soloyo215

Like using a toilet, sometimes a hobby is something you just do for yourself. 

I might have responded…”No, just looking for a different kind of asshole.”

I first contact providers using the Rent Men chat feature cause I don't like giving out my phone number until we connect.  I chatted briefly with a provider and then asked what his rate was.  He replied with his rate then 2.5 hours later he added "Budget shopping?"  I thought this was a little rude to ask.   I simply had not longed in to Rent Men to read his reply within 2.5 hours and he is 2 hours away so a visit would require some planning.  I was interested in traveling to see him but this response turned me off to seeing him.  

On his Instagram page..maybe.
This kid ain't no "model", by ANY standards.

Ok, so I'm not really a grindr user, probably only for less than a year now. I just started using it since when I moved here in the US. Finding hook ups is hard especially to an asian guy like me. And I'm the type of person who doesn't send face pic for two reasons: first, I'm paranoid about everything concerning privacy. Even if it's like an expiring photo or something. And second, I have a lot of body insecurities, from head to toe. 
So, finding somebody who would agree to meet up anonymously is like very rare. And I chatted with this one guy who seems to have a decent description in his profile and he's black. I've never had a BBC before so like my excitement is through the roof. My first rookie mistake that day was agreeing to meet up in his place and not mine. My thoughts are like, what if he's a scammer or thief that can rob me? Somethin like that. So he told me his address, and when I got there, it seems like your typical grandparent's house. When I saw him, he looks decent and like your typical bear body type. So when he saw me, he didn't say anything at all, he just signaled me to keep quiet and go straight upstairs. That means he lives in his parent's house.... And ok I entered the door, which btw is unhinged from the wall, and I saw this horrific dumpster like garbage everywhere. It seems like a college dorm room x10000 omg... He said sorry for all the mess and I was pretending to be ok. But it's like a huge turn off for me. Luckily when he undressed, that's when I saw his huge snake, like porn like dick. I'm afraid that I couldn't DT it. I'm a side btw. And it's directly posted in my profile that at most, I do everything except anal, receiving and especially giving. I discussed it with him prior, but still, black guy like him with that kind of dong, must have high hopes at the back of my mind. When I first sucked his dck, it had an unpleasant taste to it, but I kept thinking that I dreamed about trying a black dck before so I should just suck it up, literally. He said I should undress too so he could suck my dck, but I said it's really asian size, and I wasn't getting hard because of all the mess.. So when he saw it, he kinda got disappointed. My personality is, I'm a people pleaser, so when I saw his face, I just suddenly offered to do more kinky stuff like rimming him... So he turned around and he had a really huge ass, like you could really get suffocated. And yes, I tasted sh*t, and almost gagged.... Oh god, I said to him, can you maybe wash your down there for a bit.... So he went to the bathroom and when he got back and I continued rimming him, it still tastes like sht mixed with like an old spice cologne or something. Then I asked him, did you put something in there? And he said he used an old spice type of body wash..... Oh god, I just said to him, maybe you could turn around so I could continue sucking his dick.... Luckily, I think my mouth already got rid of all the musty odor and weird taste from his dck, so like back to a regular tasting dck. Yeah, then he probably got turned on by that so he started forcing me verbally to be anally fckd. It was like a good 15 mins before he gave up... I mean, even if I agree, hypothetically, to get drilled that day, a lot of messy stuff had already been done that was kinda of a turn off for me. So I went back to sucking his dck and him watching a porn in his phone, when all of a sudden, his phone rang, I think it was like the bank calling him and literally the girl on the other line said he had to pay like a negative balance or something from his credit card, which he declared missing. After the call ended, he started kissing me and asked if he could borrow some money for me... At this point I thought, I might get beaten up if I wouldn't give him any money. But I said, I just paid my bills and had sent money to my parents etc... He was asking as well if he could live in my place temporarily, which I said is impossible because I have a roommate... So he went back to concentrating on his porn and me getting him off. After that, he insisted to cuddle and started asking me again about borrowing some money, which at this point, I just made up some stories just so he could get the hint that I am not gonna lend him anything. When I went home, we just texted our good byes with each other and all that thank you stuff but like 3 days later, he texted if he could meet up again. Btch I blockd him.. I can't. We both got disappointed. 

