mattered either way because I don’t take short notice meets in that area anyway. Can’t make anything happen if they ignore the directions 🤦🏾‍♂️

I clearly let them know in the RentMen messenger reply that I don’t set up appointments on there, and that I leave my phone number and all other instructions/details to book the session. Now: for the record, I stopped posting my phone number on my ad, especially at the suggestions of a couple members here and other places I’ve researched. The RentMen messenger is more of an optional luxury that I use simply because of the auto reply feature. Now, RentMasseur email: I’ll use it and engage very briefly because it tends to be a bit more thorough in the responses. But most rentmen messages are far too “Grindr” like for me sit around all day and entertain. Now, as a courtesy I’ll occasionally respond to their message and let them know I received it and answer their question…but will add to still text me directly to arrange something because, most seem to be looking to meet for that day or, I don’t know when they want to meet and I can’t gauge it from simply communicating on the app. The app is simply a facilitator to the next mode of contact. I do not make appointments from it because it’s not really conducive.

This may not pertain to those who have limited or no nudes posted: but in my case I already have an array of pics and people still ask me for private pics without even greeting me. I stopped unlocking pics long time ago. The requests get my auto reply with all relevant information. If and when RM decide to pay us to have our private gallery unlocked, then I’ll entertain. For now, it’s just simply MY private gallery where I release pics I want to move to public, and rotate out. But I had to go thru last year and deny like hundreds of requests to unlock…many who have no picture of their own. My business is not a free peep show. Even though, for the most part they are getting exactly that. But I just try to stay true to the game and still show people what is relevant. And majority never do. That’s the sad part about it. And the ones who do text, 99/100 be playing games too. That’s why I had to revamp my auto reply as stated to eliminate ANY possible confusion or non sense: like huh? Who said I was staying anywhere? No introduction or anything. Like I’m just supposed to give out an address? This is why they get auto responses.

I have been petitioning RMass and Men for awhile to change the “available now” to options like “available today/available tomorrow”. I also find “available now” rarely gets me the immediate business I want anyway. However I do it anyway because it makes the profile appear more “live” and active. I have seen profiles that haven’t even been logged on for days/weeks, and it could give a “not available” impression (if they read it much). In fact I’ll occasionally use “not available” if I’m really just not wanting to be bothered during inclement weather, holidays, or if I am planning to visit an area but don’t want to get any “u available now in (insert city 500 miles away)” This is also where I try to explain to people: simple-stupid isn’t always the best policy. People think having one rate, one availability option, one everything just works. Naw. Give people options. People want things to be so simple but, they get confused on the simplest things in the process. Even Amazon has: paid shipping, free shipping, 2 day, next day delivery. I get it that gays want things to be easy and no brainer, but reality doesn’t work like that. Available now shouldn’t even be a vocabulary in online conquests. My availability is not a bath house, where I’m waiting outside the door holding a big green sign 🪧 AVAILABLE NOW. And guess what people say when they see available now? “Hi are you available now?” 🤦🏾‍♂️

Well that’s why I often try to ask questions always, in a 1. 2. 3. format because, it’s too much room for error. I would have been sure to know exactly where I was going/city all upfront. But then again that’s why I like to see text exchanges. It’s not to be messy or put anyone on blast, but when there’s 2 sides of a story, it’s easier to see what/how things might have went miscommunicated. Like the buffoon last week texting me some bogus bullshit at 3 in the morning. But what I didn’t show is: his 2 week delay in response to my last message. That’s why I was like: fuck your advice, he can’t even respect my time why I would I take anything he has to say as relevant? ✋🏾 Anyhow, how did that relate to RentMen messenger again? lol

Yikes, that’s a big stretch of a difference in location for sure. Hopefully it can be made up for…

