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When I was growing up in AZ we never heated the pool. It just got heated naturally as the weather got hotter. And yes, the aerators to cool the water!

I'm booked at InnDulge. Looking forward to joining the gang this time!

Same same same... I had let my ad expire for a bit. This month I decided to renew as I have some travel coming up, and got the same message that my Visa on file was no longer valid. Fortunately like @azdr0710 I had an old MC stashed away, so dusted it off and that went through. If I had to guess, I wouldn't be surprised if Visa was trying to do some housecleaning in the face of their legal issues. If they're already being accused of being monopolistic, they may be particularly concerned about any other business activities that might come under scrutiny.

I have a bunch of nude photos of myself on my RM profile and other places, so am coming from a different place than someone who is protective about sharing images of themselves naked. But personally I don't see the big deal of sending a photo to a pic collector, provided they don't follow up with further requests or the chat nonsense other providers here have described. I know some guys will send photos that only show from the neck down, and I think that's a decent compromise. That won't be that interesting to a pic collector, and if they ask for a full body and face photo is reasonable to say no. But I'll add that at least from my experience, WhatsApp has way more flakes and scammers, at least here in the US. The only legit contacts I get through WhatsApp is from international clients, and those are easy enough to sort out as legit (or not) after a few exchanges. Overseas is another matter, as pretty much all my communications when traveling abroad are through WhatsApp, and that makes sense. But here in the US, my red flag is already at flying at half mast for anything coming through WhatsApp.

I’ve wondered myself how the guys learn their moves. A suggestion is to check YouTube… there are tons of male stripper how-to videos there. At least that would be a place to start. Calling @Buff Daddy… any other suggestions?

As others have mentioned, it's mostly the provider's decision. The exceptions is where Rentmen's filters move an explicit pic to the private gallery. People will have different reasons for deciding what to put in the public gallery vs. premium or private galleries. Some will just put everything in the public gallery and not bother with the other galleries. Others might only show their face in their private gallery, or only their explicit photos there. For me, the photos I had in my public gallery were the ones I was OK having random people come across and browse, and I'd use the private gallery for the more explicit photos that I wanted someone to have at least a basic RM account to see. I'd provide access to pretty much anyone who wanted it, and it gave me a chance to say hello and thanks at the same time. The premium gallery feature was added a few years back, and I never really understood what the point was since there's also a private gallery. I think as suggested this was probably a pitch to help get more subscribers to pony up for premium. Over the years I haven't noticed much difference in whether someone with a basic account or premium account would end up booking. Right now I'm on hiatus so I only have one photo in my public gallery. I put all the rest in private, and people who had already been given access can still see those even though I let my profile expire. As shown in the screenshot below, providers are also required to have a "G-Rated Main Photo." RM says that's for areas where there are restrictions on what can be shown in the basic profile photo. The screenshot also shows RM's rules for photos.

As a provider, I tell my husband about each appointment and where I'm going. Part of this is for safety, and part of it is just communicating to him what I'm up to. He used to be a provider himself so he gets it. At the end of the appointment I text him to let him know I'm on my way home, and if he doesn't hear from me he'll send a text to see if everything is OK. Fortunately I've never had something happen like what @Vin Marco describes. Yikes!

Fixed!

It’s about time for a remake…! Channing Tatum, now that’ll get me feeling nice and tingly, among other things.

Actually, it was only ONE poster who instigated this, and everyone else rose to this hunk's defense. I'm not going to honor the critic by naming them here, but it was truly trollish behavior. Personally, I'd kill to have an ass like yours @Evin Alexsander, not to mention the other goods. For me, no amount of squats will ever get me there! Some people are just gifted in all the right places. 😛

Thanks for sharing your experience, and welcome to the forum!

Nothing to worry about. It’s more common than you might think that a client will see a provider after a long dry spell. Have the conversation with him if you’d like, but it’s up to you. Best part is you won’t have forgotten how to do the deed… just enjoy yourself and don’t overthink it.

What’s the shower contest entail?

