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Once we get to petting without clothes, I find the fog to be quite flattering to my visage. Yet nothing for my new Magoo to fear! There’ll be no need to move, and absolutely no mistaking what’s directly in front of you. 😈

Is the f*cking you might get worth the f*cking you might get?

I’ve enjoyed an amazing amount of really good TV in the past year plus, as have many of you. Some of my favorite series have vanished or still in limbo, others announced a definite return. About the latter: I look forward to more stories that feature subtle interactions and complex characters, a number of whom are at great risk, (or quick to depart!) OZARK, DEAD TO ME e.g. I feel like I’ve been away from the story that, when it resumes I will SOL if I don’t rewatch everything up to that point. Anybody else planning a re-binge? Will shows pretend that everything [ in 2020 which has reshaped conversations and behaviors] never happened? Anything in your queue that is restarting, and you’d watch it anyway it plays it? Would you rewatch any to re-set your “present day” perception of the story. Hot strangers swapping spit - oooh or ewww?

Is it possible for you to offer assistance in a less interpersonal way? Maybe agree to footing cost of Airbnb plus POBox for (X) months to get his bearings and find a job or whatever. Give him some space to find his own new tribe, maybe share a meal every now and then. if mutual connection, attraction and trust develop then reassess. Make every effort ($$$ incl)to have his first nights in town be anywhere but at your place.

For this client, Rate posted is a starting point. I figure paying that rate gets me respect, kindness and physical access - consensual, and within boundaries set ahead of meeting. It’s like the basic car wash.. Now… Making me feel that he’s enjoying our activities, that gets him a bump. Reading our exchange accurately and instinctively, guiding the play to something new for one of us?Premium Wash with additional rinse! Another bump. Exceptional hosting ability (cleanliness of self and environment, punctuality, having a private and conducive space with appropriate ambience, bottled water available, etc) Yup, another bump. Hot wax! I reward efforts of preparation, connection, and imagination. Hand polish and buff. Bump. And if he knows how detail my rims, well…

Truthful hyperbole is a term I’ve heard for this trick. Fool me once.

My family tends to look younger too - oily skin hell in high school, compliments after 50. Though around that point I started adding an additional year every year. I think… And now people think I look really great for 70! And next month, they’re going to be awestruck by how I look at 75!!

I agree with you about dishonesty that is flagrant! (I guess my consolation is that I never worry about inappropriate texting with a minor pretending to be 21…) And I remember too well how BH90210 got yanked in 1990 after just one insulting episode!😥 bummer game over

I ‘d never attend a pageant without at least one contestant singing “The Italian Street Song”. https://open.spotify.com/track/7hgFnh0C7XWLixS7ibfhQ3 But an exception might have to be made for good Slovakian Street Meat?

There is something fun about removing a partner’s glasses when coming in for the kiss. (That old hot librarian trope?) It’s lifting a veil of sorts - BB eye contact… after flirting through lenses, like petting over clothes.

@FilmGeek I bet as a film geek you’re aware of the complexity of casting, including the idea of an actor’s “can play” age when in consideration for (or pursuit of) a role. A little lighting here, a little makeup there, but essentially “can play” allows actors to work longer - some of them credibly play 10 years older for their entire career (men and Estelle Getty) and some, aided with filler and Botox can still occasionally play youthful romantic leads while nearing 50 (Anniston) These days the (still mostly male) casting/producing teams will concede that the mother of the adult star’s character needs to BE over 50, but they’re visualizing a healthy, well-rested 45, and that of course means they’re not seeing anyone for the part who is over 37. Mother. To the star who is IRL 37. Playing 24… Are you after the physical freshness to play with, everything taut and smooth, or are you more enamored with the relative naïveté of youth? Does a number, one way or another, change the experience for you? When choosing a life partner, it is clearly more important to most people. But in a temporary-by-definition relationship, I would be interested how knowing a provider’s real numerical age casts a pall over things when you actually like the goods and services. I’ve always been drawn to men older than I am…which at this point, just means OLD. So when I shop for paid company I “settle” for 45 and up. I get grownup conversation, but don’t have to add a ramp to the front porch. Escorting IS show-business. “Can play…” is essential to it. Essential to “can play” ?Dimmers. Look into ‘em!

750/hr is a not an arbitrary number, I think. It’s merely a few dollars more than what they make in one hour of creating content for sites like OF and JFF. Life is purely virtual in every realm now. This is just one more example of our resignation to accepting avatar stand-ins for real contact. Thanks Alexa!

It may be that the opportunities provided by such establishments can be found online with greater advantage to all parties, except of course for the bartenders.

