Question for escorts, desperate escort?

[jcmiami1]

So I hired an escort this past Friday night. I had a great time. Afterwards he texted he had a great time too and was available Saturday and Sunday too. I couldn’t make it time wise nor financially again.

So this afternoon he texted me again “hey when do i see you again?” I told him it would have to be in 2 weeks or so. His response was “damn that sucks “ This frequency of response threw me off guard.

A few things ...I’ve never seen him before on any escort site... he appears new to the biz and maybe desperate for money IDK - maybe I was his first client I’m assuming.

Anyways what are you guys input on this - thanks!

My question is this a type of desperation for money tactic? I’ve never experienced this before.

Edited June 6, 2018 by jcmiami1

[+ OliverSaks]

What’s your question?

[jcmiami1]

What’s your question?

I can’t figure out if this some unusual business tactic. I’ve never experienced this before

[Pulgasari1991]

I can’t figure out if this some unusual business tactic. I’ve never experienced this before

It could as well be unconscious from him. But yeah, I think that at a fundamental level he's asking "when money?"

[KeepItReal]

I can’t figure out if this some unusual business tactic. I’ve never experienced this before

"Make hay while the sun shines" comes to mind. Also: "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush". Whew, now I sound super cynical...

[+ Travis69]

Do you think he is just horny? Do you feel he REALLY ENJOYED having you as a client and wants to enjoy you again? If not, then yes he just wants your money.

[jcmiami1]

Do you think he is just horny? Do you feel he REALLY ENJOYED having you as a client and wants to enjoy you again? If not, then yes he just wants your money.

Damn if I was that good he should have paid me !!! Lol

[jcmiami1]

"Make hay while the sun shines" comes to mind. Also: "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush". Whew, now I sound super cynical...

Hahaha I love it

[big-n-tall]

I have encountered two escorts who have done this to me... one contacted me far more frequently than the other. The one who contacted me the most came across as being desperate for the money, not because he necessarily wanted to see me. The thing was I told him frequently I couldn’t see him because of my work schedule. That didn’t stop him whatsoever. I haven’t seen him in some time, but he still escorts.

 

The other guy is just super horny and wants to see me because of my dick. He’s asked frequently to get a dildo molded from it. Lol! He’ll accept his one hour fee, but we might spend two hours or more together. So clearly it’s not strictly about the money for him.

[jcmiami1]

I have two escorts who have done this to me... one contacted me far more frequently than the other. The one who contacted me the most came across as being desperate for the money, not because he necessarily wanted to see me. The thing was I told him frequently I couldn’t see him because of my work schedule. That didn’t stop him whatsoever. I haven’t seen him in some time, but he still escorts.

 

The other guy is just super horny and wants to see me because of my dick. He’s asked frequently to get a dildo molded from it. Lol! He’ll accept his one hour fee, but we might spend two hours or more together. So clearly it’s not strictly about the money for him.

Ok I don’t have a porn star dick so it’s all about the money then hahaha

[+ Kufrol]

As a novice, he probably needs to find the balance between establishing boundaries and a client base. He knows you're safe and you met his financial (and maybe physical) expectations. If he has a Rentmen profile, you can see when he opened the account. He also might figure flattery will get him more business with you, a proven entity. Regardless, you're wise to keep track of what both your budget and time will allow (as you mentioned in your original post). Write a nice review, if warranted, and then he'll expand his clientele.

[jcmiami1]

As a novice, he probably needs to find the balance between establishing boundaries and a client base. He knows you're safe and you met his financial (and maybe physical) expectations. If he has a Rentmen profile, you can see when he opened the account. He also might figure flattery will get him more business with you, a proven entity. Regardless, you're wise to keep track of what both your budget and time will allow (as you mentioned in your original post). Write a nice review, if warranted, and then he'll expand his clientele.

Checked his RM profile start date and he’s very new like weeks old new. I did give him a good review - not out of any pity - but he deserved it. I hope his client base increases.

[+ poolboy48220]

You may not have a porn star dick, but he may've particularly enjoyed something you were doing with other parts of your body. I had an escort contact me the day after to suggest a repeat meetup, and like you, I said it's not something I can afford again that quickly. He said okay, you don't have to pay, let's just do the same thing again. Full disclosure, this has only happened to me once.

