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I'm not sure why you think the previous response wasn't serious. How is anyone supposed to know what spa your question is about unless they know more about you than is immediately apparent? I even searched for "Korean Spa" in quotation marks to see if there was a sole spa with that name somewhere in the world and came up with only local (to me) Asian massage parlors. Surely you must understand that not giving a location in your title or first post is going to result in most, if not all, of us not knowing what spa you are asking about.

Android (at least Android 10 and above) has a screen recorder built into the OS. Windows has a screen recorder built in designed to record games, but you can use it to record any video on your screen. I've used the Windows screen recorder and know it works, but it does result in very large files (maybe that's due to my video resolution settings). I haven't used Android's built in screen recorder. I assume Apple has a similar feature on its devices, but I know next to nothing about Apple devices.

I should have been more clear. I definitely would NOT recommend responding to the attempted blackmailer. I meant that if someone you know asked you about it because the blackmailer actually followed through with their threat to expose you, you could simply say you have no idea why that person had your phone number. A stranger attempting to blackmail you online should be treated like spam email. Ignored.

I'm not sure what's confusing, but you've already been given all the advice you really need if you want to pursue becoming a masseur. Get certified in your state if you want to be a certified masseur. If you just want to do massage and not become certified, hopefully you'll at least get some basic massage training unless you aren't even intending to massage anyone and just focus on the "happy ending" part because one should know a little bit about doing a massage if one is offering that service. The advice to hire someone advertising on Rentmasseur in your area is a good one, if you haven't done that already. Hopefully the person you choose will be willing to give you a bit of information about how they operate after you've had a successful appointment with them.

I'd happily give my dentist a blow job if he'd let me.

Another angle not mentioned is how does having your contact information shared necessarily link you to having hired that escort? I get that if the escort has text exchanges with you or shows a phone log showing multiple phone calls to and from your number, those could be shared and might be damning for some people. But just because someone has your phone number? Wouldn't it be easy to just say, "I don't know why my phone number is among a list of 1,000 people on someone's phone," and leave it at that?

What I most notice from your two posts, MsgFantasy, is the negativity between you and your husband. I'm not saying that married couples have to be all "flowers and hearts" all of the time, but from your two posts it sounds like the two of you don't have much respect for one another. Am I getting the wrong impression? If so, I apologize. If not, then I think what would benefit you most is not attempting to fill a void with someone else but you and your husband talking more opening about your feelings with each other so you can improve your relationship. It sounds like you know you won't get what you want from him in terms of what you view as an ideal romantic relationship, but if you're going to remain married and living together at least you could be doing so with a more positive view of one other.

That's even worse and, frankly, far less common in my experience than guys who run suggestive ads who don't deliver on what they imply. It's why I started being more explicit about what I wanted when I was hiring erotic masseurs frequently.

I know I'm repeating myself, but I suggest not looking for "clues." In my experience, some guys charge high rates and give other "clues" about their service being highly erotic and then don't deliver anything remotely erotic. Instead you pay a premium price for a mediocre therapeutic only massage. Instead of looking for clues and making assumptions or guesses based on those clues, just ask some direct questions. Unless you are asking questions of someone who clearly states "therapeutic only," I doubt he'll be shocked.

Yes. Gone are the days that one can just drive over the border between Canada and the United States and basically just say you are traveling for the day/evening to shop or go out to eat or whatever. When I was a kid and young adult, I went to Windsor, Ontario a lot. No passport required and basically just a perfunctory visual inspection of the people in the car before they'd waive you through, both coming and going.

I haven't subscribed to any music streaming service beyond Amazon's basic level one that's bundled with Prime membership. I rarely listen to that, but I do know something about music streaming because music is my biggest hobby and I regularly participate in another forum dedicated to it. According to what I've read, a lot of these streaming services are just lazy. Their catalogs aren't curated by music lovers who know what they are listening to. Their catalogs are just files that some license holder has leased to them. Because of this and because of bad contracts a lot of artists signed, there are many examples where the streaming service has a later rerecording done by the original artist instead of their original "hit" version. I'm sure there's also some censorship going on, and that's been true for a long time. I have numerous cds where there was an "explicit" version and then a more "family friendly" censored version. Sometimes that involved masking certain words in certain songs, and other times certain songs were removed from albums because they were deemed too risque for the Walmart crowd. I agree with the suggestion to just rip your own music cds to play in your car. Why pay a monthly fee to stream music that you already own. I understand paying for streaming if you want access to new music and don't want to buy it as a download or on some physical medium, but if you are listening to stuff you already own it isn't hard to rip a cd and play the resultant mp3 files in your car.

I was giving an approximation when I said 20 years ago. I think Brent's first porn was released in 2003, and maybe his first Cobra video came out in 2004. Clearly he isn't 32 today since he wasn't 12 or even 14 in those videos, though we do know that Cobra had at least one performer who started working using a fake ID (Brent Corrrigan).

I've had the hots for him since I first saw him in some Cobra videos 20 years ago. I remember reading some interview with him many years ago where he talked about his relationship with his parents, among other things. Seemed like a thoughtful, grounded guy. If I was in his area and could afford him, I'd definitely contact him.

Maybe when the brand started out they had better quality. I think I bought my first Entenmann's product about 40 years ago and it was definitely mediocre at that point -- about the same as Hostess, another brand that obviously dominated in a business sense but that no one would hail for product quality.

A "city" just south of San Francisco.