No, he’s resembling Damian Lewis, the lead actor, who is another lucky ginger Not to be confused with… 😅

The dangers to us via hookup apps are far greater than the dangers of anonymous bookstore booths and glory holes back in the day. Just sayin’

Check IMDB - occasionally their real name will show up, especially if they also have any legit credits under own name. There is another database for adult performers but I can’t recall the acronym. Your line “dating myself” would indicate their stardom was quite a while ago. These men, one or both, may have left the business to better themselves and are not interested in being “connected” to an old fan. Please approach with great care, Milo. Even if you’re certain it’s the right Twitter or IG. They’re real people with a present that may be very different from your past with them.

Early on in Friendboy I stumbled across a provider who resembled a coworker. I clicked on Call and sure enough the number came up as my friends name from my contacts. I hung up after 2nd ring. Do these sites trace back the origin number of an incomplete call made thru the site, maybe as a service to advertisers? I’m hoping not- would rather him think it was a random butt dial. His profile long gone, and he had to move to parents to help them during Covid.

My honest assessment is that I was most connected to the community in the 80’s as we were losing people left and right, and needed to lean on each other. It was concurrent with my own coming out and like many others at the time we got to know the excitement of exploring love and sex in a minefield. “Somewhat connected to the community”would apply in the years following, after finding my partner (we both were in industries where neither of us was the token) and overall, less so in the last twenty years as the boomers turning to seniors. What binds us still is to recall the memories of the indignities suffered in school, the kinds of choices available to me in bridging all the elements of family, work, and community, just as young people are today. Together we are a unifying force of self acceptance that we all know to varying degrees. Some of us see it distantly in the rear view, where it serves as a reminder going forward with eyes front. I like to think of myself as “Gaymeritus” An honorary nod that I helped when I could, but needed to tend career and home as I escaped to the suburbs, and continued to promote visibility, and help those individuals still being plowed under by a disease the President at the time chose to ignore. My curious nature keeps me looking for what young people and “new gays” are up to, and the impressive range of activism is so much broader, connected to their direct experience, and approached in more current ways, using universal advantages of our digital comms systems and finding new ways of engaging. Bravo to their fearlessness in tackling new challenges (bigger and more urgent than marriage) and I’m excited to see how they continue to push for the idea of equality and fairness for all, not just fellow queer people.

There was a discussion here a while back about preferences about eye contact during an encounter https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/77803-eye-contact/ Nothing in 5 years about this, my search told me, but I was specifically inspired to raise this when a friend mentioned the other day that between Zoom and masks, her sense of eye contact was all screwy. No eye contact really for zoom/online convos, alternating with relying on it more in casual masked convo to understand what she couldn’t hear or register with a full facial expression/lip reading. I feel the same about having to shift the gears of engagement so often. I have not been working since Mar2020 lockdown began, Zooms mostly social, and my unmasked contact from then until June 21 was at home with one other person. I was completely mask compliant when out. I’ve always been quick to make random eye contact - though never in Manhattan - and good at reading when the conversation or whatever welcomed more attention, and it was instinctual more or less. I loved how it was always essential for in-person cruising (Lordy remember that?) Eye contact is a very important component in what makes a successful sexual encounter for me. Fave positions are almost all face to face in some form. Anybody finding the experience of eye contact is a more self conscious act or otherwise different than it was in the BeforeTimes? We may have some additional mask wearing ahead over this summer into fall, and though I go without it in a smaller group of people who are known to me, it’s bound to continue messing with my head when out. Anybody else here these days who enjoys eye contact with a provider? Hates it? Won’t repeat without it? Have a provider who is great at it? Or after the last year, finding your way back to where it simply feels organic?

“You’re two inches under, so let’s call it even…”

I’ve tried CBD balm directly applied to the anus. Kind of like the expensive vaginal creams that used to be prescribed to older unhappy women to relieve “dryness”, the success comes from frequent applications with at least 30min of vigorous massaging motion. I liked it.

If leaving KC area market why not head to Chicago rather than Arkansas? I would think a fresh uncut face might gather more traction. Or does opposite hold true? Maybe the higher % of closeted men in rural areas result in more men who are into hiring over hookup app dates?

Chemistry is equally valuable to client and provider. No substitute available.

I don’t see it as that much of a mystery how Disney arch villains read as gay. Lack of trashy women in attendance to the character, as they would be in other stories of arch villains. The Disney villains use correct grammar and punctuation when speaking …with clear diction, even. Ugh. So gay. Extreme designs of facial hair, and effective inclusion of unique accessories, not excluding exotic pets. Even Ursula from Little Mermaid is a gay man: Divine.