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I beg to differ: I’ve been away for the past week, focusing on a tour I had going that included some smaller town areas. I actually had only 4 bookings that although I won’t say what the amount was: it was sufficient to pay all my bills for the month, and go on a couple shopping visits. I have traveled throughout the country for many years. The whole point of this topic is, many people often assume that if an escort goes to New York, Chicago, Las Vegas, Los Angeles, etc etc…all the places that sex workers often frequent, that it’s the ONLY way to support yourself or earn decent cash. I’m simply saying, it’s not true. I’m not talking about towns with populations of 5,000 lol. I’m talking places where Fortune 500 companies have put up offices, or has a thriving economy. For example: For a long time: very few sex workers knew about Denver. I was there Pre-2014 before the migration from California and other states really ramped up. But that’s still not the only city in the west. There’s other cities, but first thing people think of is: Las Vegas. But there’s already 500 other guys out there trying to get the same bag. When I plan cities now, I want to go to places where I can get a reasonable hotel, and the drive for me and clients isn’t much more than 20-30 minutes, and then it’s the last exit lol. But I’m not about to go to Chicago or Los Angeles, spend $200 a night on a hotel and compete with 500 other guys. That’s not something I’m interested in anymore unless, I have other reasons to be there. I’ve also been open to gay entertainment to move away from the downtowns, and into the more affordable suburbs. For example in St. Louis: the gay bar scene all centers around 1 or 2 inner city neighborhoods. But outside of that, there’s nowhere “gay” to be social. However, a large population of the young “hip” gays live outside of the city in the suburbs. Having gay nightlife centered only in the city, means either living in the city or, taking risks driving intoxicated to get to/from. Even the nearest bigger city I stay by: I’ve stopped going out much anymore, because all the gay social stuff centers in an area just outside of downtown. But for me to get there, I have to drive an hour, and then go thru a sketchy area of the city, and take rickety roads that are full of potholes and construction. Fuck that. Especially when the likelihood of finding business is not high, in the big city social scenes. Most are looking for free sex, the ones who pay generally aren’t seen or are real low key about it. I only do so when I’m in the vicinity, and met a client online. I absolutely won’t be having a chat about this. Don’t give me that fake shit like you’re trying to help out, and then have the audacity to criticize me for me “conceited”. Matter of fact, let me go down the list because you’re one of “those” escorts who think they can boss up on me, and I’m going to back down and let you run me. Sit down: #1: My business model has nothing to do with ego. #2: Where’s your top of the line, self created website that’s better than mine? #3: You’re new here, and you think you have me figured out? Have a seat 🪑 #4: You are in Canada. You can’t convince me that you’re more aware of how it works in the United States, than me #5: My website has been up for over 2 years. Most of my REAL clients have no problem booking me after seeing it. #6: You don’t know my journey. You have no idea what I been thru. I have gone thru everything from being technically robbed/ripped off by clients, to booking whole 2-3 day trips on MY DIME, OUT OF MY FUCKING POCKET: only to arrive and not a single person shows up despite having lots of requests (had experienced this in Houston, Indianapolis, Atlanta, Las Vegas, Florida, etc) #7: But guess what? Over times I’ve been able to make a come back and some of those same cities that failed me, I’ve been able to redeem myself: WITH PROPER PLANNING AND DEPOSITS #8: Don’t you, @Trick, @APPLE1 or any other gossiping, holier than thou MoFos ever come for me or my biz model again. If you think you can be the better person, and make a better website: Go do that. If not, that’s your prerogative. I can care less whether you do or don’t. What you’re not going to do, is gaslight and intimidate me into backing down and being “acceptable” to all clients. #9: And as I’ve said before; my website is relatively new thing I’ve been doing due to the POST PANDEMIC/POST SESTA-FOSTA State of the business. Prior to the pandemic in 2019 and prior to SESTA/FOSTA in 2016 (Google it, since you’re smart) I had my hurdles, but the behavior I was encountering since then has compelled me to do things a different way now. Half of these clients out here, like @Trick and @APPLE1 are not people I want anywhere near my dick or ass to begin with, with that type of mentality. That’s why I choose to screen and ask for deposits. A person who feels an escort should have no boundaries, and is only “good” when they do everything the client thinks they should: is not the type of energy I want in a client. Many of my clients are happy to abide by my rules, and I don’t have to fucking explain tirelessly about why I have to do so because, it’s already in my websites. It’s “my body, my choice”. I don’t have to be acceptable to all to be worthy. Some clients out here are disrespectful towards escorts, and don’t even respect themselves because they can’t even figure out their lives enough to book one, and probably have drama and baggage of their own. Maybe it’s their looks, maybe their family, or they can’t bag who they want for free, so they call escorts: but it’s all BAGGAGE. Everybody has baggage. And I know they have baggage, because they don’t even have the courage or balls to show their face. But they want to sit and talk shit about another escort, and what that person “should and could” have done. Miss me with that 100% But what you’re not going to do: Is try to criticize me…behind me back, especially when I’m not online and out here doing what I need to support and sustain myself. You got a lot of nerve. I refuse to tolerate the disrespect on this forum. Y’all are being put on notice. If you don’t like what I have to say, LEAVE. Don’t respond. There’s plenty of other stuff to read. If you don’t like me, but still reply to my posts: it says more about YOU, than it says about me. Next please, if anyone wishes to contribute something more useful about cities. I’m fine to keep the discussion going, unnecessary distractions don’t need to detract from the message.

