Jamie21

So we have the Lydians to thank for giving me work, and inflation. I feel they have a mixed record.

Although it was referencing your post ….it wasn’t actually about you or intended to invalidate your experience. I apologise for the unintentional invalidation. It was just meant to bring some levity to the conversation. It’s important to smile 😊. I don’t see things like that Dr Long quote because I guess I don’t need my subjective emotional experience to be validated, at least not on a forum like this! It’s my experience and I don’t mind whether someone else who I don’t know validates it or not, but I realise you’re different @Jarrod_Uncut so I’m really disappointed you didn’t like the joke and that I upset you. I’m resolved to not interact in future unless it’s to positively validate your point.

They leave their shoes outside the door. They put shoes on as they leave, after having paid. I mean…it’s highly unlikely they’ll run away, I don’t work in that part of the market but if they did try to they’re not going to get far without their shoes are they? 🙂

Anxious or inexperienced clients, without me prompting or asking, tend to pay before the session. I am handed an envelope or it is put on the side with an embarrassed “that’s for you” mumbled as they avoid eye contact. Some clients forget during the post session chat whilst they get dressed…and are almost at the door when I have to ask “how would you like to pay?”. Others just hand cash or card over at the end once they’re dressed. It’s all very perfunctory. On one occasion a client had his card declined, so he tried a second card. That also didn’t work. I think he just forgot the pin because of anxiety about the whole situation. He’d been quite anxious at the start and was one of those guys who once he’s cum he kind of ‘just has to get out of here’. Like a big guilt trip comes over them. During the session he’d eventually relaxed sufficiently on the table to become aroused and I was working his cock to bring him to climax. Trying to time it so he’d shoot 5 minutes before times up so he can chill a bit on the table afterwards. He liked his ass played with so I tried a finger at the entrance (lubed up of course). No resistance from him, indeed he pushed on it…so in it went. This seemed to do the trick and he got closer. My finger hit his prostate and he was now very close but the anxiety seemed to be still holding him back a little, so I slid a second finger in and started to alternate pressure on his prostate… which did the trick and he shot his load. However as soon as the last spurt came out of his cock he sat up on the table and asked to use the shower. I said “relax, how about a head massage to bring you back down?” as I cleaned up his cum but he’d already swung his legs over the side of the table and was ready to stand up. I managed to stop him for a few seconds while I wiped him clean. I really don’t want someone getting a head rush from standing so soon, but his mind was made up to ‘get out of here!’ Anyway after a rapid shower and dressing he’s now standing there next to a still naked me (which probably added to the anxiety) fumbling over his PIN number and trying various cards in my card reader. To lighten the mood I said “stick another one in, it worked for me” but I don’t think he got the joke. Fortunately one of the cards worked and he managed to get away.

I like to try out a client’s nipples. You can very quickly work out if they’re a turn on for him. For some it’s instant reaction, for others….nothing. Sensual massage is an exploration; you try all sorts of things and see what reactions you get. Sometimes it’s the most unusual things, like sucking a finger, licking an armpit, a slap on the bum or just the lightest kiss on the back of his neck. Throw in surprises and unexpected touches and read how he responds.

I hate PayPal. I used to accept it and will do so in extremis but I generally avoid it. I leave a zero balance in my account. I used to have a PayPal card reader, to take credit cards. The money would be credited to my PayPal account. The card reader was rubbish and would regularly freeze mid transaction. One time a client got debited twice because the card reader didn’t seem to accept the first transaction. However I only received the first transaction as a credit (less their exorbitant fees). My client complained to me he’s been charged twice, so I tried to speak to PayPal but it was impossible to get to a human. So I asked my client to raise it with his credit card company but they passed the buck to PayPal. Eventually I refunded my client so he wasn’t out of pocket ( he’s a regular) but that put me out of pocket. Eventually it got resolved but only after lots of calls to PayPal. After that I changed my card processing company. I also heard PayPal will freeze your account if they think you’re doing sex work, so that was another reason to dump them. The new card reader is fantastic, and cheaper.

I hear it’s not effective, but that’s third hand. As with lots of things the Germans seem to have it worked out.

Except it doesn’t reduce demand, it just drives it underground. Any attempts to legislate demand or supply is doomed to failure. Better to regulate.

It’s very very rare. If you work in the bottom end of the market maybe that happens but in my experience of seeing hundreds of clients only once has someone pulled that trick, and I walked with him to the cash point and made sure I got paid. I’m very comfortable with payment afterwards. And the excuse of ‘I’ve no cash’ isn’t a problem because I accept cards.

I usually get asked to bend over forwards. Or is that a different thing?

Never pay full charge in advance of the service if you don’t know the guy. I think you did the right thing.

Ah sorry to your dog! I’m glad my posts bring a smile. Honestly some of the experiences I’ve had while being a sex worker should be made into a film. I’ll write it all in a book one day…

It’s an allegory for life. The pleasure is the journey not the destination.

