big-n-tall

I haven't encountered a masseur with a drastic body change, but there are a few escorts I frequent who are bodybuilders to various degrees. They can go from muscled and ripped to beefy and stocky/chubby depending on their bulking/seasonal cycles. However, I may be kinda weird, but usually once I find someone attractive... even if their bodies change drastically, I still find them attractive. What usually attracts me to a guy is their body type (muscled or athletic), but their attitude and how they treat me can override that. One guy I still see, when we first met, he was a juice head (steroids user--for those who don't know) bodybuilding stripper. He retired from stripping and stopped taking 'roids. His body changed drastically and he got rather chubby. This kind of made him self-conscious and he was afraid/reluctant to see me. When I finally convinced him to see me again, he told me he figured I wouldn't be as attracted to him. He was wrong. lol! He still was the great guy I knew with the sexy raspy voice, amazing ass, great kisser, etc. He just had a belly and bigger butt. A few years after being a bit chubby he started working out again. He never returned to using 'roids. Although he wasn't as muscular as when we first met his body is rockin'. Through those body changes, my attraction to him never wavered. The only thing that probably would make me stop seeing him is if his attitude changed for the negative. With that said, if someone's physicality changed and you didn't like the change... it's your choice to move on. You have no obligation to keep seeing the guy. If you can't get over the physical change, then find someone you find attractive and hire them instead.

To answer your question directly… yes sone providers treat their regulars differently. They will sometimes make regulars a priority over someone new. I will say this treatment can vary from people to people and overtime. I think good providers will try to treat each encounter with a regular or non regular equally. Although with familiarity a lot of things can change both good and bad. The good providers, who become regulars, will always try to keep the subsequent encounters engaging. Leave them wanting more, as it were. As you get to know each other some may be more affectionate or willing to try or do things they won’t do normally with new clients. For, example, one of my long standing regulars, I have seen many times more than a decade. We’ve gone on extended trips pretty much yearly since about 2017. Over time his rate for those extended trips have dropped significantly. Some guys will lower their rates or not charge what they typically charge non-regulars for hourly, overnights, etc. This same provider has a fantasy about being tied up. He hasn’t asked anyone else to do it because he doesn’t feel safe with random guys he doesn’t know well. Yet another guy, who has retired from escorting, mentioned that I and another client are the only guys he still sees. In my case, he said he enjoys the times we spend together and our encounters are never work for him. With that said you do have providers, who once they have you hooked, there can be a diminished return every subsequent meeting. Or maybe if not gradually it may be abrupt after many meetings. In general, once people get more comfortable with each other, there can be an ease with both of the participants… a relaxing of the rules they set. However, there are no assurances this ease will happen for each provider and client. This same familiarity with a regular may bring a staleness as well. Both parties could get bored with encounters if either don’t strive to keep things fresh or somewhat interesting. In a nutshell… there are no guarantees a provider will treat a regular any better or worse than a non-regular. In my experience, they do treat their regulars differently… often better one way or another.

The providers (2 specifically) I see the most and go extended trips with, I have given them their entire rate before the trip. However, I know these guys extremely well and for years (one more than a decade). As previous posters mentioned, you can carry that amount through tsa or you can give the guy a partial payment now and the rest when you get to your destination.

I won't hire if a guy, no matter how much I want to see him, if kissing isn't listed. Kissing is my trigger and gets me going faster than anything. If they list kissing, but are cagey about it... I won't hire. Many years ago, when I was relatively new to this hobby and didn't know about this site, I hired a provider who had really nice pics in his ad. We texted back and forth a bit to arrange things. I asked him directly did he kiss. He said he did... that he loved doing it. Well the pics weren't his. I should have left then, but I was new at this and didn't know what to do. He was attractive and had a nice build but it wasn't the guy from the pics. Anyway, he just laid on the bed and expected me just to service him. Every time I went in for a kiss, he would turn his head. I ended the session after about a half hour. Gave him his fee and went on my way. I haven't ran into this situation since that episode. There is a local who kept adding kissing and then taking it out of his intos. So when I contacted him and asked about kissing, he said kissing depended on the situation. I never hired him. It's a shame because he is handsome with a great body.

Honestly, (knock on wood) I haven't had a bad experience with a provider/masseur in many years. I mainly stick to regulars with an occasional new hire here and there. Maybe I just have gotten really good at determining who I might click with but all the new guys have been outstanding. I guess the closest things to a bad experience is having a few new potential hires cancel on me abruptly. The only other thing I can think of is a masseur/escort I hired previously, forgot that our next meeting was going to be full service. So we just did an erotic massage instead. He was very apologetic about not being prepared. I haven't hired since, but that's more about not really having the time to see him when I visit his area.

When I asked him May of last year he said 450 per hour and 2000 for an overnight. So inflation. 😁

I frequently check to see if Nico pops up on RM. No luck yet. 😁

He set his profile as "This user is temporarily not available." Took down his photos. He was online as of 3 days ago. I'm certain he knows his add is expired. As I and @Simon Suraci mentioned, he might not be looking into seeing clients now or at the very least only on a limited basis for whatever reason.

