soloyo215

I read the room.  I have one client that gets on the phone and calls his wife after.  That’s my que to leave.  Most wanna cuddle a little bit though afterward.  Or see me cum.  I get that a lot actually guys wanting to watch me cum after they do.  I have heard of some clients getting upset if the worker ends the time right after the client cums, so unless I get a que to leave I stay for the whole time booked regardless of when he cums.  

In the US, I imagine no "place" that offers massage will discuss anything about extras on phone. And businesses offering any service meet demand. M4M Massage is not high in demand. At a high-end day spa, there will be male workers on staff, but hankypanky costs them their job.  
 
Can I ask why you don't just contact a listed provider and travel to him? Sounds like his home facility won't be worse than this place, and you can verify him in photos as "hombre"...

This the guy? 
https://rent.men/MarcoPoloBig

If that's child pornography, I'm the reencarnation of the Mother Theresa. He's either looking for attention, money, both, or needs some therapy. Just signs of the times we're living.

I wouldn't feel weird, but I'd let him decide if he wants to say hello or acknowledge me. Some providers prefer not to have any contact with clients in public, and I respect that. Never experienced seeing a provider outside the business setting regularly, so I don't know how I'd react.

Listen I love this group, you guys are amazing, but please do not share my PRIVATE MESSAGES with masseurs you meet. A few months ago, I met a regular client who said to me "did you post something on this forum that was negative?" I said what are you talking about. He said he met a client who SHOWED HIM MY RESPONSE to a message about his work. I was shocked. I said " don't have clue and if it was negative then why am I here?" Please be careful with what is shared here. Private messages should remain so. No mad just concerned.
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I probably wouldn’t hire someone I see often on the outside.  There’s a certain appeal in seeing someone only in situations where we are going to be together.  Seeing him at the gym would destroy that.  I also keep my “normal” life and “hiring” life completely separate.  I don’t think I would want them to overlap.

Just my experience. The vast majority of the young guys I've been with (hired or hookups) are "too much enthusiasm, too little essence". I don't discard younger guys, but I scrutinize them more when hiring or hooking up, even now when I am their "daddy".
The rest of the daddy thing I just see as a preference the same way that some prefer certain physical attributes or activities.

Nope if someone is hiring me a man to have sex with them they are not straight. Are some of them married with kids sure. But they are bi. Or at the very least heteroflexible. Class repeat after me… if you have sex with a man and you are a man you are not straight. 

The more you tell us, the better we can do! Not everyone likes the same thing, so the term 'better' is a bit subjective.

I mean, not to be a smart ass, but you guys advertise as, escorts, that's what the word actually means, to accompany someone. Think of it as people who go to peep show places to actually buy DVDs.

More likely than not you don't know. That's kind of the point of blocking you, letting you go and you figure it out.
It can become a sensitive topic. Some people do not handle rejection too well, and in some instances it can escalate into violence and stalking. A psycho who gets a message of being blocked might react violently and might cause harm to the person who blocked.

Regardless, if he blocked you, leave him alone. As of 2024, there are 4,103,612,213 males in the world. You can skip that one.

I find that unprofessional. Some of us can't care less about discussing politics, and as a client, the provider is supposed to provide an environment that leads to what he's paying for. The provider's job is to give the client a good time, not to make a political point.

Wow. But get this. I've heard some groups allow sex offenders become teachers, or businessmen, or even clergy.

I make it less awkward (and I think the provider too), by conversing about something. I hand the money while talking or listening, and that's that.

I make it less awkward (and I think the provider too), by conversing about something. I hand the money while talking or listening, and that's that.

Interesting reading. I personally don't like the way the story is told. Seems biased towards presenting only the salacious side of the story and portraying only him as the wrongdoer. I'd like to know the background of the accuser, and also how Equinox ended up hiring that guy without a background check (or hiring him anyway after a background check).

