soloyo215

Any relation to Pearl?

Never heard of him

This happened to me a few weeks ago but it wasn’t fragments… it was a whole sheet.

Fair! In fact I get that request a lot. Just not my cup of tea haha

No, I'm not concerned with imaginary judgments. I have had so many more positive experiences in my years hiring than negative ones, for which I have left dozens of 5-star reviews. And I have had return experiences with a dozen or so of those guys, 2nd and 3rd sessions that were deeper and even more satisfying than the initial encounter. After a while (in life), you get to know that not everyone will like you--and you won't like everyone. But if I conduct myself respectfully toward everyone--even if they take offense at what I consider respectful--in the end, it's all good. 

I reach out to multiple providers when I travel and after they respond, I reply with what I'm looking for. I try to be respectful of their time and attention, and sometimes I get accused of wasting their time. I have also been accused of "just jerking off," which is never true. (Well...at least not while I'm attempting to book a session...) 
If the provider takes offense at my communication, then we're not a match. But if the provider matches my attempt at respectful directness with a similar energy, then we're already ahead of the game. A comfort level has been established. 
And after the session I (almost) ALWAYS leave a review.

I see the same in the younger generation. It's a sad thing that they seem to think that ones own body is something that should be hidden, or that nudity means sex.

I had the intention to hire, and I did. Not sure why I'm reading "rules" that (a) I don't need, and (b) seem to accommodate more your personal style/taste. This is business and last time I check, I am entitled to shop around and decide what/who to go with, and explore, research the service provider before making a decision.
I am quite sure that providers do the same with clients.
Again, seems like you are basing this on your experiences, which seem to be unpleasant but not remotely close to mine.
In any event, thanks for your feedback.

I have learned so much here. Thank you for your responses. Some things that I got:
It's not well perceived that I reach at multiple providers at the same time. In my case it worked out well, but apparently it's not recommended.
To some the reply, for as long as it's a reply and it's not a rejection, is OK even if it's "to-the-point".
The side discussions are entertaining and educational.
Thank you all.

I have learned so much here. Thank you for your responses. Some things that I got:
It's not well perceived that I reach at multiple providers at the same time. In my case it worked out well, but apparently it's not recommended.
To some the reply, for as long as it's a reply and it's not a rejection, is OK even if it's "to-the-point".
The side discussions are entertaining and educational.
Thank you all.

Thanks for your perspective, but it seems full of assumptions, probably based on many past bad experiences. Sorry that you seem to have been burned many times.
I just realized that I didn't add that after each reply I actually replied back with the purpose of (a) not wasting their/my time and (b) keeping the lines of communication and possibilities open. I made sure that all three knew where I was standing. To provider 2 I used money as an excuse to dismiss him, but I was polite ("I'm sorry, you are out of my pay range. Maybe at a different time. Thanks for replying"). I'm not sure how that's being a "time waster" or "fucking annoying". With provider 1, I had a little bit of an exchange, and I appreciated his rather caring tone. Wasting his time was not what I got from that text exchange, even after he said he's not available to meet (and no, I was not looking to get off with him via text). With provider 3, I definitely didn't waste his time since I actually extended my time with him (and paid accordingly).
I'd strongly recommend not to jump to conclusions, though I see how your past experiences might have influenced your reply.
Thanks for your reply.
Is there anything that you recommend prospective clients to do differently?

Thanks for your perspective, but it seems full of assumptions, probably based on many past bad experiences. Sorry that you seem to have been burned many times.
I just realized that I didn't add that after each reply I actually replied back with the purpose of (a) not wasting their/my time and (b) keeping the lines of communication and possibilities open. I made sure that all three knew where I was standing. To provider 2 I used money as an excuse to dismiss him, but I was polite ("I'm sorry, you are out of my pay range. Maybe at a different time. Thanks for replying"). I'm not sure how that's being a "time waster" or "fucking annoying". With provider 1, I had a little bit of an exchange, and I appreciated his rather caring tone. Wasting his time was not what I got from that text exchange, even after he said he's not available to meet (and no, I was not looking to get off with him via text). With provider 3, I definitely didn't waste his time since I actually extended my time with him (and paid accordingly).
I'd strongly recommend not to jump to conclusions, though I see how your past experiences might have influenced your reply.
Thanks for your reply.
Is there anything that you recommend prospective clients to do differently?

I have learned so much here. Thank you for your responses. Some things that I got:
It's not well perceived that I reach at multiple providers at the same time. In my case it worked out well, but apparently it's not recommended.
To some the reply, for as long as it's a reply and it's not a rejection, is OK even if it's "to-the-point".
The side discussions are entertaining and educational.
Thank you all.

I have learned so much here. Thank you for your responses. Some things that I got:
It's not well perceived that I reach at multiple providers at the same time. In my case it worked out well, but apparently it's not recommended.
To some the reply, for as long as it's a reply and it's not a rejection, is OK even if it's "to-the-point".
The side discussions are entertaining and educational.
Thank you all.

Thanks for your perspective, but it seems full of assumptions, probably based on many past bad experiences. Sorry that you seem to have been burned many times.
I just realized that I didn't add that after each reply I actually replied back with the purpose of (a) not wasting their/my time and (b) keeping the lines of communication and possibilities open. I made sure that all three knew where I was standing. To provider 2 I used money as an excuse to dismiss him, but I was polite ("I'm sorry, you are out of my pay range. Maybe at a different time. Thanks for replying"). I'm not sure how that's being a "time waster" or "fucking annoying". With provider 1, I had a little bit of an exchange, and I appreciated his rather caring tone. Wasting his time was not what I got from that text exchange, even after he said he's not available to meet (and no, I was not looking to get off with him via text). With provider 3, I definitely didn't waste his time since I actually extended my time with him (and paid accordingly).
I'd strongly recommend not to jump to conclusions, though I see how your past experiences might have influenced your reply.
Thanks for your reply.
Is there anything that you recommend prospective clients to do differently?

