Jamie21

I’ve considered advertising on MFinder but the cost seemed prohibitive. I only advertise on RentMasseur and seem to get sufficient business from them. I also advertise on a couple of other UK focused sites (that are free). I guess my pictures and style fit the RentMasseur vibe!

Depends how long your legs are 😉

When guys post unsolicited pics of various body parts - holes or whatever - they’re doing it for themselves not for the viewer. Whether some will like to see it or be repulsed is not of much concern to the pic poster. The important thing is to be seen. Pics and videos of my hole are available. You know where 👀

I thought you were going to follow that up with ‘….so long as it reaches the ground when he stands naked’

It’s a very different dynamic indeed massaging a female client to massaging a male client. The female arousal cycle is slower, goes in plateaus and is more intense when it finally reaches a climax. There needs to be more than just physical stimulation. Very different indeed to a guy. More complicated.

Because it’s generally variable. In theory I’m available 24/7. In practice it tends to be 10am to about 9 on weekdays, daytime at weekends, very limited on Sundays (obviously I’m at Church). It’s better if clients ask for whatever time they want, and the further in advance they ask the more likely it is I can do it. Those that ask ‘are you free now or in the next couple of hours’ invariably get told ‘no’.

No, and when I top, nor do I want to go at it for hours. It’s actually quite unimaginative to do so. I prefer to mix it up; inside for a bit, then suck, swap roles, then go back in, then cuddle a while, rim each other, kiss. It’s much better than pounding away for hours.

Reading this makes me extremely sad. Some fantasies should stay just as fantasies, because often the reality is never as good as the imagination. But when a fantasy is simply to be free, well that’s one that everyone deserves to feel. I hope you find it. Never give up on it.

The only 100% safe way is complete abstinence. But that’s no fun and a fairly grim way to live. You could explain your concerns to your masseur before booking and ask him his status. Also ask to book him just after he next gets tested and is all negative. Obviously that’s still no guarantee, he could have caught something recently etc. but it might help you to overcome your anxiety enough to try sucking!

Pussy isn’t usually available with male massage…

Definitely don’t try to hire via OnlyFans, it really doesn’t like it! I get a few messages on my OF from guys looking to hire and I can’t risk responding. The platform bans you if you discuss such arrangements with potential clients. I direct them to my X (Twitter) where they can send a direct message. JustforFans is fine about it though 🙂

The best bottoms will position themselves so that I can get in easily, they’ll squeeze, they’ll be vocal (encouragement is good) and they reach round and stroke my balls (intermittently). If they want a guaranteed quick load then it’s best to get me close by a hand job then I’ll put it in for the last few thrusts. I’ve got used to cumming outside of the bottom though, through filming porn, so it gets more difficult to shoot inside. I instinctively go to shoot on his hole and then push it back in 😂.

A little stiffness after a good workout is a sign that the workout was good. Rest up and do it again soon. You’ll get used to it.

That’s it. It’s not really about massage, sex, cocks, cum or all those physical urge things people tend to think of when they think ‘sex work’. Those things happen of course but within a context that’s all about the client (a bad word but the only one that’s coming to me now) feeling approved of, desirable and safe. So many people can’t be themselves in their daily lives. The hour or so they spend with someone who approaches the work like @Simon Suracidescribes is their opportunity to be completely themselves, and to feel that that is ok and they are ok. I saw a client recently who told me that for years he’d been hiding his true self by playing a role that his circumstances (family, religion etc) and society had expected of him. He said he’d been working up the courage to come to me for two years since he first saw my website. Finally he’d overcome his anxiety and booked. He had scheduled a 2 hour session. I usually start those with an undressing before the client gets on the table. He wanted that so I put a blindfold on him, set the scene, snd started the undressing. Let’s not go into the details of how an undressing unfolds. All I’ll say is that it can be intense. My client was so overwhelmed with emotion, of the unburdening of his feelings, the release of years of repression that he suddenly collapsed in my arms. Given that he was a tall well built man all I could do was ease him to the floor with me. As we lay there, rather incongruously beneath the massage table, he took a few minutes to regain his composure and explained to me how he’d become overwhelmed by the situation and the reality of meeting himself. After a drink and a sit down more comfortably, a chat and a long cuddle he lay on the table and I proceeded with the massage. That client may be an extreme example, but I think he’s not so unusual. He needed to feel approved of as himself, which had never happened before because he was never really himself. For the 2 hours (at least after he’d got over the release of emotion) he was with me he could just be him, without judgement, without anxiety, without shame. He could feel accepted and approved of. If he had to go back to playing a role (and don’t we all?) then he now had the knowledge that somewhere at some time there’s the real him accessible, and that there’s nothing atall wrong with him. Not every session is like that (I couldn’t handle the intensity!). Many are simply ‘feel good’ massage sessions, a sexual release and a bit of ‘me time’ but a lot are the kind of session where you really help someone work something through. I like the ability to enable that for those clients. It’s beautiful.

