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Please mark your calendars for the next Forum DC Gathering, January 12-14, 2018.
 
@ArVaGuy and I have been working the past couple of months to put together plans for next year's gathering, and we'll be co-hosts. As with past DC gatherings, the weekend will span the MLK weekend, and coincide with Mid Atlantic Leather (MAL). There will be a range of get-togethers, culminating in the traditional brunch on Sunday, January 14th.
 
Last year's effort for the gathering had the best of intentions, but fell short when a venue for the brunch was not arranged. No harm, no foul, but not something anyone wants to have happen again. For this next year's event, arranging the venue for the brunch has been the first order of business, and it's been all confirmed. This event WILL happen, and you can start making arrangements with confidence.
 
Along the lines of making arrangements, we wanted to post an announcement early particularly for those interested in booking a hotel room in the MAL host hotel, or one of the hotels nearby. As of this writing there are still rooms at the MAL host hotel, but in year's past the host hotel has sold out well in advance of the event. So if you've been thinking you might want to book a room in the host hotel, you might want to do that sooner than later. Here is the link to the reservations page: http://www.leatherweekend.com/hotel/
 
For those of you who may not be interested in MAL or the leather scene, not to worry! Traditionally the DC gathering has coincided with MAL because it's a long weekend and many of us are in town, but the forum gathering is otherwise independent of the leather activities and is welcoming to all forum members. You may choose to sample some of the MAL activities, or go "whole-hog", or alternatively forgo them completely. That's up to you.
 
At this early stage we are posting so you can plan the dates ahead, book your hotel if inclined, and let us know if you're interested in attending so we can start putting together a head count for the brunch.
 
If you're interested in attending, please send a direct message to either @ArVaGuy or @nate_sf or both of us (direct messages can include more than one recipient). As the date approaches, we'll get in touch with each member who has expressed interest.
 
And if you have general questions or suggestions for the gathering, please do so in this thread.
 
We're excited to be continuing this fun tradition and hope you'll join us!

I'll concur, in my experience it is a niche market but there are plenty of guys who want someone more mature. However with any niche market it can have a feast-to-famine pace, so just plan accordingly for down times.
 
Also I found that as the older I got, the more likely I would be asked to top. That seemed to fit the perception or desire for a Daddy-type role. Though I'm versatile I can't remember the last time I was hired to bottom. Not a problem for me since I love to top, but I don't know how things would be for an older bottom escort.
 
I'll add that there seems to be a disproportionate share of guys on this forum who skew towards preferring older escorts. So keep up participating here in the forums, and you'll attract their attention!

I'll concur, in my experience it is a niche market but there are plenty of guys who want someone more mature. However with any niche market it can have a feast-to-famine pace, so just plan accordingly for down times.
 
Also I found that as the older I got, the more likely I would be asked to top. That seemed to fit the perception or desire for a Daddy-type role. Though I'm versatile I can't remember the last time I was hired to bottom. Not a problem for me since I love to top, but I don't know how things would be for an older bottom escort.
 
I'll add that there seems to be a disproportionate share of guys on this forum who skew towards preferring older escorts. So keep up participating here in the forums, and you'll attract their attention!

I'll concur, in my experience it is a niche market but there are plenty of guys who want someone more mature. However with any niche market it can have a feast-to-famine pace, so just plan accordingly for down times.
 
Also I found that as the older I got, the more likely I would be asked to top. That seemed to fit the perception or desire for a Daddy-type role. Though I'm versatile I can't remember the last time I was hired to bottom. Not a problem for me since I love to top, but I don't know how things would be for an older bottom escort.
 
I'll add that there seems to be a disproportionate share of guys on this forum who skew towards preferring older escorts. So keep up participating here in the forums, and you'll attract their attention!

I'll concur, in my experience it is a niche market but there are plenty of guys who want someone more mature. However with any niche market it can have a feast-to-famine pace, so just plan accordingly for down times.
 
Also I found that as the older I got, the more likely I would be asked to top. That seemed to fit the perception or desire for a Daddy-type role. Though I'm versatile I can't remember the last time I was hired to bottom. Not a problem for me since I love to top, but I don't know how things would be for an older bottom escort.
 
I'll add that there seems to be a disproportionate share of guys on this forum who skew towards preferring older escorts. So keep up participating here in the forums, and you'll attract their attention!

It a niche market, no doubt.
 
Personally, I've always enjoyed sex with men older than myself.
 
Obviously at a certain point you can't rely on your "body" and
you have to sell them on your maturity and experience. Which
after one too many catastrophes with "beautiful but boring"
20-somethings ...is more valuable than you may initially think.

I have a couple of regular clients who like to be fisted, and the only thing they use to relax are over-the-counter poppers... plus lots of lube and time. There does seem to be a correlation between fisting and PnP but it's not a requirement by any means. I'd steer clear of the PnP scenes, it's not necessary.

I can't agree more. When I started sharing this part of my life here I had no idea I would get such reactions, and they have been so helpful and even important to me. As I said earlier in the thread, I have been able to post things here I've never shared with anyone, written things I've never verbalized, and that's kind of amazing. I'm not sure what this adventure would be like without having this outlet.

I would like to very humbly state, with tears in my eyes, what a joy, and an honor it is to be an active member of this site. When I read some of the loving responses on this thread I realize what a great bunch of guys many of you are and what a great thing it is to be a part of this family. My heartfelt love to you all.

Dear BB -
Thank you for posting this saga. It has brought back memories of launching two daughters and a son on their college careers, although my wife was still here when that happened. I can remember sitting in the parking lot after leaving them, waiting 'til I could see to drive. And they all survived and are wonderful productive members of society! We did a good job! As have you!
And thanks to all the compassionate members of this forum who have commented - I am glad to be part of it.
Later on you will find you can begin to enjoy the "other" benefits of this site! (And do consider joining us in Palm Springs in April, 2018 - I would love to meet you, as would many others.)

