Rayphactor

I've always wanted a gum-job. I have only heard great things about how it feels.

Also in my experience every man's body is a little bit unique. I have met a lot of older men who are up front apologetic about how their body currently works due to some surgery/injury/whatever that has happened in the past.

This stuff never really bothers me and I am well-aware that in time my body will change and get quirks as I get older, too. I think anyone who would give you a hard time is a little insecure or has not yet had any sort of injury that can check their ego. 

My assumption is that 99.99999% of clients only focus on the sex; I may belong to that 0.00001% group of people who care about the emotional & psychological aspects of the interactions.  Therefore, whenever a provider presents himself with authenticity, the arousal factor for me will be multiplied infinitely.  I figure if I want people to show me their true selves, I have to take the steps to be real myself first.  That’s why I am no longer creating a make-belief identity when hiring.

I am very grateful to the various people who saved the forum and kept it going!  Not only do I find it highly entertaining, it has helped me find exciting new providers and avoid disappointments!  Thank you for all you do.
Is there an intent to possibly bring back the reviews?  Or to create a new review site?  

Getting the "little things right" is really important.    So -- clean and tidy place, if there is music make it soft and unobtrusive, have a bottle of water available, an obvious place to hang your clothes, soft lighting, absolutely no interruptions from phone or email pings, and constant checking on comfort.    I will also appreciate an offer to use the restroom before we begin.   

If I were in your shoes I'd bring this up during the initial texts with a provider. I'd simply say "I love providing oral but I have full mouth dentures which I usually prefer to remove when giving oral. Would you be ok with that during our encounter?" You never want to spring anything at all on a provider when he is already there and the session has begun. It just makes the whole session a lot more enjoyable and relaxing knowing you have everything squared away beforehand. And if the provider is not ok with that or would make them uncomfortable best to know beforehand and not remove your dentures or move on to another provider.

It’s not unusual or strange. I’m often asked to find another guy to work with by clients. Obviously it has to be at the client’s request, I would never foist it on them. I usually send the details of guys who I work with who I know are good (I don’t work with guys I’ve not met before) and ask the client to pick who he likes and then I try to set it up for the client. It’s part of the service and saves the client a lot of hassle. They pay me the total quoted and I settle up with the other guy. The client gets two guys who work well together, focused on the client, and doesn’t have to do much coordination. 

I haven't been so fortunate. Where I live the overwhelming majority are focused on providing the "no strings attched, treat you like dirt" dominant top fantasy. And I love (and long for) intimate, sappy, gazing in each other's eyes, cuddle sessions with cute, insatiable bottoms. 

Apparently asking for real, good, full body cuddles has been overwhelmingly strange to most providers when I ask for them. Almost all were not very good nor comfortable at cuddling and could only do it for about 5 minutes before getting bored or uncomfortable. 
And yes, I do explicitly make it very clear that cuddling is really important to me when enquiring about a provider's services. 

One big thing I filter on these days is lucidity in their replies. If they text like they can barely comprehend or process basic communication, I will stop the conversation quite fast. 
The main reasons I pay for escorts is ease of scheduling and convenience.

Funny, I thought it was supposed to be pro-good-provider AND pro-good-client. We should be sharing the good and the bad, warnings, best practices, and experiences. 
I find it pretty easy to tell when a provider has an ego by the way he speaks of clients.  I honestly don't see the same animosity toward providers, because we, as clients, love them. Some providers seem to need clients rather than want them.

Wow. I'm sorry you had a negative experience. I use the site as a guide. When researching providers, I look for reviews/feedback ... but use my critical thinking skills to weigh each review to determine if there is creditability. When in doubt, I'll DM the forum member to ask questions. The vast majority of the information and advice I've received on this forum, and Daddy's original site, has been fantastic and truly helpful.

Wow. I'm sorry you had a negative experience. I use the site as a guide. When researching providers, I look for reviews/feedback ... but use my critical thinking skills to weigh each review to determine if there is creditability. When in doubt, I'll DM the forum member to ask questions. The vast majority of the information and advice I've received on this forum, and Daddy's original site, has been fantastic and truly helpful.

A complaint about the Complaint Box. Delicious. 

Once I find a few providers I like, I stick with them, and try to hire them wherever finances allow.  Every now and then I’ll try someone new but I always come back to my established regulars.  Right now I’ve got one gentleman whom I’ve hired about 15 times and another that I discovered here on CoM and have hired four times.  Unless one of them leaves the business, I probably won’t be shopping around anytime soon.  To me, hiring is very intimate, both physically and mentally, so once trust is established, I’ll hire the guys I’ve come to know.  My selfish hope is that I’ll help keep them in business…

Just started watching recently, already caught up on season two. I really enjoy the character Dana Evans - the charge nurse - portrayed by Katherine LaNasa.