Me personally, both replies from provider 2 and 3 would be totally acceptable to me and all else being equal I'd just book both on different nights. This kind of thing isn't a big deal to me at all. Providers aren't "on the clock" with me till we're in a room together. So how they communicate with me in messages prior to the meet isn't something i judge them on as part of the service.
I kind of see it like calling a restaurant to book a table. If they can make the booking quickly and answer a question i have efficiently then that's all that's truly needed for me cause i know they're busy and juggling other people who also are trying to book them. If they want to be extra polite or make jokes that's cool, i'll joke back or whatever, but I'm not really handing out bonus points for doing it, nor knocking them for not doing it. I'll judge the chef's cooking and how the wait staff treat me when I'm actually there at the restaurant.
The only time a providers initial communications put me off was when one guy was (i learned after the fact) likely so high as a kite that he couldn't even carry a conversation. He couldn't respond to requests/questions i had, tell me his rate, or where he was hosting. He only responded in emojis, jokes and GIFs. He actively made the booking process difficult/impossible, and that's what i don't like.

What does that mean? I’ve been with my husbands for 24 years so I’ve never been on a dating app. 

Absolutely!  I may be old-school, but that initial reply builds the foundation of first impression.  You probably won't be rude to the hiring manager or recruiter who contacts you to set up an appointment for a job interview, or will you?

My first message is always 'hey is this xxxx?' I don't know why but I always get paranoid I put a number wrong or something as I view rentmen on my laptop not my phone. When they confirm I send a who/what/when/where message - stating a bit about me, what I am looking for, when I was looking to schedule, and where my hotel is.  
I have always received pretty good replies and not just one word answers. I think it shows I am legit and perhaps that leads to the responses. I pretty much only hire when I travel so I always reach out a few days earlier.  If I get no reply I would move on another provider the next day or later that evening. 
I must confess I have never sent messages to 3 providers and then decided to rate the replies like the OP has. Surprised me to read people do that. 

Here's a discussion on reasonable length of time to wait before reaching out to a second or third provider: 
 
 

I won't text multiple providers simultaneously unless I plan on hiring all of them for different nights of my trip. 
Instead, I text one provider then wait at least 4 hours for a response before texting a 2nd provider.
I don't want to start out by wasting at least 2 providers' time (in this case above) knowing I'm only going to hire at most 1 out of 3 of the men I messaged.
Because I try to only reach out to one provider at a time, I am able to engage or pass on a provider based solely on his rate and availability in his response.

Well, it is a business and we should all conduct ourselves as such, but some do not. 
I always say professionalism goes a long way. 
I would say, trust your gut on the 3 and pick the one that you said you felt more compelled to go towards. 

I typically craft my initial reply to address everything in the client’s initial text that I can answer. I usually start by pasting a stock response and then modifying to personalize, answering anything else the client brought up. How we reply definitely matters and I believe makes a difference in my business.
I try to answer the what, where, when, and how much questions so the client has all the basic information to make a decision. I also make an effort to be friendly, but this doesn’t always translate easily in text form. Tone varies, but I avoid mirroring the gruff, sometimes rude messages I receive. I try not to take it personally.
By putting in a lot of effort responding thoughtfully to tons of messages that never go anywhere, I pick up the good clients along the way and keep them as reliable regulars requiring less maintenance. The bad ones drop off once they make themselves known. It takes work up front, including lots of annoying exchanges and dealing with rude people. However, I will never win those good clients over if I just reply with a rate. It’s like mining for gold. Lots of long, patient sediment sifting. I can’t complain to the gold flecks about all the dirt I had to pan out to find them. Every once in a while I even find a nugget.
It’s work doing the work, but it’s also work getting the work. When you do enough of both, your schedule fills up and you reap the rewards. The strategy I like best is to make yourself so busy with good regulars that you don’t have to deal with the bad apples. They can’t occupy space in your schedule or your mind! It takes years of patience to get there.
People on these forums are, on average, better clients than who we deal with on a daily basis. Anyone spending time asking questions about the best way to craft a message to a provider is going to be levels of magnitude better to work with than the guys we sometimes complain about.
Providers mention the rude, unserious, flaky, or people outright taking advantage of us all the time, but most of you here are not those people. It’s unfortunate you have to be the recipients of so much disdain when you represent fewer of the reasons for us feeling our frustrations. You are here reading and listening when the people that most need to hear it would never take the time nor give the bandwidth to hear it out, much less take it to heart.
The times I post about bad actor clients I relent later, thinking this is the wrong audience. With few exceptions, my COM clients are great men. I’m sorry you guys have to bear the brunt of so many providers venting about things a lot of you here you either don’t do, or correct when you learn from collective wisdom here how to better conduct yourselves. Thank you for being the best clients.

Yes, I have a standard reply and adapt it to fit their questions. It definitely matters how I reply because I want to give them a good impression that I’m reliable and professional. Some clients just ask ‘hey I saw your ad’ or even worse ‘hey’… I don’t bother to send much of a reply. Those guys are usually not serious. I’m amazed at the number of guys who just go quiet after I’ve replied: them: ‘Hey’, me ‘Hello’, them……nothing. What are these guys doing? Checking my number is real? Does a reply freak them out? Or those who ask about a date & time, I reply with a ‘yes I can do that’…and then I hear nothing back. What’s that about? 

I realize you don't care, but this assumption is offensive. I have no interest in getting off via conversations in text or on the phone. My interactions are a means to an in-person end...with the right providor. You've made this accusation before, and your contempt for your clients is evident. I can see why you insist on a deposit in advance.