"Boyfriend Experience"

[realeasymoney]

What does "boyfriend experience" mean?

[Rudynate]

What you think it means? You're probably right.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I prefer the "fuckbuddy experience".

[Pepper Young]

You get to stick it anywhere you want.

[TruHart1]

As a client, I know when I am furnished what I feel is a true boyfriend experience, where I actually have not only an extraordinary sexual connection, including everything that excites me sexually, from amazing tongue work while French kissing, to having my nipples manipulated in the most sensual ways possible, to hearing his groans of pleasure as I rim him and suck him, to feeling myself nearing that point of no return as he sucks or f**cks me, but also our sharing with each other in mutually enjoyable conversations before moving on to the sexual play, which is followed by intimate cuddling after we climax.

 

There is nothing quite so intimate to me as being in his arms, with my head on his chest and our arms around each other, sharing our thoughts quietly for a bit, sometimes even napping with each other for a short time. I do think that a boyfriend experience is not necessarily the same for every man, though. I always hope to be treated as if I am the most desirable man the escort has ever met, for the time we enjoy together. As I've said many times since I began this hobby, I do fall in love with the best escorts I hire just a bit during the time we spend together, in bed or out, during both the on-the-clock and off-the-clock time we are together.

 

Now since I am only one client, with only my personal definition of the boyfriend experience expressed here, I'd be interested to get back to the "Ask An Escort" topic requested by the OP. I would love to hear from any escorts out there who are willing to explain what the "boyfriend experience" is for them with clients from their own professional perspective.

 

TruHart1

[LaffingBear]

It means clients create fantasy expectations in their mind, are disappointed, and when they complain to the rentguy, he responds "that's not what BFE means to me."

 

If anyone believes they're buying the same emotional and physical reactions that a genuine boyfriend would deliver..... send their names to the infomercial producers.... they probably actually believe that "for an additional fee" is only for shipping when they get a second product for "free."

 

Fantastic experiences are very possible.... Avoid intentionally vague terms when setting expectations.

[Deadlift1]

It means clients create fantasy expectations in their mind, are disappointed, and when they complain to the rentguy, he responds "that's not what BFE means to me."

 

If anyone believes they're buying the same emotional and physical reactions that a genuine boyfriend would deliver..... send their names to the infomercial producers.... they probably actually believe that "for an additional fee" is only for shipping when they get a second product for "free."

 

Fantastic experiences are very possible.... Avoid intentionally vague terms when setting expectations.

Boy are u bitter.

[tenderloin]

As a client, let me offer a more precise definition: as a general rule, I think a BFE is at least in the offing when 50% or more of the session involves the escort doing something other than trying directly to get me off, and that time is both pre and post nooky. That could consist of: talking, hugging, caressing, kissing, watching TV with his head on my chest, napping together etc.

 

What is it not? When the guy walks in, drops his pants and bends over, or starts to jerk you off while you are still trying to get your shoes off. I've had a few of those.

[GLEE]

As a client, I know when I am furnished what I feel is a true boyfriend experience, where I actually have not only an extraordinary sexual connection, including everything that excites me sexually, from amazing tongue work while French kissing, to having my nipples manipulated in the most sensual ways possible, to hearing his groans of pleasure as I rim him and suck him, to feeling myself nearing that point of no return as he sucks or f**cks me, but also our sharing with each other in mutually enjoyable conversations before moving on to the sexual play, which is followed by intimate cuddling after we climax.

 

There is nothing quite so intimate to me as being in his arms, with my head on his chest and our arms around each other, sharing our thoughts quietly for a bit, sometimes even napping with each other for a short time. I do think that a boyfriend experience is not necessarily the same for every man, though. I always hope to be treated as if I am the most desirable man the escort has ever met, for the time we enjoy together. As I've said many times since I began this hobby, I do fall in love with the best escorts I hire just a bit during the time we spend together, in bed or out, during both the on-the-clock and off-the-clock time we are together.

 

Now since I am only one client, with only my personal definition of the boyfriend experience expressed here, I'd be interested to get back to the "Ask An Escort" topic requested by the OP. I would love to hear from any escorts out there who are willing to explain what the "boyfriend experience" is for them with clients from their own professional perspective.