If you don’t have anything uplifting or encouraging to add, don’t say it all. You’re not obligated to contribute.

Thanks, however I should mention: Not sure where you get that my last review was in 2013? My last review on RentMen was end of 2023. However I have at-least a couple more recent ones on RentMasseur from this year. You might be referring to the reviews on this site: However this isn’t my most popular Avenue for being reviewed. As for as the website stuff goes, again I feel that’s a separate micro-topic that’s going to be a bit different than this thread is focused on, which is the difference between big and large markets. I’ve had my website for almost a couple years I think. It wasn’t meant to be a state of the art platform. I spent a fair amount of time on it, however I didn’t go all out website designer on it. I just wanted an auxiliary platform that goes over pricing and expectations…more than what RentMen and RentMasseur can convey. If anything, it’s more meant to be a “detailed menu”. However, I try to update regularly and assess my tone where necessary. I know there’s a lot of “money talk” in there, however: keep in mind that I’m coming from 2 websites that allows no money talk at all, and RentMasseur only allows 2 rates: in and outcall. That said, my site has brought me plenty of spare coins, and many of my clients like it. Sorry if you don’t feel the same but, it’s something that I feel is beneficial for me: as I often travel multiple cities, and I simply can’t explain to every caller and texter, what’s my rates (as that’s generally the question they always want to know). That out the way: I know you’re based in Montreal. Being a Canadian city, I can only imagine things work a bit differently. I have actually posted up there and got a few hits, but making a trip up there hasn’t come into fruition. However there’s a few America cities across the River that could “simulate” a Canadian trip: where Canadians can visit me instead lol. I know you said you’re going to Atlanta, that’s one city I don’t find to be a hitmaker for me. I went there to work for the first time back in maybe 2008, booked 3 days of hotels in midtown Atlanta in advance, and didn’t even know what deposits were at that time: not a single person showed up. I felt like a fool. However, I’ve since been thru there a few times over the years: but I only do work there if I have someone booked ahead But for you, it may be different. I know this makes some out there uncomfortable, but race and level of options plays a part in some things. Like you said, there’s no shortage of providers (and gay, black men in general) in Atlanta. The success may be varied or may take longer to see than others. White and Latin guys there, I feel tend to be in a league of their own, but there’s so many options for Black ethnic gays: most are like kids in a Candy store. To get even 1 client in Atlanta as a Black provider, seems nothing short of a miracle. But hey, I’ve gone there and made coins before. Will you catch me planning trips there just for escorting? Hell no lol. Only when I’m there for other stuff, and clients are supplementary. Sometimes it’s just acknowledging that things may be different for others thru no fault of their own: but it doesn’t mean they aren’t good, just they have to find their niche. And the problem I find: men…whether in the industry or not, seem to think the key to sex worker success, is moving to a big city. It’s not. It’s a common myth that’s been rehearsed over and over, and it’s unfounded. And when I say “big city”, that doesn’t always mean New York and Los Angeles. Those are more like megapolis. But any city that is going thru a “boom” period, can be too big. Nashville is an example of that. When I first used to go there, circa 2014-2016, there was hardly any guys advertising. I would make bank. Now, it’s so flooded with guys, most trips I barely get more than a client or 2. I was oddly busy earlier this year there in January around new years, but then I went back about a month or 2 later and nobody except for 1 client from L.A., booked me. Where I live at, it’s a “big city” but a small gay community. That’s the other thing. Some cities are and function like a big city, but are actually “small” in terms of gay/client pool because it’s either the same few clients over and over, or the gay scene is concentrated in just one area of the city and hasn’t expanded. Or it’s growing, but only in the context of straight families, straight White techies, or transplants from neighboring small towns (places like Denver, Orlando, Raleigh,NC, San Antonio, Tex, Reno, Kansas City/St. Louis, Columbus/Cincinnati are such examples). However, it can still be big enough to the point where it’s not as busy as I like due to a surge of escorts flooding the area for no apparent reason. I woulda never thought in a million years Denver, Nashville, or Kansas City would become escort hot spots: Years ago, I used to have to basically live in secrecy when I lived there. Even now, if and on the rare occasion I tell guys in the scene, they start acting weird and eventually disappear. I have had to trade even those medium cities for even smaller cities a few hours away, to get as busy as I want to be. I’ve even heard some refer to Atlanta as being “small”, not that it’s small as a city: but in certain communities (say like the entertainment/music/the gay community), it’s been referred to as such. Meaning: you’re likely to run into the same people in the same circles. Or you sleep with someone, and turns out that person is or has slept with everyone you know lol.

