Coolwave35

I’m going to see him tonight and I’m happy to report back. Thank you for putting him on my radar, I am very excited.

^^ I agree with that 100%. 

51 minutes ago, Vin_Marco said:

Once upon a time in Hollywood ( actually in Palm Springs ) I attended a weekend where a guy hired FIFTEEN iof us for a weekend. He pulled it off BEAUTIFULLY. Everyone got  along wonderfully, zero egos, just untethered fun. ... I know I say I'll never do it but I have enough material for one hell of a read ( or heavenly ) 😇😈

I did alright with 11. It has the potential to be incredible or awful. I’ve had my fair share of those too. 
 

32 minutes ago, RamPoundAss said:

Yeah, but I think the bigger question is how do you reach out to them, without attending an Adonis event. 

Email Matt or Tim. 

In my experience, all of those guys are available to spend private time with. 

This is gunna sound weird. I clearly smell cigarettes with my nose. 
 

With vaping, I feel like I can taste it with my tongue. 

I dressed up as Robin from Batman and Robin when I was managing a grocery store at 19. I had to diffuse a disgruntled customer dressed as Robin. It was so embarrassing that I said never again and won’t let my employees dress for Halloween. My assistant wore a pumpkin and witch earrings but that’s about as far as we take it. We do give out candy though. 

I equate them equally. A provider was blowing me recently and stopped to hit his vape. It killed it for me and I asked him to leave. 
 

At strip clubs I won’t go for lapdances with the guys sucking on the vape all night. It’s just a turn off for me. 

I once hired 5 guys for a fantasy. Two paired off and kinda left the bed we were playing in. My main regular said “hey fellas, don’t forget why you’re here unless you’re donating your time.”  It went a long way in refocusing the group lol 

1 hour ago, DrownedBoy said:

I believe young men should get a good education.

God I laughed so hard at this. It woke my house boy lol 

59 minutes ago, nycman said:

I feel a song coming on….

 

I’m sorry to hear your private messages are broken.  

8 hours ago, jessmapex said:

I dont quite understand Coolwave's rape allegation. Oral play and anal play are both common acts in gay sex. So if during the same play session, the masseur performed one sexual act, it's ok, but if he performed another sexual act for which no explicit 'no' was said, it's rape?  Very confusing. 

Does this mean during consensual sex one has to get separate consent for every act? 

 

For starters, it isn’t an allegation. I was there. 

To answer your question, yes. When I first hired him, we talked about the release. We talked about it when he used his hand. We talked about it when he offered to use his mouth.  There was NEVER a discussion about him fucking me.  I consented to a hand job and a blow job. I even trusted him because we discussed those things and for years the session didn’t stray.

What happened the last time was different, unexpected, non consensual and violating. just because I agreed to be naked in a room with him didn’t mean I agreed to be penetrated during a massage. 

I was repeatedly molested the summer I was 8 years old.
 

30 years later, I had a masseur that would always blow me at the end of our sessions. I loved it. I looked forward to it. I saw him probably 24 times over 3 years. It was great. He was great. 
 

At my last appointment, he raped me. I was on my stomach looking forward to my blow job when I rolled over.  He got on top of the table, spit on his dick and popped it in. I froze. I felt 8 years old again and trapped. It was awful. I didn’t give him any indication that I wanted penetration. We never spoke of it. I didn’t insinuate that I wanted it. There were no misinterpreted signals. He saw my bare ass and he took it. I couldn’t move. I had no idea what to do and just laid there. 
 

I agree that there is a rape culture in America.  I also believe that people find themselves in sexually charged situations and freeze. I think when you have a little bit of distance from the trauma, you realize that you weren’t giving consent.  I also think the regret is tied to the inaction. I was so mad at myself for not stopping him. I regretted not beating the shit out of him. 

52 minutes ago, Simon Suraci said:

Turning the tables here…a client today requested I mail him a letter instead of texting. He’s 91 years old. I think that’s my oldest client to date. I get it. He’s not great with text communication.

