misterhumphries

And the way a man walks. Some men have the sexiest walk. It's hard to describe what constitutes a sexy walk, but I know it when I see it.

Yes, there will ALWAYS be the the loud, in-your-face types who live up to the gay femme stereotype. When I was exploring and accepting my sexuality as a gay man, those loud, womanish types had NOTHING in common with me. Yet I never thought of them as "other" -- they were simply not me. "Straight-acting" was not part of my vocabulary or mindset, either, because I knew by my early 20s that I was anything but straight; and I had no interest in play-acting.
I find it sad that who's gay or straight is still a hotly debated topic among segments of the gay populace. 
For me, I agree with the line from "Victor/Victoria": I'm a man who doesn't have to prove it. To myself or to anyone.
The dig at transgender women is just hateful. They are women, perhaps not biologically but in their spirit, their mind, their self-perception, they are women. How dare you to deny anyone the right to define himself or herself? Did someone die and elect you as sole arbiter of what's what and who's who? Am I missing anything? Not being trans myself, I don't understand it, either.  But I wouldn't deny anyone their truth. And consider that the transgendered are most likely to be murdered (unsolved), most likely to be poor, discriminated against for employment. Being trans is not a walk in the park. Trans men and women have incredible courage to be themselves.

Yes, there will ALWAYS be the the loud, in-your-face types who live up to the gay femme stereotype. When I was exploring and accepting my sexuality as a gay man, those loud, womanish types had NOTHING in common with me. Yet I never thought of them as "other" -- they were simply not me. "Straight-acting" was not part of my vocabulary or mindset, either, because I knew by my early 20s that I was anything but straight; and I had no interest in play-acting.
I find it sad that who's gay or straight is still a hotly debated topic among segments of the gay populace. 
For me, I agree with the line from "Victor/Victoria": I'm a man who doesn't have to prove it. To myself or to anyone.
The dig at transgender women is just hateful. They are women, perhaps not biologically but in their spirit, their mind, their self-perception, they are women. How dare you to deny anyone the right to define himself or herself? Did someone die and elect you as sole arbiter of what's what and who's who? Am I missing anything? Not being trans myself, I don't understand it, either.  But I wouldn't deny anyone their truth. And consider that the transgendered are most likely to be murdered (unsolved), most likely to be poor, discriminated against for employment. Being trans is not a walk in the park. Trans men and women have incredible courage to be themselves.

Ooh-wee! that's too much werk! When I get to be 70 (knock wood) I plan on being in whatever shape my diet of donuts and fried chicken gives me. I will dress in sweatpants. I'll be as morose or as sarcastic as I please. And I will bathe only when I find skidmarks in my sweatpants.🤪

A deep voice

Tall and lean. His text promises to "wreck you in the best way." Imma have to take that dare.😈

And the way a man walks. Some men have the sexiest walk. It's hard to describe what constitutes a sexy walk, but I know it when I see it.

Ooh-wee! that's too much werk! When I get to be 70 (knock wood) I plan on being in whatever shape my diet of donuts and fried chicken gives me. I will dress in sweatpants. I'll be as morose or as sarcastic as I please. And I will bathe only when I find skidmarks in my sweatpants.🤪

That's terrible!
I had a male client whom I was seeing for the first time apologize for his age (early 60s) and asked me if it would be a problem working on an older guy. It's awful to have to feel apologetic or ashamed of having lived for so long. Given that AIDS led to many premature deaths in the 80s and 90s, every day I'm six feet above ground is a blessing.
You have to learn not to take it personally. Your money spends the same as that of a 30-something. If one escort or masseur doesn't want your business, just move on. That person did you a favor in rejecting you outright. No need to pay for feeling humiliated over a fact of life that comes to us all, if we're lucky.
You may want to remind said escort who rejects an "age" that not all men who are 40years old and over look alike or act alike. There was one fantastic bodybuilder I couldn't get enough of -- he was 68 but well preserved.

And the way a man walks. Some men have the sexiest walk. It's hard to describe what constitutes a sexy walk, but I know it when I see it.

straight-acting? I thought we (as gay men) had advanced beyond this stereotype. 

Ooh-wee! that's too much werk! When I get to be 70 (knock wood) I plan on being in whatever shape my diet of donuts and fried chicken gives me. I will dress in sweatpants. I'll be as morose or as sarcastic as I please. And I will bathe only when I find skidmarks in my sweatpants.🤪

Daaaaam! That's a lot of beef in two flavors. But I wouldn't hire them for any amount of money. They can work out their trust issues on someone else.

