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It's not an instant deal breaker until I know what the offense was. If it is any type of theft I would think twice. If it was a violent act against someone then that's a definite buh -bye.

It looks like he’s in Vegas now. Not sure since when but I may seem him next week. These photos also match the account on RMen by the same name. I’m hoping the pictures are accurate.

New to San Jose or possibly just passing through. Anyone have any interaction with him? Are these his real pics?
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New to San Jose or possibly just passing through. Anyone have any interaction with him? Are these his real pics?
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You don’t have to insult me, I was being honest about my experience. Go ahead and hire him then, doesn’t change anything for me. Take care.  

I truly like big guys, and older guys, and big older guys. Grandpa bears have their fans! 

This is good to hear as he comes to San Jose quite regularly.
Call it a self esteem issue or something else but I always wonder if the provider is enjoying himself. I'm far from a big bear but rather a senior pocket gay, only 5'2", 135 and quite average looking. Fortunately I never experienced any negative engagements but it's always in the back of my mind. Being a senior is one reason why I choose older providers, preferably 40+, as I feel like there may be a better connection and they understand what it is like to get older. I tend to steer away from younger guys, even though there are so many hot ones, because I think they would not be interested and it would show in there performance.
I probably just need to work this out with a good therapist. That said I have a couple of regulars that I think like me as a client.🤞

I would advise to contact SWOP and they can give you real world on the ground help.  (Sex Workers Outreach Program) 
 
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I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. What you describe is serious, it sounds like stalking and harassment and you deserve to feel safe. Based on best practices for situations like this, here are some steps I would strongly recommend:
1. Cut off all contact. Block his phone number, email, social media, and any other channels. Don’t respond to messages or calls, even if they’re apologetic or manipulative. If he creates new accounts or uses unknown numbers, document them but do not engage. If you haven’t already, you may send a single clear message such as “Do not contact me again” (ideally via email so it’s traceable) and then stop responding entirely.
2. Document everything. Keep a detailed log of every incident, dates, times, screenshots, voicemails, emails, and any evidence that he knows your address or has compromising information. This documentation is vital if you need to involve law enforcement.
3. Make a safety plan. Since he knows where you live, be prepared in case of an unexpected visit. If he ever shows up or makes direct threats, call 911 immediately.
Regarding your question about authorities in different counties. Yes, they can do more than just take a report, though it depends on the specifics. And yes, you can absolutely file a restraining order (also called a protective order or order of protection) against someone you've never lived with, as long as their behavior meets the criteria for stalking, harassment, or threats; living together isn't required.

Fair enough but I think it’s bad form for a provider to contact me as this one did. I’m purposely not naming him here bc I think he’s a good provider. Not for me, but others have had good experiences, he has a lot of good reviews, and I’ve heard nice things from clients I’m friendly with. 

Thanks guys for your feedback.  I definitely like the idea of letting them know how I want to feel rather than spelling out specifics (unless there is really something specific that I want). 

Can I volunteer? 😁 I love groups.

In my experience with groups it does matter if you have the right ratio of tops to bottoms. 3:2 tops to bottoms is optimal, in my opinion, so the tops get to take a rest every now and then! But in your case, maybe you'd like to be the only top or the only bottom? I don't think you'll have much of an issue with the providers being able to work together--as professionals, they should be able to make it work. And they should make sure you get plenty of attention as patron.

I do think making the rules clear in advance is a must, but it's probably fun if there aren't too many so you can see what possibilities arise naturally. There are so many fun combinations of dicks and holes!

I'm planning for a small group experience, me and three other providers, and would appreciate some provider feedback.  I have already had one-on-one sessions with two of the providers and those two providers also know one another and are fine with working with one another. The third guy has been recommended by one of the two, someone that he has worked with before. Two hours are being set aside for the session.  I will be the center of attention, a small gangbang/cumdump.
I have several different scenarios/roleplay ideas. Question, should I offer up the different scenarios and let the providers choose one or should I simply let things simply evolve organically (greet one another, exchange pleasantries and   My preference is to provide different scenarios and let them choose one and surprise me (anticipating what I am going to walk into would be very exciting) but I also don't want to complicate things for the guys. Thoughts?

