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Here's an analogy (and I'm sure there are others):
Does a psychotherapist only pretend to be interested in and care about his patients, just because that interest and caring has limits and occurs within a business transaction?  I don't think so.  Does that genuine caring and interest mean that the therapist would relax professional boundaries and start spending time with the client outside of paid sessions?  No.  I don't think that negates what happens during that patient's "hour," though.  Just as with escorts, though, I think it's important that clients acknowledge the limitations of the relationships.  With an escort, it's a "boyfriend experience while you are together" not a "boyfriend."
Psychotherapists have legal and ethical standards to follow, so they risk disciplinary action if they befriend a client outside of their professional relationship.  Escorts have no such external guidelines, so the way to know that you have developed an actual relationship (whether that be romantic/sexual or platonic/friendly) is that the two of you spend time together without any compensation exchanging hands.  If that hasn't happened, then it is truly nothing more than a business relationship even if there are fond feelings during the appointments. 

My answer is "it depends."
If the "white lie" was provided in order to cover up the fact that the guy just isn't attentive to time, I could overlook it as long as the delay wasn't too large.  In fact, hiring escorts was one of the things that caused me to become more relaxed in terms of arrival times since I had to admit that someone arriving right on time wasn't nearly as important to me as someone providing an excellent experience.  If the "white lie" is given to hide significant issues that would cause me to not want to spend time with the guy, then it matters. 

Here's an analogy (and I'm sure there are others):
Does a psychotherapist only pretend to be interested in and care about his patients, just because that interest and caring has limits and occurs within a business transaction?  I don't think so.  Does that genuine caring and interest mean that the therapist would relax professional boundaries and start spending time with the client outside of paid sessions?  No.  I don't think that negates what happens during that patient's "hour," though.  Just as with escorts, though, I think it's important that clients acknowledge the limitations of the relationships.  With an escort, it's a "boyfriend experience while you are together" not a "boyfriend."
Psychotherapists have legal and ethical standards to follow, so they risk disciplinary action if they befriend a client outside of their professional relationship.  Escorts have no such external guidelines, so the way to know that you have developed an actual relationship (whether that be romantic/sexual or platonic/friendly) is that the two of you spend time together without any compensation exchanging hands.  If that hasn't happened, then it is truly nothing more than a business relationship even if there are fond feelings during the appointments. 

Here's an analogy (and I'm sure there are others):
Does a psychotherapist only pretend to be interested in and care about his patients, just because that interest and caring has limits and occurs within a business transaction?  I don't think so.  Does that genuine caring and interest mean that the therapist would relax professional boundaries and start spending time with the client outside of paid sessions?  No.  I don't think that negates what happens during that patient's "hour," though.  Just as with escorts, though, I think it's important that clients acknowledge the limitations of the relationships.  With an escort, it's a "boyfriend experience while you are together" not a "boyfriend."
Psychotherapists have legal and ethical standards to follow, so they risk disciplinary action if they befriend a client outside of their professional relationship.  Escorts have no such external guidelines, so the way to know that you have developed an actual relationship (whether that be romantic/sexual or platonic/friendly) is that the two of you spend time together without any compensation exchanging hands.  If that hasn't happened, then it is truly nothing more than a business relationship even if there are fond feelings during the appointments. 

Here's an analogy (and I'm sure there are others):
Does a psychotherapist only pretend to be interested in and care about his patients, just because that interest and caring has limits and occurs within a business transaction?  I don't think so.  Does that genuine caring and interest mean that the therapist would relax professional boundaries and start spending time with the client outside of paid sessions?  No.  I don't think that negates what happens during that patient's "hour," though.  Just as with escorts, though, I think it's important that clients acknowledge the limitations of the relationships.  With an escort, it's a "boyfriend experience while you are together" not a "boyfriend."
Psychotherapists have legal and ethical standards to follow, so they risk disciplinary action if they befriend a client outside of their professional relationship.  Escorts have no such external guidelines, so the way to know that you have developed an actual relationship (whether that be romantic/sexual or platonic/friendly) is that the two of you spend time together without any compensation exchanging hands.  If that hasn't happened, then it is truly nothing more than a business relationship even if there are fond feelings during the appointments. 