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I know I'm not a provider, but I've done plenty of work in non-profits dedicated to the physical and mental well-being of men, especially gay men, including a sector of the provider community that is typically at higher risk, so something that can be mentioned is that yes, condoms definitely help reducing the chances of an STIs, but does not eliminate them. Some STI's can be acquired orally by just kissing, and there are other things that are not necessarily considered STIs that can also be acquired with sexual contact, such as a the flu, crabs, and others.
My point with this is that it's important to remember that there's always risk, and what we can do is reduce the level of risk, not eliminate it. Yes, condoms help and are recommended for those who want to use protection, but we should keep in mind that all they do is resuce risk. It's a false sense of security to think that using condoms will not require ongoing testing if you are sexually active.
Also, there is a sector of the provider community that takes good care of themselves, which also reduces the risk of spread and transmission. I imagine you are greateful that the provider who called you did so. There's another sector of the provider community that is at a higher risk since they just work on the streets. Of course, that provides a higher health and personal safety risk.
Regardless of the use or non-use of condoms, as a sexually active person, I still make sure that everything is ok and get tested for things. I have a good relationship with my doctor, and (now a) she has conversations with me where I am candid about who/what I've done, for her to determine the appropriate testing recommendations.
My concern is that some people might just feel that they don;t need to test or that they are completely safe because they use condoms.
Just my two cents.

Not an expert, but as a consumer, I'd suggest to think about what makes people interested. A great physique does help, but I've left or stoipped watching guys with great physiques that are boring as hell. The physique is only one aspect of engaging the audience. Audiences nowadays have the attention span of a gold fish, so catching their attention mihg require more than just looking good.
I'm not sure I agree with it all being "about the cock" only. Yes, it's as good and important, but the same thing that happens with the physique, a great cock that does nothing can get boring. Then there are the ass-liking people, some of which are quite thrilled by that more than penis.
Just my thoughts, not law.

Not an expert, but as a consumer, I'd suggest to think about what makes people interested. A great physique does help, but I've left or stoipped watching guys with great physiques that are boring as hell. The physique is only one aspect of engaging the audience. Audiences nowadays have the attention span of a gold fish, so catching their attention mihg require more than just looking good.
I'm not sure I agree with it all being "about the cock" only. Yes, it's as good and important, but the same thing that happens with the physique, a great cock that does nothing can get boring. Then there are the ass-liking people, some of which are quite thrilled by that more than penis.
Just my thoughts, not law.

There aren't all that many men on here who have nothing but gushing raves that are consistent. The first one I attempted to see who fell in that category had a genuine medical episode and was forced to cancel, unable to re-schedule due to his hospital stay. I'm rather certain that I would've likely had just as good a time as everyone else had, but now he is retired, so I will not ever know. He most recently went by "Nacio", but was "ERICforHIRE" in the time frame of my try.
The second guy who has deserved gushing praise is "Zan" aka "ZRush". He's in his late 20s, and has been doing massage since his early twenties. Having personally had only one meet-up with a twenty-something guy ever prior to Zan, and had one of the worst experiences of my life, I vowed to never hire anyone with that much of an age gap, but broke my rule with Zan, and was so glad I did. He's highly busy with clients and travels constantly, which is why his donation keeps going up with time, but is so quietly connecting and down-to-Earth, which is an insanely rare quality to find in a younger muscular man. 
Yesterday I saw a guy who was actually a third choice. Many of you were highly helpful in aborting my second one. I was a bit early (20 minutes, traveling there from far away), but he was in a business meeting I wasn't aware I was interrupting with my text. He lived in a gated community, and I just wanted to be able to get in to wait until our time was to start. His meeting ran late by a touch, so he was apologetic and told me he'd add 15 minutes of time due to the inconvenience (he was only 3 minutes late). I had the best 75 minute massage (and lots, lots more) from any Las Vegas area based masseur, ever. 
In my circumstance, the massage started on the bed next to the massage table, but never made it to the massage table. I was VERY okay with that. This in my vast array of massages in my lifetime was the first time a guy's boyfriend was in the apartment at the same time. Considering we did it all, it understandably was running in the back of my head "how is your boyfriend okay with us doing all of this stuff with him home, or at least not joining in?".
He was rather candid about his experience doing massages, and therefore I was candid about what I thought he seemed to focus too much on when my massage was done. It wasn't perfect by any means, but as gratifying as could be. I'm after this cloud nine appointment cementing this belief - Be the first person of the day of the man you choose to see. The energy level difference seeing guys at the end of a day compared to the beginning is understandably night and day. 

If the guy has a public persona as a provider, I think it would be a favor to them to share with others that you had a positive experience.  Why wouldn't you want to help someone you liked?
 

So you had this amazing experience and won’t tell us who it is? 😬

A solid physique will put you in the top 50% of viewers. You're competing against a large swath of guys. Think of something unique that isn't being done by everybody else, which is easier typed than done. Something I thought up was to be tipped 2 tokens to throw away a piece of trash. This way, they're seeing my body in motion, and I'm at least getting a mini-fraction of revenue (in addition to a cleaner area)!
Truthfully, with a man it's all about the cock. Average-sized or small ones aren't going to make squat. The only exception is duo male cam dudes, but for whatever reason Colombia seems to have a Walmart sized niche on that for the time being. I'm wondering what makes more revenue in their country nowadays, coffee or naked guys. 

I've done it twice that I can think of.  Once a masseur walked to my hotel in the summer and said he'd like to shower before we started, I offered to join him and some playful fondling while we showered.  The other offered some sort of scrub in the shower, which felt great, especially when he finished rinsing me off and started sucking my cock. 