I’m excited for you, @Boaxxx. Sounds like you’re going to have a great time! You already have providers that know and work with one another, are comfortable with one another. That’s 75% of the effort right there. As far as scripting and choreographing, I find it’s best to leave a loose structure with general direction and let the guys take it from there, unless you have any specific roleplay fantasies or specific fetish things you want to make sure they include.
Speaking from experience, one of my clients has a long and very specific list of things he wants me and the other 2-5 guys to do to one another and to him. He’s hired me many times for these groups so I know how they go down. He gets hung up on the details ahead of the meeting, micromanaging me asking me to make sure everyone knows exactly what they are doing. I do.
Then, in the moment, he throws most of it out the window because the energy is such that he wants to proceed with how things are naturally going. And he also asks for various things in the moment, like being in a director’s chair. All the effort I put in to choreograph things (per his request) is wasted because in the moment he just wants to go with the flow, or changes his mind from what he said he wanted.
Some general direction is good. Telling your providers how you want to feel is a good start, because they can get creative with how to execute the prompt. I advise against giving them several different scenarios because they become focused on which one to do rather than how to do the one well.
If you want to be “surprised” in some way, maybe give them some room to do things you aren’t expecting. Choosing from a list, you won’t really be surprised by much. “Oh, ok, I see they are doing scenario #2…” and then your expectations kick in for #2. If the surprise aspect is truly important, maybe give them the wheel and ask to be surprised. That way you lack the expectations and leaves more room for genuine surprise.
It sounds like you basically know what you want though. Some general direction for one scene is good. In the moment you can always ask for a shift, for them to do something. “Hand gag me”, “Suck on his ______”, “Spank me harder”, etc. Moans, groans, saying yes, oh yeah, I like that, are all good ways to gently push the session in the direction you want it to go without having to be extremely specific or interrupt the pace.
You will feel things in the moment. You will be surprised by one thing or another. You want the wiggle room to let your feelings lead the way. It’s a feedback loop. If these guys are good, they will pick up on your cues, respond to your body, and listen when you make a request. Then it gratifies you, and your positive feedback encourages them to push further, and so on and so forth.
Don’t be afraid to ask for things in the moment, and communicate positive feedback, even in the most basic ways with a grunt or groan. You will feel things and you can’t always anticipate ahead of time how you will feel in the moment. You want to make the most of the experience in the moment, so minimal choreographing is best. Just my opinion.
Please let us know how it goes!
P.S. if it works out well, you can always do a repeat with some or all of the same guys, but ask for a different scenario on your wishlist the next time. That way, they are focused on creatively fulfilling one prompt, rather than focusing on which prompt to choose in the first place.

Make sure the 3 guys can work well together, sounds like you’ve done that. Then let them know what you definitely don’t want (hate your toes being sucked? Tell them about it). Avoid setting out too prescriptive a list of what you do want because that can make it too choreographed. Tell them how you want to feel rather than what you want done. As in I want to feel like I’m your plaything, I want to feel slutty or whatever. They know how to make that happen because it’s their job. If you say I want to be DP’d while having my throat used then that becomes the fixation and it’s likely to make your session too focused on that activity. Let it happen naturally, it’s so much better. 

It depends on how specific these scenarios are. If it’s simple mechanics: you want to get DP’d while getting face fucked, that’s simple enough. If you’re looking for more of a role play situation, you probably need to articulate them fairly well. 

I don’t have much experience setting up group sessions, but one thing I’ve learned is that it’s crucial to lay out clear ground rules for both, what you want to happen and what you don’t. At the end of the day, you’re the client, so it’s in your best interest to make your expectations crystal clear from the start.

This is good to hear as he comes to San Jose quite regularly.
Call it a self esteem issue or something else but I always wonder if the provider is enjoying himself. I'm far from a big bear but rather a senior pocket gay, only 5'2", 135 and quite average looking. Fortunately I never experienced any negative engagements but it's always in the back of my mind. Being a senior is one reason why I choose older providers, preferably 40+, as I feel like there may be a better connection and they understand what it is like to get older. I tend to steer away from younger guys, even though there are so many hot ones, because I think they would not be interested and it would show in there performance.
I probably just need to work this out with a good therapist. That said I have a couple of regulars that I think like me as a client.🤞

I had a 4-hand session with Alejandro and his partner Skylarexperience  and it wasn't much of an experience or a touch.  They work out of a studio that they rent for their in-call sessions rather than their own place which I had no issue with. However they were late to their studio by about 20 minutes even after reconfirming the appointment that morning. Because they were late they were not able to prepare the room which includes heat so the room was quite chilly at the beginning. Alejandro has limited massage skills/training so his part of the massage was more or less light rubbing. Skylar is definitely the more experienced one and Alejandro just kind of followed along. They allowed MT and provided a HE however they just didn't seem like they were into it but rather something that had to be included. While Alejandro is good looking (Skyler is too but I preferred Alejandro) I couldn't really get into it either and just kind of went with the flow. Clearly I was not impressed and won't be giving them another try. 

