Jamie21

Mine seem to be aware. I get asked ‘can I see you when you’re fresh?’. I’m like a baguette at the bakery, best in the morning whilst still warm.

I’ve filmed a couple of porn films with a lovely FTM guy called Eddy. He’s available for hire. Really great guy. Obviously he’s based in London (like me). I’d recommend anyone interested in hiring a trans guy to try him.

It’s tipping … I reckon it has another 8 pages to go.

Hats off to you for replying in that vein. I bet you’re a lovely client to see. The reason most guys charge more for an out call is because it takes up travel time. You may only book an hour for the out call but your masseur or escort has to travel to your place or hotel. The extra cost is to reflect that extra time. In 3 hours at my place I could see 2 one hour clients but only 1 out call in a 3 hour window.

Lots of common misunderstandings here. 3 clients a day 6 days a week is quite some going…. not really sustainable. Also, for each client actually booked there’s around 4 who take up time with enquiries that don’t go anywhere. That needs to be factored in. Then there’s the cost of facilities (whether you rent space or use your home which still has a cost), advertising, regular training, travel costs etc. It’s definitely not zero overhead. Plus taxes of course plus cost of benefits that one has to buy which you’d often get via an employer. There’s no way I get 100% profit off what I charge. And I’d invite anyone who thinks they can get rich quick to try the job for a few months and see how they get on. I assume they’ll be happy to make themselves available at all sorts of times, often at short notice, be ok with possibly not earning anything next week, dealing with time wasters and clients who treat them like dirt, sort out their own insurance, pension etc. 😉

Yes I definitely agree with that. I’ve joined the end of a few long queues at sex parties to fuck a hole that’s been loaded up. It’s very satisfying. My issue with some bottom guys is that it’s like fucking a sack of potatoes (which I have never done…I’m talking figuratively before anyone asks 🤪). Guys, maybe you’re inexperienced, that’s fine, but arch your back a little and offer it up, don’t be passive. I’m very flexible and hung so I can get in great positions but you do need to do your bit. If I’m bottoming I always try to make it easier for the top to work in a good position, especially if he’s not so hung.

I’m of a Goldilocks view where there’s a sweet spot when it slips in nicely but you can still feel the sides 😉

There’s no indication or comment that it was anything connected with his work or lifestyle. I guess we shall find out in due course but it feels improper to speculate on what the cause was. Best to just pass on sympathy to his family and loved ones and thanks for his life. I know people who worked with him (I’ve worked with them) and none had a bad word for him. Sometimes you hear on the grapevine that certain people are difficult but it wasn’t the case for him. People tend to think doing this kind of work is easy, it’s not even work. At first it is like that but very quickly it becomes different. If you’re going to sustain yourself doing porn and sex work you soon realise you need great discipline, conscious effort and a great degree of professionalism that exceeds that for many conventional jobs. There’s all sorts of diversions, risks, shady characters and temptations that young and impressionable minds can be subjected to. Those strong enough to recognise the risks, manage them and keep a sense of perspective can be successful on a long term basis. The others get eaten up or burn out quickly and leave.

If you mention collaboration you’d likely need an Onlyfans profile. Collab is the term used by guys who want to make content with other Onlyfans models. I get requests from guys to collaborate, the first thing I do is look to see if they have an Onlyfans profile and how many followers they have. If they have no profile then I ignore it or decline. Sometimes models have (on their IG or X page) a link to their agent or contact for enquiries or their social media links which may link to their website. I’d guess that if he’s difficult to contact then he probably doesn’t escort. Someone open to the proposition would have some way of being able to receive discrete enquiries.

Yes, anything that shows off my physique and accentuates my pecs (and minimises belly). Plain colours are preferable, no logo. 😉

It didn’t seem to care much in the past, and before Brexit many of those Brazilians had Portuguese passports so they were ok to stay anyway. Things have changed more recently and the government is doing more to find those who are here illegally.

[Text redacted] I’ve no problem with being called a hooker or whatever. Prefer to be called a sex worker, but what’s in a name? A rose by any other name would smell as sweet. Also doing sex work can be approached casually (many do), or professionally (as in by having certain standards and by being reliable and honest etc). I argue that by being professional one can be more successful and have an investment portfolio 😉. I’ve found that those who denigrate the work do so because either they have prejudices or insecurities or they’re jealous. They deny it of course because it’s better for their ego for others to have a problem but the inescapable reality is that it’s their thinking and their problem. There’s nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.

