Nue2thegame

You'll find that resentment towards tourists in general in the neighborhoods of EVERY city, including in the US.  Nobody wants to live next door to or in the same building as a vacation rental where the owner is not present to address noise and crime.

When I was younger, I saved all of that thinking it would make it easier for my biographer. Alas, it doesn’t look like I’ll have a biographer and I have little inclination to go back and look at my own stuff. There must be many landfills full of people’s junk, dead and alive. 

Politics rarely comes up in discussions with locals until a relationship is already well established. The only place that I ever really felt verbally abused because I was from the US was France and I speak fluent French.  It wasn’t rudeness but overt hostility. Infrequent but more than once or twice and politics never entered the discussion. 

I traveled to several of these same cities last year, too, and, other than Amsterdam,  I had the same experience that you did. In Amsterdam, we encountered some resentment, possibly due to the local perception of what competing with tourists for the limited amount of short term rental housing is doing to the market. I’ll know soon if this year is any different 

Politics rarely comes up in discussions with locals until a relationship is already well established. The only place that I ever really felt verbally abused because I was from the US was France and I speak fluent French.  It wasn’t rudeness but overt hostility. Infrequent but more than once or twice and politics never entered the discussion. 

Politics rarely comes up in discussions with locals until a relationship is already well established. The only place that I ever really felt verbally abused because I was from the US was France and I speak fluent French.  It wasn’t rudeness but overt hostility. Infrequent but more than once or twice and politics never entered the discussion. 

I was just in Rome and London for work and am going back in June. The Americans that vacation in Europe tend to be affluent and liberal. Europeans know this and don’t hold U.S. tourists responsible for the current geopolitical situation. 

Apparently he is out to some people whether he wants to be or not. 
 
In the spirit of full disclosure since I started this thread,  I probably ought to reveal the number of partners I've had over the last two months or so. 
 
As I recall there have been 3. Let's call them A, B, and C. 
 
A is an 'fbud'. I met him from a 'meet-up/hook-up' website last October.  We've been seeing each other on a semi-routine basis over the last several months. It's been nice. I've only ever had one other fbud relationship. And that was 8 years ago. I wasn't sure I was ever going to be lucky enough to have another one.
 We don't just have sex. We watch TV together and have been out to eat several times. Last night we watched TV,  held hands, and kissed a bit. 
 
B is a 'suckbuddy' that I met off of Growlr about 2 years ago. We finally met about a year ago. We've only met for 'Clintonian' sex. In this scenario (in case anyone is curious), I'm acting the part of Clinton, and he's Ms. Lewinski but in a totally masculine way (hoping that's not TMI).
 
With him, while I wouldn't mind seeing him outside the bedroom, it hasn't happened. We were seeing each other fairly regularly (once a week) for about 6 to 9 months. But due to his schedule/life we've probably only seen each other once or twice over the last three months. The last time I saw him was the last part of March. 
 
C is a one night-possibly a two-night stand (one night now and one long ago). It happened last week as I was leaving a friend's house after having dinner with him and his partner. He lives about 30 miles from me. After I left his house, I started checking the apps because occasionally I've had good luck with the guys in his area. Well, I ended up checking the apps for about two hours. I was finally getting ready to shut them down and go home when this guy texts me on Scruff. 
 
He was kind of cute. So I decided I'd meet him. I get there. Things proceed as they do.  He asked me if we had met before. I told him I didn't think so, but on the other hand, I had met someone in the area most likely before Covid for a one time meeting.  While I didn't remember what that guy looked like, it's possible it was him. But if it was, it was a very unsatisfactory meeting back then. He basically got off and didn't do a lot for helping me. I left "unfulfilled"
And if it was him, history repeated itself. We started  with a Clintonian scenario-again I'm Clinton. He then proceeds to tell me he was drinking all evening before I arrived. Basically he was all 'eff-ed' up. He was developing 'the spins.' As things hadn't really progressed that far,  I put on my clothes and left with neither of us 'fulfilled.'
 
If this was the same guy I met years ago-and just because of circumstances I'm going to assume it is-he now has two strikes against him. I don't plan on giving him an opportunity for a third strike. 
 
And that's my current "like-life."
 
 

Hilarious but it’s also an effective message to clients re:provider turn-offs. 

This is an unlikely scenario. If the client doesn’t specifically request sex or drugs in the messaging, there’s no evidence to support such a charge. I doubt that any serious law enforcement agency would waste resources on such an operation so unlikely to yield results. 

This is an unlikely scenario. If the client doesn’t specifically request sex or drugs in the messaging, there’s no evidence to support such a charge. I doubt that any serious law enforcement agency would waste resources on such an operation so unlikely to yield results. 

Sexual health clinics are your friend, there are clinics focussed on gay men, and others that have a wider remit. They have the knowledge and will be more than willing to offer you any advice you ask for, and most likely advice you didn't know you needed. I go to one run by the ACT government (it's in Canberra's main hospital), and the service they offer is exemplary. The practitioners I have seen have all been women (just happened that way, there are men there too), most have been registered nurses or nurse practitioners and one was a doctor, and all of them were quite comfortable talking about M2M sex issues. (The doctor basically told me, rather than suggested, that I was getting PrEP (for use on occurrence rather than continuously) when I had hesitated [don't @ me}.)

