misterhumphries

There are too many assumptions -- assuming as escort is positive if it's not mentioned in his profile, assuming that EVERYONE is positive. Remember the old joke of what happens when you assume "IT MAKES AN ASS OF U AND ME"
I agree with Benjamin Nicholas that regardless of what you might suspect about anyone else's sexual history or health status, we are each responsible for ourselves. Except for Covid and monkeypox, proper and constant use of a condom can help remove worries about transmission of most STDs. Problem is there is a wave of men who now want to revert to the pre-AIDS days and have raw sex with total abandon since PREP is available.

What you describe is called transference and countertransference -- crossing boundaries and allowing or encouraging personal life to encroach on business life. As a licensed massage therapist, transference is an ever-present danger. I've felt an instant emotional connection with many clients, male and female. A male client -- a first timer -- had a whopping BIG hard-on during his massage. It took every ounce of reserve I had not to pull back the sheet and have a taste. Oddly enough, once this client became more comfortable with me, he confided other male massage therapists had performed oral sex on him! BUT, as a professional, I know I cannot meet them for coffee, or "hang out," or have any contact other than our business relationship. Sometimes, it's hard to stay to my side of the imaginary line, but I know doing so overall makes for no hurt feelings, no hidden agendas, no mixed messages, and -- most importantly -- no lost clients.

I don't think you have to say anything. If he's an escort, he probably has other clients that you know nothing about. It's a blurring of the interpersonal lines that YOU feel a loyalty that the escort may not. Scrape away the sexual intimacy, and you're left with a business transaction. It's not rude to see and pay whatever escort you please.

Please consult with your doctor. Anecdotal info only goes so far. Every person reacts differently to meds. You want to be prescribed a medication that your physician approves for your condition.

My retirement plans include affording housing, food, medical care, and travel. I hadn't thought about continuing to hire occasionally, which means I probably won't.

I beg to differ. Selling cars, jewelry, etc is not the same as an escort -- who sells his "time" by the way, not his body. Sales of any consumer good do not require the salesman to get naked, to have a certain type of body, or to anticipate a customer wanting to have intimate contact with his sex organs. The last three men I contacted about their services, I didn't book a session. For one reason or another, they were not right for me. It's fair to call me a time waster for that reason. Being called a time waster can be undone by booking and keeping an appointment.

I beg to differ. Selling cars, jewelry, etc is not the same as an escort -- who sells his "time" by the way, not his body. Sales of any consumer good do not require the salesman to get naked, to have a certain type of body, or to anticipate a customer wanting to have intimate contact with his sex organs. The last three men I contacted about their services, I didn't book a session. For one reason or another, they were not right for me. It's fair to call me a time waster for that reason. Being called a time waster can be undone by booking and keeping an appointment.

I beg to differ. Selling cars, jewelry, etc is not the same as an escort -- who sells his "time" by the way, not his body. Sales of any consumer good do not require the salesman to get naked, to have a certain type of body, or to anticipate a customer wanting to have intimate contact with his sex organs. The last three men I contacted about their services, I didn't book a session. For one reason or another, they were not right for me. It's fair to call me a time waster for that reason. Being called a time waster can be undone by booking and keeping an appointment.

I beg to differ. Selling cars, jewelry, etc is not the same as an escort -- who sells his "time" by the way, not his body. Sales of any consumer good do not require the salesman to get naked, to have a certain type of body, or to anticipate a customer wanting to have intimate contact with his sex organs. The last three men I contacted about their services, I didn't book a session. For one reason or another, they were not right for me. It's fair to call me a time waster for that reason. Being called a time waster can be undone by booking and keeping an appointment.

There is no choosing sexuality; it simply is. For me, my choice was to accept that I am sexually interested only in men. I did not sit myself down and wonder: "Hmm.. What can I do to make my life that much more difficult and to feel ostracized?"
The very idea that sexuality is a choice is a step backwards that led to the gay reprogramming camps and religious groups who used to believe they could  pray the gay away. The DSM long-ago stopped classifying homosexuality as a mental disorder. Sexuality is biological, a genetic quirk.

What you cite is the very reason why I use texts sparingly or not at all. Too much nuanced communication is sacrificed by using abbreviations, misspelled words, or emojis. As for escorts, I give the ones I'm truly interested in the benefit of the doubt. A lot of creeps or possible entrapment on Rentmen, being busy, or simply feeling awkward in communicating with a stranger -- they don't want to give away too much or too little.

Yes, I'd probably go. What I would like, though, is a resurgence of gay bathhouses. I've always thought they got an unfair rap for doing the very thing that hookups provide.

Yes, I'd probably go. What I would like, though, is a resurgence of gay bathhouses. I've always thought they got an unfair rap for doing the very thing that hookups provide.

I remember how controversial "James at 15" was when it was aired. There was no show before it that dealt frankly and realistically with male teen sexuality.

No, you're not "wrong" your opinion is valid. As you state, that kind of writing and humor is not to your liking. Take F Scott Fitzgerald. Some readers think his novel The Great Gatsby is his best work. I, however, think all his novels were like lead. The short story was where Fitzgerald shone for me but opinions will vary.

I can't tell you how or with whom I discovered I am a nipple pig but it's been a revelation. I once dated this man with genuinely HUGE MASSIVE bodybuilder-style tits with thimble nipples that he loved to have nursed and chewed. It was awesome. And then he did things to my nipples that made my knees buckle. For me, the acid test is if any potential date or sex partner knows what to do with nips.

There is no choosing sexuality; it simply is. For me, my choice was to accept that I am sexually interested only in men. I did not sit myself down and wonder: "Hmm.. What can I do to make my life that much more difficult and to feel ostracized?"
The very idea that sexuality is a choice is a step backwards that led to the gay reprogramming camps and religious groups who used to believe they could  pray the gay away. The DSM long-ago stopped classifying homosexuality as a mental disorder. Sexuality is biological, a genetic quirk.

So you've polled EVERY person on the planet to state that nobody identifies as "just" gay? Why is being gay referred to in such dismissive tones as if there is some vital aspect to one's sexual identity that is missing? Sexuality has always run along a spectrum to my knowledge and experience. I can state that I am gay, gay, gay. I can't even imagine having sex with a woman. Besides, the new fluidity could be based on the principle that one's sexuality is not the be-all, end-all in terms of experience or identity.

As others have opined, with an escort please be direct. Every man understands what cum is; it's not a naughty word. If the word "cum" sticks in your throat (pun intended) you could ask if he will be able to bust a nut with you. You can't get what you want if you don't ask. And asking helps avoid any miscommunication that may result in a less-than-satisfactory encounter.

Congratulations! By paying cash, as others have stated, you save several thousand in interest. Even though a car is a depreciating asset, you'd not be enslaved to  years of finance charges.

No, you're not "wrong" your opinion is valid. As you state, that kind of writing and humor is not to your liking. Take F Scott Fitzgerald. Some readers think his novel The Great Gatsby is his best work. I, however, think all his novels were like lead. The short story was where Fitzgerald shone for me but opinions will vary.

Yum! I'm feeling ten pounds fatter just thinking about those

It's not you. Yet there are always going to be men with more money than sense.

As others have opined, with an escort please be direct. Every man understands what cum is; it's not a naughty word. If the word "cum" sticks in your throat (pun intended) you could ask if he will be able to bust a nut with you. You can't get what you want if you don't ask. And asking helps avoid any miscommunication that may result in a less-than-satisfactory encounter.

It's not you. Yet there are always going to be men with more money than sense.