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That’s how I felt about St. Louis… I had fun here and there, but the past few months have almost been a waste of time to even stay. I left behind 0 true friends and only a couple true regulars. It’s a lot of fake nice, and last week I reached out to a previous client letting him know I was in town available: he tells me “I knows you’re in town, you don’t have to contact me, I’m not available”. Well he’s right, I won’t be contacting him again because I won’t be back anytime soon ✌

This is all relevant however, even outside of LA and New York, some of the same scenarios are playing out. I notice for example in the Midwest: many ethnic/minorities tend to marry/get involved with White guys who have money instead of escort. I notice it a lot. As for gay guys with discretionary income: meh. The problem is, many of those don’t want to spend it on sex. Many will play like they don’t have money to give, but then turn around and spend thousands on trips and other things with friends. I’ve said it elsewhere here, but I’ve started to realize selling *** is hard. Not because they don’t want me, but because getting the rate I want…And at a time that is convenient for both. Regardless, I’m looking for alternatives to the big cities. I don’t want a rural town necessarily because, that’s the position I’m in now and NOBODY wants to pay for it out here. I’m always having to commute to the city. But they always want same day/short notice meets, and I can’t work like that everyday.

That’s a perfect analogy (brought famous by Hell’s Kitchen, kitchens nightmares, Gordon Ramsay lol). Even though one may know how they like their meat 🥩 presented (pun intended lol), try doing it around 20 others in rapid succession. Whole other ball game (I’ve also experienced working in the dining industry myself). Honestly though when I seen it, I almost wanted to block him because I wasn’t interested in what he had to say, considering how he has been with planning appointments. I’m almost considering no longer working in the same state/city I live anymore. It’s just too many weirdos. Every time I look around, somebody trying to fight and argue and bring drama. If it has to be that bad, why are they even hiring? Idk who they’re angry with but taking it out on sex workers is just bad karma and is going to get them 86’d from the locals. In the past 4 weeks, I’ve had to simply go to other cities and meet clients. There was no fussing about deposits, they were easy and agreeable, and I didn’t have to fight them (even though I was trying to convey to one that: I’m 3.5 hours away, if you want the appointment TODAY, I need the confirm by such and such time, otherwise it’ll be late.

Bravo 👏🏽 And he’s lucky I even responded as professionally as I did because if it was the other way around and I did the same thing to a client, who I didn’t reply to in almost two weeks, they’d probably say: “No. I don’t need your advice, and don’t ever text me at 3 in the morning again!” lol. People think just because they are well off or feel they have more money than me, that somehow I need to “listen” to them, who hath not the same experience. I don’t even know what advice he was giving me, but at 3 a.m. it didn’t matter because I was sleep and iPhone’s DND 🎧 didn’t wake me up for it either lol But I must say, this happened to be in the same city that never fails to bring about the weirdest shit in clients. It is just unbelievable. They stay bugging and high maintenance. Reminds me of a song from back in the day: ”You make me want to throw my pager 📟 out the window” lol.

But yet, so many do the exact thing that pushes people to do exactly that smh 🤦🏾‍♂️, example (me in blue): I’m just ranting but, this is the type of stuff I come across and what I mentioned about “fragile client ego”. It’s so many things wrong with this conversation: #1: why is he texting me at 1 and 3 a.m. with advice unsolicited anyway? #2: It’s been almost 2 weeks since he replied to my last message, from when he was emailing me trying to figure out where did I go (I went away b/c I got tired of dealing with dweebs like him that proliferate that city’s client market). The audacity of some. It’s crazy how people expect so much positivity out of us, yet some of the main ones keeping up the most drama and animosity be the clients. I’m at peace in my zone, not even in the same city…and he’s harassing me over something I don’t even know what he’s talking about. I haven’t even seen him since January…2 months? 🤦🏾‍♂️ And this is somebody who on our first (and last) meet paid for an overnight, but I noticed he was going a bit too heavy on the 🚬 and may explain the late night courage. There needs to be a client review website, otherwise I’m about to come up with a page myself. And Twitter is a good 🎺, but I notice some people get scared off when I post warnings. However, the ones who are legit know better and do their best not to end up on it in the 1st place.