 

TruHart1

 

Yeah, as @TruHart1 said I'd love to hear any of the escorts here on the forum describe what their definition or expectation of a "BFE" would be. My personal definition of this is very "narrow-minded" and I think it's because of me being picky regarding the choice of my hires, like besides sexual encounters I really want certain level emotional or even intellectual connection there. And I'm not sure if it's just me but for me "BFE" is like a two-way street, like I also want to please this man I'm with in any way possible. So for me a successful BFE for me requires lots of preparations. Though it's time-consuming, it's definitely fun for me to really spend some time talking to the person I'm going to meet, maybe also realizing what he might like, preparing some small gifts and choosing a place/restaurant we'd both like. I just really want to treat it as a real date. Maybe that's just my thing though.

[Rudynate]

To me, "boyfriend experience" implies a longer encounter, multiple hours and involves a lot of kissing, giving and receiving of affection, mostly vanilla sex and a fair amount of time devoted to chat and cuddling etc. To me, a one-hour appointment is kind of a quickie, and therefore its difficult to pour everything into it that someone might hope for in a BFE. I don't think of a BFE as including much in the way of BDSM or other kink, although I did read in an escort's profile the other day that he specializes in the "BDSM-BFE ."

[JudasKane]

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.

However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.

 

For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

 

I think I would be remiss if I didn't mention a fantastic piece about BFE by @tylerthebadwolf for thought catalog - https://thoughtcatalog.com/tyler-darlig-ulv/2017/05/what-being-a-professional-companion-really-is-because-it-isnt-sex-work/

[TruHart1]

Yeah, as @TruHart1 said I'd love to hear any of the escorts here on the forum describe what their definition or expectation of a "BFE" would be. My personal definition of this is very "narrow-minded" and I think it's because of me being picky regarding the choice of my hires, like besides sexual encounters I really want certain level emotional or even intellectual connection there. And I'm not sure if it's just me but for me "BFE" is like a two-way street, like I also want to please this man I'm with in any way possible. So for me a successful BFE for me requires lots of preparations. Though it's time-consuming, it's definitely fun for me to really spend some time talking to the person I'm going to meet, maybe also realizing what he might like, preparing some small gifts and choosing a place/restaurant we'd both like. I just really want to treat it as a real date. Maybe that's just my thing though.

I think this post by the always insightful @GLEE proves my point that a truly great BFE includes excellent and natural communication between the client and the escort, providing pleasure both socially and sexually for each other and mutually satisfying both! This is certainly one of the main reasons I hire and have developed continuing relationships with some of the best escorts working today!

 

TruHart1

[LivingnLA]

These kinds of questions have a huge number of possible answers. Each escort and client have different life experiences that create their boundaries and influence their idea of a "boyfriend experience." Communication matters. Don't just say you want a "BFE" and expect not to be disappointed. Escorts aren't mind readers. Spell out what you're looking for while being within respectful and legal bounds and see what they say.

 

Here's what wikipedia has to say about girlfriend/boyfriend experiences: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Girlfriend_experience

[TruHart1]

The vagueness of the term certainly leads to as many different interpretations as there are clients and providers.

However, I think a general impression can be culled from our individual ones: That BFE is just as much (if not more so) about compassionate mental-emotional affection and interaction as it is about whatever else may take place.

 

For me, it means that we spend time together and there's a general ebb and flow with our physical interaction as opposed to having a laundry list of physical acts to take place. A fair amount of time could be spent hand holding, cuddling, talking about the great mysteries of life, etc --- generally behaviors one may expect in an established relationship versus what behavior one may expect from picking someone up at a bar.

 

I think I would be remiss if I didn't mention a fantastic piece about BFE by @tylerthebadwolf for thought catalog - https://thoughtcatalog.com/tyler-darlig-ulv/2017/05/what-being-a-professional-companion-really-is-because-it-isnt-sex-work/

Thank you, @JudasKane for the link to this article by @tylerthebadwolf. It proves that many of the great escorts find their work rewarding in so many ways. As Tyler says, a BFE is not about playing a role but rather about accepting a client for who they are and letting them know they can be free to truly be themselves with him!

 

TruHart1

[+ FrankR]

What does "boyfriend experience" mean?

Totally depends on the "boy" in question! Just like a real life boyfriend!!

[phraughy]

As a client I try to communicate as much as possible what I am seeking. For a boyfriend experience I let the escort know I am looking for affection, kissing, cuddling, snuggling and intercourse. I have never been disappointed with my hires because they know what I am wanting.

[escortrod]

To me a boyfriend experience entails greater physical and emotional intimacy than might be expected of a typical encounter. Talking before the experience and getting to know each other, gentle and sensual physical interaction, cuddling, holding, etc. That has roughly coincided with the expectations of all of the clients who have requested BFE from me.

