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As someone with a December birthday, this resonates! 🤣

When there's a smoking gun (such as, let's say, video and stills), the best thing he could have done was apologize.
He didn't do that.  He poured gasoline on the bonfire.
Let's see how this plays out.  It's a fascinating train wreck.

Maybe I'm old fashioned or had learned this from my mom, but I thought it's customary to provide service folks with small gifts or bonuses this time of year. A little cash or something to the mail carrier, paperboy (if there is still such a thing), hairdresser/barber, cleaners, etc.
So I'd think if an escort or massage provider is a regular, a small gift would be in keeping with this tradition. Of course there is passion involved with an escort/masseur's services so that might confuse things a bit, but a bit of extra cash or a small gift seems just fine.

I visited to Montreal last week for the first time in 4 years, and I had a great time. I stayed at the Hyatt Place Montreal, formerly the Gouverneur. I thought the renovations made for a huge improvement. It's clean, comfortable, not too expensive (in mid-December, anyway), and the location is as convenient as ever for the strip clubs. I did not plan it this way, but I made it each of the 4 bars twice.
Campus is thriving, as others have noted. There were plenty of dancers circulating with their shirts off (not always the case), and they were all quite attractive (not always the case). They were all good about taking no for an answer (again, not always the case), and I never saw groups of dancers congregating together and ignoring the customers. I did several private dances; the standouts were Zack, Apollo, and Pepe (looks like a lumberjack, huge all over, very generous and interactive).
Stock was a mixed bag for me. I did not have to pay the cover the first time I went (the cashier had wandered off and the security guard eventually just waved me in), and that was good because it was very dead (this was a Wednesday night). There were very few customers, long gaps between stage shows, and most of the dancers did not drop their shorts at all. Most of the dancers kept their shirts on offstage and huddled in groups talking to each other all night, not circulating or talking to customers at all. I tried to flag down a couple of them multiple times, but no luck. Santiago (Cuban, short, great body, really well-endowed) was the only dancer approaching customers, and he did more privates than all the other dancers combined while I was there. There was a tall, slender Black dancer named Piper who did not even take his shirt off during his stage shows, much less his shorts; that seemed odd to me, at a strip club. Stock was much livelier on Friday, but there were still lots of dancers ignoring the customers and talking only to each other; I don't know how they make any money that way.
Taboo was dead on Thursday night. In fact, I was the only customer there when I arrived (which I did not realize because all the dancers were sitting at the bar, fully clothed, so I thought they were customers). One dancer talked to me for the whole time I was there (<30 minutes); I did not want to do a private with him, but I could not think of a way to get him to move on ("I would prefer to sit all by myself staring into space rather than talk to you" seems a little unkind). I left as soon as I could. It was busier on Friday, and there were 2 dancers I would have done privates with; but they were both occupied with other customers the whole time I was there.
Red Diamond (formerly Expose, formerly Luxe, formerly...) was very quiet both times I stopped in. I have always liked this club - in all its many incarnations - more than most forum members. The staff has always been very friendly, the private dance area is really private, and I have had lots of interesting private dances there. Damian (tall, swimmer's build, friendly and low-key) was the only dancer working both nights. He was very approachable and chatty, and I had fun private dances with him twice. Friday was busier than Thursday, and Damian said he expected it to pick up later in the evening (I was there pretty early).
This was my first real vacation trip since before the pandemic, but I hope to get back to Montreal this Spring.
 
Ichabod

Given all the questions here about different providers on Rentmen, I'd say that most members here--regardless of generation--have their own version of menu anxiety among expensive choices.

Best to be vegetarian. 90% of the choices are off the menu for you. Much simpler. 

I've been monitoring this thread, as I expect has @mike carey. It's definitely veering towards politics, and has been on a number of occasions. I'm OK with leaving it up as it has not become explicitly political, though I'll admit I'm tired of hearing the same old tropes over and over again. I'd be more inclined to lock it up just because everyone has already said their piece, and I'm not sure what more is to be said. That is the reason I've stopped engaging in this thread myself. 