Good idea. I said the same thing last week when someone reached out asking if I could drive to a town an hour north of a city I was visiting, to see him. But then I asked for a deposit, and he’s like “no I been burned before.” So I said: well no, I can’t see you then. But guess what? I’ve been burned before too. We’re both taking similar risks, there’s no reason I can think of that I need to shoulder the heavier burden of it by driving out of my way, or when renting rooms to host. Lot of hotels these days, it costs $150/$200 just to use a room for one night, by the time the added “deposit” that the hotel requires is added. If a client says they aren’t comfortable/don’t feel like sending deposits, they have to consider the upfront stuff we to have to spend to entertain. Clients aren’t the only ones who can get scammed. If a provider has a standing in-call spot he also lives in, or works for a company that fronts their travel and hotel cost: maybe clients who show up are just a perk and it might not be a big loss if they don’t show up. In my case, I’m going full time hotel hosting starting this week until I find my next city to move to…so, it’s hardly an option to do without.

Okay time to break that drought lol. 2024-40= 1984, I wasn’t around then but I know many great music was around lol 🕊️ Installment loans have grown in popularity and some of us even take credit 🤑

Here’s more deposit literature from another industry: How to protect your business from no-shows and late cancels | Glowday WWW.GLOWDAY.COM Deposits and charging for consultations. These are two aspects of owning and running an aesthetics...

I’d even go a step further and say: I’m not super familiar with the current state of the restaurant industry but: it def seems they are some of the few places that can get by on this supposed “tight” economy. Most places around town are buzzing for Sunday brunch, dinner, etc. Meanwhile I feel escort stuff is lagging. Even if there’s clients hiring, there’s still a lot of guys to choose from: and me and a client advisor were just having a discussion tonight, it’s more than what seems sustainable. I’m considering setting my sights on culinary, but I seen the nitty gritty working at restaurants (watching stuff like Hell’s Kitchen and kitchen nightmares are good examples lol). It seems safer to be an escort than a flight attendant, and less abuse than working at a restaurant. My clients would never get away with the language Gordon Ramsay uses 👋🏽 😂

Wait, you’ve never been able to hire a provider before? I mean I guess sex work does cover both in person and cam work but…okay. And by grandmother, I mean “many”, obviously not their actual grandmother 😂

Well in my case, there is no moving expenses because from the start I kept it light. All I brung fits in my vehicle, everything else is just the furnishings that were already at the place. As for it being everywhere, that is true but: considering it’s the highest in the nation is alarming. Just goes to show because almost every time I name a rate, it’s a discussion about affordability. Some places can be obliterated by price increases. I’ve said it before about Denver: I used to make a decent bank in the 2010s era, when prices went up steeply: business got slower and slower and eventually died out. Now, every dude and his grandmother is trying to do escorting and it’s no longer viable to me. Seen the same thing in Nashville, except Nashville is almost surpassing Denver in terms of wealth and development due to its becoming the next “Beverly hills of the South” (move over Atlanta lol) This is why I’m leaning towards becoming either a $500+ provider or stick with $150 as a baseline because: $250/$300 may be doable for some but still out of range for most. So at the lower price, it’s no guarantee volume is going to go up. My last two bookings have been $500, and even though things have been slow coming out of February (from my research, is a slow month for some in the industry, especially if you’re not in snowbird central e.g. Palm Springs, Florida or Arizona).. At least with each booking I was able to get what I needed to have done. If I did the same bookings for just $150 or even $200, it would not be the same.

And then here’s an article that further elaborates.. St. Louis and Missouri have some of the largest rent increases in the nation WWW.STLPR.ORG New data from a rental company shows Missouri had the biggest increase in the median price of rent. Other... They charging more for everything out here, but biz has gotten less and less. I feel this area is rigged to keep sex workers poor lol. People expect you to always have a place ready to host, but then don’t want to pay the rate asked. Almost like having to be confined to only charge $200 or less 🤦🏾‍♂️

Craziest place I went to a RL was Bismarck, ND. It was also packed lol. I almost didn’t think it would be real anything but, pretty much all seafood no matter where you go, is frozen to a degree. I know there’s some places that fly theirs in fresh, but that may only be certain items and like once a week. I know for sure lobster and crab always has to either be immediately frozen or immediately boiled, and they usually come from Maine, The Gulf/Keys or Alaska anyway. Wisconsin has some local owned places that specialize in Walleye, but even that is frozen at some point. As for the elite status lol, it’s not necessarily out of this world but…I been getting a lot of free appetizers and desserts and it takes less time to get it. The other grab about RL is their margaritas and drink promos. A nice glass of Chardonnay for $5 isn’t bad, but I got hit with $19 for a glass of Kendall Jackson at one seafood place. I was 😳 that’s MORE than the cost of the actual bottle. As much as I love eating out, the sticker shock at some of these places is off the charts. So places like RL I can at least go in knowing what to expect.

