DrownedBoy

If a provider keeps trying to get you to say something along the lines of 'are you paying for sex,' stop. A tip someone else mentioned, and I've used successfully - when they first arrive, try and get a large French kiss before they even say anything. Cops won't do that.

Well I'm never using Instagram to hire anyone again. I found a guy willing, but he kept using his cell phone, even making phone calls, during the session, and when I made him leave it on the table, he'd get up every few minutes. Figures!!!! 😄 Needless to say, I won't be hiring him again. I'd laugh if I saw his face when he finally realizes his dinky little account is worthless, all the work he put into it is wasted, and he's no celebrity. Then he'll kick himself for blowing a source of income. EDIT Since he still lives with his mommy, I'm going to make the assumption he's not getting rich as an "influencer."

Also, recent stings targeting gay men generally happen in conservative areas of the U.S. (like the Georgia raid, where men were accused of being a john for offering joint paper to their hookups). It's been said many times here - especially this year, I'd be careful in a lot of states.

Oh, a lot of OF guys would be better if they used AI to generate text. There was that massively muscled straight guy who was once popular, but now I forget his name. He had an account. He kept trying to find hot women to sleep with and create content. Once, in an attempt to attract women, he added a video saying, "Here's how a real man talks." The video looked out on the sky, and then you heard him say, in this totally bruh voice, " Look at the sun setting over Las Vegas " I doubled over and laughed, thinking, God, what a stupid goon!

I don't know the studies, but when I was a little slut, they kept saying that flossing/brushing/mouthwash all increased the chances of oral infection. But HIV was a lot more scary 25 years ago. Now I see why they make mint flavored condoms...

Nah. In the late 90s, studies found that teenagers had that attitude. To paraphrase one article, bjs were the new "making out."

That would make a good romcom.

Our puritan Homeland Security loves cracking down on escorts entering the country. Traditionally, European escorts could expect to make more money than back home. I'd like to know why too.

Yeah. I'm used to that single song that Murphy always played in the morning. Let's see who gets this reference.

He was on roids and threatened the hotel manager. That's when security got called.

For some reason, I just thought of the Monty Hall problem. "You can take this payment here, or you can choose the payment behind one of these closed doors!"

This right here is the correct mindset. Love and lust are 2 entirely different things. You might confuse them when you just come out of the closet, or when you're a teenager, but as an adult, you have to know the difference.

I checked the stats - last year, only 18% of all transactions were made by cash. However, I've studied this area, and cash is a preferred payment among people with lower incomes, etc. We can't go cashless without knocking out a good segment of the population. That, and I can't believe Americans would accept watching every cent they spend end up in a database somewhere.

Zero. I only bend over or stick it in for someone I'm actually seeing. Besides, I hire for the stuff boyfriends might not like. That combination of beating, domination, interrupted with kissing....I'll stop now.

Yup. I've called providers who completely lost it while I was texting them (one had got off the phone with a bad client, but still; the other was trying to get more money). And some in person did the same (the guy who assaulted me and got dragged out by security). Personality disorders are definitely more common among escorts. At least the ones who don't have a second job.

As mentioned in another thread, I have a long-time regular who sometimes brings young men who aren't escorts. He does sort of act like a "madam" in that he insisted on handling the money (taking a larger share since he drives) and doesn't give me the other guy's number. However, while he's been willing to do that, he would obviously prefer that I spend more money on him.

Nope. He was an amateur who just needed money for a few months between jobs, and he told me that when I first hired him. I congratulated him because he found a new job.

Depends on the city. There's a well-reviewed traveling provider who I see in Chicago, but he won't come here for Pride, because here it's only a one day affair. He does come during Market Days in Boystown since it lasts longer and is more festive. I didn't pay as much attention to RM ads during Pride this year, however.

I noticed he doesn't have any face pictures. I wonder if such providers are more likely to block.

Ah. You expect to get paid for sleeping. That's why I don't hire providers like you for overnights .

I don't think a provider should be offended by 1 above and if they are, it's good that they block me so I don't have to put up with a narcissist. I have no use for "luxury " escorts who think their looks entitle them to be rude. That being said, I usually only bring up rates on the second question, after I establish they're close enough, do outcalls, and kiss. It's less being polite than demonstrating I'm serious. Bad clients give everyone a bad name.

The absolute safest breath play is simply holding your breath. Even if, by some freak chance, you passed out, the moment you blacked out, you'd start automatically breathing again. It's simple enough to have a provider cover your mouth with his hand, etc., if they're ok with it. Usually I arrange to tap them so they know when to stop and let me breathe again. Others can be overly cautious, and let go too soon, even though I'm good at holding my breath. Physically choking someone with your hands or a rope is too dangerous for me. A provider once thought I'd like being choked, but I had to stop him.

Nah - you can buy decent Delta9 (that's real THC, not Delta 8 or its cousins) on the Internet a lot cheaper than legal dispensaries. I use a place called Binoid. Illinois dispensaries are overpriced, highly taxed, and you have to visit an ATM first. It usually comes in vape or edible form, but that's how I like to use it. Cannabis just makes me lose all my inhibitions and let my partner have his way with me.

It's also a bad idea because different providers are "worth" different amounts to different clients. There's a lot of guys other CoM members drool over that I don't find attractive at all, and vice versa. All you can do is hope you found a provider you click with.

Professional ethics, not everyday ethics. There's a difference.