So this is the response that goes out each time I get a response on RM messenger. But what do some do? Start having a mini conversation with the auto responder, and don’t text as instructed. I’m asking for a very specific way to contact, and leaving my number and link to my website at the end. Someone did the exact same thing yesterday, and I didn’t even notice it until the next day because I was busy anyway with plans. But the kicker was, the time he offered was simply: “asap” in a city that’s listed in my nearby travels and is 3.5 hours away; which I don’t offer same day appointments in generally. I’m finding it seems RM messenger guys might be hesitant or avoidant to give out their number. Idk why but, I would not meet anyone off solely the app unless they arranged a deposit and picture and even then, they would likely have to exchange their number unless it’s email only. I feel if someone is going to treat the booking process like it’s un-important, how are they going to turn out during the actual meet 🤔

That’s how I felt about St. Louis… I had fun here and there, but the past few months have almost been a waste of time to even stay. I left behind 0 true friends and only a couple true regulars. It’s a lot of fake nice, and last week I reached out to a previous client letting him know I was in town available: he tells me “I knows you’re in town, you don’t have to contact me, I’m not available”. Well he’s right, I won’t be contacting him again because I won’t be back anytime soon ✌

This is all relevant however, even outside of LA and New York, some of the same scenarios are playing out. I notice for example in the Midwest: many ethnic/minorities tend to marry/get involved with White guys who have money instead of escort. I notice it a lot. As for gay guys with discretionary income: meh. The problem is, many of those don’t want to spend it on sex. Many will play like they don’t have money to give, but then turn around and spend thousands on trips and other things with friends. I’ve said it elsewhere here, but I’ve started to realize selling *** is hard. Not because they don’t want me, but because getting the rate I want…And at a time that is convenient for both. Regardless, I’m looking for alternatives to the big cities. I don’t want a rural town necessarily because, that’s the position I’m in now and NOBODY wants to pay for it out here. I’m always having to commute to the city. But they always want same day/short notice meets, and I can’t work like that everyday.

That’s a perfect analogy (brought famous by Hell’s Kitchen, kitchens nightmares, Gordon Ramsay lol). Even though one may know how they like their meat 🥩 presented (pun intended lol), try doing it around 20 others in rapid succession. Whole other ball game (I’ve also experienced working in the dining industry myself). Honestly though when I seen it, I almost wanted to block him because I wasn’t interested in what he had to say, considering how he has been with planning appointments. I’m almost considering no longer working in the same state/city I live anymore. It’s just too many weirdos. Every time I look around, somebody trying to fight and argue and bring drama. If it has to be that bad, why are they even hiring? Idk who they’re angry with but taking it out on sex workers is just bad karma and is going to get them 86’d from the locals. In the past 4 weeks, I’ve had to simply go to other cities and meet clients. There was no fussing about deposits, they were easy and agreeable, and I didn’t have to fight them (even though I was trying to convey to one that: I’m 3.5 hours away, if you want the appointment TODAY, I need the confirm by such and such time, otherwise it’ll be late.

Bravo 👏🏽 And he’s lucky I even responded as professionally as I did because if it was the other way around and I did the same thing to a client, who I didn’t reply to in almost two weeks, they’d probably say: “No. I don’t need your advice, and don’t ever text me at 3 in the morning again!” lol. People think just because they are well off or feel they have more money than me, that somehow I need to “listen” to them, who hath not the same experience. I don’t even know what advice he was giving me, but at 3 a.m. it didn’t matter because I was sleep and iPhone’s DND 🎧 didn’t wake me up for it either lol But I must say, this happened to be in the same city that never fails to bring about the weirdest shit in clients. It is just unbelievable. They stay bugging and high maintenance. Reminds me of a song from back in the day: ”You make me want to throw my pager 📟 out the window” lol.