[samhexum]

[+ peterhung85]

Yeah, as @TruHart1 said I'd love to hear any of the escorts here on the forum describe what their definition or expectation of a "BFE" would be. My personal definition of this is very "narrow-minded" and I think it's because of me being picky regarding the choice of my hires, like besides sexual encounters I really want certain level emotional or even intellectual connection there. And I'm not sure if it's just me but for me "BFE" is like a two-way street, like I also want to please this man I'm with in any way possible. So for me a successful BFE for me requires lots of preparations. Though it's time-consuming, it's definitely fun for me to really spend some time talking to the person I'm going to meet, maybe also realizing what he might like, preparing some small gifts and choosing a place/restaurant we'd both like. I just really want to treat it as a real date. Maybe that's just my thing though.

Boyfriend experience = what we did last time my dear but I don't want to explain this, if you forgot it we may as well just have to do a repeat!

[GLEE]

Boyfriend experience = what we did last time my dear but I don't want to explain this, if you forgot it we may as well just have to do a repeat!

 

I doubt if I’ll ever forget about any moment I’ve spent with you @peterhung85 . However, I’d love to repeat/be reminded of that in any “non-technological” way you can think of.

[+ harey]

These kinds of questions have a huge number of possible answers. Each escort and client have different life experiences that create their boundaries and influence their idea of a "boyfriend experience." Communication matters. Don't just say you want a "BFE" and expect not to be disappointed. Escorts aren't mind readers. Spell out what you're looking for while being within respectful and legal bounds and see what they say.

 

Here's what wikipedia has to say about girlfriend/boyfriend experiences: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Girlfriend_experience

Thanks for the link. I may start calling myself a "hobbyist", but not sure I'd refer to my regulars as "nice boys". They could all break me into little pieces. "Fine fighters" would be closer to the mark.

 

I've never requested a boyfriend experience, for fear of letting down my guard and being manipulated. BFE is mentioned on the forum often, though, so I avert my eyes and pretend to ignore it - like the crazy homeless man on my way to work. Reading this thread made me realize I've had several boyfriend experiences with escorts that happened spontaneously without using the term. With one provider in particular this seems to always happen. I may ask that fine fighter if it's just his normal M.O. or a choice he made for me.

[TruHart1]

Yeah, as @TruHart1 said I'd love to hear any of the escorts here on the forum describe what their definition or expectation of a "BFE" would be. My personal definition of this is very "narrow-minded" and I think it's because of me being picky regarding the choice of my hires, like besides sexual encounters I really want certain level emotional or even intellectual connection there. And I'm not sure if it's just me but for me "BFE" is like a two-way street, like I also want to please this man I'm with in any way possible. So for me a successful BFE for me requires lots of preparations. Though it's time-consuming, it's definitely fun for me to really spend some time talking to the person I'm going to meet, maybe also realizing what he might like, preparing some small gifts and choosing a place/restaurant we'd both like. I just really want to treat it as a real date. Maybe that's just my thing though.

Boyfriend experience = what we did last time my dear but I don't want to explain this, if you forgot it we may as well just have to do a repeat!

I doubt if I’ll ever forget about any moment I’ve spent with you @peterhung85 . However, I’d love to repeat/be reminded of that in any “non-technological” way you can think of.

MMmmm...oh yeah! As you may conclude from the above statement from @peterhung85 answering the comment by the always intelligent @GLEE, one of the best true and fully realized BoyFriend Experiences available is in the most excellent company of that Las Vegas-based man, one of the best in the business today!

 

I agree that Peter has also personally given me some wonderful experiences, the pleasurable memory of which I will always treasure, can never forget, and continue to desire to repeat!!! His communication, whether no tech, lo-tech or hi-tech is always something I am grateful to receive, myself!!!

 

TruHart1

Edited August 2, 2018 by TruHart1

[LADoug1]

There are as many “boyfriend experiences” as there are boyfriends. Think of what you want and try and communicate this with a prospective escort. Be realistic since the experience is artificial. Suspend your disbelief and go with the fantasy. Best of luck.

[mike carey]

Boyfriend experience = what we did last time my dear but I don't want to explain this, if you forgot it we may as well just have to do a repeat!

And people wonder why, despite not yet meeting him, I talk Peter up in here.

[+ tassojunior]

90% means French kissing.

BFE looks better as an initialism than FK, which would seem to stand for Fuck, so we invented BFE.

 

On planet Earth, boyfriend experience more often means picking up someone else's clothes and doing their laundry.