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I experienced this when I thought I had found the "perfect" provider and didn't see a need to hire others. He was so exceptional at his craft and checked boxes I hadn't even considered - he set the bar high on what I seek from providers. But it was a short whirlwind because the provider did exactly that ... didn't put forth an effort when I attempted to book our next session.  So, after giving him some runway, I had to walk away.
Some of the best advice I've received. I'm on the search to find a handful of providers instead of just one or two.

There are 4 things that a provider can do that won’t have me return.
In no particular order:
- seeming personality switch. I had a well known provider (I’d known for years and saw frequently) break off contact with me after I wouldn’t join his onlyfans account. I was having major car issues and told him I’d have to wait to it was resolved before I’d add any extra expense. He kept asking and I told him the same thing. He eventually stopped all contact and wouldn’t respond to me. There were other things leading up to that where he went from being sweet to being rather accusatory.
- overtly aggressive trying to get me to rehire. I have a crazy work schedule sometimes. Also I only book when I have the spare funds to do so. One local provider would constantly ask to meet up even though I told him I’d contact him when I could. Yet he would still contact me asking. It got old real fast. It turned me off and I stopped seeing him.
- saying you do something and then don’t do it. I saw a guy for massage. I later found out he also escorted. He listed kissing in his escort ad and I asked him to verify that he did… to which he said, yes. I made an appointment. During the session we seemed to be having a good time. I go in for kiss and he turns his head. I try again and same result. I finished the session, had a good time even, but I won’t hire him again (at least not as an escort) even though I find him hella attractive.
- lack of enthusiasm. I don’t expect to be treated like I’m a godsend, but if a guy just sits there and doesn’t respond or interact in some way no matter what I do. I definitely won’t try for a second meeting.
- honorable mention. Trying to upsell me during the middle of the action. It really depends on their approach whether I get turned off or not. There was a masseur in Florida who was very engaged in our session and hot as hell. He waited to the end of the erotic massage and asked if I wanted to continue and go further. I had the funds, so I did.

Another example, (which has a few from my list) a very attractive new hire turned me off. He had kissing in his ad and I asked to verify. I also told him I wanted to top him. When we met, early on, I felt maybe this wasn’t going to be a match. He was very nice though so I pressed on. He had an incredible body and when I went to touch him he said, “I just got back from the gym. So my body is sore.” I thought ok, then why did you not tell me beforehand and we could have reschedule. Anyway, I pressed on being careful not to grab him very hard. He made no attempts to do anything. I had to initiate everything. When I asked him to kiss me he reluctantly did so and only light pecks. While i was playing with him body as delicately as I could, he remarks that penetration would be extra. At the moment, I lost my excitement. Shortly afterwards he asked me if he did anything wrong. I just said no, got dressed, paid him and left. I definitely won’t see him ever again.

Frequently in life, it's the smallest gestures that leave the longest-lasting and most powerful impact — especially when they are unexpected.

Here's something that was new to me and made me feel very special. In the middle of a long session with a new-to-me provider, we decided to get out and get something to eat. When we left my building, he took my hand. I assumed at first he was just giving me a gentle touch, but no: it became clear that he actually wanted to hold hands. And so we walked all the way to our destination holding hands, and it felt absolutely marvelous.

Man, congrats on finding that. I'm still searching for the younger provider who enjoys older guys. I thought I had found one, who I thought had a good head on his shoulders, only to be disappointed by ghosting.
 
So well said! My world has a heavy cognitive and emotional workload, which takes a toll on my well-being. This hobby serves as my sanctuary to refresh and rejuvenate.
- Authentic pillow talk
- Positive vibes and enthusiasm
- Honestly and transparency
- Makes me feel desirable
- Being present
- An after-session text thanking me for my business

Precisely. Recent experience: first time lunch meeting with a young escort and he kisses me like I am his bf. Isn't this a wonderful illusion worth paying for?

If you see a provider or masseur you're interested in do a search on the forum to see if there's a thread with info on them. Or start a thread if there's not. Stick to ones that come well reviewed and recommended by your fellow clients on here.

I nominate this to be Company of Men's slogan

Same here. Although I am discovering some of my preferred provider personas don't have the depth, capacity, or desire to act as a mentor during the paid sessions.