This topic is irksome for me. As a licensed massage therapist, it's insulting to be lumped in with the "masseurs" who do perform sex work under the guise of giving massage. State laws governing massage therapists vary by state, but they are united in prohibiting a licensed therapist from engaging in any sexual contact with clients. Nothing would be "taken up a notch." The history of massage therapy in this country began as a coded way to describe a prostitute; this is the image that the profession is still battling against today. I realize there are websites such as masseurfinder that list "masseurs."  The rates tend to be a dead giveaway that there will be something sexual taking place. A legitimate hour-long massage should cost no more than about $120.00. If I see a rate higher than that, to me it's coded for there will be something sexual taking place.
As for those who hire these "masseurs" instead of escorts, I liken it to calling an eggplant an "aubergine." Different term, but it boils down to the same thing.

I feel your outrage. The current HIV meds are the most sophisticated drugs there are. Those of us can remember the early days when the only medication was AZT which caused more health issues than it may have resolved. I had a former boyfriend who was taking DDI. His body dysmorphia was advancing every time I saw him in the form of a gigantic pot belly and dorsal fat deposit.
There is no such thing as taking an HIV med break. What you do is risk building a resistance to the medication. You'd be back on the rollercoaster of switching meds to find one that is tolerable and effective.
We are our own worst enemy.

Ooh-wee! that's too much werk! When I get to be 70 (knock wood) I plan on being in whatever shape my diet of donuts and fried chicken gives me. I will dress in sweatpants. I'll be as morose or as sarcastic as I please. And I will bathe only when I find skidmarks in my sweatpants.🤪

This is true of any profession. A dentist must have dentist. A barber has a barber. Why wouldn't an escort spread the wealth to a colleague?

I feel your outrage. The current HIV meds are the most sophisticated drugs there are. Those of us can remember the early days when the only medication was AZT which caused more health issues than it may have resolved. I had a former boyfriend who was taking DDI. His body dysmorphia was advancing every time I saw him in the form of a gigantic pot belly and dorsal fat deposit.
There is no such thing as taking an HIV med break. What you do is risk building a resistance to the medication. You'd be back on the rollercoaster of switching meds to find one that is tolerable and effective.
We are our own worst enemy.

I'm going to give you the floor on this topic because you seem to think you know better. What seems to grip you is the human propensity to make things more complicated than they are; or to search for hidden meaning (there MUST be a hidden meaning) behind all human choice) where it might not exist.

I feel your outrage. The current HIV meds are the most sophisticated drugs there are. Those of us can remember the early days when the only medication was AZT which caused more health issues than it may have resolved. I had a former boyfriend who was taking DDI. His body dysmorphia was advancing every time I saw him in the form of a gigantic pot belly and dorsal fat deposit.
There is no such thing as taking an HIV med break. What you do is risk building a resistance to the medication. You'd be back on the rollercoaster of switching meds to find one that is tolerable and effective.
We are our own worst enemy.

Ooh-wee! that's too much werk! When I get to be 70 (knock wood) I plan on being in whatever shape my diet of donuts and fried chicken gives me. I will dress in sweatpants. I'll be as morose or as sarcastic as I please. And I will bathe only when I find skidmarks in my sweatpants.🤪

I'm going to give you the floor on this topic because you seem to think you know better. What seems to grip you is the human propensity to make things more complicated than they are; or to search for hidden meaning (there MUST be a hidden meaning) behind all human choice) where it might not exist.

A torn condom would be  your problem if your receptive partner had an STD. It never ceases to amaze me how gay men seem to think HIV is the only disease or virus to be avoided if possible. Gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, herpes, to name the top four are always with us. My doctor confirmed a rise in cases of drug-resistant syphilis among gay men largely in part to the tunnel-vision focus on only HIV prevention.

I feel your outrage. The current HIV meds are the most sophisticated drugs there are. Those of us can remember the early days when the only medication was AZT which caused more health issues than it may have resolved. I had a former boyfriend who was taking DDI. His body dysmorphia was advancing every time I saw him in the form of a gigantic pot belly and dorsal fat deposit.
There is no such thing as taking an HIV med break. What you do is risk building a resistance to the medication. You'd be back on the rollercoaster of switching meds to find one that is tolerable and effective.
We are our own worst enemy.

That's a gif from one of my favorite Russ Meyer movies, "Mudhoney"!