Pulgasari1991

Didn't he price himself above average already? He must have figured out that bb is usually regarded as premium-worthy.
 
The offer from the poster blows my mind a bit, as it contradicts the market at a first glance; but also, it puts on the spotlight the unicity and potential irreplaceability of each provider.
Want condom with that exact guy? Sorry, we don't do that here despite what the vast majority says or does.
That's neat in his own way.

A well-known porn star was offered extra money by a poster who wanted to get fucked by him wearing a condom and he refused to do it... “I will not use a condom, that’s ridiculous” he said.
 
I remember a time when guys asked extra to go bare.

It's not uncommon to have clients messaging a provider to know if he does bareback even if the profile already specifies he doesn't.
But there are also clients who wouldn't touch you with a pole if the profile is anyhow bareback-friendly, no matter what.
Maybe this provider doesn't want to scare away the second group (on the contrary, reassuring them in first place by explicitly stating he doesn't bareback), while staying open for business for the first one.

It's not uncommon to have clients messaging a provider to know if he does bareback even if the profile already specifies he doesn't.
But there are also clients who wouldn't touch you with a pole if the profile is anyhow bareback-friendly, no matter what.
Maybe this provider doesn't want to scare away the second group (on the contrary, reassuring them in first place by explicitly stating he doesn't bareback), while staying open for business for the first one.

It's not uncommon to have clients messaging a provider to know if he does bareback even if the profile already specifies he doesn't.
But there are also clients who wouldn't touch you with a pole if the profile is anyhow bareback-friendly, no matter what.
Maybe this provider doesn't want to scare away the second group (on the contrary, reassuring them in first place by explicitly stating he doesn't bareback), while staying open for business for the first one.

It's not uncommon to have clients messaging a provider to know if he does bareback even if the profile already specifies he doesn't.
But there are also clients who wouldn't touch you with a pole if the profile is anyhow bareback-friendly, no matter what.
Maybe this provider doesn't want to scare away the second group (on the contrary, reassuring them in first place by explicitly stating he doesn't bareback), while staying open for business for the first one.

Not having something because it does not exist or you are not aware of its potential existence is far easier than having something but then losing it. A potential monger reaching out to your services may create the illusion of you aready having something of value in that exchange, that is, a meaningful slice of the financial gain that your work is about.
 
Game theory, experience theory, and decision theory all come in to this.
 
It seems that you are labouring extremely hard to avoid losing something, at the client's window-shopping level, as if that were similar to having fee payment denied or stolen from you after the work is done. In other words, both you and the equivocating, vacillating, inquiring, 'flaky' client are playing not to lose something of perceived value, as if those utilities were identical. The objective $ is identical but its position is different.
 
Compared to how other businesses run, it is somewhat astonishing and impressive how much time CSWs invest in client recruitment dynamics at a time-succubus on-call or personal level. From hours on a street corner or biding time in a brothel (more historical examples) to shitloads of written communication with mongers.
 
Once a monger reaches out, his anxiety about losing something of value that he already possesses often escalates and overrides the anticipation of winning a pleasurable experience that is commensurate with the accompanying financial loss. Providers often get caught up in this.
 
Be organized. You must know by now all of the collective monger questions. Do up a fact sheet, manual, or Q&A format info guide to expeditiously shoot off to an inquiring monger. This written summary will be longer than your ad and require more of the monger's attention span. It will not alleviate his stop-loss anxiety and will lack the personal touch and the possible thrill for him of a free window-shopping exchange. However, let it go and do not engage further with repetition. This may help amplify his opposing anxiety about not winning a pleasurable experience. He will have all of the info you are willng to provide and he alone will grapple with the worry of loss. Mirroring/replicating his loss anxiety will not add one iota of gain to the likelihood of scoring a paid booking.
 
You may decide on an arbitrary set of images to append to the written guide.
 
Consider learning something more about how memory and actual experience impact theoretically on a monger's future decisions about hiring. This will require research on your part. If you can subtly reference these aspects in your summary manual, that is, identify clients' struggles with stop-loss play choices, it may give you an edge. Adding the utility of empathy to the utilities of money and orgasm.
 
In my non-entertainment business prior to retirement, the above strategies freed up my time. It was impossible to assess its impact on client recruitment volume but it alleviated the anxiety about spending valuable non-compensated time or psychological energy closing the tiresome deal.

The guy got pissed and acted like a jerk. Even though he told you to let him know when your battery problem was fixed, maybe a couple of updates from you while you were waiting on your friend would have helped the situation. An hour (or, over an hour) seems like a long time to wait if the client believed you only needed a jump start.

As if some people around here don't try to over-commodify escorts already... A punchcard? No bueno. The most successful guys realize that this is a humanity business.
 
Good clients will keep coming back without the need for discounts or limited time offers: If you're a great escort giving 110% during your time together, it's just natural.