Picking up from a previous discussion which had a few “micro topics”, but went too far off topic with personal opinions and added no value to the discussion (let’s try not to do that again). I know a few people seem to hinge an escort’s success on how big their…city is. But in my experience, being in a major metropolis is no guarantee that someone will find instant success or improvement to business. In my experience, here’s the reasons why: Bigger city: more advertisers. Which means more choices for clients, more chances the clients may have a regular escort, and not to mention: the greater chance of guys using free methods (bars, bathhouses, hookup apps, network connections). It may also take longer for a client to notice an ad among the sea of others Higher expenses: Everything from hotels, to toll roads, and gas spent waiting in traffic or commuting clear across town (a common theme in places like Chicago, Los Angeles, Florida, DFW/Houston, Washington DC, Phoenix which are very spread out metropolises and clients could be anywhere), and even gas prices. Places like Chicago and Los Angeles often run higher than the surrounding small towns. More risk: Bigger cities are also more prone to issues like drug use amongst the gay scene/clients, and even from everyday civilians. I always feel I need to “watch my back” more in big cities. And if you don’t have a car, walking around carrying cash can be an issue. Even if you do drive, I’ve had people come up and grab my door handle once in awhile. Usually thinking either I’m an Uber or, maybe something ill. Higher police/security presence: this can include in hotels, on the streets/highways, or possibly browsing thru ads. There’s not always “they have better stuff to do”. Some hotels in big cities may even have decoy cop cars parked at hotels, which may scare off a client. So that’s my take on the big cities, and why I don’t often frequent them. I still go to cities, but a big metropolis, I may only visit 2-3 times a year. However, small cities: the drawbacks can often include: *limited client pool, *less gay acceptance, *the commute to get there can add up. hotels often sell out easier due to college events/conferences, etc. You may also find it more expensive in terms of choices: Upscale hotel in smaller cities can cost a lot more, than in a big city with lots of real estate (Big cities with great deals on upscale hotels include Orlando, Dallas, Las Vegas, occasionally Phoenix certain times of year). This is not implying big cities can’t be successful, or there’s not money to be made. However, it may take longer to see the success happen. I personally don’t have the luxury to wait around in a city, and spend $500 upfront on travel and accommodations and hope to make it all back + a profit. Any time I go to a big city, I have to be sure I have at least 1 client to “kick off” the trip. Usually that’s enough to break even, if nothing else works out. However, being physically present in a big city can make one more accessible to take same day/last minute appointments that come up. Which I find sometimes, just isn’t possible to do if you’re not actually there yet. For me, it’s all about risk management/assessment. I don’t like to take risks unduly when it comes to travel. Even relocating to a big city can have similar caveats. I used to live in Orlando for 2 years, and my God: It would get slow like you wouldn’t believe. And the level of competition was epic a times. When one guy leaves, another 5 arrive. It was a shark tank. And at that time, I didn’t really take deposits much unless I had to get a hotel. But I was also mainly offering outcalls anyway. Eventually, I ended up stop working in Orlando, and would travel to smaller cities 2-3 hours away, or one of the coasts. Orlando would be great some days, dead the others. But the saving Grace was a high convention/tourist industry and a relatively high gay population.