My answer is "it depends."
If the "white lie" was provided in order to cover up the fact that the guy just isn't attentive to time, I could overlook it as long as the delay wasn't too large.  In fact, hiring escorts was one of the things that caused me to become more relaxed in terms of arrival times since I had to admit that someone arriving right on time wasn't nearly as important to me as someone providing an excellent experience.  If the "white lie" is given to hide significant issues that would cause me to not want to spend time with the guy, then it matters. 

There are lies that will have no effect on your activity with him (does it really matter whether he graduated from Yale?) and lies that can have a serious impact on you (does he tell you that he has no health issues when he knows he has a venereal disease?). Pay attention to the ones that matter, and take the others with a grain of salt.

My answer is "it depends."
If the "white lie" was provided in order to cover up the fact that the guy just isn't attentive to time, I could overlook it as long as the delay wasn't too large.  In fact, hiring escorts was one of the things that caused me to become more relaxed in terms of arrival times since I had to admit that someone arriving right on time wasn't nearly as important to me as someone providing an excellent experience.  If the "white lie" is given to hide significant issues that would cause me to not want to spend time with the guy, then it matters. 

My answer is "it depends."
If the "white lie" was provided in order to cover up the fact that the guy just isn't attentive to time, I could overlook it as long as the delay wasn't too large.  In fact, hiring escorts was one of the things that caused me to become more relaxed in terms of arrival times since I had to admit that someone arriving right on time wasn't nearly as important to me as someone providing an excellent experience.  If the "white lie" is given to hide significant issues that would cause me to not want to spend time with the guy, then it matters. 

My answer is "it depends."
If the "white lie" was provided in order to cover up the fact that the guy just isn't attentive to time, I could overlook it as long as the delay wasn't too large.  In fact, hiring escorts was one of the things that caused me to become more relaxed in terms of arrival times since I had to admit that someone arriving right on time wasn't nearly as important to me as someone providing an excellent experience.  If the "white lie" is given to hide significant issues that would cause me to not want to spend time with the guy, then it matters. 

My answer is "it depends."
If the "white lie" was provided in order to cover up the fact that the guy just isn't attentive to time, I could overlook it as long as the delay wasn't too large.  In fact, hiring escorts was one of the things that caused me to become more relaxed in terms of arrival times since I had to admit that someone arriving right on time wasn't nearly as important to me as someone providing an excellent experience.  If the "white lie" is given to hide significant issues that would cause me to not want to spend time with the guy, then it matters. 

The most popular restaurant, from what I could tell, was Cheesecake Factory.  At dinner time the dining area was always full and there were scores of people waiting outside for tables. I have only eaten at a Cheesecake Factory once and thought they food was overpriced and mediocre.  It boggles my mind that people would travel thousands of miles and then eat in a restaurant they could probably go to at home, but then I remind myself that a lot of USA citizens would rather go to a chain restaurant due to its predictability versus taking a chance on an unfamiliar place.

Wow.  Red Lobster management was even more stupid than I realized.  No time limit for an all-you-can-eat deal?  That might work if the price was a lot higher, but given that the deal was apparently close to 60% of other entrees it's no wonder that their dining rooms were filled with people who ate more shrimp than $20 could buy.
I happened to return last weekend to the Indian buffet I previously mentioned.  There is no time limit but most of the food on offer isn't what most people would pig out on, given it's so rich and spicy.  They also charge $45 per person.  I was a bit surprised at how many mimosas I drank (they were refilling my glass without me even asking for more, so I assume they must be using extremely cheap sparkling wine.

Just curious: Do you have an adjustable rate mortgage?  I'll agree that most things cost a lot more now (though my insurance hasn't spiked, either), but one of the many benefits of home ownership is having a fixed monthly payment for the life of the loan versus having one's rent go up every year.

We must live in alternate realities.  I was in Honolulu a few months ago and seafood is everywhere.  You can even buy poke (cut up raw fish in a sauce) at mom-and-pop versions of 7-11.  Yes, Hawaiian food is also big on meat (particularly grilled meats) but I wasn't aware of steak and rice being served everywhere.  Maybe we were just paying attention to different places.