The idea that either escorts or clients could better track the progress of regular interactions with something like a rewards card (as well as that idea might work for coffee or sandwiches) brings to mind the observation that some know the price of everything but the value of nothing. (I was going to attribute that to the Bourbons, but their flaw was to have forgotten nothing but learnt nothing.)

You mentioned that the escort gave you a very good rate because you already have an established relationship online. That’s a very sweet gesture on his part. Sometimes escorts do this, because they want you to agree to the extended booking and want to make you feel special... and then regret it later. It’s not because we change our minds about you being very special after all. It’s just that getting paid less than our standard rates can bother us EVEN IF IT WAS OUR IDEA! Sometimes we are under economic pressure to get you to agree to the trip or simply feeling generous in the moment when we give the quote. Then oops, later we wish we hadn’t offered such a generous discount. I’m not saying everyone does this, but it’s a relatively COMMON story that I hear. This can make us reluctant to give our very best service or agree to repeat trips, just because of our subconscious irritation with ourselves for underquoting the value of our labor. Whether an escort has made a mistake in underquoting or completely knew what he was doing and quoted you an amount that he feels GREAT about is impossible to know, and probably depends on how experienced he is as an escort, among other factors.
 
What in the world does all this have to do with tipping? Well, if he shows you the time of your life, you might consider tipping an amount that brings his total compensation (not including the flight) closer to whatever his actual/published rate would be for that amount of time normally. Match his generous gesture of a discounted session with a generous gesture of paying the full amount anyway. As a tip. If your experience is great. It can go a long way in establishing a positive and generous dynamic between you two in the ongoing future.
 
Tipping is not “expected” when it comes to hiring escorts in the USA. But it can definitely mean a lot to us and is highly appreciated. We often go “above and beyond” for clients in terms of what we bring to the table, and it’s always heart-warming to have the extra effort acknowledged with a tip. That said, if someone barely fulfills their end of the bargain, of course you might not feel inclined to give one, and that is also perfectly fine.
 
I also want to note that as small business owners, most escorts keep nowhere near 100% of the fee we charge. We typically have operational expenses that eat up a decent chunk of that sticker price. But I agree that tipping your waiter/waitress is totally different because they do not set the price of their own labor and are paid an extremely low hourly wage that ASSUMES there will be tips involved, and that’s definitely not the case with most independent escorts either.

You’re assuming that the client didn’t have the cash. It could just as well have been that they had the cash but for what ever reason were unwilling to part with it for the service offered at that particular moment. Better you should kill them with politeness not kindness. You don’t want to leave them thinking that you pity their poverty.

You could inquire him about the reasons of his behaviour; pointing out how from your point of view the whole thing has become creepy and/or annoying, and above all how you can't make sense out of it (rightfully so, doesn't he realize how wacky he looks?). So that hopefully you can better understand who you're dealing with, and how to firmly, politely and reasonably write your way out of this with peace of mind for both.
Of course you might end up with no other option than blocking him anyway (which IMO sounds rather quick and safe), but it is my understanding OP doesn't want to just go straight for it.

You could inquire him about the reasons of his behaviour; pointing out how from your point of view the whole thing has become creepy and/or annoying, and above all how you can't make sense out of it (rightfully so, doesn't he realize how wacky he looks?). So that hopefully you can better understand who you're dealing with, and how to firmly, politely and reasonably write your way out of this with peace of mind for both.
Of course you might end up with no other option than blocking him anyway (which IMO sounds rather quick and safe), but it is my understanding OP doesn't want to just go straight for it.

I'm calling them bottom feeders on here, I h0pe the term sticks...
 
He also texts other escorts asking: "what's your best price?", "are you a lucrative person?". I bet ya he crawled out of BP and CL unmugged and now discovered RentMen.com

It could mean that they are open to occasional use if requested, or that they don't mind if the client PnP.

The guy from your example sounds more like an intentional timewaster rather than somebody sincerely interested and then changing his mind; hence I'm unsure of which cases you're considering.
 
In my experience, when somebody hasn't booked yet and wants to walk away, he'll just walk away.

It could as well be unconscious from him. But yeah, I think that at a fundamental level he's asking "when money?"

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.
 
1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.
 
Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.
 
3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.
 
4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.
 
Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

I'm glad to hear that.
 
We all know prostitution is illegal, right? Do we need to add another illegal activity to hiring an escort?
 
A cop could just call an escort who does PNP, ask him to bring party favors across state line to a hotel room, and show off how much the police department combats crime. Just a phone call away.
 
Isn't that how T.A. got caught?

That's another story I'm not suggesting anybody to give those guys a chance or anything

What's the lesson?

I've perhaps had too much time on my hands lately:oops:
Well said;)

On the contrary, it's my bad that I haven't found this before. It's exactly what I was looking for, thank you!
 
On a side note, something doesn't add up since I see days with no unique visits at all but several totals. Not a big deal but has me wondering.