Nightowl

Ageism is alive and well here on CoM. I complained about it over a year ago but was ignored.

I had the same experience. He asked no questions and required no explanations. All I had to do was request it. My age was enough for him.

He’s worth it.

The first time I hired a masseur for a sensual massage I didn’t know the rules and let my hands explore whatever parts of his body were in reach. I apologized later on for being grabby and he said he would be insulted if clients *didn’t* fondle him. I didn’t take it as license to grope anyone else but it certainly put me at ease with that particular masseur.

You could try Hims.

Skill is the driver for me. Young, old, it makes no difference to me if he knows what he’s doing. My arousal comes from what he does, not what he looks like.

Weekdays, midday.

My view is that it’s none of anyone’s business whether I’ve read their message.

I’ve run into the same issue. Kissing is on the menu in their ads but when you meet up their jaws are locked shut.

How do you know it’s not my thing?

What hair was he cutting?

It sounds like this is more an issue of trust and communication between you and your husband. It might be helped by professional counseling.

I’m not sure country of origin has any relevance but if one is concerned they can carry three tape measures, all made in different countries, measure three times, and take the average. If the provider comes up short, arbitration would certainly be an option as would presenting the case to Judge Judy.

Just carry a tape measure with you. If he doesn’t measure up demand a discount.

How long does sugaring last?

Thanks. I’m in the DC area. Would love to have someone do it—sounds hot—but probably not as my main grooming program.

I like my boys to be smooth but am weary of the nicks and cuts from a razor. Any recommendations on an electric shaver that does the job well? Manscaped Lawnmower? Something else? The boys thank you for the recommendations. (For those who tend to respond with links to previous discussions: please don’t unless the discussion is recent)

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I had a similar situation a few decades ago in the doorless showers of a health club. The guy in the stall opposite me was hard, jerking, and staring at me. I watched but didn’t engage. Like you, getting sexual in a locker room wasn’t something I was going to do.

However, unlike shopping and fine dining, this hobby can carry risks. For guys on the DL or in relationships that are not open, those risks could be devastating.

The “damage” if you want to call it that, is either that the situation identifies Karen as someone who hires sex workers and/or identifies the provider as a sex worker. The only difference between c) and b) is that c) doesn’t imply anything about accepting life lessons, attitudes toward the chatroom peer or anything else. Ignoring it might just be a way to move on and remove the spotlight from any further scrutiny of the situation.. As for the continuation of your scenario—and I mean no offense—my brain hurts just reading it.

c) Ignore it. The damage has been done.

I wouldn’t say I’m addicted but about two days after a session I start thinking about scheduling the next one…

Good question. I’d like to know too. My gaydar isn’t very accurate.

I only do incall and carefully research the provider’s name, phone and the address he gives me. If anything appears out of whack, I cancel. Providers presumably research me as well. So far, every guy I’ve hired has turned out to be exactly who he said he was and I’ve never felt unsafe. I might be a little anxious before the first meeting with a new provider but when things go okay, the next meeting is fine.