JayJxn

I firmly believe that very few people are 100% straight or gay. What straight man has never made a sideways glance at the urinals and had a fleeting thought of … but that fleeting thought can be very disconcerting to some and they act out in many different ways. I did not come out until late in life and I am so thankful for the support of my “straight” friends while I have had mixed reception from my “gay” friends. Part of that is our own feelings about those “wasted” years in the friendship. Also, it sounds like there was hurt in the past from how from how this giy struggled (probably unconsciously) with his own sexuality. Even though your friendship to a hiatus, I hope you can find a future in some capacity with this guy. 

I firmly believe that very few people are 100% straight or gay. What straight man has never made a sideways glance at the urinals and had a fleeting thought of … but that fleeting thought can be very disconcerting to some and they act out in many different ways. I did not come out until late in life and I am so thankful for the support of my “straight” friends while I have had mixed reception from my “gay” friends. Part of that is our own feelings about those “wasted” years in the friendship. Also, it sounds like there was hurt in the past from how from how this giy struggled (probably unconsciously) with his own sexuality. Even though your friendship to a hiatus, I hope you can find a future in some capacity with this guy. 

I firmly believe that very few people are 100% straight or gay. What straight man has never made a sideways glance at the urinals and had a fleeting thought of … but that fleeting thought can be very disconcerting to some and they act out in many different ways. I did not come out until late in life and I am so thankful for the support of my “straight” friends while I have had mixed reception from my “gay” friends. Part of that is our own feelings about those “wasted” years in the friendship. Also, it sounds like there was hurt in the past from how from how this giy struggled (probably unconsciously) with his own sexuality. Even though your friendship to a hiatus, I hope you can find a future in some capacity with this guy. 

First off, I’m really sorry for your loss. It’s incredible that you’re ready to put yourself out there again, especially after 39 years!
Times have definitely changed since the landline days, but the good news is, the basics still hold: be genuine, be yourself, and ask someone out in a way that feels natural to you.
If you’re comfortable texting, that’s usually the go-to now. But honestly, a phone call can be a nice change of pace, especially for a meaningful connection—some guys will appreciate the old-school charm. Just maybe skip the bathroom stall idea unless you’re really aiming for that ’80s nostalgia! 
As for Grindr, it’s great for quick connections, but if you’re looking for more than a hookup, try mixing it up with apps like Hinge, Scruff or Tinder. At the end of the day, don’t feel pressured to follow any set rules—do what feels right, and trust your instincts. Welcome back to the dating world, and good luck!

I am a fairly recent widower after a 39 year relationship who is now ready to “put myself out there” and date again. The problem is that the last time I asked someone on a date was in the 1980’s when we picked up the landline (gasp), called someone we had met (usually) and asked if they wanted to go to dinner and/or a movie. How should I ask a guy out in the 21st century? Text? Email? Call? Leave my number in a bathroom stall?  Or should I just expect a life of random hookups from Grindr?

As I am an old geezer, it seems to me the old way is the best way.  Meet someone, find you have something in common, as them out, then fuck your brains out and see where it goes.  

I’ve often wanted to go to an underwear night at a gay bar but have always worried about checking my clothes. What do I keep with me?  And, how?  My jockstrap doesn’t have pockets!

I have brought this up with only one friend along with my penchant for erotic massages. He condemns both as hiring sex workers. Of course I live in a conservative state where even gay men fart red gas. 🤦🏻  Has made me shy about brining up the subject with anyone else. 

Love a man in sexy underwear - I like that bulge - even when I know what his cock looks like, tastes like, feels like, I like the hidden mystery of unwrapping or sliding those underwear down to discover the prize.
 
its great foreplay 

Have attended a few meeting of Capitol Bate Club in DC. All they use is Albolene. Facilitated a LOT of stroking. 
Boy Butter is my personal favorite. 

Have attended a few meeting of Capitol Bate Club in DC. All they use is Albolene. Facilitated a LOT of stroking. 
Boy Butter is my personal favorite. 

I agree totally. A sensual/erotic massage, if done right, is a journey of learning the intimacy of seduction of ourselves that can then translate into our seduction of another. I recently had a massage during which the masseur remained fully clothed, including his baseball cap. Initially, I was ticked at him but decided to go with it. Instead of thinking about his body, I was able to fully immerse myself in the experience of what his hands were doing to my body. What started out as “not ideal” in my narrow minded perception culminated in the happiest ending I have had in years. I will definitely be using certain “touches” that I enjoyed from him as I seduce my future lovers in what I hope to be mutual ecstatic endings. 

I agree totally. A sensual/erotic massage, if done right, is a journey of learning the intimacy of seduction of ourselves that can then translate into our seduction of another. I recently had a massage during which the masseur remained fully clothed, including his baseball cap. Initially, I was ticked at him but decided to go with it. Instead of thinking about his body, I was able to fully immerse myself in the experience of what his hands were doing to my body. What started out as “not ideal” in my narrow minded perception culminated in the happiest ending I have had in years. I will definitely be using certain “touches” that I enjoyed from him as I seduce my future lovers in what I hope to be mutual ecstatic endings. 