We must live in alternate realities.  I was in Honolulu a few months ago and seafood is everywhere.  You can even buy poke (cut up raw fish in a sauce) at mom-and-pop versions of 7-11.  Yes, Hawaiian food is also big on meat (particularly grilled meats) but I wasn't aware of steak and rice being served everywhere.  Maybe we were just paying attention to different places.

We must live in alternate realities.  I was in Honolulu a few months ago and seafood is everywhere.  You can even buy poke (cut up raw fish in a sauce) at mom-and-pop versions of 7-11.  Yes, Hawaiian food is also big on meat (particularly grilled meats) but I wasn't aware of steak and rice being served everywhere.  Maybe we were just paying attention to different places.

As rvwsnd wrote, it's nothing new.  Sometimes people will respond with, "can you give us more of an idea what you are looking for?" and sometimes there are crickets.  It does seem odd to ask for recommendations without offering any detail about what one likes.  It would be like asking a sommelier which wine is the best without giving some indication what you like first.

I've had younger men roll their eyes at me or give me a hostile look for simply looking at them in a bar one too many times.  I completely accept that a 25 or 30 year old guy might not be interested in someone in his 60s since that's how I felt as well.  I do remember being friendly with men much older than me, though, in terms of having casual conversations so it always surprises me when someone is such a jerk about simply being admired a little.

I've had younger men roll their eyes at me or give me a hostile look for simply looking at them in a bar one too many times.  I completely accept that a 25 or 30 year old guy might not be interested in someone in his 60s since that's how I felt as well.  I do remember being friendly with men much older than me, though, in terms of having casual conversations so it always surprises me when someone is such a jerk about simply being admired a little.

I think your assumption "thus have no issues seeing men around our age" is wrong.  I think that a lot of men over 60 don't want to be sexual with men their own age, particularly if they are paying for it.  I am in my early 60s and even encountered this two decades ago, with a lot of men around my age looking for thirties or younger. 
This obviously isn't true for everyone, and maybe the split isn't even as high as 97/3, but preferring younger men is definitely a thing in the USA.  When I have traveled to Mexico, age discrimination doesn't seem nearly as prevalent.

I've had younger men roll their eyes at me or give me a hostile look for simply looking at them in a bar one too many times.  I completely accept that a 25 or 30 year old guy might not be interested in someone in his 60s since that's how I felt as well.  I do remember being friendly with men much older than me, though, in terms of having casual conversations so it always surprises me when someone is such a jerk about simply being admired a little.

As rvwsnd wrote, it's nothing new.  Sometimes people will respond with, "can you give us more of an idea what you are looking for?" and sometimes there are crickets.  It does seem odd to ask for recommendations without offering any detail about what one likes.  It would be like asking a sommelier which wine is the best without giving some indication what you like first.

I don't mean this as a personal attack, but I've noticed that you seem to have quite a negative view about clients as a whole.  So many of your posts seem to convey the notion that it's normal for escorts to be disgusted by the vast majority of men hiring them.  I'm sure that's true of some sex workers, but given the escorts I've known (some quite well, some just casually) I can definitely say that many aren't repulsed by the majority of men who hire them.  Just thought I'd put this observation out there because I don't know that you want to come across as insulting to the vast majority of people who post here.

You beat me to it by 17 minutes as that's what I was going to post.  I think that posting photos of these alleged scammers doesn't make much sense because the photos are almost certainly not of the men doing the scamming.
I'd even go out on a limb and say that while posting the phone number might be helpful on a short-term basis, once the scammers know the number they are using has been identified as a scammer they'll just get a different number.
The main benefit of a thread like is to simply remind people who may not know or may have forgotten that there are scammers out there and that if you are inclined to send anyone a deposit, at the very least make sure you are sending it to someone whom you know has a positive reputation.  I personally wouldn't pay anyone a deposit unless it was someone I had already met and I was booking a longer than 1-evening engagement, but I can sort-of understand people being willing to pay someone a deposit if their location requires some significant amount of travel and they cannot find an escort willing to travel to them without receiving some sort of earnest money in advance.