I've been monitoring this thread, as I expect has @mike carey. It's definitely veering towards politics, and has been on a number of occasions. I'm OK with leaving it up as it has not become explicitly political, though I'll admit I'm tired of hearing the same old tropes over and over again. I'd be more inclined to lock it up just because everyone has already said their piece, and I'm not sure what more is to be said. That is the reason I've stopped engaging in this thread myself. 

I've been monitoring this thread, as I expect has @mike carey. It's definitely veering towards politics, and has been on a number of occasions. I'm OK with leaving it up as it has not become explicitly political, though I'll admit I'm tired of hearing the same old tropes over and over again. I'd be more inclined to lock it up just because everyone has already said their piece, and I'm not sure what more is to be said. That is the reason I've stopped engaging in this thread myself. 

I've been monitoring this thread, as I expect has @mike carey. It's definitely veering towards politics, and has been on a number of occasions. I'm OK with leaving it up as it has not become explicitly political, though I'll admit I'm tired of hearing the same old tropes over and over again. I'd be more inclined to lock it up just because everyone has already said their piece, and I'm not sure what more is to be said. That is the reason I've stopped engaging in this thread myself. 

My arrangement is similar to those described by @Charlie and @Simon Suraci. When we first met, his income was much higher than mine. Mine is now a bit higher than his. At one point we added up all of the joint expenses, figured out who had which account in whose name, and figured out what the differential is. I pay more of the monthly payments like the mortgage, PG&E, insurance etc., so he transfers funds into my account at the beginning of the month to cover his share and provide me with enough money to pay those bills. Groceries, restaurants, entertainment etc. are more on the honor system, we trade off unless it becomes unusually out of balance. Sometimes he'll let me know he's bought most of the groceries for a while, so I'll transfer some money back, or vice versa, but we're not keeping close tabs.

This is correct. The age field is static, so it does not automatically update when someone ages another year or four. And for the record, the youngest age available in the field is 18. Perhaps the guy was 19 when he signed up and he hasn't updated the field since, or perhaps he's "young at heart" and would like to still think he is 19. Who knows?
I just had my birthday last week and duly added a year to the age in my rentmen ad, but had to do that manually.

My arrangement is similar to those described by @Charlie and @Simon Suraci. When we first met, his income was much higher than mine. Mine is now a bit higher than his. At one point we added up all of the joint expenses, figured out who had which account in whose name, and figured out what the differential is. I pay more of the monthly payments like the mortgage, PG&E, insurance etc., so he transfers funds into my account at the beginning of the month to cover his share and provide me with enough money to pay those bills. Groceries, restaurants, entertainment etc. are more on the honor system, we trade off unless it becomes unusually out of balance. Sometimes he'll let me know he's bought most of the groceries for a while, so I'll transfer some money back, or vice versa, but we're not keeping close tabs.

I caught this program on the radio last weekend, it was an episode of the "Radiolab" program that featured a bizarre story about a guy's experience being harassed through Grindr. And Grindr refused to do a damn thing.
The first part is about the Grindr adventure. Then it gets into a discussion of Section 230, which may or may not be interesting to people. But it's worth checking out!
The Internet Dilemma
RADIOLAB.ORG How the law that created the modern Internet may be destroying it—and us.  
 

My arrangement is similar to those described by @Charlie and @Simon Suraci. When we first met, his income was much higher than mine. Mine is now a bit higher than his. At one point we added up all of the joint expenses, figured out who had which account in whose name, and figured out what the differential is. I pay more of the monthly payments like the mortgage, PG&E, insurance etc., so he transfers funds into my account at the beginning of the month to cover his share and provide me with enough money to pay those bills. Groceries, restaurants, entertainment etc. are more on the honor system, we trade off unless it becomes unusually out of balance. Sometimes he'll let me know he's bought most of the groceries for a while, so I'll transfer some money back, or vice versa, but we're not keeping close tabs.