I agree totally. A sensual/erotic massage, if done right, is a journey of learning the intimacy of seduction of ourselves that can then translate into our seduction of another. I recently had a massage during which the masseur remained fully clothed, including his baseball cap. Initially, I was ticked at him but decided to go with it. Instead of thinking about his body, I was able to fully immerse myself in the experience of what his hands were doing to my body. What started out as “not ideal” in my narrow minded perception culminated in the happiest ending I have had in years. I will definitely be using certain “touches” that I enjoyed from him as I seduce my future lovers in what I hope to be mutual ecstatic endings. 

Decide on what you really want to experience. If it is the parades, then definitely uptown. If it is the gay bar scene, then the Quarter or Marigny. I like the Bourbon Orleans, right next to some of the more popular gay bars in the quarter; however, they REALLY jack up the prices during Mardi Gras. Hotel Saint Marie is another one of my favorites and is less expensive. 

Yes, it has closed. A great loss to the community. And the Country Club is no longer clothing optional. What’s the city cumming to???

Yes, it has closed. A great loss to the community. And the Country Club is no longer clothing optional. What’s the city cumming to???

Decide on what you really want to experience. If it is the parades, then definitely uptown. If it is the gay bar scene, then the Quarter or Marigny. I like the Bourbon Orleans, right next to some of the more popular gay bars in the quarter; however, they REALLY jack up the prices during Mardi Gras. Hotel Saint Marie is another one of my favorites and is less expensive. 

I agree totally. A sensual/erotic massage, if done right, is a journey of learning the intimacy of seduction of ourselves that can then translate into our seduction of another. I recently had a massage during which the masseur remained fully clothed, including his baseball cap. Initially, I was ticked at him but decided to go with it. Instead of thinking about his body, I was able to fully immerse myself in the experience of what his hands were doing to my body. What started out as “not ideal” in my narrow minded perception culminated in the happiest ending I have had in years. I will definitely be using certain “touches” that I enjoyed from him as I seduce my future lovers in what I hope to be mutual ecstatic endings. 

I agree totally. A sensual/erotic massage, if done right, is a journey of learning the intimacy of seduction of ourselves that can then translate into our seduction of another. I recently had a massage during which the masseur remained fully clothed, including his baseball cap. Initially, I was ticked at him but decided to go with it. Instead of thinking about his body, I was able to fully immerse myself in the experience of what his hands were doing to my body. What started out as “not ideal” in my narrow minded perception culminated in the happiest ending I have had in years. I will definitely be using certain “touches” that I enjoyed from him as I seduce my future lovers in what I hope to be mutual ecstatic endings. 

I agree totally. A sensual/erotic massage, if done right, is a journey of learning the intimacy of seduction of ourselves that can then translate into our seduction of another. I recently had a massage during which the masseur remained fully clothed, including his baseball cap. Initially, I was ticked at him but decided to go with it. Instead of thinking about his body, I was able to fully immerse myself in the experience of what his hands were doing to my body. What started out as “not ideal” in my narrow minded perception culminated in the happiest ending I have had in years. I will definitely be using certain “touches” that I enjoyed from him as I seduce my future lovers in what I hope to be mutual ecstatic endings. 

I agree totally. A sensual/erotic massage, if done right, is a journey of learning the intimacy of seduction of ourselves that can then translate into our seduction of another. I recently had a massage during which the masseur remained fully clothed, including his baseball cap. Initially, I was ticked at him but decided to go with it. Instead of thinking about his body, I was able to fully immerse myself in the experience of what his hands were doing to my body. What started out as “not ideal” in my narrow minded perception culminated in the happiest ending I have had in years. I will definitely be using certain “touches” that I enjoyed from him as I seduce my future lovers in what I hope to be mutual ecstatic endings. 

I agree totally. A sensual/erotic massage, if done right, is a journey of learning the intimacy of seduction of ourselves that can then translate into our seduction of another. I recently had a massage during which the masseur remained fully clothed, including his baseball cap. Initially, I was ticked at him but decided to go with it. Instead of thinking about his body, I was able to fully immerse myself in the experience of what his hands were doing to my body. What started out as “not ideal” in my narrow minded perception culminated in the happiest ending I have had in years. I will definitely be using certain “touches” that I enjoyed from him as I seduce my future lovers in what I hope to be mutual ecstatic endings. 

Anyone you’ve had a great experience with in DC?  I’ve had varying experiences there so looking to the collective wisdom of the group to give me guidance. Send me a DM. 

Going to DC soon and always love a good massage to ease the stress of travel. Anyone have experience with JohnSaints? Reviews on RentMasseur seem almost too good to be true but there are a lot of them!
Thanks for the help, guys!