The ideal client books 2 hours, gets excited, cums after 15 minutes, decides he’s satisfied, pays full price and leaves happy….. I joke 😂 ( but there is an element of truth in it!!). Truly, the ideal client books easily (no endless questions, pics requests, back and forth etc), turns up on time, is clean (showered etc), is respectful (as in treats you like a human being…) pays the agreed price…and books again. That’s basically it. I don’t mind if they just lay there and enjoy it without responding or if they want to touch me back and interact. What I’m interested in is that they enjoy themselves, however they want to. That’s most important to me. That’s why I love doing it, because of the satisfaction of knowing someone had a great time. Nothing beats it!

That’s interesting. I’m fine with my own cum. I think the thing with eating or having your own cum in your mouth is that guys are usually grossed out by cum only after they’ve cum, so trying their own is kind of difficult. Beforehand the thought of it is hot: after it’s gross. I’m past that! It’s hot always 😂

Possibly, he seemed quite anxious about it though.

First time I got paid for sex was when a guy asked me in a chat room how much I charged. I’d sent him some pics and clearly he assumed I was for hire (maybe I encouraged that 😂). I asked what he wanted, which seemed easy for me, and then gave him a rate. He agreed, sent me his street and house number and asked me to text him when I was near and definitely not to knock on the door but to stand on the street corner and wait, which seemed strange but I didn’t question it. So I dressed as provocatively as possible without turning up in just a jock, and arrived outside his place, sending him a text to let him know. I guess he was watching as I stood there, to make sure I looked ok. I must have looked suitably attractive because he then texts me to knock at a different door number. Obviously if I was not to his liking I’d never have found out his real door number…might still be standing there now! Once inside he invites me up to the bedroom, telling me his wife is out and she won’t be back for a few hours. In my naivety that surprised me…id expected him to be single (I was so inexperienced!). He was kind of indistinguishable from any guy you’d pass in the street without noticing them, around 60 and had the air of someone who’d hired before. He told me to undress, and left me in the bedroom while he went off to do something. So I stripped off and lay on the bed, imagining him and his wife sleeping there later, and as I lay there waiting I realised I’d forgotten to bring condoms or lube… He knew I was inexperienced (despite my attempts to come across otherwise) so he took charge which was fortunate. I had no problem with not being attracted to him, it was the situation that was a turn on for me. Probably the risk, the situation and of course his interest in me. After the session he gave me the money, and ushered me out quickly (I think his wife was due back). Counting the money as I walked back to my car I felt elated. There I learned I had the ability to do the work.

Although I’d imagine it helps to relieve the monotony?

I’ve had a few clients ask me to lay on the table during the session so they can work on me. It’s fine by me. Quite unusual though. Then there’s the ones who ask me to bend over the table 😂…

Those masseurs don’t understand sensual massage. They separate the massage and the intimacy/sex part. It’s usually because they were trained as therapeutic masseurs where the intention is definitely not to arouse and you don’t go anywhere intimate with touch. These masseurs then take up the ‘happy ending’ style massage and what you get is 80% therapeutic massage and 20% jerk off. The worst ones do a perfunctory massage, then grope a bit at your genitalia in the last 5 minutes and then flip you over to finish with a hand job: no body contact, no kissing, no tender touch no build up, no holding hands, no cuddling….no connection. That’s not a sensual massage. There are proper sensual masseurs out there who understand that sensual massage is a treatment of the mind as well as the body. Ask a few questions of your masseur and find out whether they have this approach or the massage and sex approach. Or book me next time you’re in London 😉.

I think the OP was referring to one provider being hired by a group of clients. This feels like something the client should set up with other clients who want that kind of thing. It’s like setting up a sex party: find your location, invite guys who are interested in joining, vet them if you want to (to get a mix of tops /bottoms etc or to get a certain ‘type’ if that’s your preference) then hire a professional who’s ok to attend such an event and agree his fee.

It’s the most beautiful thing. Looking into his eyes as the scent and feel of warm sticky cum is shared between us. Something to be treasured.

Tastes good (usually). I like kissing with a mouthful. I recall a recent client who’d enjoyed kissing (which is good because I do too!) during the session. I was sucking him off and he shot his load in my mouth so I held it there and moved up to kiss him to share his load but he turned away so I had to swallow it. I asked him ‘not into kissing and sharing?’ and he said “no it grosses me out!”.

If he absolutely promised to top you, but didn’t then if he’s honourable he’d offer you a discount, especially so if the failure was down to him being high. That’s him being cavalier towards you and it deserves to be called out by you if he doesn’t offer the discount. No excuse for being high. If he didn’t feel 100% ok to see you he should have asked you to postpone. If my clients ask me to top them (I do sensual massage but often clients want that to include sex, either as top or bottom) then I say there’s no guarantees or promises about it (nor extra charge for it). I think it has to feel right for both of us at the time, and the main activity is sensual massage. If they insist it has to happen then I’ll add an extra charge and I’ll make sure it happens or discount if it doesn’t.