Hi gents-
 
I wanted to introduce myself as I am relatively new to Toronto, ON and brand new to this thread. A client referred me to this forum and it has been incredibly insightful.
 
Looking forward to participating and sharing my knowledge....if you're ever in Toronto area or in a city I am visiting soon, please reach out as if would be great to connect.
 
Cheers,
Logan

Thank you very much and looking forward to contributing

It is indeed. And Nate's presence only enhances its value.

Erik Estrada in CHiPs.

Erik Estrada in CHiPs.

I'm so sorry to hear all about this. I know how awful it feels to have a major blowout with a loved one.
 
Besides the suggestions to get counseling, I'm wondering whether it would help or further hurt things if your husband knew your weekend companion was an arranged escort companion, rather than a fling or affair through Grindr? Since an escort is booked for a purpose and in theory should be less threatening to a relationship than an affair, some people feel it is preferable. An escort is not likely to try to break up your marriage, whereas someone you're having a fling or affair just might if they get too close. You hire an escort to scratch an itch, and in your situation that itch had not been scratched for seven years.
 
On the other hand, he might be more angry knowing you spent money on an escort. Or he may reflexively dislike the idea of hiring an escort; although here on the Forum we think of escorts positively, not everyone does especially if it's not something they've done a lot of thinking about.
 
As others have said, it's worth apologizing for having not told the truth, but at that point it's time to talk about why the sex stopped seven ago and what the status of the marriage has been from seven years ago until this episode. Before your husband tries to throw you out, it's only fair that he tell you why you stopped having sex together - seriously. "We're too old" won't do. Has he lost his libido? Has something else been bugging him that he hasn't told you about? Has he been having sex with someone else so he's not horny when he's with you (you never know)? It sounds like he is deflecting blame on you, but he owes you an explanation too.
 
Whatever you do, please don't do anything drastic even if you were only suggesting that in jest. You will get through this, and there are lots of supportive folks here to help. I know of other Forum members helping each other through major domestic dramas, and it's one of the best things this place has to offer.

Can't I have both?

Well then I have a pair of these handy with your name on them...
 
http://www.dhresource.com/albu_396527076_00/1.200x200.jpg
 
... and I can run across the alley in no time to deliver them!

I'm so sorry to hear all about this. I know how awful it feels to have a major blowout with a loved one.
 
Besides the suggestions to get counseling, I'm wondering whether it would help or further hurt things if your husband knew your weekend companion was an arranged escort companion, rather than a fling or affair through Grindr? Since an escort is booked for a purpose and in theory should be less threatening to a relationship than an affair, some people feel it is preferable. An escort is not likely to try to break up your marriage, whereas someone you're having a fling or affair just might if they get too close. You hire an escort to scratch an itch, and in your situation that itch had not been scratched for seven years.
 
On the other hand, he might be more angry knowing you spent money on an escort. Or he may reflexively dislike the idea of hiring an escort; although here on the Forum we think of escorts positively, not everyone does especially if it's not something they've done a lot of thinking about.
 
As others have said, it's worth apologizing for having not told the truth, but at that point it's time to talk about why the sex stopped seven ago and what the status of the marriage has been from seven years ago until this episode. Before your husband tries to throw you out, it's only fair that he tell you why you stopped having sex together - seriously. "We're too old" won't do. Has he lost his libido? Has something else been bugging him that he hasn't told you about? Has he been having sex with someone else so he's not horny when he's with you (you never know)? It sounds like he is deflecting blame on you, but he owes you an explanation too.
 
Whatever you do, please don't do anything drastic even if you were only suggesting that in jest. You will get through this, and there are lots of supportive folks here to help. I know of other Forum members helping each other through major domestic dramas, and it's one of the best things this place has to offer.

I'm so sorry to hear all about this. I know how awful it feels to have a major blowout with a loved one.
 
Besides the suggestions to get counseling, I'm wondering whether it would help or further hurt things if your husband knew your weekend companion was an arranged escort companion, rather than a fling or affair through Grindr? Since an escort is booked for a purpose and in theory should be less threatening to a relationship than an affair, some people feel it is preferable. An escort is not likely to try to break up your marriage, whereas someone you're having a fling or affair just might if they get too close. You hire an escort to scratch an itch, and in your situation that itch had not been scratched for seven years.
 
On the other hand, he might be more angry knowing you spent money on an escort. Or he may reflexively dislike the idea of hiring an escort; although here on the Forum we think of escorts positively, not everyone does especially if it's not something they've done a lot of thinking about.
 
As others have said, it's worth apologizing for having not told the truth, but at that point it's time to talk about why the sex stopped seven ago and what the status of the marriage has been from seven years ago until this episode. Before your husband tries to throw you out, it's only fair that he tell you why you stopped having sex together - seriously. "We're too old" won't do. Has he lost his libido? Has something else been bugging him that he hasn't told you about? Has he been having sex with someone else so he's not horny when he's with you (you never know)? It sounds like he is deflecting blame on you, but he owes you an explanation too.
 
Whatever you do, please don't do anything drastic even if you were only suggesting that in jest. You will get through this, and there are lots of supportive folks here to help. I know of other Forum members helping each other through major domestic dramas, and it's one of the best things this place has to offer.

I was gonna be a Zombie Rock-Star, but my latex and make-up kit didn't come in, so there was no zombie component. I forgot how much I loved eye-liner and wild hair. I think I'm gonna occasionally do my hair a little more like this. Everyone please share your photos from this Halloween, or from your favorite previous Halloween.