soloyo215

I know I'm not a provider, but I've done plenty of work in non-profits dedicated to the physical and mental well-being of men, especially gay men, including a sector of the provider community that is typically at higher risk, so something that can be mentioned is that yes, condoms definitely help reducing the chances of an STIs, but does not eliminate them. Some STI's can be acquired orally by just kissing, and there are other things that are not necessarily considered STIs that can also be acquired with sexual contact, such as a the flu, crabs, and others.
My point with this is that it's important to remember that there's always risk, and what we can do is reduce the level of risk, not eliminate it. Yes, condoms help and are recommended for those who want to use protection, but we should keep in mind that all they do is resuce risk. It's a false sense of security to think that using condoms will not require ongoing testing if you are sexually active.
Also, there is a sector of the provider community that takes good care of themselves, which also reduces the risk of spread and transmission. I imagine you are greateful that the provider who called you did so. There's another sector of the provider community that is at a higher risk since they just work on the streets. Of course, that provides a higher health and personal safety risk.
Regardless of the use or non-use of condoms, as a sexually active person, I still make sure that everything is ok and get tested for things. I have a good relationship with my doctor, and (now a) she has conversations with me where I am candid about who/what I've done, for her to determine the appropriate testing recommendations.
My concern is that some people might just feel that they don;t need to test or that they are completely safe because they use condoms.
Just my two cents.

Not an expert, but as a consumer, I'd suggest to think about what makes people interested. A great physique does help, but I've left or stoipped watching guys with great physiques that are boring as hell. The physique is only one aspect of engaging the audience. Audiences nowadays have the attention span of a gold fish, so catching their attention mihg require more than just looking good.
I'm not sure I agree with it all being "about the cock" only. Yes, it's as good and important, but the same thing that happens with the physique, a great cock that does nothing can get boring. Then there are the ass-liking people, some of which are quite thrilled by that more than penis.
Just my thoughts, not law.

Not an expert, but as a consumer, I'd suggest to think about what makes people interested. A great physique does help, but I've left or stoipped watching guys with great physiques that are boring as hell. The physique is only one aspect of engaging the audience. Audiences nowadays have the attention span of a gold fish, so catching their attention mihg require more than just looking good.
I'm not sure I agree with it all being "about the cock" only. Yes, it's as good and important, but the same thing that happens with the physique, a great cock that does nothing can get boring. Then there are the ass-liking people, some of which are quite thrilled by that more than penis.
Just my thoughts, not law.

There aren't all that many men on here who have nothing but gushing raves that are consistent. The first one I attempted to see who fell in that category had a genuine medical episode and was forced to cancel, unable to re-schedule due to his hospital stay. I'm rather certain that I would've likely had just as good a time as everyone else had, but now he is retired, so I will not ever know. He most recently went by "Nacio", but was "ERICforHIRE" in the time frame of my try.
The second guy who has deserved gushing praise is "Zan" aka "ZRush". He's in his late 20s, and has been doing massage since his early twenties. Having personally had only one meet-up with a twenty-something guy ever prior to Zan, and had one of the worst experiences of my life, I vowed to never hire anyone with that much of an age gap, but broke my rule with Zan, and was so glad I did. He's highly busy with clients and travels constantly, which is why his donation keeps going up with time, but is so quietly connecting and down-to-Earth, which is an insanely rare quality to find in a younger muscular man. 
Yesterday I saw a guy who was actually a third choice. Many of you were highly helpful in aborting my second one. I was a bit early (20 minutes, traveling there from far away), but he was in a business meeting I wasn't aware I was interrupting with my text. He lived in a gated community, and I just wanted to be able to get in to wait until our time was to start. His meeting ran late by a touch, so he was apologetic and told me he'd add 15 minutes of time due to the inconvenience (he was only 3 minutes late). I had the best 75 minute massage (and lots, lots more) from any Las Vegas area based masseur, ever. 
In my circumstance, the massage started on the bed next to the massage table, but never made it to the massage table. I was VERY okay with that. This in my vast array of massages in my lifetime was the first time a guy's boyfriend was in the apartment at the same time. Considering we did it all, it understandably was running in the back of my head "how is your boyfriend okay with us doing all of this stuff with him home, or at least not joining in?".
He was rather candid about his experience doing massages, and therefore I was candid about what I thought he seemed to focus too much on when my massage was done. It wasn't perfect by any means, but as gratifying as could be. I'm after this cloud nine appointment cementing this belief - Be the first person of the day of the man you choose to see. The energy level difference seeing guys at the end of a day compared to the beginning is understandably night and day. 

