Jamie21

Are you asking clients? Because it’s in ‘ask a provider’ 🙂. First time I did an escort session was, looking back on it, hilarious and I’m grateful for the client who was really understanding. I’d agreed to meet him outside house no. 8 in his street. But I misunderstood the instructions and knocked on the door at no. 8 which was actually the house across the street. Obviously he wanted to check me out and didn’t want to give his real door number to me until he saw me. Fortunately no one was home at no.8 Then when I was getting showered before we started I didn’t shut the shower door properly and his bathroom floor got filled with water. He was ok about that saying he should have told me about the door thing. In my excitement at my first client I left home without my wash bag which had my massage oil, lube, condoms etc in. So I had to ask my client if he had any oil and condoms. He opened a bedside drawer and provided all the necessities… Afterwards I forgot to ask him for payment. As I was leaving he said “don’t you want paying Dick?” (Dick was the ridiculous ‘nom de plume’ I’d decided on for my escort career but I soon dropped it because guys would call and say “hi is this Dick” and I’d instinctively say “no it’s Jamie” and they’d say “oh sorry wrong number”). I think he was amused by my puppy like enthusiasm and naivety. He gave me a nice tip but didn’t hire me again. Then, when I got home I realised I’d left a thong I’d worn at his place. I really hope his wife didn’t find it… I’d say if you hire a newbie provider then be like my client and be understanding. He enjoyed my enthusiasm and I’m sure he had a laugh to himself afterwards. If he’d been an arsehole about my faux pax I’d probably not have continued with doing the work.

No idea. But if they’re just doing it for fun then I guess it doesn’t matter, it’s not their job or their main income.

I get clients sending me pics, of their own volition. I never ask for pics. Sometimes it’s because they want to be sure I’m ok to see them. Sometimes it’s from guys who think that by sending me a hot pic I’ll offer them it for free. In my experience the clients who send a pic are actually less likely to book. So providers can indeed be choosy. They simply require a pic. No pic means no booking. As I said, these guys are doing the work as an extension of their sex life. The money is an extra bonus for them, so they can feel ok to turn down business.

No, I see most of my massage clients at my massage studio. 90% are in calls. 5% are hotel visits, 5% to the clients home.

I do think that some of the Dictionaries need to define definitively some of these terms because there’s always lots of different interpretations of what they mean. Come on Oxford English Dictionary…please include all these sexual terms in your next edition! It will save all these discussions!

I think it’s that there’s a perception that some providers wouldn’t want clients who are overweight. I would say that that perception is over estimated. Of course some providers will be very ‘choosy’ and my view is that those guys are doing the work basically as an extension of their sex life. I’d say that most professional providers will not be so choosy about their clients. The professionals are able to make any client feel good and desirable because they are doing the job not for their own sexual gratification but for the satisfaction of performing their skill and making clients happy. Nothing makes me happier than a client leaving feeling great about themselves. I don’t care what they look like, I do care what their mindset is. The only physical things I need to l know about are injuries or health conditions. Having said that I did see one client who was very overweight indeed. It was for a massage although he was too big for the table so we had to use a futon. It really wasn’t very comfortable for him. I think if it’s for a massage there is a limit on size given the table restrictions. I felt sorry for him because his size prevented him from doing some of the things he wanted to do with me.

I agree with this, we exist somewhere on a spectrum. I think you’re born that way and depending on your openness to new experiences, the extent to which you are compliant to society norms and the degree of opportunity you experience then it’s your choice about whether or not you act on your position on the spectrum. Someone in the middle who is open to exploring, is independent minded and has the opportunity will have relationships with both sexes. Someone else in the middle but who is very compliant, conforms to norms and has very little opportunity to explore will probably have relationships only with the opposite sex. So to that extent I believe you do make a choice, but it’s a choice made within the boundaries of how you’re born. Born 100% on the gay or 100% on the straight end it will feel like you have no choice.

😂. Not dead yet.

Bury me in a Y shaped coffin.

Visit other erotic masseurs as a client and observe their techniques. Some standard massage techniques you’d learn on a normal massage course but sensual techniques you kind of pick up from others or learn intuitively by trial and error. It’s how I learned: I had some formal training and then learned as I went along. Alongside my massage work I now do sensual massage training for clients who want to learn how to be a masseur (not just the massage techniques but also how to set yourself up). If you find a masseur where you are who offers similar it could be worth trying them.

I think that’s one of the best parts. I prefer not to know what they look like. I have an image in my mind, from the exchange of messages / emails or a call when they book but I’m always surprised when I open the door or I arrive at the client’s hotel and find out what they really look like. It’s very exciting.