Limited experience here, only hired 5 providers in 10 years. Just recently found a provider I want to be a regular with due to the connection/chemistry. I only hire when I travel for work, and with virtual meetings, I'm doing a hell of a lot less travelling than I did when I was young. I live in a rural area, so no opportunity to find a local provider that matches my wants.

Limited experience here, only hired 5 providers in 10 years. Just recently found a provider I want to be a regular with due to the connection/chemistry. I only hire when I travel for work, and with virtual meetings, I'm doing a hell of a lot less travelling than I did when I was young. I live in a rural area, so no opportunity to find a local provider that matches my wants.

Limited experience here, only hired 5 providers in 10 years. Just recently found a provider I want to be a regular with due to the connection/chemistry. I only hire when I travel for work, and with virtual meetings, I'm doing a hell of a lot less travelling than I did when I was young. I live in a rural area, so no opportunity to find a local provider that matches my wants.

They do some content together and escort together.  Bf is an adorable geeky twink, and while not as experienced as Zayne, did everything (or at least tried) I asked.  My advice is to do all the booking through Zayne though, his communication is top notch and professional, but, he has trained his bf well on providing a good experience for the client.  I’m so happy that others experienced him similarly. He took such good care of me that I’m glad to send business his way.

I, too, haven't experienced any trouble like the op describes.

Well… the longer I stay with a Client the more important it is to have a sense of my overhead. For example, if I’m with a client for two months, I charge differently and I use a formulary because there are every day expenses like car insurance and health insurance, phone, and Internet, basic life expenses that I need to pay for even if I’m with a client and they’re paying for my food and traveling while I am with them. 
 Depreciation on things like phones and computers, and there’s advertising, Dental and optical all of that. So, I need to be able to cover my monthly expenses if I’m traveling with somebody for a very long period of time. Especially considering that I’m not charging them my 24 hour rate because that would just be incredibly expensive and a greater expense than even the trip we’re going on. So, what I charge has to be fair to them so that they can actually hire me but also for to me so that I actually covering my daily living expenses outside of the higher and also making sort of a profit~ 
 handles longer trips, the price really fluctuates, depending on if I am paying upfront for certain expenses and being reimbursed, and what they are covering during the trip. Longer trips like that it’s really unique to that particular trip.
 Shorter yet still extended periods of time like a few days or a week or two weeks are much less intricate and fall into a price point that is closer lead to an hourly or per diem rate
 
 

 

Yikes. I think I need to up my game.  In the last 10 years, I've hired five providers and spent around $3,000. When I feel I've earned a reward for my good deeds, and have the funds, I hire. I've had a mixed bag of good and poor providers.

Yikes. I think I need to up my game.  In the last 10 years, I've hired five providers and spent around $3,000. When I feel I've earned a reward for my good deeds, and have the funds, I hire. I've had a mixed bag of good and poor providers.

It’s an interesting question. When I’m reading it I’m also interpreting different ways to read it. I’m thinking about what the expenditure is for a Client strictly for the meeting, but then there’s also preparation, time and money before the meeting actually takes place, including advertising or looking on advertisements… And then there’s the same questions from the point of view of the provider: what is their investment being hired and for each particular appointment. It’s fair to assess that there is financial, time and other investment as a provider for any given meeting.
 Since I’m a provider, it’s important for me to look at both questions from the various perspectives, especially since I travel with Clients and sometimes I’m with them anywhere from a few days to a couple of months at a time… But even for the shorter appointments, the various types of cost are present. 
 so, it’s important for me to know what my client is investing when hiring me, but also it’s a consideration on what they are budgeting for with regards to their month or their year because it may include hiring other lads for various periods of time… And I need to be sensitive about their needs there~ it’s something that I openly discussed with a number of my Clients whether it’s their needs or mine~ When a client understands their own budget and hiring needs, my experience shows me that it often benefits their overall experience. When they understand my needs, it also helps them understand why things cost what they do or whether they don’t cost what they don’t. It’s not all about justifying financial needs and ability but also it addresses some very important things about time and availability.

Yikes. I think I need to up my game.  In the last 10 years, I've hired five providers and spent around $3,000. When I feel I've earned a reward for my good deeds, and have the funds, I hire. I've had a mixed bag of good and poor providers.