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5 hours ago, Jamesp said:

You are in a great massage, Masseur’s long strokes gliding on the back starting at shoulder hoping to reach all the way to heel. Suddenly it veers of to edge of butt like trying to avoid a bump and hole on the road and one long stroke becomes two medium strokes disjointed at hip.

Have you ever wondered why, during a massage, the butt is sometimes treated like a pothole on a highway that everyone tries to avoid? Those gluteal muscles can hold a surprising amount of tension, just like the bumps and divots on a road. While it might seem like an area to steer clear of, addressing the glutes during a massage can actually lead to significant relief and relaxation. Have you had a similar experience during a massage? I'd love to hear your thoughts!

Have had the same experience. Glutes are one of the largest muscles in the body. If not given due attention, I am not getting value for my money and wont repeat. There is also the opposite problem…they get to the glutes and the massage stops there as things escalate to erotic. Also not what I am looking for to be honest. 

On 1/21/2024 at 3:07 AM, BeamerBikes said:

Any advice?  

I'm the executor/trustee of the last of the family money.  I'm bound and determined that I'm not going to dip into my money to continue to support my sibling once their portion of inheritance runs out.  

Any advice on how to get a 49yo teenager to wisen up and stop spending excessive unneeded things?  

I allowed some of their inheritance to pay off one of their multiple max'd credit card with the clear communication to use that and pay it off in full every month.  That hasn't happened.  Now I'm faced with a crossroads.  

I love them, but I can't break their self-destructive habits. Sadly, writing this. It's clear to me. No advice will work without my loved one tackling the root of their self destructive behaviors.  Food addiction, OCD - hoarding behaviors, low self-esteem, etc.  It's well past time for therapy.  

It's super sad, but with their health problems I fear all I'm doing is trying to stretch their remaining inheritance until they eat themselves into an early grave.  

#shitTheydontcoverGrowingup

 

From experience, the best advice I can give you is to communicate and set boundaries. Make sure they know the money will run out on X date if they keep going at this pace. Make sure they know you will not be supporting them further when that happens. Give them the contact details of a financial councilor who can help them budget. 
 

You may be tempted to “help”, but enabling isnt helping. Set boundaries and stick to it. You may need to start growing a thick skin. I had to. 🙈

11 hours ago, KrisParr said:

 Our hobby ain’t cheap, fellas. My guess? $150K or more.

I have only been in the game, so to speak, for about 10 years. My total expenditure is far lower than your estimate - not gonna give you the exact number but lets just say if I had it piled up today, I could be driving a new Porsche tomorrow.  Interesting enough, I slowed down significantly during Covid and have not returned to my pre-Covid pace as of yet. Should I add that to my goals for 2024?? 😋

1 hour ago, NYXboy said:

  I have one boy I see who always does though.

 

 It is definitely worth having the discussion with them at the start of the session, but I would bear in mind that although the guys (good ones) are talented - they are not robots - no one can always guarantee that they can blow a load. 

Is it somebody you can recommend? If so, please provide a link to a thread or profile… Of course there are no guarantees, but a recommendation may be a good start.

1 hour ago, augustus said:

Inflation is accelerating again!

 

Inflation Is Already Back on the Rise. Will the Fed Raise Rates Again? (msn.com)

 

The article doesnt dive very deep. It appears the increase is driven by rent and housing costs based on analysis I reviewed. That being said, most of the people I talk to are feeling better about the economy and the progress made in keeping inflation in check…but they do expect another increase in Fed rates. 🤷‍♂️

2 hours ago, Quiet said:

I still have no idea what goes on at DC MAL… lol

Guys strutting around in leather, trying to get laid. It’s not complicated. 

15 minutes ago, d.anders said:

 I just don't get it. Most gay men want to be naked with another man during massage, and they will pay a premium for that fantasy wish.

You do get it. As you said: most gay men. The world isnt a black and white place - its shades of gray and all colors of the rainbow. He provides a great therapeutic massage. And maybe a bit more if the chemistry is right.  If that’s not your thing, that is fine then avoid him - but for others who arent looking for the type of home run you are after, it is exactly what they are looking for. You do you.

On 10/23/2023 at 11:32 PM, Ali Gator said:

Looks like MLR has come home to recuperate, with $459,304 now in her bank account. That's $409,304 more than the Spotfundme goal was set at two weeks ago.

Mary Lou Retton Is Home from the Hospital and 'in Recovery Mode,' Daughter McKenna Says

PEOPLE.COM

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Mary Lou Retton is home from the hospital and 'in recovery mode,' her daughter McKenna Kelley shared Monday following the former gymnast's multi-week...

 

The whole thing is (still) just weird. Call me nuts, but from the numbers mentioned in the article it is hard to understand how she got herself into this position.

https://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/columnist/brennan/2024/01/06/mary-lou-retton-nearly-half-million-dollars-donations-how-spent/72132567007/

No debt. I use my cards for the benefits, but pay them off monthly. 

6 hours ago, Kevin Slater said:

Per annual tradition: 

2023 revenue was down 12% from year prior. 

44% of 2023 revenue came from the year’s top three clients, up from 36% in 2022. 

Kevin Slater

I enjoy your annual tradition…however I think it is time to add more to it. Specifically, an annual audit of all your…assets…may be appropriate! 😉

5 hours ago, jmichaeliii said:

I have a provider that I see at least monthly and we are on friendly terms.  I am pretty new (about 8 months) to hiring for erotic massages, but I love massage and after putting it off for a long time, took the plunge and it has been better than I ever expected.  Our sessions get better every time we meet. 