Thanks for the mention, @BuffaloKyle. Yup, sorry west coast here. I’ll make it to NY state on the road again, possibly NYC. I have a growing interest list for NYC. Anyone here with an interest, PM me to get on that list, if you have not already.
Yes, I offer body scrub services. It takes about 25-30 mins and I am very thorough. No part of you goes untouched. I reach around your back like a big firm hug to scrub and wash your torso. My clients really enjoy the full body-to-body contact. More close and intimate than your typical Turkish, Thai, or Korean scrubs. It depends on the client and what they seem comfortable with, but sometimes I will kiss his neck or nuzzle his shoulders. I can’t imagine someone like@pubic_assistance being into that, but to each his own. Maybe no body to body touch at all. I read your body language and go from there.
Mutual touch and play is very much welcome, although it’s not the focus of a body scrub. Remember I am using an exfoliant, so you don’t want that getting directly in or around your sensitive bits with any friction. There’s plenty of opportunity for touch before the scrubbing and after the rinse and body wash cycles. Many a client member becomes erect, perhaps again after climaxing during the massage. Some do not at all and that’s fine.
It’s great for your skin and very relaxing - well worth the cost apart from anything erotic or sensual going on. Most clients are so zenned out and extremely relaxed at this point after a massage that it’s not really the vibe to make a hardcore shower play session happen. Keep in mind you’re not paying an appropriate fee for that either, unless you work something out ahead of time. Typically it’s more sensual and relaxing. It’s comforting having a naked man with no inhibitions take care of you from head to toe. You don’t even need to towel yourself off. All you do is stand there in total bliss.
@Wolfer@soloyo215There is space in my shower in San Diego for a body length teak table to give Vichy showers. I am considering offering those in the future. I vacillate between the perks of either a) greater contact standing up, or b) a more relaxing horizontal position for the client. I suppose I could offer both.
@streetfan14 I’ve been wanting to try Marc Dylan for a while now. Even more reason to see him! Sounds great.
@KensingtonHomo your experience is more realistic. There usually isn’t enough time to have a long (free) shower session with a client after a massage. A 5 min or so shower to lather up and rinse off with a short bit of (optional) sensual touching is sufficient. I do this upon request. If a mutual shower is important to anyone here, be sure to request it but please don’t outstay your welcome. Your masseur may have someone booked after you and he can’t spend 30 mins in the shower with you when he really needs to spend that time changing the linens for the next client, responding to inquiries, grabbing a quick bite, or what have you.
Unfortunately clients try to extract more time without paying, basically trying to get the scrub for free, and/or some sex for free. @TravelingLibra has a reasonable attitude by booking the time to include the shower. Not everyone explicitly offers the shower service like I do, but I am sure many would be willing. A few clients hire me just for the scrub! Best to communicate your desires and expectations so your masseur can meet your needs. 
@Thelatin good for you if you’re paying for a massage and getting shower sex for free. Maybe that’s not what you meant, but I just want to bring up the point anyhow. It’s a different story when you’re paying for escort service. I often shower with my clients after sexual play, or as part of the main event. I at least offer a shower. We can continue play in the shower or simply have a relaxing unrushed time together getting cleaned up and continuing our touch, conversation, and connection. I like these. It’s generally built into the time the client is hiring, but not always. If I have time to go over, I do. I offer combo spa/escort sessions as well, so our time together can be more fluid, and go with the flow between all the activities.

One of my massage therapists loves to shower at length with me.  I also love getting boinked in the shower.

A girl-friend of mine was told by her mother, “Judy, never ever shower with a man. 

You’ll forget to wash.”

There was a thread back in the peak Covid era that’s since been closed for posting so I thought I’d start another.  I love the idea of showering with the masseur, but have never done it.  Anyone have a recent experience…especially in NYC?

Absolutely you made the right call. Thanks for sharing.

Yeah… I’d have canceled too. 

As soon as we agreed on the donation, text communication got bad.  At least two hours between replies, the longest between 8PM and 11AM the next day.
Then he planned on booking at a hotel with reported shady activity. There’s also the issue of his pricing.  300 for full service 500 with watersports. Normally I would not consider these as red flags but with PNP on his list, it gave me pause.
The feedback I got was that he asked for MUF and then left.

How many more red flags do you need?. Abort and run the other way like you're in a cartoon and the ground's about to disappear beneath your feet!

He has told you everything you need to know. Run. In the opposite direction. 

Abort, and start using your big head. 

I actually post reviews with no expectations of having a response to it. The negative reviews I've left were not replied to, but the profiles were taken down. One of them reapeared with a different name, the other is not longer in the website.
No response could be a good thing or a bad thing. Hard to tell. I wouldn't dwell on it.
Didn't know that a provider can have reviews taken down just because they don't agree.