If the guy has a public persona as a provider, I think it would be a favor to them to share with others that you had a positive experience.  Why wouldn't you want to help someone you liked?
 

So you had this amazing experience and won’t tell us who it is? 😬

A solid physique will put you in the top 50% of viewers. You're competing against a large swath of guys. Think of something unique that isn't being done by everybody else, which is easier typed than done. Something I thought up was to be tipped 2 tokens to throw away a piece of trash. This way, they're seeing my body in motion, and I'm at least getting a mini-fraction of revenue (in addition to a cleaner area)!
Truthfully, with a man it's all about the cock. Average-sized or small ones aren't going to make squat. The only exception is duo male cam dudes, but for whatever reason Colombia seems to have a Walmart sized niche on that for the time being. I'm wondering what makes more revenue in their country nowadays, coffee or naked guys. 

I've done it twice that I can think of.  Once a masseur walked to my hotel in the summer and said he'd like to shower before we started, I offered to join him and some playful fondling while we showered.  The other offered some sort of scrub in the shower, which felt great, especially when he finished rinsing me off and started sucking my cock. 

Thanks for the mention, @BuffaloKyle. Yup, sorry west coast here. I’ll make it to NY state on the road again, possibly NYC. I have a growing interest list for NYC. Anyone here with an interest, PM me to get on that list, if you have not already.
Yes, I offer body scrub services. It takes about 25-30 mins and I am very thorough. No part of you goes untouched. I reach around your back like a big firm hug to scrub and wash your torso. My clients really enjoy the full body-to-body contact. More close and intimate than your typical Turkish, Thai, or Korean scrubs. It depends on the client and what they seem comfortable with, but sometimes I will kiss his neck or nuzzle his shoulders. I can’t imagine someone like@pubic_assistance being into that, but to each his own. Maybe no body to body touch at all. I read your body language and go from there.
Mutual touch and play is very much welcome, although it’s not the focus of a body scrub. Remember I am using an exfoliant, so you don’t want that getting directly in or around your sensitive bits with any friction. There’s plenty of opportunity for touch before the scrubbing and after the rinse and body wash cycles. Many a client member becomes erect, perhaps again after climaxing during the massage. Some do not at all and that’s fine.
It’s great for your skin and very relaxing - well worth the cost apart from anything erotic or sensual going on. Most clients are so zenned out and extremely relaxed at this point after a massage that it’s not really the vibe to make a hardcore shower play session happen. Keep in mind you’re not paying an appropriate fee for that either, unless you work something out ahead of time. Typically it’s more sensual and relaxing. It’s comforting having a naked man with no inhibitions take care of you from head to toe. You don’t even need to towel yourself off. All you do is stand there in total bliss.
@Wolfer@soloyo215There is space in my shower in San Diego for a body length teak table to give Vichy showers. I am considering offering those in the future. I vacillate between the perks of either a) greater contact standing up, or b) a more relaxing horizontal position for the client. I suppose I could offer both.
@streetfan14 I’ve been wanting to try Marc Dylan for a while now. Even more reason to see him! Sounds great.
@KensingtonHomo your experience is more realistic. There usually isn’t enough time to have a long (free) shower session with a client after a massage. A 5 min or so shower to lather up and rinse off with a short bit of (optional) sensual touching is sufficient. I do this upon request. If a mutual shower is important to anyone here, be sure to request it but please don’t outstay your welcome. Your masseur may have someone booked after you and he can’t spend 30 mins in the shower with you when he really needs to spend that time changing the linens for the next client, responding to inquiries, grabbing a quick bite, or what have you.
Unfortunately clients try to extract more time without paying, basically trying to get the scrub for free, and/or some sex for free. @TravelingLibra has a reasonable attitude by booking the time to include the shower. Not everyone explicitly offers the shower service like I do, but I am sure many would be willing. A few clients hire me just for the scrub! Best to communicate your desires and expectations so your masseur can meet your needs. 
@Thelatin good for you if you’re paying for a massage and getting shower sex for free. Maybe that’s not what you meant, but I just want to bring up the point anyhow. It’s a different story when you’re paying for escort service. I often shower with my clients after sexual play, or as part of the main event. I at least offer a shower. We can continue play in the shower or simply have a relaxing unrushed time together getting cleaned up and continuing our touch, conversation, and connection. I like these. It’s generally built into the time the client is hiring, but not always. If I have time to go over, I do. I offer combo spa/escort sessions as well, so our time together can be more fluid, and go with the flow between all the activities.