Maybe just maybe he had not had the chance to meet with his buddy for dinner beforehand, so had not eaten dinner after all. If that were the case, he might have felt embarrassed to bring it up, at least initially. That would at least explain the first disappearance if he truly had not had dinner, but two disappearances is odd. Wanting to dive right in and do an overnight is not unusual for a newbie, so don't feel bad. The idea sounds great, but it comes with the issues others have brought up here. My favorite appointment is the long 4-5 hour evening. It provides enough time to grab drinks and dinner, have play time, and some down time. If you're really hitting it off you can extend it to an overnight, but otherwise you can just end things on a high note and get some good rest afterwards.

Mmmmmm…. I’d sure like to check out his briefs!

I use Tunnel Bear for my VPN, works well. I use VPN if I need to modify my rates, and if I want to read the text of the reviews. In order to modify my rates I have to also set my location on RM to somewhere outside of the US, so I pick somewhere in Europe. So if all else fails, try changing your base RM location to somewhere outside of the US and see if that does the trick.

Great work all around… love the paintings, illustrations and photography. Impressive!

I love them. And a man who can draw and write, I’m impressed.

Yes good point. Definitely noticing a lot of that too. So back to the nudists, maybe the younger folks just think it’s too uncool. I know when I was younger we’d roll our eyes at anything that seemed too “hippy.” Of course now I like hippy stuff but with age comes wisdom lol.

I agree. Being naked outdoors is one of life's pleasures, and I think anyone should be able to enjoy it without shame or feeling like they need to conform to some sort of standard. I love being naked outdoors and don't care what everyone else looks like since I know how great it feels. A subset of being naked outdoors is having an outdoor shower. I don't know why it's so exhilarating but it is! Also I'm thinking Gen Z may be a bit less uptight about being naked than the Millennials. At least that's what I've been noticing at the gyms. They aren't spending tons of time naked but aren't all doing the towel dance either.

You can still write a review, but first click on the button to contact the masseur. Be sure you’re logged in so they’ll have record of that. They won’t know whether or not you actually called the masseur, but that’s enough for them to accept a review. You may need to fib on the date of the session so it’s at least the same day or later from when you initially contacted.

I've stayed at Descanso, as well as its sister resorts Santiago and Twin Palms. They're all owned by the same people, and they're all really good. Each has a bit of a different vibe. All very good quality and excellent service. All are clothing-optional. My favorite would be Santiago, followed by Twin Palms and then Descanso, but you can't go wrong with any of them. Sometimes it comes down to which has availability. Hacienda is the gold standard for sure. I haven't stayed as a regular guest, but I've stayed as a guest of a guest and it's a really nice place. It's quieter, and I'm guessing less social than the other resorts. That may be to your liking, or not, depending on what you're looking for. Others who have spent more time there may be able to provide more insight.

I think everything you've outlined is fine, just to have on hand. The only thing you need to mention when he arrives is the offer of beverages. Everything else can just be there in the background. If either of you get hungry, the food can be out on the counter as though it was gonna be there anyway. I like @Vegas_Millennial's suggestion of having the condoms and lube in sight, which is the same thing I do when hosting in a hotel. No need to say anything about it, he'll understand what they're there for. My only concern is you mention the house will be well scented. I'm not sure what that would involve, but I'd suggest against any artificial "room fresheners" like Febreze, Carpet Fresh, etc. since they can be disagreeable to some people (like me - they give me a headache). Scented candles should be OK though, particularly if they're subtle. Lastly, a gift is nice but not necessary. Depends on what it is, but as others have suggested, it might be a bit over the top in trying to impress. Just be freshly showered, welcoming, and respectful of boundaries... that's really all a provider is looking for (and of course to get paid).

Thanks for the link, and glad you had a good time!

By all means do the favor of providing a link to the guy's listing if he has one. Providers need business in order to stay in business, and referrals from this site are especially valuable. If the phone stops ringing (or nowadays, if the texts stop coming), the provider will eventually hang it up for retirement, and that will be the end of that!