I Uber (1 to 2 hours most weekday mornings) and use that as my "fun" money in addition to other discretionary, unforseen and known monthly/quarterly expenses (reoccurring charitable contributions, new tires, oil changes, plumbing/electrical problems, etc). I keep this money in a separate account and live off of my regular salary (mortgage, utilities, insurance, food, investments, etc). Based on how much I make each month I plan my hiring practices accordingly which varies from every four to eight weeks.  This works great for me and keeps me grounded. There are times, like all of us, when I get urges/desires that I need to control by taking matters into my own hands. Fortunately after some personal massage time those urges are released and I find that I just saved myself anywhere from $200 - $800. I also have depression and from time to time I simply lose desire which strangely but honestly saves me money and helps to build up my Uber account. 😉
My sessions average around $250 an hour and I primarily hire for massages. I personally would never pay $500 an hour for one guy and I'm not even sure I would do $400. If and when I do pay more it is due to a longer session, a specific request or an additional person.

You are a guest in this country, and as such, you are expected to follow the rules, much like when you are a guest at someone's home. If you don't follow the rules, expect to get booted out.
If your student visa doesn't allow you to work in this country, there is nothing to think about or discuss - YOU SHOULD NOT WORK. PERIOD.
If you do, and get caught, be prepared to face the consequences. That could include spending time at Alligator Alcatraz or similar detention center, deportation, and the possibility of never being allowed back into this country.
Bozo noticed your reference to future job opportunities. Is that employment in the USA? Do you really expect to be here on a student visa, violate the conditions of the visa, and still be allowed to remain here AND be allowed to seek employment legally?
Remember, you are a guest in this country.
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Personally, I think you’re going about this line of work for the wrong reasons.
Monetizing your sex life, for one. This phrase neatly summarizes the sentiment discussed in so many other threads on these forums. It just doesn’t work. A much larger number of men would do it if that’s all it took.
For another, your primary interest is in the income, not meeting needs you personally are well suited to fulfill. Nothing wrong taking a fair income for delivering high value services to a willing clientele; however, it takes a lot to provide m4m services effectively and be successful. More than looks, and certainly you need experience and talent either on the massage table, in the bedroom, or both. Plus marketing and business savvy, patience, emotional maturity, boundaries, people skills, and many other soft skills.
You’re going about it quite casually. This is serious work. To do it well IMHO, you need to do it for the right reasons (beyond a quick buck). This is about meeting very real human needs, not Grindr with the slight caveat of money changing hands. It takes empathy, compassion, and a selfless, service oriented mindset to do a good job. Missing these big picture items, you will likely burn out, and not succeed. Then you’re just another mediocre provider of many, the likes of which the men here pick apart mercilessly and publicly for both shallow and legitimate reasons. Then you inevitably fade into the background and quit 6-24 months after starting. Don’t be that guy.
To succeed and sustain, you need to keep on your best game and continue to grow and get better. A short sighted, half ass effort in this biz is immediately apparent to everyone, from the ads you post to the first impression you impart to every new client in person.
Lastly, I personally feel you are already in a much too vulnerable position being in the US on any visa, student or otherwise. It’s one thing being a US citizen and kicked out of your apartment lease because your landlord knows or suspects you are a masseur or sex worker. That sucks, but it’s quite another scale of consequence to be kicked out of the country for the same. I wouldn’t jeopardize your life. I need to refrain from saying anything further to expand this point, because it wouldn’t conform to the forum guidelines.
Be careful, is all. You already have an excellent opportunity studying here doing something you presumably have a long term goal to fulfill. I would hate to see something bad happen to you or to miss out on your dreams over a quick buck side hustle your heart was never truly into in the first place.
Just my take. Do what you will. If you want to do it anyway, some of the others here have already made some good points about not showing your face, not using your real name, taking steps for plausible deniability, shifting some risk onto others by tagging along on 4-hand gigs, etc.
There’s more to it than all that, for instance how to properly declare your income and pay taxes, and how to set up a business entity to do so legally. In the end, it’s not always about what you are actually doing, but what Uncle Sam discovers about his missing slice of your pie that catches up to you and ruins you, but that’s a whole other subject. My advice is don’t go there. Be safe. Enjoy the incredible opportunities you already have. I too was a dirt poor college student many moons ago. I was disciplined. I budgeted. I made it work. Money won’t always be so tight.

Tha'ts hysterical @ApexNomad. but in all seriousness. Although I don't personally like communicating anything sexual (where it can be proven that I am hiring someone for sex)...but if you must be descriptive, then I would suggest your first communications be about your sexual INTERESTS and leave the dirty talk for later. 
"Hi I am interested in your profile and wanted to know if you're free for a session on Tuesday at 10:00pm. I am a dominant top who's into oral, anal and spanking. Hope to hear back from you. thanks." 
Always keep it classy until your provider takes the lead in dirty talk.