Well you certainly made it clear to everyone about who you are didn’t you.

Exactly this. He’s not professional. He should offer you some alternative, 50% discounted next booking (if you want to take that risk). Sounds like he just said ‘sorry I can’t come’ and made it sound like he was doing you a favour. Very poor form. Move on from him.

Accents can change within a few miles, London has at least 5 (cockney, saaath London, norf London, estuary, RP). There’s loads of different ones across the whole country.

I can do working class, no problem. Although someone who isn’t from the UK couldn’t tell one’s class from one’s accent, language or demeanour. But to a British person it’s immediately evident and cannot be hidden.

Cream first then jam. Always. I had some yesterday. Delicious.

Many of the Brazilians are managed by someone, who takes a cut. Maybe that’s why they charge more. If you visit London hire a proper Londoner, with an English accent and who can tell you how to make tea and address the King, should you come across him….(you make tea in a tea pot and you put the milk in the cup first, and if you come across the King it’s ’Your Majesty’ at first and then ‘Sir’).

Ugh I’ve been found out. I do like my dishwasher, he loves dirty stuff. It’s much better than my fridge, which is cold to me and the freezer is even worse…totally frigid. The cooker is hot 🔥, he loves a roasting. I tried to get things going with the microwave but after a minute he was done so that was rather unsatisfying. I like the washer/dryer because it’s versatile, and of course the vacuum cleaner can suck for England.

The answer to that question isn’t solely related to my trying to maximise revenue. If I wanted to maximise revenue in that way I’d say I prefer the every 10 days client but in reality I don’t want a client to visit every 10 days (because things would become too ‘routine’) so my answer is I’d prefer the less regular client who tips. I think the price elasticity of demand for sensual / erotic massage services is greater than 1: people can choose alternatives to having a massage.

This topic is a never ending debate! It seems to bring out really strong opinions in some, and plenty of prejudice and misunderstanding about the position of providers too. I don’t understand why it’s so emotive. Tip if you want to, or don’t tip if you don’t want to. What others do is up to them, you do you. I’m grateful if a client tips, but I don’t expect it. If a regular client is generous with tips then I will go out of my way to accommodate him if he asks about my availability whereas I’m not as flexible for a non tipper, obviously.

They’re compensating for a lack of something (usually they lacked attention as a child, and they feel inadequate as a man in some way) so they compensate their fragile ego by seeking power and wealth and outward appearances of success - like driving an expensive car, having self aggrandising job titles, wanting to own Greenland, or having lots of big phallic missiles parade past you in Red Square…that kind of thing. Best to laugh at them. Don’t argue just laugh. They hate that.

The advice on here to avoid drugs (including Viagra etc) is sound I think. You do have to be attracted to your sexual partner to get hard, regardless of Viagra. All that does is help make you harder for longer. The drugs will just mask the underlying issue and aren’t good for your health. I think the best sex is when you’re completely and totally present in the moment and you can’t be that if you’re high on something, including drink. My experience is that if you’re anxious about getting hard then you’ll find it difficult to get hard and therefore you get more anxious…which is kind of a circular problem. The way to break it is through breathing and practice in being in the moment so that when you’re with the guy you’re focused on the activity and him rather than thinking ‘I’m not getting hard’. You do that by removing any expectations from the session except that it will be intimate - kiss, cuddle etc… no plans to fuck, no need to cum etc. and simply slowing everything down and thinking about how you’re breathing. That’s best done with an understanding provider. You’ll get into the session and should find, perhaps to your surprise, that you’re hard. Once you break that anxiety circle then it’s easier next time and you find that you’re over the anxiety.

I bareback, and I’m on prep. I wouldn’t bareback if I wasn’t on prep (and I’m aware of the risks and that nothing is guaranteed). I also get tested very frequently. All of that is my choice to protect myself. I expect clients to make their own choices and to take responsibility for their health. I don’t ask their status because it’s irrelevant to my decisions. Sometimes clients ask my status and I’m fine to tell them but I add that they shouldn’t make any decisions based on what I tell them. I’m often surprised by the amount of ignorance about such things there is out there, especially given that guys who hire ought to be well informed about the risks and protections they need to take.

Please don’t spread misinformation like that! It’s bad for business.