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I understand it's short for submissive. "Bottom" doesn't necessarily means submissive. Then there's passive-aggressive "submissive", which are those (who I find annoying, not my thing) who claim to be in a submissive state but are in complete control of what happens in a session, even though they use a lot of "Sir" when talking.

I do have an age preference, but if I see what I like in the pictures and the profile, I might not care of age, real or not. It is not the most important thing I look for (within reason, of course). It's quite impressive if he can pass for a 32 year old being in his late 40s (at least). I wonder of he has gotten rejections over it, just curiosity.

I don't know. Never saw or heard of it before. He was definitely skillful.

Ditto. But if they want to charge more might not be because of their better physique, but because mine is worse.

And that should concern me... why?

Then you must get to meet more people. If that's what works for you, perfect. Have a nice life. I'm not interested in convincing you of anything. BTW, you do know that you are in a forum with a lot of people using burner phones, spoofed numbers and hidden identities, right?

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Yes, they can. They use a technique named spoofing to pose as a different number with a different name.

Not sure what your point is.

Human, no AI for me, thank you. For what's worth, I do love glory holes. Who cares if it's an alien on the other side. That's kind of the point.

In IT lingo that's called Vishing. Seems to be more effective since it's a real person over the phone. Targets older people based on the premise that they are less tech and info-safety savvy. The moment they ask for any personal information tell them to fuck off.

It's always been a high risk line of work. As long as there isn't any legal protection, there will be risks involved with getting involved with the wrong client or in the wrong situation. Today there's the advantage of social media and information sharing, which gives providers some way of finding information about their clients, both current and prospective. Definitely TMZ. You can remove everything about Diddy and the article still makes the point.

The only issues I've had is with providers canceling on me. No threats so far. My real name sounds made up, anyway.

First thought is "fuck you, carry on". Second thought is that he might have a rather long list of clients who love the aggressiveness and him claiming to be straight. I too want to ask him to host.

Extremely unlikely. No. That said, that's just me. There might be interest in that "sides" thing from people who prefer that or are only able to do that. Best wishes.

He seems like a honest business person. What I have heard is the opposite, some providers demand more, not less, for consistent services. To me that means that if he wants to implement some kind of business model, he should make sure that his demographic will respond positively to it. Some might feel like "a client" if they are members of a discount club of sort, which could take away the "focused/exclusiveness" fantasy that some clients prefer to have in regards of the type of relationship that they have with the provider. It could place the provider in certain type of category, and some might not be appreciative of that. Just my thoughts.

Which is exactly why, as stated before, I can't care less about what others think, say or do with what I share. I am not in charge of caring for other people's "perceptions" (aka, biases, stupidity, prejudices, poor cognition, among others). That's not my responsibility, end of the story. I'm confident about what I say and why I say it. Whatever others decide to do with it is on them; it's not my job to show them the light, not may job to make them like it.

I can't believe how many people became biased about him. He didn't "get away" with anything. There was a lot of fuzz about him, attacks and portraying him negatively. I watched the ID special documentary about him, and all it was in there were accounts of him being a jerk, people making exaggerated accounts of things that they "witnessed" or "experienced", but none involved any actual illegal act. He was convicted of the things that he did that violated the law, regardless of all the noise around him.

I remember only one user here who was insufferable for always trying to find ways of attacking others at a personal level (tried to attack me for my intelligence). I don't know if that person was booted out or blocked, but that's the only user that can think of as aggressive. To me, I can't care less about other people posting negative comments, and if I don't find them to be the type of comment that adds to the thread, I just skip it. I'm not an admin here, so it's not my job to monitor or facilitate conversations. I myself post things that can be perceived as negative, but normally I keep thinks in I statements, and I make sure that it's something I am confident about, it's first hand information, it's verified information, it's my own experience, or it's a strong opinion that I have. If others react in certain ways about it, it's not because I'm just babbling or not knowing what I am talking about. Like my mother used to say: "Every time you say something, make sure that (1) you know what you're saying, and (2) you know why you're saying it". If you need acceptance, can't take criticism, want to make friends at any cost, then what you post might need to have certain appeal. Just my thoughts.

Not that many of those around anymore. I grew poor so I did my own shoe shining.

We are in the era where people convince themselves that they are "the best" at something simply because they themselves say so in social media. We are living in a post reality world.

Because some people are willing to pay for companionship or dates. You don't need to be a provider to know that.

Most of the cashiers I deal with in my city are these nasty overweight black women that look as miserable as their ridiculous wigs. So, no. I don't have a favorite cashier.

To some people the use of mood altering substances is part of the fun. I know of some who cannot feel comfortable having sex with another man without using alcohol or drugs for "courage". Sadly, providers are the ones who have to deal with that nonsense. Not condoning him at all, he was quite disrespectful to you in many ways, one of them assuming that it's ok for him to get high without you knowing about it. Sorry you went through that. At least he wasn't one of those who gets violent when drugged or drunk.

I've been asked for a pic 3 times, the first 2 in USA. I didn't think of blackmailing, particularly since the people who matter in my life know that I hire, and my employer has more important things to worry about. I know that's my employer's position since it already happened. Apparently somebody wanted to blackmail or mess with an employee and started sending pictures and emails about that employee and it had no effect. The 2 times in USA I sent the picture (face), the provider either liked me or wanted verification of authenticity. The experience went well on the two instances. The third time was in Havana, Cuba. The only concern I had was that the guy was into santería. He also sent me his picture (and, Good God, was he hot!). I had a great time with him too. I never woke up at night acting funny, nor was I possessed by Changó, so nothing happened after, and if my picture is being misused in Cuba, who cares. I like discretion, of course, but though I prefer anonymity, I don't feel anything other than worry about my personal information being divulged, but nothing around being ashamed or embarrassed. Signs of not being too discrete, in my experience, show in other ways before booking, so I have not proceeded with a booking if I feel like the guy might not respect my privacy or discretion. As for rejection, well, it's bound to happen. Nobody likes rejection, but I prefer it before wasting [more] time and money in an unworthy provider. No, I wish, not really. I love my job and will never be doing nothing. Yes, yes-ish, no. That doesn't matter. Assholes, bigots, racists and religious nutjobs and are everywhere in the USA. It's not wise to think that we are better or worse because we are in a red or blue state. My neighborhood is full of rainbow flags all over, and I am still quite hated for no reason.