[jcmiami1]

You may not have a porn star dick, but he may've particularly enjoyed something you were doing with other parts of your body. I had an escort contact me the day after to suggest a repeat meetup, and like you, I said it's not something I can afford again that quickly. He said okay, you don't have to pay, let's just do the same thing again. Full disclosure, this has only happened to me once.

Hey thanks for this input!!!

[Becket]

Work is work. One expects to get paid. But nothing says one can't enjoy work or have fun with others. Why can't it be a "both, and?"

[Mocha]

I can’t figure out if this some unusual business tactic. I’ve never experienced this before

 

Not unusual. But I think in the escort’s case, he’s probably not quite gotten that many clients usually like some time in between sessions. Even when I come across regulars who seem to hire me every 2 weeks for a period, I know that it’s unlikely they’ll hit me up the very next day unless they’re in town visiting or something.

 

Even if it was fun and the escort offers a free session, I think it’s always good to leave some time between next encounter.

[jcmiami1]

Not unusual. But I think in the escort’s case, he’s probably not quite gotten that many clients usually like some time in between sessions. Even when I come across regulars who seem to hire me every 2 weeks for a period, I know that it’s unlikely they’ll hit me up the very next day unless they’re in town visiting or something.

 

Even if it was fun and the escort offers a free session, I think it’s always good to leave some time between next encounter.

I think this escort is brand new to the escorting biz too.

[Cody Converse]

He sounds like he's new to it-- like you said, his profile is only a few weeks old. It takes time to find the right balance between waiting for clients to contact you and hitting up your regulars. He'll figure it out in time-- in the meantime, the fact that you had a good enough experience that you left a positive review is a great sign!

 

In my experience, the biggest red flag for a desperate escort is when they start lowering their prices to convince you to hire them.

[MiamiLooker]

Maybe he really needed the money. Will serve him right if he loses his apartment because he can’t pay the rent. A few months of being homeless will teach him a valuable life lesson.

[jcmiami1]

Maybe he really needed the money. Will serve him right if he loses his apartment because he can’t pay the rent. A few months of being homeless will teach him a valuable life lesson.

He’s a nice guy, definitely green in the escorting biz. I WILL NEVER wish financial devastation or homelessness on any one. Your comment is unwarranted and abusive!!!!

Edited June 7, 2018 by jcmiami1

[Pulgasari1991]

A few months of being homeless will teach him a valuable life lesson.

What's the lesson?

[img2ciya]

Maybe he really needed the money. Will serve him right if he loses his apartment because he can’t pay the rent. A few months of being homeless will teach him a valuable life lesson.

Wow, that was nasty and rude... What are you so bitter about?

[cany10011]

Having commercialized sex with someone desperate for cash is not my idea of a good time. I find it abhorent taking advantage of someone in such a situation. Hopefully, most of the guys i meet up are doing it for "extra" spending money whilst in school.

[Mount N Do]

Having commercialized sex with someone desperate for cash is not my idea of a good time. I find it abhorent taking advantage of someone in such a situation. Hopefully, most of the guys i meet up are doing it for "extra" spending money whilst in school.

I’ll bite... you find a distinction there? For real? Like do they cum differently if the funds are used for a vacation? Seriously dude, at least he ain’t holding up convenience stores.

[+ Keith30309]

This quandary arises sometimes when talking with guys on Seekingarrangement.

 

I think that an analogy would be the refusal to buy Nike’s made with child labor in China and Taiwan thereby pressuring the shareholders, via management, to change their labor practices. Closing the shoe factory without some immediate remediating action feels good but simply makes poor people poorer.

 

Is it 1) morally right, and, 2) beneficial to the guy for me to “boycott” him if he’s in dire financial straits? If I decided that it would be morally wrong to engage the guy, keeping my money in my pocket, how would he feel about that? Perhaps simply handing him cash and walking away would come the closest to satisfying both parts of the question but I wonder if that’s realistic or sustainable.

 

With SA guys I decide how to handle it on a case by case basis.