We’re good with phone calls and communicate that way whenever I’m free, and he leaves a VM when I can’t pick up, which really helps. During our session, he brought up some ideas for other things he wants to hire me for besides massage. I gave him a brief rundown, but he needs a list to mull over. I’m going to hand write and snail mail him a menu of additional services to review for future appointments.

He sounds delightful. If you have nowhere to go on Thanksgiving I think you should just go to his house. 

1 hour ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

How do you have his address?

You sound absolutely insane. 

You sound really bitter and jealous that no one has ever written you a letter trying to hire you and mailed it to your house because your web hosting server blocked someone’s email erroneously. I guess you don’t want new business and don’t care how many customers you lose to unreliable technology. 

56 minutes ago, starman05 said:

I have an address of the law firm he's at now but would never consider even visiting nearby restaurants hoping to 'run into him.'

 

That’s because that takes a lot of work. Most law firms have a website with a staff directory. You can very easily see who his secretary is. Then call her, and simply explain that although he may be an attorney now, he used to do erotic massage in college. She’ll understand and schedule an appointment for you. She’ll probably make it a surprise for him so when he comes into work with a naked man on his desk, he’ll remember fondly giving massages and thank his secretary with a floral arrangement. 

4 hours ago, Anthony said:

I was thinking that the provider would see me as outgoing that I found their address and might be impressed by it thus, leading me to a worship session.  

I agree completely. He’s going to be totally turned on by your tenacity and online detective skills. You’ll probably become one of his favorite regulars. 
 

Many of us often see providers we haven’t met yet at the grocery store, gym, or out with their significant others. Those are the best times to approach providers because you can ask all your questions while they aren’t doing anything or busy. 
 

I don’t understand why everyone is unanimously telling you that this is a bad idea. I say go for it. 
 

There’s nothing creepy, weird or stalkery about your inquiry. 
 

😬😬😳😳. And here I thought a rainy NYC Sunday would be boring. 

I’d like to consider myself smart and tech savvy. I get lost all the time. 

Every time I read a story like this, I check inside and still naively believe that every sexual encounter I’ve ever had has been consensual. 
 

You’d think after thousands of years, we’d figure out a better way of integrating money, youth desire and beauty without the inevitability of somebody or everybody feeling exploited and used. 

2 hours ago, Xavitv said:

Hmm they usually light up when they see me. 
Maybe Coolwave is standing behind me. 

I hear whenever a man is standing behind you, he looks like he’s having fun too. 😎😏

On 10/26/2023 at 9:28 AM, Silver Spring said:

Bumping this hoping to get some recent advice about the Long Island options above.  Thanks in advance. Feel free to send a private message or post here. 

Just go see for yourself. It’s less than 200 bucks.

32 minutes ago, dan631 said:

I don’t know what to say here? I’m glad you’ve had good times when there, but I was just stating my experience with the place. 

That’s ok. Not everything is worthy of a response. I was doing the same. Stating my experience.  No hard feelings. 

1 hour ago, dan631 said:

I’ve been to Adonis, and I can’t say I enjoyed myself. The guys dancing didn’t look like they were having fun. Definitely good-looking guys, everyone is fit, but for me if a guy doesn’t seem like he’s enjoying himself, it’s a total mood killer.  I don’t think I’ll be back. The owner is nice though. 

I’ve never seen someone I was handing 20’s to look like they weren’t having fun. 
 

I have seen many dancers that invested 15 minutes with someone who couldn’t hand them a 5 dollar bill look like they weren’t having fun. 

I was very sad to hear that @unicorn didnt feel welcomed enough to participate here and asked to have his account deleted. I like him and his man. 

2 hours ago, nycman said:

I know exactly the feeling you’re describing. It sucks. And that’s exactly the feeling that Con-artists are looking to exploit. You trusted your instincts. There is nothing wrong with that. And if that hurts someone’s feelings who can’t understand that, so be it. 

In the long run, my gut has saved me 100 times more than my heart, head or penis ever did. 

Can I take you to dinner this weekend? I’m in New York City and you have been someone I’ve wanted to meet for a very long time. You’re kind.