I know he travels this time of year but he still would keep his ad up, even though he was out of the country. The last time I talked to him he was thinking about retiring in a year or 2. Not saying that’s the reason his ad is down. However, he was on yesterday. So I don’t think he’s done as a provider just yet.

I think he keeps slightly changing his ad name. Which is why the ad seems to keep disappearing. I can't speak on whether he's into escorting or not.

Same.

I would say if you see someone more than once over a given amount of time… you’re a regular. Even if it’s like once a year. I don’t necessarily think someone giving me their real name is something I’d use to determine if they were a regular. I’ve had guys I met on the first meeting tell me their real name and other personal info. Also sometimes I’ll bring someone to me for the first time for an overnight or longer. If I buy their plane or train ticket, they usually tell me their names. Also I have seen some providers repeatedly over years and still don’t know their real names or full names.

I haven't hired anyone since the beginning of 2026. That changes next week where I'm doing a weekend with a regular. I'm seeing another regular at the end of January but just for a couple hours. I'm going on a trip in February and will meet with a current regular/friend and a retired escort/porn actor turned friend. However, in both those instances there will be no bedroom activity... it's just a plutonic hang in both cases.

For me, it depends on a number of factors. One of my frequent regulars, when he comes to visit me, I'll try to book a hotel with multiple beds or separate rooms. It's not that I don't like cuddling next to him, but I know he works hard at his day job and I want to be in as much comfort as possible when he visits. He seems to appreciate this a lot and shows it. We have gone on trips places where we share a bed and that works out too. For me, my biggest issue is I can run hot. Being snuggled up to someone all night, if the room isn't cool enough, can be unbearable. Although some guys love that I am so physically warm and it makes them want to snuggle more (especially in winter). 😱 😆 If I'm sharing a bed, I make sure it's the largest the hotel offers. I will definitely cuddle/snuggle but I can't do it all night usually. A large bed allows us to have our sides, but we can cuddle or whatever else any time.

Instead of assuming... ask him. Many on this forum make assumptions and never progress to any meet up because they believe something they never do anything about to verify.

It depends... mainly on what the masseur is doing and where he's doing it. It usually doesn't happen until I'm laying on my back. If he's kneading deep into any part of my body and its causing even the slightest discomfort, I'm not aroused. If I'm aroused before then I'll lose it once that deep massaging starts. My erogenous zones are on or near my head. So if he's gently playing with my ears; massaging my neck; breathing heavy on my neck or ears; or gently brushing my lips... I'm up. Shea in Orlando was amazing at this. If the masseur rubs/brushes my nether regions frequently... it can happen. Or if the guy uses his whole body and rubs up and down my body while I'm laying on my stomach... it can happen. The one masseur, who no matter what he did when he did it, I was always immediately aroused, sadly retired. I was aroused just greeting him at the door. I mean he would embrace you with a deep gripping hug and growl in your ear. To each his own, and different people will be aroused by different things during a massage.

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Well his ad says he join RM Dec 28... if real, he's too new to get any proper feedback from the forum.

I'm going to add another... Jeid Vine.

I'm certain he had an rentmen ad up briefly. It might still be up but under another name.

90 mins and on the rare occasion offers more than 90... 2 hrs.

I’m curious… why’d you think anyone, who may still be in contact with David, would give you his personal contact information if the guy is retired? You asking for his real name and mentioning where he possibly may live in his retirement probably would make anyone who knows prone not to answer.

No you shouldn’t be worried. He’s a professional and good at massage and good at the sensual elements of it. He responds very well to how you react to the massage. However, if you go in expecting more than massage, that’s where your mileage may vary. With any masseur, don’t go in expecting more than a massage with sensual/erotic (if that’s what you went for). If more happens, awesome, but if not… enjoy what is offered.

Probably the most prominent reason providers have little to no reviews even though they have been advertising for a while is Rentmen changed their policies. Only paid members can leave a review. I think this policy change happened before 2019 but I may be mistaken. I truly believe most clients who use RM aren’t paying members. Once the policy change happened I noticed less reviews being posted. Well at least for the guys I’ve seen in person. The other reasons could be just about anything. Maybe the provider doesn’t want reviews. I knew a few guys for whatever reason, just weren’t keen on reviews. Maybe clients are fearful of privacy issues and are just overtly cautious about doing anything to connect them to the site or escorting. So they don’t write a review. In some cases the provider can have RM delete a bad review. As for your other questions, again, it could be just about anything. Maybe the ad is fake and using someone else’s pics. They get reported and the ad is taken down. Maybe the provider alters his ad name. The ad remains active but it seems like it disappears because of the name changed. Sometimes maybe the provider figures this line of work isn’t what he thought it would be. Maybe even the providers finds enough clients or sugar daddy and shuts the ad down. Who knows.

It really depends on the provider. Their desired times can range from daybreak to late at night. Most I know prefer the evening. i have hired someone and met as early as 8am and as late as midnight.