I don’t necessarily think the OP asking for funds upfront is complicated, moreso that he just wants to do things differently to where he doesn’t again have to worry: “Is this guy going to walk?” Nothing complicated about that at all. Same thing when you go to the movies, before entry at a nightclub, or ordering an Uber. All simple concepts: pay upfront. What reference proof do you have, to backup your claim that the vast majority of appointments and transactions happen without any trouble at all? Even if it did: it only takes that one experience, just like the poster on here said…For things to go upside down. It’s not the “vast majority” which matters, it’s the “occasional few bad apples”.

I also think a possible more low key solution would be to perhaps reach out directly to RentMen admin, state the case and see what they may be willing to do. I know they don’t get involved with personal disputes much, but they may be willing to hold the person’s profile, accountable. Also, there’s the alternative: having someone else contact the client and let them know, “he/she will be coming to collect the payment today, otherwise you can mail/bring it to me in person” (and I’ve known people to actually have handlers do that) especially if that is the client’s place that occurred. Better hope the next one doesn’t send a brick 🧱 thru his window lol. But again, with “innocent until proven yadda yadda”, it might be imperative to ensure the client didn’t just forget and maybe thought he gave the money earlier. Having not been there to know either side, always best to start off with the least resistant before going to the deep end lol.

I’m so glad that you had the courage to come here and tell your story. I think many of us, have had something similar happen. That said, is there any possibility he may have forgotten to pay? I would reach out to him again, and of course if no action (sounds like you said he ghosted) blacklist him. This is essentially the shoplifting version of rape (you did not consent to time without pay), and that’s ethically wrong. I used to live in San Antonio way back when. However over the years, I’ve learned deposits, upfront and generally whatever makes me feel safe as a sex worker, is what matters. Not what random guys on the internet think or say. There’s 6 billion people on this earth, with a lot less of them gay and willing to pay, in the same town you’re in. However, you have to be faithful and confident. Nobody wants to relive a bad experience. Even when clients talk about being robbed, they may only hire every so often. We on the other hand, are dealing with clients every day. Phone calls, everyday. Meeting strangers, everyday. If I listened to every person who doesn’t do this, or doesn’t do that…idk where I would be right now. Let this be something to encourage more screening, and deposit or something upfront upon arrival in the future. There will be other clients who can respect you as deserved .

The more I read about it, the more it sounds like a enticing alternative. However, the main catch 22 I can see with that is, what if you decide last minute you need the room for the night? Or a client books an evening in-call unexpectedly? I’d assume then one would have to pay for the full night again, on top of the dayuse price. In that case, you almost come out better doing 2 nights. In my case, I’ll probably reserve dayuse in situations where I already have somewhere else to stay in the evening…or if I don’t want to stay in a particular city the whole night, just during the afternoon for a booking and be on my way. Sometimes I’ve disliked having to stay a whole extra night in a hotel, just to take a 1 p.m. appointment.

But isn’t that what you want? It’s sounds like you desire a provider who doesn’t require much to book: and can therefore squeeze in as many clients as possible…because they have limited “hurdles” for their clients. Isn’t that what makes a successful escort? You got what you asked for, and deserved. When you go to guys who aren’t really screening or asking much from clients: they are likely running a conveyor belt, so don’t be surprised with what you get:

I think it just depends on the communication. I always try to let clients know if I foresee needing extra time. As for waiting in the lobby, I’ve had times clients shown up to my hotel almost the same time or earlier that I arrive myself. Most seem patient and will say something like, “no rush, take your time”. Which sounds good, but I’m still rushing because…normally I prefer to hangout in my hotel for like 30 minutes to an hour before having anyone come. Of course I wouldn’t want to keep someone waiting that long. To lessen the chances of that occurring; I try to suggest 2 hours notice for same day bookings, but I’m also making same day bookings a premium service. To have me ready and available to meet the same day of contact, is a great accomplishment. This is why I’ve suggested to RentMen/Masseur to change the available now: to available today. This may eliminate the false sense of immediate availability, some clients may think it implies. Though for some, maybe they are available now but, I doubt anyone can remain that way for hours and days on end. All that’s required, is clicking a button and choosing how many hours you can be available now:

Just seeing this but: there’s a “hack” for that. Rent.Men will allow you to write a full page. In fact, when I edit my ad: I only use Rent.Men. Notice the character count of 2,000. I’ve used about 1,700 of them because, my ad needs to be able to full picture go over all important details, just in case they don’t trust clicking the link to go to my website. I guess that was part of the change over benefits from RentMen.eu. I also like the “map” feature on Rent.men because it shows more details like hotel location (even though I don’t always show my exact map location and when I do, it’s often at a hotel nearby that I’m not actually at just for privacy sake lol) versus the weird Rentmen.eu map which seems to only show government buildings/landmarks. They’re both Tom Tom so not sure how one is different.

Good point… And that means people will have to keep in mind; it isn’t a bathhouse. You can’t just pull out dayuse as if walking into midtown spa. I checked and there are some variations in availability. I also noticed trying to book the “Day of” might not work, because if you don’t book by the time that slot starts, there may only be the next available spot. That’s another reason why I’m going to discourage and incentivize same day, afternoon appointments with an added same day booking tip. Not that I don’t want to do same day meets, but I need to start getting paid more for it.

I think I’ll start referring all clients in my local area to dayuse if they want me to host. Simply because I don’t like the hotels in my area: they’re either dirty or overpriced. When I lived in Orlando and Dallas, I used to be able to get many options to 3 and 4 star hotels for under $100. But something about the Midwest, many of the good brands here are like buying tickets for 4 to visit Six Flags 😐

I recently signed up for dayuse app myself. I haven’t used it yet, however there’s 3 hotels participating in the city I live near. Which is okay, but in the future I will start using them if I need to arrange things earlier than a typical hotel will allow. However, from my observations they are mainly only available in bigger metros. And sometimes the rate could be close to what booking for the night somewhere could be. However the advantage is that earlier check in. I’m also going to start referring clients to use it themselves, if I’m not hosting on a particular day and the client can’t host either.

And best one of all: my old text messages that I save FOREVER. So when the same client who flaked, appears 2 years later acting like everything is all cool…I can remind him, “back in 2021, you were scheduled at 9 p.m. and didn’t show up. How would you like to pay for that 😂

And I’ll add additionally: Despite it seeming to be a lot of “porn star” advertisers out there, there’s really not a lot of guys out here in reality doing sex work. There’s a few cities I go to and, I meet guys who could technically fit the escort bill. But they may just have a “boyfriend” that they’ve managed to sugar a bit…Get them into a job, buy a car etc. But when I look around, it’s not as many guys out here doing this real time as it seems. A lot of these guys out here just be playing the field, trying to date multiple people and calling them “friends”. It’s such a mess that I rather just stick with escorting lol. One guy the other day told me, “a friend is coming into town this weekend” but then when I delved deeper, it was someone he was getting involved with. Couldn’t even be transparent and just say it 2-3 weeks ago when I was asking to meet up for a 2nd time. Tangent but…that’s how it goes lol.

Hmm, perhaps so. Maybe the issue is bigger than what’s being displayed. And of course the other factor: choices in cities. There’s so many escorts/masseurs who have flooded the market in many cities, yet there’s not many reliable sites. I’ve said this before, but I’m from the era where you could pick your “poison” (Or pleasure). Backpage, Craigslist, Men 4 Rent, rentboy, RentMasseur, and then RentMen were all options to be. It’s just unpredictable across the board. Some weeks nothing is going on, other weeks I’m meeting amazing clients. I wonder, is it slow or am I anticipating more than what’s possible? What I do know is: most all bookings lately are last minute under 24 hours notice. And in some ways it’s challenging because I never know if and how to plan my next day. And I also will go to the city (I live an hour away) and hang around waiting for a call some days. Nothing. Then I’m at home with nothing on schedule, bored out of my mind and decide to fire up a BBQ: client wants to meet in an hour. Which is how I was I unable to take an appointment the other day. It’s like everything in my area and others seems last resort. I just can’t always operate on being available “today” or even “tomorrow afternoon”.

