hougalwizard

It is not necessary for you to believe Gman. It is only necessary that you do what feels right at this moment. I think going will give you closure, and a sense that it is the right thing to do. Prayers to you this morning...

Thank you for sharing this with us, Gareth. I think you have been an inspiration for all of us.
 

Gar1eth, what you are feeling is normal, not pathological. Memento mori. You are grieving for a loss which also reminds you of your own mortality. It is something we all must learn to live with, without stifling our own enjoyment of life.

Because some guys like to bareback!
 
Are you using condoms for blowjobs? Because if not, you can easily contract and spread all the STIs you mentioned from oral sex. That's not a risk SPECIFIC to bareback anal sex.
 
If guys are asking you to bareback when your profiles clearly state that you DON'T, then I certainly empathise with you though. It's never acceptable for a client to push your boundaries when you've already said NO.
 
But at the end of the day, your safer sex preferences are not superior to anyone else's. We all make choices about which risks we want to take and which we don't. You can justify your choices and condemn someone else's by citing STI risks, but in reality no penetrative sex (including oral) is truly safe. The best we can do is choose the types of protection that make us feel at peace with our choices.
 
And you are NOT competing with escorts who bareback for clients who are exclusively interested in barebacking. Those clients will find what they want regardless. If you don't provide the service that they are looking for, they will move onto someone else because that's what people do.
 
If the exchanges are annoying you then I would recommend making it exceedingly clear in all your marketing that you don't BB and don't want to be asked about it. Consider anyone who asks you to reconsider to be a boundary-pusher and delete them without responding. Problem solved.

I’m like the old-lady-with-a-dozen-cats who holds the Mormon door-knocker as a conversational hostage.

As a client, I know when I am furnished what I feel is a true boyfriend experience, where I actually have not only an extraordinary sexual connection, including everything that excites me sexually, from amazing tongue work while French kissing, to having my nipples manipulated in the most sensual ways possible, to hearing his groans of pleasure as I rim him and suck him, to feeling myself nearing that point of no return as he sucks or f**cks me, but also our sharing with each other in mutually enjoyable conversations before moving on to the sexual play, which is followed by intimate cuddling after we climax.
 
There is nothing quite so intimate to me as being in his arms, with my head on his chest and our arms around each other, sharing our thoughts quietly for a bit, sometimes even napping with each other for a short time. I do think that a boyfriend experience is not necessarily the same for every man, though. I always hope to be treated as if I am the most desirable man the escort has ever met, for the time we enjoy together. As I've said many times since I began this hobby, I do fall in love with the best escorts I hire just a bit during the time we spend together, in bed or out, during both the on-the-clock and off-the-clock time we are together.
 
Now since I am only one client, with only my personal definition of the boyfriend experience expressed here, I'd be interested to get back to the "Ask An Escort" topic requested by the OP. I would love to hear from any escorts out there who are willing to explain what the "boyfriend experience" is for them with clients from their own professional perspective.
 
TruHart1

That’s the Man

A recent encounter comes to mind. The two of us have a great connection, so the date was that much better as a result. On this occasion we had an extended dinner that went on for hours. We polished off an excellent red wine he had selected. Although it wasn't the intent to have me blitzed, I had two different warm and fuzzy feelings so to speak. We laughed and created some great inside jokes from a hilariously pretentious couple neighboring our table.

Kevin Spacey was not a famous actor when the alleged assault occurred. He was 26. He was getting good reviews on Broadway, but he didn’t become a star until the mid-1990s.

Well, I thought the whole thing sounded kinda lame but I had a little time on my hands so I created a profile. I can't say I found much in the first few days: twinks, fakes, flakes, the usual assortment of game players. Then I met a guy who is an aspiring fitness model based in Toronto. I took a leap of faith and flew him to New York. Well, we just spent the better part of the past 10 days at my place in CT. It was amazing. He's 23, ripped, beautiful, and for this initially visit all he wanted was his airfare and other expenses covered.
 
So, perhaps, it's not a bad site after all. It was worth the $70 initial fee.

As far as I know Trystan Bull, Kevin Crows, and Cody Cummings have never escorted (not publicly anyway). I’m certain Mark Dalton did, but not sure he does now. Paddy O, Devin Draz, and Brad Star I have no clue about.
 