But yet, so many do the exact thing that pushes people to do exactly that smh 🤦🏾‍♂️, example (me in blue): I’m just ranting but, this is the type of stuff I come across and what I mentioned about “fragile client ego”. It’s so many things wrong with this conversation: #1: why is he texting me at 1 and 3 a.m. with advice unsolicited anyway? #2: It’s been almost 2 weeks since he replied to my last message, from when he was emailing me trying to figure out where did I go (I went away b/c I got tired of dealing with dweebs like him that proliferate that city’s client market). The audacity of some. It’s crazy how people expect so much positivity out of us, yet some of the main ones keeping up the most drama and animosity be the clients. I’m at peace in my zone, not even in the same city…and he’s harassing me over something I don’t even know what he’s talking about. I haven’t even seen him since January…2 months? 🤦🏾‍♂️ And this is somebody who on our first (and last) meet paid for an overnight, but I noticed he was going a bit too heavy on the 🚬 and may explain the late night courage. There needs to be a client review website, otherwise I’m about to come up with a page myself. And Twitter is a good 🎺, but I notice some people get scared off when I post warnings. However, the ones who are legit know better and do their best not to end up on it in the 1st place.

Good idea. I said the same thing last week when someone reached out asking if I could drive to a town an hour north of a city I was visiting, to see him. But then I asked for a deposit, and he’s like “no I been burned before.” So I said: well no, I can’t see you then. But guess what? I’ve been burned before too. We’re both taking similar risks, there’s no reason I can think of that I need to shoulder the heavier burden of it by driving out of my way, or when renting rooms to host. Lot of hotels these days, it costs $150/$200 just to use a room for one night, by the time the added “deposit” that the hotel requires is added. If a client says they aren’t comfortable/don’t feel like sending deposits, they have to consider the upfront stuff we to have to spend to entertain. Clients aren’t the only ones who can get scammed. If a provider has a standing in-call spot he also lives in, or works for a company that fronts their travel and hotel cost: maybe clients who show up are just a perk and it might not be a big loss if they don’t show up. In my case, I’m going full time hotel hosting starting this week until I find my next city to move to…so, it’s hardly an option to do without.

Okay time to break that drought lol. 2024-40= 1984, I wasn’t around then but I know many great music was around lol 🕊️ Installment loans have grown in popularity and some of us even take credit 🤑

Here’s more deposit literature from another industry: How to protect your business from no-shows and late cancels | Glowday WWW.GLOWDAY.COM Deposits and charging for consultations. These are two aspects of owning and running an aesthetics...

I’d even go a step further and say: I’m not super familiar with the current state of the restaurant industry but: it def seems they are some of the few places that can get by on this supposed “tight” economy. Most places around town are buzzing for Sunday brunch, dinner, etc. Meanwhile I feel escort stuff is lagging. Even if there’s clients hiring, there’s still a lot of guys to choose from: and me and a client advisor were just having a discussion tonight, it’s more than what seems sustainable. I’m considering setting my sights on culinary, but I seen the nitty gritty working at restaurants (watching stuff like Hell’s Kitchen and kitchen nightmares are good examples lol). It seems safer to be an escort than a flight attendant, and less abuse than working at a restaurant. My clients would never get away with the language Gordon Ramsay uses 👋🏽 😂

Wait, you’ve never been able to hire a provider before? I mean I guess sex work does cover both in person and cam work but…okay. And by grandmother, I mean “many”, obviously not their actual grandmother 😂

Well in my case, there is no moving expenses because from the start I kept it light. All I brung fits in my vehicle, everything else is just the furnishings that were already at the place. As for it being everywhere, that is true but: considering it’s the highest in the nation is alarming. Just goes to show because almost every time I name a rate, it’s a discussion about affordability. Some places can be obliterated by price increases. I’ve said it before about Denver: I used to make a decent bank in the 2010s era, when prices went up steeply: business got slower and slower and eventually died out. Now, every dude and his grandmother is trying to do escorting and it’s no longer viable to me. Seen the same thing in Nashville, except Nashville is almost surpassing Denver in terms of wealth and development due to its becoming the next “Beverly hills of the South” (move over Atlanta lol) This is why I’m leaning towards becoming either a $500+ provider or stick with $150 as a baseline because: $250/$300 may be doable for some but still out of range for most. So at the lower price, it’s no guarantee volume is going to go up. My last two bookings have been $500, and even though things have been slow coming out of February (from my research, is a slow month for some in the industry, especially if you’re not in snowbird central e.g. Palm Springs, Florida or Arizona).. At least with each booking I was able to get what I needed to have done. If I did the same bookings for just $150 or even $200, it would not be the same.

