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At least I don’t have to worry about running into them at any of the posh estate garden parties I have been declining. As impossibility wealthy people go, H&M have done less damage to others and the world than many in their bracket. Oprah herself has wreaked more havoc, by making too many people believe they can have it all. 🤭

A debate about beach property in FL will almost always be won by principles of community regard, fair restitution, and public safety maximizations… The construction permits will nevertheless be granted them who won the bidding war to develop the lot for the highest profit. (SoCA coast has same issues… Has there been more um… digging… into the recent construction immediately to the south of the fallen structure, and whether that may have accidentally contributed to the bottom-up failure? Would that investigation introduce limitations on use? I hope survivors will get everything they demand, first. Will be interesting to watch. Online. (Never going to FL aside from a couple inevitable funerals…)

A friend about age 45, incredibly fit and handsome (a working pro dancer) said some friends took him to one and he felt like he might as well have been using a walker and flip phone.

Sorry that you got hosed in learning this lesson, @HoseMaster Hearing about this is a good reminder to us clients, that dating is a reciprocal arrangement, and hiring is not. Spending time with vs spending money on. Understandably it’s easy to let the nice feelings muck up one’s spidey senses about the business part. He admitted that he has a boyfriend, so he was clear that you were definitely not that. He’s charged you that amount …to watch …Netflix? The relation you have (had) to him is your custom, and he was never interested in keeping even that. That he began with the “last minute flat tire” speaks to his premeditation in taking advantage. Members have correctly pointed out that in LA we have many other options available. Take that to heart. Delete and block his number, and don’t retell this event to any provider you spend time with/money on. Dating is time with, hiring is money on. You’ll be fine going forward.

I have. It’s almost like a trusted doctor or dentist that retires, leaving you feeling vulnerable because of the personal nature of your sessions. The business he runs cannot post a “closed” sign on a door, so all the clients who approach him will likely be be told individually, making the news seem more personal than he intended. There’s a dozen different reasons he may be turning even long-time clients away. A good find for massage is rare, so your frustration is just. Try a local spa if needing immediate bodywork, and keep your eye on new ads that might catch your eye…

@Jarrod_Uncut did describe the man as a “good client/friend”. If that’s a sincere description, then he certainly knows that this client friend tends to lose control when substances are involved, and yet his main concern in the narrative is his own professional/ personal embarrassment of the behavior, and liability if this guy has an accident, rather than any genuine concern for the safety of his friend and others. Every adult out socializing, who may accept any offers of alcohol or drugs, is responsible for their own behavior, and should not burden unwilling “provider/friends” with being their caretaker. If a client has money to hire, he has money to get himself home. It’s not that hard. Especially that late when… It’s Not That Hard. I bet most experienced providers have a plan that factors in such variables, and can resourcefully balance their own safety with that of their companions. It does make for good drama, though.

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I once gave an epic blowjob to a guy I was sooooo into, when he was on the (landline) phone with his friend. His penis was perfect for sucking, but… he kept up high engagement with the phone. Whatever you think might happen as a guy has his brain turnt elsewhere while you service him, neither of you is likely to have as good a time. Tease him. Strip for him. Touch him. Quietly jerk him (and yourself?) until his hormonal urges tell him the distraction is over. Then shove your face all the way down, rewarding him for acknowledging you over the fucking game.

I hated communal nudity at school for showering in jr high and high school. But, I figured out NOT showering was a larger problem for me than trying to hide myself, so I did adjust, got myself clean, and haven’t had a problem since. There’s always better bodies on display, but there’s always worse too. I do remember that there were a couple of guys who had repeated a grade or two, pushing evidence of puberty ahead of the rest of us. In addition to acne and muscles, one had a pendulum, and the other a beautiful hairy chest and ass… Nudity in the US has, over time, been forced into a singular association with improper sex, creating a phobia about our own bodies when we’re young - the “right to have privacy” for simply being nude has distorted further our prudery to where all nudity equals sex, so now, that casualness described in earlier posts (no one cares) when everyone is nude, no longer serves as a key to understanding that nudity is not weird and scary if you practice the golden rule: stare not, lest ye be stared at. We’re all born naked, everything after that is drag. The whole “zero tolerance” mentality of parents has done no good for kids, especially regarding nudity. I had taken my mom to see an opera and there turned out to be both male and female full Monty. It took a lot of discussion after to get her to understand that in this story it was not “disrobing for sex”, it was to illustrate extreme (emotional) vulnerability of the character in the situation. When at a gym or spa or any public changing area now, I am never a show off, nor a creepy ogler. It doesn’t mean I emerge without some memories… And tbh I would prefer to swim only in the buff. It just feels better.

The success in the landing of a really dark joke is a common understanding of what’s right and wrong.

Look at my dogs. Each also has a distinctive mark. Unforgeable. 😜

Surprising for me, on both (historic) occasions was my own voracious display, like I’d been without for years. sensing only with my mouth that there was a mutual synced urgency in the anonymity of it. Swallowed it all both times. One or more watchers each time, also new for me. Now? Nope. Too many other STI’s still out there for anon.

Post …wait, what?? I still want a session with him and may take the plunge.