Ah ok although those straight men who accept the park offers aren’t straight! Have you been to some London parks on an evening?😂😂😂.

That’s not an interpretation I draw from it. In the 30’s having gay sex was unlawful. Gay men would not be open about their sexuality. Those ‘straight’ men who had sex with Gifford would not have described themselves as gay at that time. However if you transport them to current times they’d probably describe themselves as gay or bi, and they’d be open about it because there’s fewer societal barriers to doing so. I think it’s more to do with social norms where gay behaviour in the past was wrongly associated by society in general with certain effeminate characteristics. That trope is now fading thankfully and there’s no stereotype of how a gay man should behave. You do still see some people who retain that mindset when they say they’re ‘straight acting’…to which I’d ask ‘what is straight acting???’. I don’t think it’s anything to do with self loathing or true masculinity (whatever that is?). It’s about showing men who deny their sexual attraction to other men the pleasure of having gay sex. Many people have been so conditioned by religion and societal norms over the years to believe that sexual activity with a member of the same sex is bad. Well here’s news for them…it’s absolutely fantastic. Don’t let the self appointed religious leaders decide what you can and can’t do. Don’t let those who are bigoted tell you that you’re bad if you want to enjoy sex with whoever you like. As long as you’re being respectful and kind it’s up to you what sex you have, no one else.

Interesting discussion. I think if someone is doing sex work then they’re able to perform regardless of the gender or sexuality of their client. So a ‘straight’ male sex worker (who has self identified as straight) and who advertises as seeing male or female clients would be able to perform sexual acts with any of their clients. That ability and willingness to perform for anyone (regardless of body type too) is why the sex worker is able to do their job. A straight non sex worker couldn’t do it, but a straight sex worker can. It’s not to do with their sexuality, it’s their skill to find sexual attraction in the situation.

You could try these two… I’m sure they’d do a massage for you.

He’s playing you. That’s totally unacceptable. The menu pricing that is hidden must make the whole experience anxiety inducing. I think you’re right to not see him again, he doesn’t sound like someone who is very professional.

Those are the best! When I film porn I use hotels that have that kind of shower attachment. Cheap hotels don’t usually provide them.

My clients are hard at the start, but not at the end.

I get waxed, back sack and crack. I trim pubes. Used to shave chest but guys said they refer it natural so it’s now just kept trimmed.

Oh God no…I wouldn’t go to a party where they serve pizza with pineapple. (Although ….pro tip: do drink pineapple before a party, your cum tastes delicious 😉).

It works the other way around too. I’ve been given rather vague directions to clients’ places on out calls. Especially out calls to hotels where I’m usually asked to meet in the lobby (obviously sometimes this is because the lifts require a key card to operate). I think clients want to see me before they give me their room number which is understandable I guess, even though they’ll have seen my pics. I did get sent to the wrong hotel one time. It had a very similar name to one across the street. I messaged my client to say I was in the lobby with a description (usual kind of thing… wearing x, rolled up copy of The Times under my arm etc lol) and he said “I’m also in lobby but I can’t see you?”. After about 5 minutes of this, with me thinking I’d been given the run around we discovered we were in different hotels….so I quickly crossed the street to the correct hotel and found my client. Fortunately he saw the funny side and did realise he’d given me the wrong hotel. At least it was close by.

Ha ha, nearly… I was lubed up! It would have been hot though…literally 😂.

Ha ha nothing better than a group of guys having fun without any hang ups about who’s watching or where it’s happening. The mattress anecdote reminds me of a sex party I was at. A mattress was provided in the kitchen / diner for guests to use, as well as the lounge couches and bedroom. I was engaged with a couple of guys on the mattress as other guests stepped over us as they took pizza from the oven to the dining table. Unfortunately someone got caught in our tangle of bodies as he tried to step over us and I ended up with a few slices of Pepperoni pizza on my bum. I wouldn’t have minded but I’m vegetarian…

Yay! I look forward to hearing from you 🙂

That weight probably would be too heavy for most tables, especially the portable type because they tend to be narrow; you’d be uncomfortable on the table. My in call table is electric and quite wide but I think that I’d also recommend doing the massage on a Futon in those circumstances. It’s important you’re comfortable. Futon massage is a different experience and yes I agree with @Rod Hagen the session can easily turn into an escort appointment. I had a large client one time for a Futon massage which developed like that. The client wanted to top me, which was fine but the challenge he had was his size, in both perspectives; he wasn’t especially well endowed and his body size made it even more difficult. On a table it would have been totally impossible.