Man, congrats on finding that. I'm still searching for the younger provider who enjoys older guys. I thought I had found one, who I thought had a good head on his shoulders, only to be disappointed by ghosting.
 
So well said! My world has a heavy cognitive and emotional workload, which takes a toll on my well-being. This hobby serves as my sanctuary to refresh and rejuvenate.
- Authentic pillow talk
- Positive vibes and enthusiasm
- Honestly and transparency
- Makes me feel desirable
- Being present
- An after-session text thanking me for my business

Man, congrats on finding that. I'm still searching for the younger provider who enjoys older guys. I thought I had found one, who I thought had a good head on his shoulders, only to be disappointed by ghosting.
 
So well said! My world has a heavy cognitive and emotional workload, which takes a toll on my well-being. This hobby serves as my sanctuary to refresh and rejuvenate.
- Authentic pillow talk
- Positive vibes and enthusiasm
- Honestly and transparency
- Makes me feel desirable
- Being present
- An after-session text thanking me for my business

Man, congrats on finding that. I'm still searching for the younger provider who enjoys older guys. I thought I had found one, who I thought had a good head on his shoulders, only to be disappointed by ghosting.
 
So well said! My world has a heavy cognitive and emotional workload, which takes a toll on my well-being. This hobby serves as my sanctuary to refresh and rejuvenate.
- Authentic pillow talk
- Positive vibes and enthusiasm
- Honestly and transparency
- Makes me feel desirable
- Being present
- An after-session text thanking me for my business

Man, congrats on finding that. I'm still searching for the younger provider who enjoys older guys. I thought I had found one, who I thought had a good head on his shoulders, only to be disappointed by ghosting.
 
So well said! My world has a heavy cognitive and emotional workload, which takes a toll on my well-being. This hobby serves as my sanctuary to refresh and rejuvenate.
- Authentic pillow talk
- Positive vibes and enthusiasm
- Honestly and transparency
- Makes me feel desirable
- Being present
- An after-session text thanking me for my business

The eyes and sincerity of tone tell it all

I wouldn't assume they're not into it. There are many young men, even ones who are conventionally attractive and fit, who are into older men, overweight men, men who are not conventionally attractive. And many of the best escorts are those who are able to find something attractive in all their clients. I'm an empath so it's incredibly hard to fake enthusiasm and have me believe it. The guys we see regularly are those who are genuinely enjoying our time together, whether or not they'd pick us up at a bar or on Grindr. 
My husband and I are constantly approached by younger men (too young for us, usually). And while we're both conventionally attractive, we're not movie star handsome, and we don't have perfect bodies. 
I love this podcast, which is aimed toward older guys, particularly those in open relationships. This episode features three escorts/content creators and they talk about why they love their work, their love of older guys, etc. It's worth a listen to get another perspective besides the overarching gay media narrative that you must be 28 and have 3 percent body fat to be attractive. 
 

Same here. Although I am discovering some of my preferred provider personas don't have the depth, capacity, or desire to act as a mentor during the paid sessions.

My recent conversation with my financial advisor ended with this:   Since you are not interested particularly in leaving money behind, the only advice I have for you is to start spending more.     So there you have it.  I am helping more people and hiring when the mood strikes.  

The way you’ve described it is in the present tense.   Is he actually finding what he targets?   Despite the cynicism expressed here, I bet he is… (and I wouldn’t mind having his contact info either 😉)
You’re assuming old can’t be good looking? 😳😛  Hell, as we age, half the challenge is just managing our weight and being appropriately sartorial in our presentation 
 
 

Holy shit, PK. So glad you were able to revive him. I tend to agree, no more poppers for you providers. 

So I'm disqualified. Wish some of the younger providers could see the benefits of having older gentlemen as regular clients.

So I'm disqualified. Wish some of the younger providers could see the benefits of having older gentlemen as regular clients.

The business, such as it is, will be always a target of selective moral outrage. Rentboy made some lasting careers in spite of being forced down. 
I recall I liked the format, and was easy to use for contact prior to smartphones.

Rentmen really appreciated Rentboy's demise. 
Plus not being based in the US has its advantages. 

I wish Rentboy was on the Internet Archive, but last time I tried it wasn't.  :-(

I loved Rentboy. The years 2000-2014 were the heyday of hot providers!