A great way to practice techniques is to sneak up behind a seated coworker and just start rubbing the neck and shoulders, talking about how tight they feel, and offering to sit under their work surface and rub their bare feet. Then, at your next job… 🥴

I used to believe that longevity was achieved by only through the deepest understanding of your spouse. The pandemic helped me to see that “please” and “thank you” need to be there every day, along with laughing together at least 3 times a day. Deep understanding of one another’s struggles fears and joys is part of it, but without courtesy and fun being consciously kept alive in the house, the weight of the world right now can crush the happiness into a paste of “why bother?”

I wish mine were hard-wired. Decent bluetooth count? They’re larger than average, but not the sort of sensitive to make me hard instantly or drive me over the brink of climax.

Depends on which man… Anytime. Never.

Stardom, however scant, can distort human interactions with us peasants who have less in physical attributes (but higher credit limits.) JFF, OF etc are advertising media. Sometimes personal time is for sale, sometimes just ongoing subscriptions for new content. No objection and sometimes amazement…

I cannot recall where I saw it, but an interviewer did a video piece with Rafael and prompted him to reveal “in code” some of his past celeb clientele. He’s pretty charming in it. I don’t object to his ass, fake or not - from my POV it would be reflected in the SueAnn Nivens mirror over the bed, and a little extra curve looks great from that distance. He’s likely to remain on my “what if?” list as opposed to the “why not?” list.

It’s a skill set that I cultivated along with drawing, crafts and other sissy occupations. Its beauty is only in contrast to my signature which is shit. (We’re you asked by girl friends to forge ‘Phys Ed excuses’ signed by a parent in high school? I was…LOL)

I think my favorite Steve Martin leading role was in Roxanne (1987) where he was manic only in the context of a character in an uphill battle for the girl.

Signatures. I want to ask about yours. Not your fragrance, not your best mixed drink, or even a move in bed… The thing you do with a pen on paper. **No mention of your name, please!** More often now, we are asked to create our signature with our finger on a touch pad, whether point of purchase, or at your door receiving a package. We can all agree that for the most part, that signature will never look like the one in pen and ink. So let’s skip that signature completely in this discussion. Is your legal signature legible? Meaning, you can see the letters that spell the words. Or is it more a scrawl? I scrawl. My deliberate handwriting is very legible, sometimes quite beautiful, and my signature is nothing like that. It’s an automatic movement with the hand, holding an object. Kinda like wanking. And as messy. I never write anything else that could be connected with that scribble, at least not if someone else is meant to read it. When did the signature you use now get set? On your first drivers license? Your first checkbook? Your first set of loan documents where you did it 10,000 times? Is there anything about your signature that only you would know, making it harder to forge? I knew a woman years ago who when signing anything, did a final move, a little dot of Ink below the line under a particular letter, which she smeared in a particular direction. It would look like an ordinary pen accident, but it was her way of knowing that it was indeed hers. I thought that was cool. Does your name seem too long for repetitive signing? Contain Suffixes? Complex middle namesI? I am a junior but my signature doesn’t reflect it - it all kinda runs together. If you are younger and received little or no formal teaching of cursive writing, was forming your legal signature a challenge? If it was a simple process to alter your official signature to a version that was preferable, would you change it? If you changed your name for marriage or other reason, how easily did you adapt? Is someone’s signature a point of attraction?- not sexual, but something unique or beautiful about a signature that makes you want to get to know them? Or have you watched the state of mind when people sign? On auto-pilot? Particular attention to it, perhaps with a flourish? https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2ylvWg6AV7g An autograph is something everyone makes, especially in public, so tell us all about… Yours sincerely,

“Never fuck on the good duvet”. — Kitty Bartholomew Use a sheet or thin washable blanket over an inexpensive plastic barrier - thin enough to not go “crunch crunch” with each passionate thrust… https://www.dollartree.com/black-plastic-table-covers-54x108/943536 Oops, too late… https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/comments/1nl8li/any_tips_on_cleaning_up_silicone_lube/ I’m able to buy 99% Alcohol at beauty supplies for the trade. Really helps break down silicone lube. Denatured Alcohol from paint dept at Home Depot comes close. Blot it on the stain, then follow with soap solution blotting, or laundering. Stick with Kitty.

If you have visited anyone in an average corporate chain skilled nursing facility, you’ve probably noticed that one resident, probably near a nurse’s station, who’s angrily yelling to no one in particular for attention. “Somebody better get in here, or there’s gonna be hell to pay.” Crazy old lady. Well, that was my 90yr old mom in what was prescribed post-stroke rehab, when she actually had a brain tumor they weren’t looking for. Up to the first seizure-like event, she was in a 55+ active senior complex, nice one bedroom. No care, no meals. Independent scaled down living. So her drastic personality change was not a result of being in the place, but the care she needed was always just out of reach, and the other residents were mostly variations on a similar theme - neither demented enough and too “we’ll off” for funded memory care, too poor for transitional assisted living, not independent enough to be left alone in a child’s home during working hours - it has been/will be the fate of too many - and now I also gotta worry about getting booted out for being “too handsy” with the male aides who are tasked with lifting us? Oy vey. How do we get insurance that will cover the routine preventative maintenance of a nice massage …or something… maybe 2 hrs once a month. I don’t know, it might keep me from yelling at no one in particular.

I missed this show when it toured the first time - another tour company resuming soon I hear. It was captured in HD on the Broadway set during lockdown with the original cast and a limited audience, and I caught it on either HBOMax or Netflix. A wonderful balm to follow the maudlin 20th Anniversary of 9/11 - I cannot recommend it highly enough.