You know, I just want to harp on this for a minute. What you’re saying is likely true however: I think the real issue is many (especially gay) Americans living above their means. I have seen so many times, single gay men living in a huge 3-4 bedroom home BY THEMSELVES. And then claiming they pride themselves on having their “space and independence”. But then when it comes time to spend money on friends or dates, they want to be cheap. It pisses me off. It’s like, why not get a roommate or 2 if you can’t afford a $9.99 burger? I know that’s not ideal but there’s some people out here living with parents or reliant on a failing relationship just to keep a roof over their head. Having a roommate or 2 isn’t going to kill someone, if they go about it responsibly. Lot of these guys are living in homes made for dual income families with kids. It’s like I get it, if you can afford it why not. But what I hate is when they make like I have to be “accepting” of their cheapness/lowballing ways. And I’m fed up. I was having a conversation about this with a guy today. He never wants to spend a dime, but yet has this big 2 story townhome. His roommate moved out so now he’s scraping by. I offered to move in and help him out, but he didn’t want a roommate situation. And I don’t care now because pretty soon I’ll be moving into a place of my own, I’m over trying to expect flaky dudes to be dependable for any time of living/extended stay situation. Some people get exactly what they didn’t bargain for. Inflation isn’t necessarily as bad as people play it out to be. I go to stores everyday and even though some things like groceries/food are high, a lot of stuff is still manageable if searched properly. Some people don’t really know what it’s like to be broke. Like poor. Don’t own a home, don’t own a car, nothing. They bitch about their car insurance being $40 more. Well shit, some people can’t even afford car insurance. I struggle to pay my car insurance every month. Not because I don’t feel like it, but because the days when it’s due, I don’t always have the funds to pay it: and I have 2 vehicles to cover. My rates aren’t even that high as it could be in some states. But when I’m paying for rentmen ads, hotels, gas, travel expenses: Insurance is just an extra expense but, it wouldn’t be smart to go without. I was “arguing” with someone the other day who’s so cheap he thinks $90 a month is too much for full coverage. I’m like dude…try living in Florida and paying that or double, just for bare minimum. Anyhow, I can go on but: that’s my take on inflation. It’s not necessarily inflation. It’s people’s desire to live above their means and not pool together money to win win for everyone. Well in that picture, I should have blurred out everything except “falsifying”. That said; I agree with some of the posters regarding agreeing with whatever ideas suits them best. Hopefully this does not affect the escort/porn star industry negatively, and we can simply see it as it is. However, the media has not done a great job with portraying us as troublemakers and snitches. I know what doesn’t come out in the wash, comes out in the rinse but: some things you just have to play dumb and be like; I have no idea who/what you talking about.

I have had the full series myself over the last year. However I will say, a couple days after having had the last round of that and another vaccination the same day: I had like the worst lower back pain and had to go to the ER twice. I’ve had back pain before but, that was like I’ve never experienced. Idk why. Was hard to walk, hard to sit, hard to lay down. I couldn’t really see but a couple people for like 3 weeks. That said, I probably recommend taking it easy and not booking anyone the first 2-4 days after getting a vaccine. I’ve been wanting to adopt a policy of ensuring all clients wash their hands and do mouthwash soon as they walk in the door (and me doing the same). However, most always show up hygienic fortunately. But it always just gives extra assurance of sanitation. Touching your steering wheel, door knobs, etc. can pick up germs…and if you touch yours or someone else’s dick and you or the other guy sucks it…not good. Also, showering after is always good practice. I like to shower after every appointment. I also spray down my hotel carpets and showers with Lysol/Odoban when I first arrive and after each shower/visit. What irks me off the most, is that some of the hotels I’ve used haven’t been as clean as I prefer. I try to keep it under $100 a night, but in some cities and especially in 2024: that’s getting really harder. All my favorite Hilton and Marriotts want half of my rate or more just to stay. I had a client pay for me a room at one of the actual Marriotts for one night with points, and I started to stay a 2nd night but it was going to be like $245. And I’m not trying to see 5 clients in a day to offset that. I have to look harder to find a nice room at my price point lately.

Nope. Because a lot of times clients who want in-call to come to us don’t always pay for the hotel. They either A) assume we already have it figured out or B) expect it to be included in the rate. Outcalls are different, assuming the client is booking the room or has a place ahead. Even if I’m traveling to a town on my own, no guarantee I’ll have a hotel to host. Idk if people don’t think about it but: an escort can still travel to a city and not book a hotel. They could be seeing friends, family, just driving thru by car etc. However in my case, unless I know someone in the town I usually try to book a room to host out of. However, I can’t do it if I have no appointments. With the price of hotels, it’s too big a gamble.

