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I see you’re a newbie @Jake1980 but it helps people to help you if you post a link to his advert or profile.

For me, the “awkward moment” occurred when I was getting a massage in Cape Town some years ago. It was the first time I’d visited this particular masseur (an American expat in South Africa) and it was at his home. I had booked and expected a therapeutic massage. I was facedown on the table. I’d told him I like quite strong pressure and the massage was pretty good...when he began to rim me. I raised my butt and he became more enthusiastic: he was very good with his tongue; I began to moan with pleasure; he stopped and asked me to keep quiet as he didn’t want his (unseen by me) partner to hear me; I complied and he resumed rimming me. When I turned onto my back, he sucked me off.

I know you asked this of escorts @ChicagoGuy but here’s my view on how you avoid wasting time and energy in seeking a date. I used to send a first (polite and short) text/email with my stats, and setting out my interests (eg deep kissing, BFE, I’m top only) and suggested date/time. I simply ask if we are compatible. If I had a response of No or No interest, I moved on. I never cared why we were not compatible. I focused on having a great date and avoiding a bad one.

I’m glad you are so environmentally aware @JEC that you and the young man were so sparing in your use of water

It does happen and it happened to me. In my case, the escort made all the running: first called me ”boyfriend”, bought me gifts then said “I love you”. We had 3 great years together before I discovered he liked to cheat (he had anonymous sex with strangers). The break-up took 12 months; it was messy while I tried to make it work. It took me 3 years to get him out of my system.

I beg to differ. My last 3 steady boyfriends smoke. I explained to each that I dislike the smell/taste of tobacco, and they were scrupulous about keeping their clothes and their person fresh and clean-smelling.

Instantly off the top of my head I can think of 3 straight men I’ve dated. One became a fuckbuddy for a few years: at first reluctant to kiss but enjoyed bottoming, later on he insisted I finish by unloading in his mouth as he liked the taste of my cum. The guy had a girlfriend then and he later married her. Another guy, a rugged man’s man, was always gay-friendly but I played with him after he’d been married for a year; he was a good kisser and just enjoyed having a cock in his ass. The third guy, a lovely muscleboy, has a submissive streak, kisses well and is an excellent cocksucker to completion; he’s single and always dates pretty women...but he always sported a hard-on while bottoming for me. Labels can be very misleading.

+1 @liubit and LOL. I played with Tim once. It was a couple of years after he’d been filmed in his prime as a long-haired blond muscleboy-bottom. It was like making love to a statue. As I wasn’t going to repeat, I threatened to kick him out of bed unpaid unless he was more enthusiastic. The threat energized him; I topped him for a while, then he sucked me off and swallowed my load. Despite relating my experience of him as a very disappointing date, a friend of mine hired him 3 years later. Tim’s blond hair was thinning rapidly and his abs had disappeared under quite a belly. Naturally none of this was evident in the photos Tim then used in his advert.

What does it matter if a guy smokes...as long as you can’t smell it or taste it when you kiss deeply?

Is it possible for you to get a hotel room in Brooklyn and drive out to Brookhaven? That way, as @quaero suggests, you will access a much greater pool of talent.

I never worry about the labels people use or how they define themselves. Surely all that matters is whether he is compatible and happy to meet all your needs?

Thanks @fedssocr1 I’ll have to watch this. Wonder if the reality of their lives, struggling to pay their bills etc, will be shown? Or how they have to be flexible about making ends meet? ;-)

Sadly, I think you’re right @ScottyTX100

I know those 3 cities well and I don’t think you will encounter overt racism at all. Certainly I would expect service-providers to be very happy to meet you. But if you are concerned, why not just say “I’m American and a person of colour...”? In much the same way, when I hired, I always stated upfront “I’m a middle-aged man, gym-fit but bald, and a dominant top who likes to kiss a lot. Will we be compatible?”

You’re right @tassojunior that renewals are key. Not to quibble but I know one blond muscleboy who likes to travel and doesn’t hold down a job. So he poses in briefs and at the gym with an obvious erection; to his ‘fans’, he poses naked but with only partials of his erect cock. He told me that even with the churn, he keeps a steady level of 500-600 ’fans’. And he thinks the money isn’t taxable and he’s happy making around $5000 a month. Another muscled guy I know well does more for his ‘fans’ (strips naked, jerks off) and he makes more than he did as a full-time personal trainer.

I remember that bar fondly as I picked up a preppy young man there in the late ‘80s. He was dressed, like me, in a suit, shirt and tie. Back at my place, I confirmed that he had a good body and he was very uninhibited in bed. I never knew if he was a working guy or just liked the thrill of getting paid. Afterwards he only asked for “cab fare home” and he was happy when I gave him $50.

I did not mean to offend you @WilliamM. I used ‘coy’ to describe your seeming a little reluctant... Thank you for providing the info. I am sure it will be helpful generally.

You’re right @Mustang. This is why I hate Onlyfans. When I was single a few years back, I was a gay version of the heterosexual modeliser. I specialised in dating fitness and fashion models, especially underwear/swimwear models as I like a handsome face with a ripped, muscled body. I often found str8 guys 21-24 were keen to date. Of course, they were much more interested in my thick wallet, rather than my thick cock, but we always reached a satisfying agreement. I very much liked that such fit young men had expensive tastes (for travel, clothes and accessories, food etc) yet had only irregular incomes that were rather small. And of course they also had mundane bills for gym, phone, rent etc that had to be paid regularly. Onlyfans has changed that equation and not in favour of the middle-aged admirers of fit young men. Now a handsome muscleboy can set up an online profile and get a steady stream of $ while doing little other than post steamy pics and a few videos hinting at how he looks naked. I’ve heard from a few guys what they can make on Onlyfans and frankly the sums have surprised me.

Please don’t be coy @WilliamM Where is this different location?

Now that he’s trying to get ahead as a male model, he may have to put those lips to good use to succeed.

Actually, a few years back, the use of GHB in major US cities such as Chicago and NYC was quite great. It featured heavily in reports of sexual assault - the victims calling a multinational helpline in the US were more often men than women.

Interesting article @tassojunior and a timely reminder to always keep a close watch on your drink in any club or bar

Revealing photo: a lovely young man with a good physique. Originally he’s a Texan ‘longhorn’ but now working in LA.

He certainly wants ‘cash slaves’. He was very upfront about that. I’m not too sure what, if anything, slaves get in return. I was equally direct in my response about not being a masochist/slave. I made it plain that when I financially support a guy, I expect full interaction.

No “intel” but my guess is good old-fashioned chemistry’. He certainly has professional photos on his advert. I congratulate you on your good taste @adventurous old guy Please report back if you do meet him. BTW did you see this related(?) thread? https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/bernardobrtouk-in-nyc.145258/#post-1716815