One of my massage therapists loves to shower at length with me.  I also love getting boinked in the shower.

A girl-friend of mine was told by her mother, “Judy, never ever shower with a man. 

You’ll forget to wash.”

There was a thread back in the peak Covid era that’s since been closed for posting so I thought I’d start another.  I love the idea of showering with the masseur, but have never done it.  Anyone have a recent experience…especially in NYC?

Absolutely you made the right call. Thanks for sharing.

Yeah… I’d have canceled too. 

As soon as we agreed on the donation, text communication got bad.  At least two hours between replies, the longest between 8PM and 11AM the next day.
Then he planned on booking at a hotel with reported shady activity. There’s also the issue of his pricing.  300 for full service 500 with watersports. Normally I would not consider these as red flags but with PNP on his list, it gave me pause.
The feedback I got was that he asked for MUF and then left.

How many more red flags do you need?. Abort and run the other way like you're in a cartoon and the ground's about to disappear beneath your feet!

He has told you everything you need to know. Run. In the opposite direction. 

Abort, and start using your big head. 

I actually post reviews with no expectations of having a response to it. The negative reviews I've left were not replied to, but the profiles were taken down. One of them reapeared with a different name, the other is not longer in the website.
No response could be a good thing or a bad thing. Hard to tell. I wouldn't dwell on it.
Didn't know that a provider can have reviews taken down just because they don't agree.

I haven't had the chance to meet him in person, but I really miss his contributions on the forum. He consistently displayed kindness and positivity in his interactions here.

I can't speak to RentMasseur reviews, but on RentMen many providers don't reply to reviews so in general I wouldn't make too much if there isn't one. Even in cases where most have a reply I wouldn't be too concerned if mine didn't. Obviously if they have heaps of reviews and yours alone didn't get a reply it would give pause for thought.

As long as you have your head on your shoulders, there's not a ton of risk in my opinion. Nothing revolving this is 100% guaranteed, but tons of people here have been hiring for decades. Overall, just stick to well reviewed guys and you should be okay. Avoid new guys without reviews, because those are going to be the kind of guys who you'd be likely to get more trouble from. That's not to say that new guys should be avoided at all costs, but if you're risk averse then that makes the most sense.
Sometimes men will think with their penis instead of their brains, and that's where you sometimes land yourself into trouble.

It’s definitely part of my massage repertoire should the client want it. Of course I check the area (discreetly) beforehand and ask the client to shower first. 
I do think that the giver should really enjoy doing it for it to feel good. It’s fortunate that I love rimming, I love the reaction it gets and the eroticism of it. I’ll leave it to clients to decide whether or not my rimming is any good! They’re best placed to provide a critique. 
 

Hello. My two cents.
I don't think geography influences the size of the penises of the gentlemen who live in a given location. If you use websites where providers advertise, their profiles specify those things that you can decide are important to you in your decidion to hire. The profiles clearly state penis sizes, sexual position, as well as other details.
Thugh here you will find reocmmendations for specific providers and events, I don't think that it will be likely to see someone telling you "Go to this stae because it's full of tops with large penises". There are websites like rentmen that can help you search and narrow the results based on your specific criteria.
Best wishes.

Not in my case (gross). I have an older brother who is a hardcore Trunp supporter, retired Army Captain, and has children all over the world. I guess I just didn't want to be him. My two youngest brothers, one of them came out to me (only me) as bisexual. He says that he likes men, but he loves his wife and son with down syndrome more than venturing getting involved with men, but he talks to me about men he finds attractive and things alike, and I'm happy that he has me to feel safe talking about it.
I have heard of similar stories about gay men having older siblings, but I also know many gay men who are only-child in the family, or who are the oldest in the family.
Personally, it's good to research and study, but I don't need any scientific explanation for me baing gay. I am, and I love it.