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A close family member of mine has made it very clear that my sister and I will inherit his assets upon his death (except for his current home, which will go to his live-in partner, who he's committed to but not legally married to). We've seen the will, it's all there in black and white. Given his health conditions, it's unlikely that he'll live past the next ten years. It's enough money to make a material difference to when, and/or how comfortably, my partner and I could retire. My sister is counting on that money for her kids' eventual secondary education, and I've told her multiple I think she needs a backup plan. A lot of my financial anxiety would be relieved if I could 100% know that money would be in my bank account one day. And yet...
He could live until he's 100, upending my sister's plans He could change his mind about asset allocation for whatever reason, and either inform us or not The remainder of his life could whittle down his assets significantly He's invested in pretty stable stuff, but in this economy, who the hell knows. If I were heavily invested in the stock market and was close to retirement age, I'd be freaking out.  Totally agree with sync. When it comes to other people's money, expect the worst (inheritance can cost people more time and money than it's worth, even if you do have generational resources), and be pleasantly surprised if your life improves. 

A close family member of mine has made it very clear that my sister and I will inherit his assets upon his death (except for his current home, which will go to his live-in partner, who he's committed to but not legally married to). We've seen the will, it's all there in black and white. Given his health conditions, it's unlikely that he'll live past the next ten years. It's enough money to make a material difference to when, and/or how comfortably, my partner and I could retire. My sister is counting on that money for her kids' eventual secondary education, and I've told her multiple I think she needs a backup plan. A lot of my financial anxiety would be relieved if I could 100% know that money would be in my bank account one day. And yet...
He could live until he's 100, upending my sister's plans He could change his mind about asset allocation for whatever reason, and either inform us or not The remainder of his life could whittle down his assets significantly He's invested in pretty stable stuff, but in this economy, who the hell knows. If I were heavily invested in the stock market and was close to retirement age, I'd be freaking out.  Totally agree with sync. When it comes to other people's money, expect the worst (inheritance can cost people more time and money than it's worth, even if you do have generational resources), and be pleasantly surprised if your life improves. 

No upset here man - yeah, those are all options. Anything can change at any time. I'm pretty anti-marriage for myself, philosophically, but my partner and I tied the knot earlier this year because you can't manufacture all the legal and financial protections in any other way. But a good lawyer and financial planner will get you 75% of the way there. 

Not to upset you but I’d add to your list of things that may impact your inheritance:
he might decide to legally marry his live-in partner
And his live-in partner may persuade your relative to make a new will. Or he may challenge the will you know about 
 
I mentioned in an earlier thread that I was embroiled in a bitter dispute over the will of a close friend of 48 years. 
Everything was left to me.
Yet cousins who had NO contact with my old friend for 35 years emerged and made a series of claims against the estate assets.
It took 2 years but I eventually won…but only after considerable stress and my legal bills ran into seven figures.
Now I urge every longterm gay or lesbian couple to get married legally.

Would love to find a provider that's into this (being the tickler). Does anyone have any experience or knowledge? Of course local to Denver would be great, but would interested in talking with any provider about it!

I don’t think so. The video was shot in Miami; that provider is in San Diego. Similar but not the same guy. Strictly my opinion. 

For bargains, create a free account on masseurfinder and sign up for their weekly newsletter.  Local guys offer specials to fill their schedules, meet new clients, etc.
 

Would love to find a provider that's into this (being the tickler). Does anyone have any experience or knowledge? Of course local to Denver would be great, but would interested in talking with any provider about it!

Yes. Thank you. Though the negative feelings around that word still exist for many people, and they shouldn't have to identify as such, even if their friends and community members do. 
I'm not sure what you're trying to get across here, but it doesn't feel like your intent is productive. I appreciate @francisssgorg call to be kind to folks of all identities, even ones you might not understand or resonate with. 

A close family member of mine has made it very clear that my sister and I will inherit his assets upon his death (except for his current home, which will go to his live-in partner, who he's committed to but not legally married to). We've seen the will, it's all there in black and white. Given his health conditions, it's unlikely that he'll live past the next ten years. It's enough money to make a material difference to when, and/or how comfortably, my partner and I could retire. My sister is counting on that money for her kids' eventual secondary education, and I've told her multiple I think she needs a backup plan. A lot of my financial anxiety would be relieved if I could 100% know that money would be in my bank account one day. And yet...
He could live until he's 100, upending my sister's plans He could change his mind about asset allocation for whatever reason, and either inform us or not The remainder of his life could whittle down his assets significantly He's invested in pretty stable stuff, but in this economy, who the hell knows. If I were heavily invested in the stock market and was close to retirement age, I'd be freaking out.  Totally agree with sync. When it comes to other people's money, expect the worst (inheritance can cost people more time and money than it's worth, even if you do have generational resources), and be pleasantly surprised if your life improves. 