Really 15 to 20 minutes over doesn’t seem such an issue unless you have a hard stop. I don’t say “right, times up!” at exactly the time he booked if it’s an out call. I could understand if he’s still going half hour beyond the scheduled time, but 15 minutes is just a rounding error lol. I usually ask if the client has a definite finish time at the start. Then you know and can plan because it feels mean to end exactly on time, especially if things at that point haven’t come to a natural close. And don’t feel obligated to pay extra, the agreed rate is the agreed rate.

I hope you liked my videos! I did about a dozen on sensualmassagemovies.com then started my own site on justforfans because I wanted to show a bit more explicit content alongside the massage. I think it’s very normal to like watching massage. It’s good to watch how the massage becomes like an arousal or a seduction. I think guys can imagine themselves going for a ‘normal’ massage and then the massage developing into an erotic encounter quite unexpectedly.

Caused by booking providers when the blood supply to support good cognitive brain processing is impaired by excess blood to the dick area.

I saw a massage client last week. After the massage he said he’d like a 4 hands next time. So I asked him what kind of masseur he’d like to join me for the 4 hands. I work with a few guys (and females) who I know and trust are good, and they’re a variety of ages and ethnicities etc. He says he’s open but then says ‘no black guys’. The client is from the US. I didn’t ask why; it could be a prejudice I don’t know. I can understand someone having a body type preference or preferring older guys or something but ethnicity preference is a difficult one for me. If you do open yourself up to experience different people you can find that you’ve been missing out!

I find it annoying, when someone is late. Especially if their excuse was reasonably within their power to avoid. This seems to happen a lot with video shoots with porn models. Example, I arranged to film with a model at his place. We agreed a time and I turn up 5 minutes before the time agreed. I message him to say I’m outside. No reply….then after 10 minutes he says ‘sorry I was asleep’…give me half hour. This is around 11am. So I wander around his area for half hour then message again… ‘yeah come up’, he messages back. Once inside he’s obviously just woken, and says to me “do you want some breakfast?” as he prepares his food. I think ‘well I came here to eat but it’s your arse I was thinking of, not grapefruit and cereal’ but I’m kind of trying to be relaxed so I say “oh thanks just a glass of juice”. So we sit while he eats breakfast….then he says he has to douche…. It’s now almost midday. I have other stuff to do later. I ask “how long to douche?”….he says “oh I dunno, usually half hour…depends”. Now if I’m bottoming I really don’t like to douche immediately before a shoot, that’s far to stressful. Why hasn’t he done all this before the agreed time? While he’s douching I set up cameras and light so things are ready. After his preparation he wants a little time to settle down so we sit and chat. Eventually after 2 hours we get some filming done. It’s so unprofessional. He was young, early 20’s and I find this kind of attitude more common with younger guys. When I collaborate with guys older, like 40 or so they are on time, are professional, easy to work with. It’s a job, you book and agree a time and duration because people make plans. I can understand unexpected travel delays etc but not things like ‘I needed the gym’ or ‘I have to douche’ or something when those things should have been planned for in advance.

All models provide their ID when they sign up to the site. If you film with another model you just tag them and they approve the movie to be published. If you film with someone who doesn’t have a profile on the site then that person has to provide consent and ID before the movie is published. If the site finds that you have published films that don’t have the correct consent then your account is suspended. I’m sure there’s ways people circumvent some of the rules but the system is there to prevent people publishing revenge porn or anything illegal. As a model you provide your ID and details so if you did have anything published on your profile that was suspect then you’re easily traced.

If you’re talking to the right escorts…it definitely won’t be you.

Possibly you’re picking the wrong type of guy… the flaky type who’s doing the work as a bit of fun and easy money and something ‘better’ has come along so they bailed on you. Especially as it’s a Friday and they didn’t need to front the cost of anything.

I can’t speak for the whole of Europe and I wouldn’t assume that Europe is homogeneous. But I can talk about London because it’s where I live and work, and I’ll say that generally you’ll have no problem in London. The city is the most multi cultural in Europe and is, despite what some media commentators would like to imply, a very welcoming and accepting city of all ethnicities.

I hope that’s correct. If he’s posting on Onlyfans they’ll take the movies down if the model hasn’t gone through their ID process. I do know people who circumvent that though.

That’s totally unacceptable. To post videos on justforfans you have to get the consent and ID of those participating. All my videos are filmed with guys who have provided consent or they’re with other justforfans models who also provide consent via their justforfans profile.

You might mean my one, although it’s a justforfans site rather than Onlyfans but it’s the same thing lol. I’ll admit my videos go further than sensual massage however! (And further than I go with my massage clients). There’s plenty of massage to watch though (over 100 full length videos) and lots of fucking too so something for everyone 🙂