Cliff Jensen escorts currently.
https://rentmen.eu/CliffJensen

Hmm....his rentmen ad says he's "Ivy League educated".....but his bio says he studied
at UC Berkeley and Parsons School of Design....last I checked....neither one is "Ivy League".
 
Well, that and his rentmen age is listed as "37" years old...but his DOB on his Bio is 1969......
 
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jack_Mackenroth
 
I mean I understand an escort lying about their age...but their education?

I do the same thing. It amazes me how many men don't seem to know, or understand, or care what the word "respect" means.
 
"Mutual touch" is a general indication that the guy is OK with you touching him. Sometimes it needs to be said because a lot of guys don't want to leave the "touch" door wide open, for a variety of reasons. How the "touch" is defined is a very personal decision. You show respect by asking about personal boundaries. A lot of guys respond nicely when you show them respect. They can become very generous when they realize you're not just a selfish taker.

To me, "mutual touch" means that I can touch him. Obviously, he's going to have his hands all over me -- exactly where is something else again. That's difficult to predict. Just about every masseur who advertises will provide a happy ending, unless his ad says "strictly therapeutic," or something like that. If they keep their shorts and shirt on, they will usually tell you in the ad.
But I think that Bashful is right to ask -- that's just politeness and consideration. Respect and civility go a long
way in the massage game, just as they do in other aspects of daily life. Many times, you just have to play it by ear -- no pun intended!

Andre/Andrew has been scamming people for years. Stay away. He is a horrid individual.

https://www.masseurfinder.com/members/handsomeuropean.shtml
 
I found Andre to be focused on texting, upcharging and the money. While on the table, he was massaging with one hand so I looked up to find him texting. This happened for about 50% of the massage. I had requested 90 minutes, and 45 minutes into the session he offered other techniques for a huge price increase. I had $210 so he offered to cut the time to 60 minutes but with a HE. I recommend against this guy. With the session he provided me, he will not be doing this for long.

I always chuckle when younger guys 'ewwww' at a bathhouse discussion. As if them being on Grindr for 4 hours a night is any better or different.
 
At least in a bath, you can directly see what you want, skip (some) of the bullshit and just have some fun.

You're probably talking about Rounds which was at 53rd and Second, I believe. I loved it. I also loved Stella's on 47th St. Alas, I think the Giuliani purges of the late 1990's put an end to the best Escort bars, though I think there is a quasi "Gentleman's Club" somewhere in NYC that may have an occasional entrepreneur.

I thought the purpose of this site/forum was to exchange information on escorts (their services) to protect both sides and to help make the decision process easier. In this case, reputable members contacted me to offer their experiences with you. That's all.
 

 
Pretty much.
 
Anyways, when I get back in town I'll contact you and mention my name on here. I'll book a session and hopefully we have a fun time.

Hi Bolton,
Just a thought of advice.
We have to make descisions based on the data that is available. You coming on acting a bit aggravated even justifiably so just reinforces the stereotype that you are trying not to emulate. It is too bad that you have gotten cheated. A few other providers have mentioned their poor experiences as well. Many clients use this forum to vett out the loser escorts. I may be naive but it seems to me that you have just had some bad experiences that may have shaped your perception. A suggestion might be to add to the forum as topics arise. This way clients can review your interactions and see based on your contributions that maybe you have been judged to hard. It will allow others to see the real side and make their own judgements. I will be sure to contact you next time I am in Toronto. It should be around April. I will be happy to report out my experience.

I just read this. I'm more than happy to donate. But this post should be on all forums so we are all aware. I rarely come to this forum. I'm mostly in the Spa section. Also, what's the cabana?

Same feeling.
 
Much like guys who are pushy with their Amazon Wish Lists, it all feels a little too much to me. Escorts who feel the need to monetize everything about themselves will soon realize that stepping over dollar bills to get at nickels is a bad business model.

Funny, until I followed your link I misunderstood that saying. I used to hang out in the Fashion World
and you here that saying a lot. Actually is was usually "Beauty is as beauty does". I always thought it meant
that beautiful people could pretty much do whatever the fuck they wanted because they were beautiful.
Sooooo many conversations make sooooo much more sense now that I understand the saying.
 
There are also a lot of famous people in the Fashion World that I REALLY thought were assholes because
of my misunderstanding.....Wow!....I have a LOT of apologies to make!