It is surprising that someone who both escorts and produces OF porn would ignore a person who tipped him. Seems not very business smart since I assume the majority of subscribers just pay the monthly fee and don't tip. That being said, it seems like most OF content providers don't interact with fans beyond canned messages sent to all of their current or past subscribers. I think I've only ever had one actually write a personal reply to me.

Also note that the allegation about PV was that the cops will pick you up to shake you down if you are walking alone. I'm not saying that never happens in PV; I've certainly read about it before. I have to wonder whether I have been incredibly lucky as have my friends and all of the many acquaintances I've met during many trips to PV. I've never personally been harassed by the police there; my only interaction with law enforcement has been to walk by and acknowledge their presence with a nod or whatnot. I've never heard a first-hand account from someone who was harassed by the police. I only use a car service if I'm going to or from the airport, so that means I'm walking around day and night. Since I typically travel alone, I am frequently walking by myself. I've written here before: I feel much safer walking by myself in PV at midnight or 1:00 a.m. than I do where I live (San Francisco). If I'm out late here and at all intoxicated, I'd definitely get a Lyft home versus walking even 10 minutes. I don't even like walking around by myself at night when I'm totally sober.

I have co-workers with whom I am friendly while at work, but I don't consider them friends. I have one co-worker whom I regularly see out of work. We are friends. There is a difference. It's the same with escorts. There are several men I hired more than once and I enjoyed spending time with them, but I never saw them off the clock (apart from maybe a quick bit to eat after a session) and would never have considered them a friend. I also didn't give them things apart from their fee. With the one escort with whom I became friends, that was demonstrated by the nature of our interactions. It wasn't a declaration on the part of the escort that was manipulative. We just started doing things that friends would do -- go out to eat, go to a movie, chat on the phone. When I had no power for days after an earthquake, he allowed me to spend a night at his place so I could finally take a hot shower. When I lost my apartment due to a fire, he allowed me to use his place when he was out of town. In fact, he was more generous towards me in that latter crisis time than some other men I considered friends, one of whom basically refused to let me sleep on his living room floor and another who let me know, when my apartment building was still on fire, that he could only host me that night. I'm still friends with that former escort all these years later whereas some of those other friends are no longer part of my life.

Previous discussion of him under the name M_Cassidy. Searching his phone number found an expired ad for Florida using that name, and I think the other thread here mentions him being in New York. I don't think anyone in the other thread met him; it was just discussion about a high asking price, his lack of responsiveness, and his stunning photos.

Maybe he's hoping women will hire him. There's a guy on Friendboy in San Francisco who explicitly states "women only." Ads like these stick out like sore thumbs since most men who advertise as escorts market themselves as either gay or bisexual, but I doubt there's anything in Renmen's or Friendboy's Terms of Service that excludes straight men looking for female clients from placing ads.

The main difference between developing a friendship with an escort versus another type of service provider is that one is unlikely to get to know much about another type of service provider while he is providing the service, so there isn't much opportunity for a friendship to develop. Assuming both parties are open to it, it makes sense to me that escorts and clients would sometimes develop friendships as they got to know one other because getting to know one another is frequently part of the client/escort transaction. I've only ever developed a friendship with one escort, but we had both our time on-the-clock and off-the-clock. I paid my regular rate for the former and money didn't exchange hands for the latter. Sometimes I hired him for an overnight. Other times we went out to eat or to a movie and would informally trade turns as to who paid. I would have never expected sex to become part of those meetings, though.

In my twenties, I was so horny that I had no trouble either maintaining an erection or getting a new one after having an orgasm. I'd have no trouble getting it up and cumming three or four times per day. I don't remember when that changed -- sometime in my thirties, I'd guess. But I have met men much older than that whose sex drive is so strong that they can also have an orgasm and keep going, so I think this is an individual thing. The bottom line (pun intended) is that if you want to be an escort who advertises as a top, then don't take more clients than you can manage. If that's one per day for you, then respect your limit.

The reason the information online is vague is that this isn't a one size fits all situation. I'm sure in some jurisdictions the prosecution and potential penalty is much more extreme. Then there are the specifics of the situation that could impact sentencing -- first "offense" or not; any hint of exploitation (i.e., sex trafficking); etc. If you are a "john" who is busted for the first time for attempting to hire an adult -- probably a fine and probation, at most. The bottom line is that if a client is that concerned about law enforcement, two course of action are prudent: either don't hire at all, or hire only well known guys with known contact information so you know you aren't getting caught in a "sting." If you really are in New York, I doubt you have reason to be concerned about law enforcement unless you do something stupid. The bigger risk is probably getting ripped off.

I think it's a matter of priorities as well as staffing. I suppose a police department could focus on stings of men and women who advertise on line, or run ads themselves to catch prospective clients who contact them. We know that that has happened on occasion. The reality is that I don't think most people would react positively to a police department focusing its resources on that, particularly if there were other crimes happening that were being ignored. That is particularly true in more politically liberal places.

I don't understand this paragraph: "Then there's the openly blatant con artists. One guy, I was purely willing to hire, but I thought it reasonable to ask him why 3 of his 15 RM reviews were bad. He told me he was insulted by the question. Luckily, he was honest enough to cancel the session before I would have." If you read his reviews and were concerned that 20% of them were bad, why contact him at all? If it's because you wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, wouldn't there be a better way to approach the question than basically putting him on the defensive with the demand to explain himself? Perhaps your perception that he was a "blatant con artist" came through and that contributed to his feeling insulted by you. I would have been insulted as well. As to the rate question, I don't think it's insulting or rude for someone to ask for whatever he wants just like it isn't rude of clients to decline to pay more than they think is reasonable. What is rude is either person copping an attitude because they didn't get what they wanted from the other person.