I think I understand. I relate to that situation. That is one of the main reasons why I rarely bottom. Very few tops (in my experience) are not that great at taking the time when someone is not into the power top or aggressive top thing. Some of us have to be led to like it, and some tops are just not that experienced in that.
I agree about communicating that with him, especially now that you have had encounters with him. I'd suggest that you can frame it as trying something different or new, as expanding your range of activities. No need to mention anything about him not knowing how to do things. He actually might know and he's just not sure what approach works best for you. You can use your history to improve your encounters. If he's a young man, chances are that he's still in the learning curve of the business. Properly communicated, he can become the top of your dreams.
Aside from just communicating what/how you prefer, how you present it can also help it become a better way of connecting with him. Turn the negative into a positive.
Best.

In my dating history, I've had guys hung up on things that I've shared with them, on religion, family history, my last name, my ethnicities, my change of careers and past relationships. Some have become quite annoying, repeating and bringing up the topic. To me that has been a reason to end it.
I've brought the question directly to them, asking why he keeps bringing up the topic, and if there's anything that bothers him about it. Never got a direct answer, and what I get from the whole interaction is that he's being passive-aggressively, showing that he has an issue with me. What issue? I do not know, but also don't care to find out. A person who is unable to get that he's making me uncomfortable by constantly bringing up a given topic, and continues doing so in spite of my boundaries, shows that he might be a boundary trespasses, being disrespectful from the get go.
Just my experience, I can't tell that that's the case with you and your date. I'd suggest to just ask him what's the deal with him bringing up the matter.

In my dating history, I've had guys hung up on things that I've shared with them, on religion, family history, my last name, my ethnicities, my change of careers and past relationships. Some have become quite annoying, repeating and bringing up the topic. To me that has been a reason to end it.
I've brought the question directly to them, asking why he keeps bringing up the topic, and if there's anything that bothers him about it. Never got a direct answer, and what I get from the whole interaction is that he's being passive-aggressively, showing that he has an issue with me. What issue? I do not know, but also don't care to find out. A person who is unable to get that he's making me uncomfortable by constantly bringing up a given topic, and continues doing so in spite of my boundaries, shows that he might be a boundary trespasses, being disrespectful from the get go.
Just my experience, I can't tell that that's the case with you and your date. I'd suggest to just ask him what's the deal with him bringing up the matter.

I don't think it's something I would share in a work situation, or even in casual conversation with friends. 
I prefer using it only as the subject-changer at the uncomfortable family Thanksgiving dinner table. Embellishing the newest story, gesturing with a turkey leg, always does the trick. 

A topic near and dear to my heart. LOL I love a daddy, though some days I feel more like a granddaddy myself. 😂 Why providers list it, I can’t say. For me, whether as a client or in my personal life, a daddy is a mix of both. Sure, the physical presence is appealing, but what really resonates is the behavior: that grounded blend of authority, steadiness, and care. Age can play a role, but for me it’s more about the energy someone brings into the dynamic.

Send him to me. I’ll teach him. 😉 
But seriously though, bottoming is crucial to learn what feels good so that a top can become excellent. Just like giving head, it takes practice.
Also, there’s the subtle art of reading your bottom’s cues, reactions, expressions, and being sensitive to his particular needs. The bottom can tell his top to do these things, but it takes a true pleaser top and an empath to develop excellent topping skills.

I have a provider i hire regularly who is insanely attractive and very my type, but he doesn't top me the way i need him to because i think he just doesn't know how to... He's like a lot of a certain type of dom top who just pound hard and fast at one speed and they think that's kinda all they have to do 🫣. I know that works for a lot of bottom guys cause they more so are into the aggression vibe of it i feel. But i need a top who can go slow or fast and use different rhythms and angles. When they go fast and just that speed the whole time, i kinda just go numb to it after a while and it never gets me off. I'm feeling incredibly awkward about how best to approach talking to this provider about how to top better/differently without it being insulting or feeling like I'm telling him how to do his job. How would you guys approach this?