My arrangement is similar to those described by @Charlie and @Simon Suraci. When we first met, his income was much higher than mine. Mine is now a bit higher than his. At one point we added up all of the joint expenses, figured out who had which account in whose name, and figured out what the differential is. I pay more of the monthly payments like the mortgage, PG&E, insurance etc., so he transfers funds into my account at the beginning of the month to cover his share and provide me with enough money to pay those bills. Groceries, restaurants, entertainment etc. are more on the honor system, we trade off unless it becomes unusually out of balance. Sometimes he'll let me know he's bought most of the groceries for a while, so I'll transfer some money back, or vice versa, but we're not keeping close tabs.

My arrangement is similar to those described by @Charlie and @Simon Suraci. When we first met, his income was much higher than mine. Mine is now a bit higher than his. At one point we added up all of the joint expenses, figured out who had which account in whose name, and figured out what the differential is. I pay more of the monthly payments like the mortgage, PG&E, insurance etc., so he transfers funds into my account at the beginning of the month to cover his share and provide me with enough money to pay those bills. Groceries, restaurants, entertainment etc. are more on the honor system, we trade off unless it becomes unusually out of balance. Sometimes he'll let me know he's bought most of the groceries for a while, so I'll transfer some money back, or vice versa, but we're not keeping close tabs.

Most of those photos weren't taken in Lima, OH.

When my spouse and I first met, he had a higher income than I did. Fifty-five years later, my income is higher than his. But we have always used the same method of managing money. Anything that is equally shared, like house, utilities, car, etc., we have always split equally, which meant that we never bought or contracted for anything we used together that would be too much of a strain for one of us to afford. Anything that was in both names was equally paid for. That was also true when we traveled together, unless it was a trip that both of us wanted, and the one who wanted it most was willing to pay a larger share of the cost to make it happen. We also both traveled a lot separately, and each of us then paid his own way. We never expected to pay for one another's personal items, whether it was clothing or sexual adventures. To account for the differential in income, we each maintained separate assets, like investments, retirement accounts, and the like, with each of us named in our wills as eventual beneficiary of the other's personal assets.
We have a couple of friends who have been together as long as we have. One of them always had much more money than the other. After a rocky start for a few years, they solved the problem by not living together, with each one responsible for all his own expenses, and sharing only expenses for joint travel and entertainment. One owns a huge condo on Manhattan's East Side, while the other rents a small one-bedroom apartment elsewhere, and each is psychologically satisfied with his financial independence.

The finances in my relationship are much the same way as you handle yours. It works well for us. We’ve lived together and apart over the years. We’re happier living togther, and we own everything together equally and pay for it equally, even when his income was higher or mine was higher. It changes over time. The little things like groceries we don’t nickel and dime each other. The main big stuff is 50/50. 

I have related to the occasional ad manually. 

This is correct. The age field is static, so it does not automatically update when someone ages another year or four. And for the record, the youngest age available in the field is 18. Perhaps the guy was 19 when he signed up and he hasn't updated the field since, or perhaps he's "young at heart" and would like to still think he is 19. Who knows?
I just had my birthday last week and duly added a year to the age in my rentmen ad, but had to do that manually.

This is correct. The age field is static, so it does not automatically update when someone ages another year or four. And for the record, the youngest age available in the field is 18. Perhaps the guy was 19 when he signed up and he hasn't updated the field since, or perhaps he's "young at heart" and would like to still think he is 19. Who knows?
I just had my birthday last week and duly added a year to the age in my rentmen ad, but had to do that manually.

For many years, our dearly missed Epigonos and I would leave his home in Orange County around 10:00-11:00 AM on Friday of the event weekend, which has often coincided with Coachella. We always arrived in PS in less than 2 hours. Note: Epigonos never feared speeding tickets. 😋

An interesting conundrum, however you may wish to balance how you have framed the question against the likelihood that most of those interested in such activities would have a room of their own.