And then here’s an article that further elaborates.. St. Louis and Missouri have some of the largest rent increases in the nation WWW.STLPR.ORG New data from a rental company shows Missouri had the biggest increase in the median price of rent. Other... They charging more for everything out here, but biz has gotten less and less. I feel this area is rigged to keep sex workers poor lol. People expect you to always have a place ready to host, but then don’t want to pay the rate asked. Almost like having to be confined to only charge $200 or less 🤦🏾‍♂️

Craziest place I went to a RL was Bismarck, ND. It was also packed lol. I almost didn’t think it would be real anything but, pretty much all seafood no matter where you go, is frozen to a degree. I know there’s some places that fly theirs in fresh, but that may only be certain items and like once a week. I know for sure lobster and crab always has to either be immediately frozen or immediately boiled, and they usually come from Maine, The Gulf/Keys or Alaska anyway. Wisconsin has some local owned places that specialize in Walleye, but even that is frozen at some point. As for the elite status lol, it’s not necessarily out of this world but…I been getting a lot of free appetizers and desserts and it takes less time to get it. The other grab about RL is their margaritas and drink promos. A nice glass of Chardonnay for $5 isn’t bad, but I got hit with $19 for a glass of Kendall Jackson at one seafood place. I was 😳 that’s MORE than the cost of the actual bottle. As much as I love eating out, the sticker shock at some of these places is off the charts. So places like RL I can at least go in knowing what to expect.

I just have to clarify (brief discussion elsewhere) that the above text exchange was not a conversation I had lol. This was from another website from another person who had that exchange. It was more just to highlight the fact that: sometimes people throw the word “scam” around loosely, but there’s always 2 sides to a story. No one got scammed in the situation, it sounded like a miscommunication and unwillingness to compromise on the client’s part. However many times people will bring up having been scammed/burned before without actually elaborating how. I know IF it were me in that exchange, I would not be thrilled if someone showed up 45 minutes early.

Specifically referring to Saint Louis area. The person I’ve been staying part time when I’m not in Kansas City is “downsizing” and handing the townhouse back to the owner: but I’ve decided I don’t want to remain because biz has taken a nose dive 🛬 over the past few months. On top of that, most every place in the city and surrounding has raised rents. It’s disgusting. It’s barely any biz going around, yet the hotels and apartments are wanting much more than they were asking just a few years ago. I actually had more from using apps this week, than I have from RentMen. But those were done at much lower prices and, I had to entice them offline… I like that it’s central to many cities in the east (eastern time is only 2.5 hours away) and the south (Nashville/Memphis) and north (Chicago/Milwaukee) and not too far from the west (two crossroads that lead to the west). Only thing is: when I’m here lately, I’m finding myself always wanting to go to a different city. I remember years ago, I used to travel thru St. Louis whenever I went between Denver and everywhere else East, and I never got much hits even then. It was always something where somebody wanted me to host, and before I was asking for deposits: I have on a couple occasions gotten hotel rooms and their person I expected: didn’t show up. So the idea of staying doesn’t seem appealing. That said: I’m looking to start touring again going into Spring by returning to visit cities where I did good in last year and the year prior. I’m just unsure whether rates may be a factor, but I know in the area I reside: RentMasseur in particular here, people seem to only want to do $150/$200. And idk what the hell with RentMen but, the month of February I only had 2 actual clients from the site between 3 cities. Seems like all they want to do on there is ask to unlock private pics and send messages on messenger to engage, instead of just following thru. I’m hoping an updated auto reply with more detailed info, will help cut down on the BS.