What goes around comes around

[+ JEC]

While I realize I am the client and therefore receiver of a service, I also believe that what you give in life comes back to you. What makes a great client - one you are willing to go the extra mile for to provide the best experience possible? Interested in your thoughts.....

[+ Tarte Gogo]

A very good subject.

 

Apart from the obvious [never flake (or if you have to, compensate), never “forget” to pay in full, shower just before (hopefully together), brush your teeth ], I can only think of a few things I try to remember doing each time:

 

- Remind him he is allowed to say no or to say stop at any time (like in any relationship).

- Tell him what you like doing, rather than give orders.

- Bring condom, lube, poppers, viagra, just in case he has forgotten.

- Show some interest in him: a simple “so, are you busy with other activities, these days?” can open a long conversation, but doesn’t demand one.

 

Interested in what others do.

[+ JEC]

Thanks for your perspective @Tarte Gogo , I’m hoping to hear from providers as well!

[Aaron_Bauder]

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.

 

1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.

 

Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.

 

3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.

 

4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.

 

Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

Edited June 20, 2018 by Aaron_Bauder

[Aaron_Bauder]

And for the love of gawd, if you're bottoming, douche.

[OneFinger]

As a client I'm very concerned about time. I'm the clock-watcher. If it's a 2 hour session, I always set a cellphone alarm for 1-3/4 hours. I want to be alerted to the time to make sure I don't go over the allotted time.

 

Yes, some sessions have exceeded to agreed-to time. But, it was at the escort's choice and not mine.

[MassageDrew]

And for the love of gawd, if you're bottoming, douche.

 

Care for some pudding with that? HAHAHA

 

Sorry, couldn’t help it

[marylander1940]

While I realize I am the client and therefore receiver of a service, I also believe that what you give in life comes back to you. What makes a great client - one you are willing to go the extra mile for to provide the best experience possible? Interested in your thoughts.....

 

Treating escorts like they're humans, not being a flake, keeping your word, etc. Basic gentleman's behavior, that's all.

[+ bashful]

I hope the guys I've met consider me to be polite and respectful. I arrive showered, on time, and like to take the time necessary for us to get comfortable before anything happens. Being new to this hobby, I've let the provider lead activities, and in most meetings, have had a great experience.

[+ poolboy48220]

Ditto for me. I try to treat the dancer boys at the club with respect as well as the escorts I meet.

[jcmiami1]

Ditto to all the above. Even though I haven’t hired a lot- in my mind I treat each new encounter as a first date. We are both strangers after all and we both are trying to make good impressions. Be polite, respectful, friendly and be clean (and douched ) Another thing I notice beforehand, is how someone texts. I notice the style of how the provider writes. For example, if all the provider writes are one worded texts to every question (ie “yea, na, nope, IDK, K “etc) it’s an automatic no go.

[+ freecahill1965]

Ditto to all the above. Even though I haven’t hired a lot- in my mind I treat each new encounter as a first date. We are both strangers after all and we both are trying to make good impressions. Be polite, respectful, friendly and be clean (and douched ) Another thing I notice beforehand, is how someone texts. I notice the style of how the provider writes. For example, if all the provider writes are one worded texts to every question (ie “yea, na, nope, IDK, K “etc) it’s an automatic no go.

You are so right. A sign of a good provider is their interactiveness in commuications. I know they much get many but the good ones are always interactive in their communications.