Provider opinion here: not necessarily. Many clients want me to host. Many times however, I’m only outcall. I have a car, and all the essentials, but it’s the venue that needs to be arranged. By sending a deposit, it ensures I can afford getting that hotel. And a larger deposit (which I recommend for longer sessions) ensures the place I get is not just a bed, but a place with luxury accommodations. Without a deposit, there are times I just won’t host. And that’s regardless of whether I have my own place or not. Like over the long weekend, my family rented a house out by the lake. I could not host there, but could gladly do outcalls. However, one person refused to do deposit (he also has a bad rep for being a flake based on research). So I was like fuck it, I won’t go. Why would I leave my comfortable Lake house to go see him, without a deposit? That’s foolish. Look at the drive I would have had to do: I wasn’t about to be driving all thru the woods at nighttime to meet this person, without a deposit (that’s not a house address, merely an apartment which is even MORE reason to not go without deposit.) Imagine I go all that distance, and he flakes? I have to then drive all the way back. Key word: Grindr. As in, not a real paid professional site.

Sometimes I wonder were the term “lady of the evening” comes from, considering most bookings might be daytime. Maybe years ago, most clients found a way to sneak out and meet at night lol. Also, I would say only a limited percent of clients I come across: are married with kids. They may have a husband, but rarely wife and kids. I’ve met a few where the kids are adults and have kids of their own 🤷🏾‍♂️ Right, the business is throwing a time at you. You’re not throwing a time at the business. Which means you have to yield to what they have available. That’s different than calling the secretary and telling what time YOU want. They might try to match you but ultimately it’s up to what their availability is.

Well….maybe that’s “present”, but the history is a bit more involved. I won’t discuss but Google has a few references of Britain and America’s part in the 🚢 “trade” 😐 I think that’s already been happening. With Texas and Oklahoma, even Florida. Even though I hear about the economy, it seems this Memorial Day weekend they say was “busiest ever”. I’m hearing about the economy, but I just don’t see actual things indicating that people are so poor, other than the fact it seems there isn’t as much money going into the sex work arena as I would expect. I posted on Facebook the other day, “this is not the time to be “cheering” I feel. Considering many cities are packed with “porn stars”, I definitely don’t think it’s going to be of benefit to the industry. I could see that but, idk…I guess I could be overthinking it. It might “shock” the industry overall until the dust settles, but I just hate that porn star and payment has to be the topic at all in this situation. They don’t have anything to do with us, but it’s still a big picture. And people have a wild way of blaming sex workers as a whole, versus the actual circumstances.

Yeah, I let him know I’m not the one for the games and nonsense. I basically asked for a cancel fee, he got bitchy and I told him, enough is enough. I’m tired. I go thru enough as it is, just trying to maintain. I can’t handle all my stuff, on top of someone’s bitchy impatient ways. I’ve just had to cut a lot a nonsense people out of my peripheral, in the city I base out of. Dealing with constant disrespect really takes a toll on the esteem. Plus the person in question, I know he didn’t really want to pay. I won’t go into detail, but he alluded to wanting to have a “freebie” and I was trying to work with him on an affordable rate instead. However, I’ve said before: most meets under $150/200, aren’t sustainable unless it’s high volume or very frugal survival mode. Pretty soon, I’m considering only offering $500 meets in cities within a 4 hour radius. Now as an alternative: I did meet someone the other day around 2:45 in the afternoon. But, we planned this the day prior and I was already in my “out and about” mode. We also COORDINATED this, he didn’t just throw a time at me. We had to come up which time was best based on what we both could do.

It’s true. You’d be amazed about how paranoid people in this country can be about things. I know some believe it’s not going to have any effect, but I think there a lot of silent potentials out there who might be a bit gun shy. All they see is porn star + money = jail. Especially in more conservative regions. Honestly though, I just don’t see why it even went at far as it did. If the person of interest was “paid” initially, you would think the person would not say much about it to begin with. But I guess we don’t know all the details. And yes, what you mention too is also partially why some people don’t want to screen or share anything about themselves. I know for me, I don’t meet people anonymously claiming to bring cash only: I have to know at least a few select details about them. If they’re afraid to share anything: I’m not willing to meet. It’s a safety risk. Some of the hookup app guys aren’t no better, some expect to meet with no phone number. Which is always a red flag. Even if they are who they say they are, it’s a sign they have something to hide, or just aren’t transparent about who they are.