We will talk about family, activities, etc.  He does not know my actual family situation because I didn't share it as in the beginning this was a business transaction to me.  Now that we are friendly with each other, I am feeling like I should tell him what is real.  I haven't because I am afraid of wrecking things.  Things are still on a business level..I pay and tip him the same as our very first meeting, but I find him to be kind and sincere and consider him a friend and he acts the same toward me.  I'm torn on what I should do here.

He sounds like a nice guy and treats you like a valued client. I am a business professional and as I get to know my clients better, we often exchange details at a personal level. But I never confuse our friendly interaction as “friendship” - we are friendly, but it is a professional relationship where they pay me for my services.  I would recommend that you be super sure that it is friendship and not just a friendly situation.  Dont get carried away and emotionally involved - it is easy to make the wrong determination and that can end up being hurtful to both of you.  Good luck!

29 minutes ago, queensboroboy said:

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Be very clear about your expectations. He tends to over promise. I wont repeat - we miscommunicated and it was blamed on lack of language skills. 

I use the Pi app and its ability to anticipate my follow up “why” question is rather good. It is also quite sassy which I find delightful.  

32 minutes ago, NJF said:

It was a $300,000 Bentley

Ha!

3 hours ago, foxy said:

Today I saw Merrily We Roll Along. I know there’s already a post about the show, which is very good. But this is what happened at the end. It’s that time of year when performers raise money for Broadway Cares. Today Daniel Radcliffe ran an auction raising $1,500 hundred. He was fun to watch with all his enthusiasm. It was something the cast had autographed. 

I am a big fan of Daniel Radcliffe. He was lucky in the sense that his parents were financially savvy and took great care of his growing Harry Potter income stream despite his going through a rough time with substance abuse.  I remember reading a few features (one from Cosmopolitan comes to mind) about how frugal he actually is. He donates a lot of dough - including to the Trevor Project, one if my personal favorite charities. 

8 hours ago, White Hall said:

Interested in Findom and Findom meet ups in person.  Has anyone had any experience with this?  Any advice for finding hot young alphas who do findom?  Thank you.

Think twice. You are setting yourself up for a lot of financial pain and drama. Identity theft seems to be the most common outcome - I speak from experience in helping friends recover from such exploits.  If you choose to procees - visit rentmen and seeking and look for guys that are into that. 

13 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

That guy has a great backside. 🍑 I'd definitely take him for a spin if he would ever find his way Eastward. Strange that none of our West Coasters jumped on the opportunity.  Or is everyone in LA a bottom ? 🤔 🤣

He’s heading to NYC at the end of November. Now is your chance. 🤓

54 minutes ago, BriansBodywork said:

They all look the same to me. Why the negative comment? 

Oh, you noticed - it’s his niche. He enjoys it. Don’t you @pubic_assistance? 😋
 Example: https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/145976-armymike-in-nyc/#comment-2189380

3 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

Another "new boy in the city." Ugh

Our linguistic friend might want to study his capitalization and punctuation. It's pretty bad.

Whenever I see the word “morbid” in their profile text I know they are using google translate from Spanish to English… (morboso). 

20 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I remember the pandas were a gesture of good will when China opened diplomatic channels in the 70s. I assume thst good will has run out over the last few years. So the symbolism works in reverse order now.

If my economy was in as much trouble as the Chinese economy appears to be, I would be looking to gain as much good will from key trading partners as possible. 
https://www.ft.com/content/4671126e-9d0a-433b-948e-4c5631ab3b7c

(Pay wall)

1 minute ago, BriansBodywork said:

Why is advertising on Adam4Adam a huge red flag? I have a pro ad on there for massage. I pay $250 a year for that ad. 
That site was one of the very first sites to have a mobile app and its mobile app features keep getting better and better. Business of A4A isn’t all that great anymore, not like it used to be from 2008-2015 but it still trickles in. 

It’s not. You will notice how much my fellow members like to complain. Rentmen gets just as many complaints.  The other day I read somebody said Rentmasseur is basically soft porn or something.  I’ve met some really fun people on A4A - its just like any other platform…imperfect. But I am glad to have all of them, especially after what happened to rentboy etc.

15 minutes ago, jessmapex said:

I dont quite understand Coolwave's rape allegation. Oral play and anal play are both common acts in gay sex. So if during the same play session, the masseur performed one sexual act, it's ok, but if he performed another sexual act for which no explicit 'no' was said, it's rape?  Very confusing. 

Does this mean during consensual sex one has to get separate consent for every act? 

 

It is a question of consent. Just because I let you touch my butt or dick does not mean I give you consent to stick your dick into my butt.  Yes, you need actual consent every step of the way. 

3 hours ago, dan631 said:

I posted something similar before, but: I don’t get what’s suspicious here. I met him, was curious if anyone else met him so I searched him on this site and found this thread. Really liked him so I thought I’d post a review here. I don’t know what else to say here.

Is it not against site policy to like just accuse someone of being a provider without evidence? Seems unfair for both the user and provider. So you think I’m him because you have “a feeling”? Can you imagine being in his, or any provider’s shoes, and find out that you’re being accused of being a user on this site posting about yourself? Why would I waste my time lying? I don’t do this kind of thing very often (meeting providers) and I tend to stick to a small group of guys, which is why I’m not very active on this site. I just wish that anyone who sees this knows that I’m being honest. I literally just came here to post about my experience.

It is actually not that uncommon for providers to create a profile and post flattering comments about themselves…and the providers they work with, like you did when you commented on collegeguynyc and recommended Quads. So people pick up on that and draw conclusions. Feel free to post about your experience. Dont be surprised when members draw their own conclusions. 

6 minutes ago, BonVivant said:

No it’s not bad at all. You won’t even smell it. Ya’ll are too high strung. 

Really? I am shocked, shocked to hear that! News to me! 😆

Yes, I view vaping and even chemsex just as unappealing as smoking. Others may feel different. 
As for getting action out of Rentmen: don’t hold your breath!