I just have to clarify (brief discussion elsewhere) that the above text exchange was not a conversation I had lol. This was from another website from another person who had that exchange. It was more just to highlight the fact that: sometimes people throw the word “scam” around loosely, but there’s always 2 sides to a story. No one got scammed in the situation, it sounded like a miscommunication and unwillingness to compromise on the client’s part. However many times people will bring up having been scammed/burned before without actually elaborating how. I know IF it were me in that exchange, I would not be thrilled if someone showed up 45 minutes early.

Specifically referring to Saint Louis area. The person I’ve been staying part time when I’m not in Kansas City is “downsizing” and handing the townhouse back to the owner: but I’ve decided I don’t want to remain because biz has taken a nose dive 🛬 over the past few months. On top of that, most every place in the city and surrounding has raised rents. It’s disgusting. It’s barely any biz going around, yet the hotels and apartments are wanting much more than they were asking just a few years ago. I actually had more from using apps this week, than I have from RentMen. But those were done at much lower prices and, I had to entice them offline… I like that it’s central to many cities in the east (eastern time is only 2.5 hours away) and the south (Nashville/Memphis) and north (Chicago/Milwaukee) and not too far from the west (two crossroads that lead to the west). Only thing is: when I’m here lately, I’m finding myself always wanting to go to a different city. I remember years ago, I used to travel thru St. Louis whenever I went between Denver and everywhere else East, and I never got much hits even then. It was always something where somebody wanted me to host, and before I was asking for deposits: I have on a couple occasions gotten hotel rooms and their person I expected: didn’t show up. So the idea of staying doesn’t seem appealing. That said: I’m looking to start touring again going into Spring by returning to visit cities where I did good in last year and the year prior. I’m just unsure whether rates may be a factor, but I know in the area I reside: RentMasseur in particular here, people seem to only want to do $150/$200. And idk what the hell with RentMen but, the month of February I only had 2 actual clients from the site between 3 cities. Seems like all they want to do on there is ask to unlock private pics and send messages on messenger to engage, instead of just following thru. I’m hoping an updated auto reply with more detailed info, will help cut down on the BS.

Self professed fan of red lobster 🦞 here 👍🏾 lol. I’m already platinum this year, though I think it’s more year to date. I know some don’t like it but, I will say: not all locations are the same and it depends what you get. I’ve been to red lobster everywhere from the east to west coast. Some have been great, others: like in areas that aren’t really prime on tourism, or the people don’t seem to be into sea/lake food: aren’t. There’s also a $20 snow crab platter that I found to actually be quite good. Went with some friends up north over the holidays. Pound of crab legs over potatos. Also there’s a few items on the “classic” menu including rainbow trout that are very delectable. Now as someone from Florida who has lived close to many a seafood restaurant: I understand it’s not the Ocean Prime or Oceanaire. But, unfortunately unless it’s restaurant week…it’s not something I can always make room for my wallet. I’ve also gone to Landrys, McCormicks, Pappadeux and legal seafood, all great places. But when you want a broad menu of seafood in the Midwest under $35, red lobster just hits the spot. Just like Pizza Hut, Fast food, and Starbucks does for some. Last red lobster I’ve went to last week: The place was packed full of people. This is despite one location in town having closed. So you wouldn’t think people in the Midwest liked seafood so much. However, I’m not so much a fan of busy times at restaurants and will actively avoid those periods of 6-8 a.m. I used to work at Shells seafood in Tampa years ago…it gets hectic.

In a perfect world right? But…when is it ever? I’ve posted many a text conversation and it’s plain to see: dealing with men who might not be single, or even gay…ALWAYS leads to drama. It’s either their wife, their work, their money, etc etc. it’s never drama free. That’s both sides of the equation. Just have to act accordingly or move on when necessary. I always thought even the ski resorts have WiFi, but there have been times I’ve gone to remote areas of Montana and had no service when hiking…but by the time I got to the little town, I was able to check messages. And just a reminder: Denver is very flaky, I told myself I will not go to book visits there again. It used to be great, until the pot industry took over. There’s still some good apples but, lots of weeding thru flakes.

