Thoughts on straight curious men?

[francisssgorg]

Story time: So recently, I've been going to this ksauna place near my area just to pass time and also, obviously to get some action. Please excuse this lonely gay guy ok? Anyway, so I've encountered a lot of different types of men. All races, all sizes (kidding), all personalities...

Earlier this morning, I came in to the spa, probably around 9:30 am. It's a Sunday, and I haven't thought about how jam packed it could be. Honestly, this specific spa only has the steam room and a certain dry sauna downstairs that could potentially be a location for "sketchy" activities lol. The sauna in the wet area is a bit exposed to staff members who act like they're part of a special entrapment operation every single damn time.

So the crowd that time consists of 2-3 black dudes, 1 b*ttom latino which is a regular in that spa, 1 idk if interested mature latino guy, 1 jewish man, 1 mature white guy who just got scrubbed, several older korean grandpas, and this tall bald white man who honestly looks like goon or an MMA fighter.. At first.. But as I was inspecting his face, he does look cute, despite that big hot bod. Honestly, I was scared to talk to him while he was in the sauna. Most of the people were situated in the steam room, which I'm pretty sure, zero action since a lot of asian grandpas were going back and forth that room. 

I finally plucked up the courage to talk to him. Asked when did he got in the spa, does he usually go there, introduced my name and took his and all that. Honestly, his voice really sounded like a thug at first, but it toned down to almost like a "good boy" kinda voice lol. At that time, the small towel that covers his thing was basically sliding out. I feel like he's trying to signal me something, and his junior is starting to get a semi. Idk why but I just blurted out "do you want me to take care of that?" He kinda hesitated and like was unable to respond for a split second. Then he said "uhmm, idk, probably in the steam room?" so I said sure why not?

When we got inside, there's like a ton of patrons going back and forth the room, so obviously, that spot is a no go. I went out and circled a few times the wet area then showered, then when I saw him sitting back in the sauna, I went inside as well. It just so happened that the guy from the scrub section slipped in to the room as well. I got a little pissed and I whispered "I can't get a break" lol. And then "tsk'd".. The scrubbed guy maybe took the hint and since both of us weren't moving, he got up and went out. Then J (the bald guy) said "So what now?" I told him there's a dry sauna downstairs. Not long enough, a jewish guy was about to enter the room so I stood up and signalled him with my head to go out and get down to the second floor. Honestly, at that point, he became like a kid who was blindly following me, a 5'6 gay guy, and him, probably more than a 6 footer big guy. When we went downstairs, the dry sauna which is a great spot was occupied by two women. He said, so probably we just have to wait then?.. So we waited

I kinda made noises like coughing and scratching noises so those two ladies would be annoyed lol, which they did and they walked out. After that, he stood up, saying, what now? I instructed him to stand up against the wall on the left side of the door. He was trying to remove his shorts and I can really feel his tense body and I saw how scared he was as well. It was kinda cute that I was instructing him what to do. After which, obviously, I s*cked the life force out of him lol! He froze a bit and like in less than a minute he unloaded which I directed to my shirt. We forgot to bring towels. 

So here comes the concerning part: he became speechless after finishing. Like I can see in his face how confused he looks. Honestly I don't know if I would feel bad or something. To us gay guys, we consider these moments like conquests or thrill seeking trysts. Although, benefit of the doubt, idk if he's just pretending to be confused or acting or like really dumbfounded. He was catching his breath afterwards, and honestly I am trying to recall this part of this story and what he said word per word. I believe he said "this is exciting, but honestly, I'm a little confused right now" "Idk why, but I know I've only been with women" and then he sat there quietly. No kidding, just staring at the wall. 

That's when I felt the need to do a pep talk. I just told him that it's ok. You don't have to put labels to yourself. If you know to yourself that you like women and that you are straight, then that's who you are. Don't be hard on yourself. Sometimes, straight men are just curious. It's just sex. That doesn't define who you are. Sometimes, women can't do stuff that gay men or other men can and is great in doing so. I also told him that you know what, I've seen and have experienced fooling around with married men/committed men here in this spa and their wives or girlfriends were just downstairs. I am not proud of stating that last sentence to him. All I thought at that time is I need to comfort him. 

He was thanking me after that. Saying that he appreciated the way I assured him. Honestly tho, he really is cute lol! Like a big guy but handsome face. He's like a kid at heart. He actually wore his glasses prior to the ladies leaving the room earlier. I just noticed it while I was kneeling down, and praying (jk)... And then before he got out, he said he'll check out the entire place because he's new. I told him, ok, I'll roam around as well. And that if he needs another round, just tap me. 

I actually reserved a massage for 12 noon, prior to that we saw each other again, and he was waving at me, loudly saying "hi!" like he was about to approach me again. I waved back but I was busy with my phone and then I saw him back out. I feel like I should have talked to him a little bit more or took his number. Not to have a hook up buddy (although I wouldn't mind) but to help him navigate his thoughts while he is figuring out himself. 

Point is: and I am one of those (before) gay men as well, who thought that sexuality or gender identity only exists as Girl, boy, gay and lesbian. That if you perform gay sex, you are already considered as gay. But that experience earlier made me think that we should be kinder to people who are exploring with their sexuality. We shouldn't do labels as it might affect them psychologically and emotionally. 

And he is really cute lol! I should have taken his number 🥲

Again, benefit of the doubt, he has a right nipple ring, idk if that counts for something "unstraightly" lol... Jk but yeah, it is not hard to be KIND to others, straight gay bi trans whatever. 

Edited 3 hours ago by francisssgorg

[mtaabq]

Honestly, I rather admire you for being so bold as to offer to take care of his erection and then put forth the effort necessary to make that happen. Guys who are straight or curious? Speaking only for myself I avoid them based on past experiences but all the power to ya if that is a man whose company you might enjoy. Nipple ring? That means nothing as far as I’m concerned; we gays wore our baseball hats backwards then the straight guys did it. Same with earrings, then nipple rings/piercings and then other hardware. I’m too old and cynical and I know there will always be gay men attracted to straight/curious men; they see it as a challenge. You saw an opportunity to gratify and educate and there is nothing wrong, unusual or untoward in that. When men gather in a spa/sauna environment with minimal clothing shit like this is going to happen. AND I agree with you 100% that it is not difficult to be kind. 

Edited 2 hours ago by mtaabq
Making an important and necessary addition.