Jamie21

It’s generally not expected in London. If I get a tip I’m delighted of course but most clients don’t tip. I prefer clients to show they enjoyed their session by coming back - that’s by far the biggest compliment. Repeat clients are awesome.

I hope to see you when you visit! In meantime, good luck with your exploration.

All good advice here. I’m a masseur and I see plenty of guys who want to explore in a safe environment with another guy. Sensual Massage is ideal for that because you can decide just to enjoy the massage or you can explore further with your masseur. If you choose a good sensual masseur they’ll agree with you beforehand what you’d like to do and they’ll gently lead you on that journey. Ask your masseur about what he’s happy to include in a sensual massage. Don’t feel awkward to ask any question; we’ve heard them all before and no question is silly or off limits. If your request is something your sensual masseur won’t do he will simply say so.

Dealing with time wasters. The ‘endless chat’ guys who are fantasists about visiting but who never actually get to book “thinking about booking…can you tell me what happens etc etc” or who list a whole sequence of things they want done to them and ask if I’m ok to do x or y etc. They never book they just waste time. Then there’s the really annoying guys who book but don’t show up who seem to treat it like a game. When you message them to confirm they say “yeah see you later” (always a red flag…the casualness of their response), and then they fail to show. Excuse, if provided, is “I ran out of time” or “I got caught up”. They think you’re just hanging around with nothing else to do but entertain them if they can be bothered. Fortunately they’re easy to spot.

It is the sine qua non of sex work.

I wonder how many on this forum are thinking ‘is it me?’

Then there’s the situation where 6 inches is advertised as 8… Inflation isn’t just a monetary problem.

Yeah they tell me you’re a bit off on Tuesdays.

I’m in awe….😍😍😍 Although why is Thursday ‘R’ and Sunday ‘X’?

Is there a chart to show most popular day of the week? I bet there is 🙂 For me it’s Tuesday…strangely

I do love a stats guy. Updated my spreadsheet last night (a very NYE thing to do).

Not here it isn’t.

Everything happens sometimes!

I’ve come across clients who like to get a discount. I think it’s because they enjoy the feeling of getting something that others don’t, a kind of ego boost. They can tell themselves it was because they’re hot or are cleverer than the sex worker. But it’s also my prerogative to decline a discount. After all, I assume the client doesn’t choose to do his work for less than his rate does he? “Hi boss, I’ll work today for 20% less because you’re a hot employer”. No, that doesn’t happen does it. Also, the assumption that because someone doesn’t discount they don’t pay taxes on their income is a false equivalence. In fact I’d say it’s more likely they are punctilious about such things if they are treating the job professionally. Receipts are offered (clients pay by card, it’s easy, I just press a button on my card reader and it sends a receipt). Most don’t want one surprisingly enough lol.

All the comments on here about getting reduced prices because you’re hot seem to be from guys who aren’t sex workers. That’s interesting, and I infer from it that they don’t really understand the nature of the work. I’d have made those same assumptions before I started doing it. I charge the same rate regardless of what he (or she) looks like. In fact, I don’t want to know what my client looks like until they walk through the door. It simply doesn’t matter. All the other sex workers I know are the same. It’s not being PC either. It’s simply having a rule never to discount. I get young guys contacting me asking for student discounts, or free sessions because they think I’d be attracted to them. The answer is ‘sorry no discounts’. Why? Because this is work. I’m not doing it for recreation, I’m not doing it for fun (even though I enjoy it) but I’m also not doing it for free. Free implies I don’t value my work, so why would I do that?

I prefer clients book via my website or WhatsApp/text message. It’s because in the past I’ve had bookings in my calendar and I’ve needed to contact them ahead of the session but it’s been a hell of a job to work out how the booking was made. I probably should note the source when I update my calendar. That can be a new year habit! The problem is that my clients have booked via all sorts of routes: phone call (yes, that still happens!), text message, via various messaging apps, email, Twitter DM, via my profile on various websites, RentMasseur message, on Scruff and even one time someone booked in person whilst we chatted at the gym. It becomes difficult to manage. So I find it simpler to encourage the final booking to be via WhatsApp or text. That way I can find it easily should I need to contact them. I do find that older clients prefer to book via a phone call. Questions can be asked, and you get more of a sense of the person than via written word. It’s nice, although it is sometimes difficult to talk detail unless I’m somewhere discreet.

Diet helps too. High fibre diet is best. If I’m bottoming for someone especially hung or if it’s going to be a long session with lots of different positions then I’ll use a shower attachment a few hours beforehand, and then a last minute check with a bulb douche.

I find it’s easier to schedule with clients on a messenger app like WhatsApp or Telegram, or Signal. I’m generally not checking my RentMasseur profile although I have a notification set for any messages so that I don’t miss them. It’s just easier and more instant to deal with the booking arrangements via a messenger app rather than a website.

I ask clients to leave their shoes outside the door (they’re safe, in a hallway). It’s to keep the floor clean but the added benefit is they can’t get far without their shoes if they’re going to do a runner!

My advice remains though, don’t pay deposit unless you’re prepared to lose the money. I’m trying to view it from the hirer perspective. I have incurred costs because clients didn’t turn up (not as much as an airfare or hotel booking but still I’ve spent money travelling or had opportunity cost of lost alternative bookings) so I do understand how annoying and painful it is to have someone flake on you last minute. But from a client’s perspective I think the risk of being naive and paying a deposit to a bad actor in this business is high. I’m saying when you book a provider think with your head not your dick. Your wallet will appreciate it.

Yes, I don’t request deposits. I’d say to anyone booking a provider to not pay a deposit unless you can afford to lose the money because that’s the risk. Pay deposits with full awareness of what you’re risking. I don’t travel though so my circumstances don’t really require deposits. Also I have a sense for flaky clients and simply don’t take bookings from them. After years working in the industry you get to see the signs. On the rare occasion a client fails to show up without a reasonable explanation then I report them to a site that we use to share info on time wasters, and I block their number.

Oh dear this one comes up with regularity! If he mentions erotic or sensual massage then you can be comfortable asking him what he’s prepared to include in that. It’s best to be clear about what you want. Masseur’s advertising erotic or sensual will be open to most questions but if you want full sex then I think many would decline that because they’re not generally charging escort type rates. I prefer clients to ask me about what they’re looking for because the term ‘sensual’ is very open to different interpretations.

And the answers: 1: don’t do it 2: don’t do it 3: don’t do it 4: do it (please 🙂).

I agree with @nycman and @dbar123. Half his fee sounds like a significant sum and must be extremely annoying to lose. I’m sorry to hear it. But I think you should definitely not chase your loss by going through with meeting him.

He’s a professional (or is supposed to be). He shouldn’t need to know why, nor should he be chasing you for business. It’s not like he’s being faithful to you is it…so why should it work that you only hire him? I don’t think it right that you should treat it like a relationship break up: “Hey!…I met a younger, hotter guy. I’m just trying him out but if he isn’t up to the mark then I might come back to you…but only if you get your act together on X Y and Z. Have a great day”. Hmmmm …no, that doesn’t sound good however you phrase it. Just tell him you’re not hiring right now. If he’s wise he’ll understand why. If he doesn’t understand why then you can be sure that any explanation by you wouldn’t have landed well, and would have surely jeopardised the chances of any future sessions being pleasant.