Hmm, meh 🫤 just sounds like typical iffy hookup app behavior. It shouldn’t be an issue to plan in advance with some notice. However, you’d be right to say that same day meets do seem like the new planning ahead. In fact, I’m almost considering…in an effort to be a little more flexible, reserve deposits only for same day bookings. But then, that leaves advanced bookings open to cancel (which could even have a bigger negative effect if I’m out of town or planning to travel somewhere) so, I can’t think of enough reason that one or the other is more or less reliable than that other. As much as I want to move to a “no same day appointments” that would in theory making scheduling as easy as knowing what your work schedule is: I already know that’s mostly Fantasy. Pretty much every new client wants same day bookings. Fortunently I try to adjust my life and schedule to accommodate such requests, but for the most part: I’m usually only doing 1 same day booking in a day…so nobody get comfortable thinking that’s the solution. Many same day appointments, I have to say no to.

Good point made. This is where I also wish the RM platforms were a bit more expressive about availabilities and such. “Available now” is just not always doable, even though “online now” I suppose is a compromise. I know the auto reply on messenger is about the best it gets when it comes to being able to explain availability. But fast forward: I dealt with this EXACT same scenario again couple days ago. I went to a city for 1 night only, but I was giving myself until about 6 pm the next day for any other clients to book. So in the meantime, I went to Starbucks, shopping and to the gym. Sure enough, one client was dragging things on for a bit…eventually couldn’t even end up meeting himself. Another was going to be an hour away. Granted, this was all on A4A: the same site where people take their sweet time anyway. Some people, you can only deal with in a capacity where you have nowhere else to be.

A gif from an episode of Fresh Prince lol unless the person meant “Doctor Phil”…

You’d be surprised by 2 things: #1, Boise actually has a developing gay scene, I would almost consider moving there myself because it’s one city that’s not become over saturated live Denver and Phoenix western cities have become. And it’s a scenic trip to Seattle and the PNW. It’s still a bit “frontier-ish” but, I actually went on a nice date with a black brotha last time I was out there. Who woulda thought, in Boise of all places lol. #2, from my experience, I would almost assume Uncle Phil has a big dick. I know a guy who looks like the younger version of him…and even my biggest bottom friend, can’t handle his 🍆 😆

Exactly, because what if the tables were turned: Escort doesn’t show face Doesn’t provide phone number Doesn’t host Only takes cash (meaning all the guys who don’t have access to ATM need to leave and get atm money late at night) Basically doesn’t even include a picture of himself at all, just a promise to show up (sound familiar?) I’m thinking of doing an alternative to deposits by just asking for a picture. But some people I know, won’t even do that. But of course that barely matters either because I’m pretty sure either they won’t or, it’ll be something explicit with no face.

I would rather address the other guys who replied, but I’m going to still address you: You seem to ignore or are just ignorant to the fact that: some of the things I discuss are a cause and effect situation. I know it sounds easy and convenient to use my posts as a reason for everything…but you have to think bigger than that. Just like I said about deposits, I wasn’t asking for them because things were always going great, I started asking only when weird things kept happening. What I post on here has nothing to do with someone contacting me trying to book a visit in a different city, and him beating around the bush despite me letting him know: I need to know soon. Now alternatively the other day: a client reached out and even though it was a same day delivery booking in a city 3.5 hours from me(faster than Amazon lol), he reached out early in the day and sent deposit as soon as possible. We met and had a great time. The other guy coulda worked out to, but then when he’s already showing distrust over my deposit which proves he hasn’t read my ad: my patience automatically got shorter.

So, looking around the “universe”, I think it’s stuff like this that makes some clients say stuff like, “I been burned before”. Same thing a potential client said to me yesterday, but he asked me to drive an hour north of town to see him on an outcall, but didn’t want to send a deposit. I was like nah, I’m not about to do that. Anyhow, popcorn 🍿 (not me, from another post elsewhere in the world) and then… followed by… And then these be the same guys claiming they got scammed, SMH 🤦🏾‍♂️

Because after a set amount of time, I can’t edit it. Millions of years from now 🦕, someone may be aimlessly looking up my RentMen name 🤷🏾‍♂️