It's pretty normal yeah. You are not messaging the wrong guys. Most you might get asked is what you like/want to do if you don't open with that yourself. How you want to pay. Whether you want to come to the provider or have the provider come to you if you don't make that clear yourself first. Some of the newer/younger provider guys actually will ask you for a photo to see if you're attractive or not, but that's actually very much not the norm for most male providers. Most are totally prepared to see you sight unseen.
They don't! But the odds are low. Female providers just are more likely targets for law enforcement, physical/sexual assault, human trafficking, and they are more at risk for STDs because women have less protections against them outside of vaccinations and condom use. So they have to put in more effort to protect themselves against all of that.
Male providers who see male clients and the male clients seeking them on the other hand are much smaller portion of the sex work industry and as such are less likely to be targeted by law enforcement. Male providers are less likely to be victims of assault by client (not to say it never happens, it's just less likely). Also, lots of gay/bi men are used to anonymous meetups or meeting total strangers for sex based on  none, one, or a few pics in the middle of the night at places they've never been via hookup apps like Grindr or Sniffies. So that same cavalierness transfers to this.
Not sure if you're just new to hiring male providers, or totally new to men in general...
But STDs are somewhat less of a concern because men who have sex with men specifically have access to medications like PrEP as well as Doxy Pep that drastically lower our risk of catching STDs. These medications are targeted at the the men who have sex with men community because we're a smaller community that is having more sex, so when STDs do go around they spread in the community much faster. So the focus on STD spread suppression and medical study and preventative treatment dissemination is generally focused on the LGBTQ+ community because we had the AIDS epidemic in the 80s/90s.
And simultaneously most of those medications are not tested on or approved for women yet. So with female providers, all the onus of STD mitigation is largely on the client. They have to trust you'll bring condoms or use the ones they give you or trust you on whatever your last test results you had that you tell them, with not much else to fall back on.
Male providers can take these medications on their own and be more in control of the amount of risk they're taking when they engage in sexual activity. PrEP is a pill you take once a day and is 99% effective against preventing HIV infection. And there are newly available injection versions. One is a once every 2 months shot and the other is a twice a year shot. Both with the same effectiveness as the once a day pill version.
Doxy Pep is a pill much like the morning after pill/Plan B that you take after a sexual encounter. You have up to 72 hours to take it but the closer you take it to when the sex happened the better it works. It lowers chances of getting syphilis, gonorrhea, and chlamydia by 50-80%. Those and most other STDs are curable or treatable or are something you won't get because you likely received a vaccine for it as a child, like HPV.
Gaining and keeping access to PrEP and Doxy Pep requires that you get tested for STDs every 3 months too. So people who do catch something are finding out quickly and getting treated sooner which ultimately lowers spread overall. So we're at a point where many male providers and men who have sex with men just in general feel ok to just take the pills/shot and have their fun/do their job with no questions asked. They accept the much reduced risk.
There are concerns that STDs are becoming resistant to these drugs (there's a particularly strain of gonorrhea that is becoming an issue, but also just last year a new highly effective treatment was FDA approved), but it's something the medical field is closely watching out for. Which is part of why access to PrEP/Doxy Pep requires you be tested regularly so they can keep track of infection spikes and such. Not much else to be done about it till it actually happens in a more serious way beyond that.
So, yeah male providers just don't really ask many questions. It just makes the initial interaction/setup way more efficient, but it probably feels sketchy as hell when you're new to this side of it as a client. That's absolutely how i felt when i was new to this.

I’ve never hired a female provider, but most male providers don’t ask for any information. I’ve never had one ask. I suspect it’s because women are inherently more vulnerable in this situation. 

This is an unlikely scenario. If the client doesn’t specifically request sex or drugs in the messaging, there’s no evidence to support such a charge. I doubt that any serious law enforcement agency would waste resources on such an operation so unlikely to yield results. 

I haven’t seen him but I wouldn’t kick him out of bed. He is very attractive and, IMHO, you don’t develop and maintain a body like that or present an appealing narrative if you are seriously into PNP.  Listing 30+  “I am into” items, as he has done, suggests that he is open minded and broadly tolerant but not necessarily an enthusiast.  For example, I might say that I was into fisting. Even though I’ve never done it, I’d be willing to try it on you (my fist, your ass). I have seen a few men who offer vanilla to wild experiences and since my preferences are more on the vanilla side, I never saw their other version. Clearly, there is another group that PNP is part of their SOP and many, but I’m sure not all, have been and identified and commented on here. It goes without saying that we should all exercise caution with all encounters. 

This is an unlikely scenario. If the client doesn’t specifically request sex or drugs in the messaging, there’s no evidence to support such a charge. I doubt that any serious law enforcement agency would waste resources on such an operation so unlikely to yield results. 

My spreadsheet is classic percale.

Could we stop with the attempts to make HIV positive sound glamorous. It is still life changing today. You need to find a good doctor. You are on meds for the rest of your life. You have constant labs and blood work. And the mental health challenges are brutal. I have seen and helped many friends through this.  

Medically inaccurate assessment, but extra points awarded for bottom-shaming. 

My brother is a very closeted man. He claims he's asexual, and that gays are going to hell.  We haven't spoken in 13 years.
Recently, one of his co- workers and I hooked up at a gay men's camping trip.  After we hooked up, the co-worker then looked at my name tag and saw my last name, then asked "Are you related to [my brother's name]?". I replied, "Yes".  His co-worker's response was "When is that boy ever going to come out of the closet?!"

My brother and I are very close in age to one another. 
He's allegedly had zero sexual partners. 
I proudly admit I've had a few thousand.  I'm doing my part to boost the family average since his number is so low (We all make sacrifices to help our family 😉)

Wise move. I heard flights there are all messed up right now, although the train from Istanbul may still be running.

That’s why I postponed my trip to Tehran. 

I don't worry about Europe.  I do give pause before traveling to a Muslim country, but because I'm gay not because of my national origin.  I don't wear any identifying clothing that would differentiate me as American/Australian/Canadian/British/Mexican/Italian, etc.   But I'm sure they would spot me inadvertantly checking out a handsome man as he walked by me.