A close family member of mine has made it very clear that my sister and I will inherit his assets upon his death (except for his current home, which will go to his live-in partner, who he's committed to but not legally married to). We've seen the will, it's all there in black and white. Given his health conditions, it's unlikely that he'll live past the next ten years. It's enough money to make a material difference to when, and/or how comfortably, my partner and I could retire. My sister is counting on that money for her kids' eventual secondary education, and I've told her multiple I think she needs a backup plan. A lot of my financial anxiety would be relieved if I could 100% know that money would be in my bank account one day. And yet...
He could live until he's 100, upending my sister's plans He could change his mind about asset allocation for whatever reason, and either inform us or not The remainder of his life could whittle down his assets significantly He's invested in pretty stable stuff, but in this economy, who the hell knows. If I were heavily invested in the stock market and was close to retirement age, I'd be freaking out.  Totally agree with sync. When it comes to other people's money, expect the worst (inheritance can cost people more time and money than it's worth, even if you do have generational resources), and be pleasantly surprised if your life improves. 

I let people know if they are mentioned in my will. It makes them much friendlier when I am alive.

It's a bitter pill, but one should never count on other people's money.

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I've chatted with him several times but when it comes time to commit he goes MIA. Says he's vers but only wants to top when you ask him. Not sure why he's back active again after a 2-3 year absence.  🤷🏻‍♂️ 

Hey man - appreciate the ask. Unfortunately, I don’t think think it’s my place to do that. Besides, my taste in men and my “wishlist” of activities may be wildly different from your desired experience. Happy to share how I planned it, how I reached out, and what I did to pull it together. The guys I met with are on this site either as having been reviewed here or they have posted. 
 
The best thing you can do is really know what you are looking for, what boundaries you have, what you’re willing to spend, and how far in advance you can plan. Once you know that - go for it! Not sure of the city you are planning to do this in, so that changes the dynamics as well.

if you do you join the group, you'll need a profile pic to be accepted

I've had 2 mutual massages so far so with 3rd scheduled so here's my limited feedback/tips
1. Definitely join! It's growing like crazy and people in every major city even ww.
2. This isn't RM, so don't expect jacked 20 year olds. More 40+ dad bod types, and not everyone wants sensual. 
3. It's ment for mutual massage so unless your willing to swap be very clear upfront if your only interested in receiving or giving. 
3. Alot of people may not be your type and that ok, so depending on your comfort (remember the idea is mutual massage) just ignore people your not interested in. 
4. Like everything else be safe! These are still strangers so if your not comfortable going to a strangers house it's OK to find a mutual meetup location. 
5. Don't assume its a sensual or erotic massage. Before you meet discuss if they there only interested in therpautic or possibly more and what your comfortable with. No one wants to leave dissapointed. 
Now with that said. Both my massages did turn erotic 😈 but it was very much a perk and not assumed upfront. So it's a great alternative to save some $$ and another avenue for our hobby. 
Happy hunting boys! 

I haven't tried it, but I noted that 'Arjun', a well reviewed masseur on CoM, is one of the admins.

I just had my first massage with a guy from this Facebook page - and it went really well.  I think I may keep using them.
I have another one scheduled for Saturday.

I recently found a site within Facebook called Male on Male Exchange.   I joined the group and I've had several men wanting to exchange massages with me.  
Does anyone have any experience with this?  I've got one scheduled for tomorrow and another one on Tuesday of next week.
 

My current favorite is KUNG FOOD by Jon Kung... who also maintains a pretty active presence on YouTube - 
Great serious appreciation of good food, serious technique, interesting flavors and flavor combinations.... and i have a MAD crush on him!

Blue Ginger by Ming Tsai
Very easy to follow recipes.  Had some great results from it.

I keep going back to Eileen Yin-Fei Lo’s chinese cook books and Dorie Greenspan’s Paris Sweets - amazing recipes. I love reading through cookbooks, though I rarely use their recipes. More for inspiration and their stories.