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Has anyone else been blackmailed on Grindr or Scruff? I was in the closet and joined scruff without uploading a face pic. The first person to message me ended up blackmailing me once he found out I had a wife. He said he was married too and that his wife and kids were away. He got me to move our conversation to text once we were arranging our hook up. Once he had my cell number he must have done a search to get my identity, family members, workplace and of course all my wife’s details. He threatened to text my wife and my coworkers if I didn’t give him $2,000. I was so traumatized but I had been thinking of coming out for a long time and he just pushed me over the edge. I went right in and told my wife everything. Only later did I go onto google and find that these scammers never follow through. Indeed he never did contact anyone. But I don’t know if I’d have had the guts to come out if this never happened to me. Others have a similar experience? I am alone here?

I just joined this site and thought this was as good a way to introduce myself as any (and might also ignite other new tales from other newbies like me). 
I was closeted when I had my first erotic massage. I asked the guy who waxed my back if he knew of any good massages. (He was the only guy who knew I was gay.) He said he had a new client who gave massages. He didn't know if he was any good, but said he was good looking. I texted the guy. He responded with a menu of options and prices. That was the first time I saw erotic massage as an option.  The description was brief and included "release" which I guessed correctly what that meant. I decided to take the plunge. 
I booked a 90-min afternoon session.  He met me at the gate to his complex wearing a tank top. He was very cute and had a sexy body (not buff but well-defined). He led me to his apartment and left the room to allow me to undress and get on his table. When I heard him come back in, I peered up to find he was naked too. I immediately got turned on thinking that this was definitely different from any other massage. 
It began with a legitimately great massage of my legs and backside with frequent brushes against his body and his hands gliding across my glutes. I don't really have a great sense of time, but he must have spent 45 minutes massaging the back of my body with more and more frequent sensual touches of my sensitive areas.  Then he got on the table with me and straddled my legs using his position to work more on my back. His cock was now hard and I could feel it rubbing against my ass. I was getting so turned on that my hips would rise every time he slid his body up against mine. 
Then I felt it. I was a virgin when it came to sex with a man so I wasn't entirely sure, but I was pretty sure that he was trying to fuck me. I was and still am very tight so it was taking him awhile in between applying extra lube. This gave me just enough time to decide that I really wanted it. When he finally found the right spot again, I lifted my hips and pressed against his cock so that he would know and I whispered to please go slow.
For what must have been 40 minutes, we enacted just about everything I had ever seen in a gay porn video. I was having the time of my life and I could tell he was thrilled to be giving me so much pleasure.  When we were face to face, we just started kissing. He had amazing lips that drove me crazy. It just made me explode.
I was covered in sweat (his and mine). I asked him if I could take a shower. He gave me a towel and off I went to clean up. When I came out, I expected to get dressed, but he told me to get back on the table and that he still had to work on the front of my body. I asked if he had time and he said he had cancelled his next appointment. I did as I was told and he began to massage my head and work his way down my body. As he got to my midsection, I was hard again. And so was he. And off we went again. 
I swear I thought I would die from physical exhaustion, but at least I'd die happy. After it was over, I told him it was amazing and that this was my first time with a man and that I had no idea what to expect. He told me that our mutual friend had texted him to say that he could have fun with me and that this was his idea of fun. This was already the most expensive massage I'd ever had, but I gave him a big tip on top. I told him that I would love to see him again. Unfortunately, he was heading out of town for few months and I haven't had the second session. 
In the meantime, I discovered there were many more men offering massages and I became hooked. And now here I am. 
 
 

I don’t mind paying a deposit in certain situations. The provider must have been on RM for over a year, and/or have 25+ good RM reviews, and/or have some positive comments on this forum from guys who have met him. The last criteria carries the most weight. If one of you have seen the person and had a good experience, or even an OK experience, then I don’t mind spending $20 or so to prove that I am serious.
I would never spend more than $40 or so, and I would certainly never pay for the full session in advance before even meeting up. Those type of deposits are a no go for me.

I don’t mind paying a deposit in certain situations. The provider must have been on RM for over a year, and/or have 25+ good RM reviews, and/or have some positive comments on this forum from guys who have met him. The last criteria carries the most weight. If one of you have seen the person and had a good experience, or even an OK experience, then I don’t mind spending $20 or so to prove that I am serious.
I would never spend more than $40 or so, and I would certainly never pay for the full session in advance before even meeting up. Those type of deposits are a no go for me.

I’ve never sent any happy birthday / Christmas etc texts to clients unless they sent one first to me and in that case then I reply in kind. I don’t like to send unsolicited messages. 
It’s a nice idea though if clients are open to receiving such marketing. Maybe I’ll add a box to my booking confirmations…something like:
”If you would like to receive texts or emails with offers and information please tick the box. Your data will not be sold or used by any third party or for any other purpose than to inform you of products or services that may be of interest to you”. 
Then I can draft a template text or email for my mailing tool to generate the messages to my clients. Something like:
Dear [Big boy / Pumpkin / HungDaddy] have a great [21st, 50th, 103rd] birthday! I hope your [massive / fun sized / PA adorned] cock is getting plenty of action on your special day 🍆💦.
***(Select 1, 2 or both as appropriate depending on client’s preference)***
1 My [mouth / bum ] is available for your attention with a special offer of 20% off this weekend. Buy the ‘both holes’ package and get an extra 5% off!
2 My [cock / tongue / right arm😱] is available to service you this weekend with 20% off pre sale prices. Buy the ‘ass to mouth’ special and get an extra 5% off! 
Terms and conditions apply. Availability subject to demand. 
If you wish to opt out of mailing list please complete the form hidden at the bottom of my website and send two forms of ID not including your password or drivers license.
Best wishes 
[Jamie / J 😘 / Your Masseur]
 



 

 

To me, the best kissers start off with the soft kisses. Then ease into the tongue action. Slow and shallow at first and as things heat up, then it gets deeper and faster. Grabbing the back of his head and holding him there while you kiss is equally hot. Then slow it back down to where your lips are so close, but not touching, and you can feel and hear each other’s panting. All the while, your bodies have been mashed together and writhing against each other. Then after a few seconds you repeat, maybe with a dick inside one of you. If he’s doing it right, you don’t even think about. You don’t even wonder what to do next. It all just happens blissfully. 

To me, the deep kisses and probing tongues is the hottest part. That’s when you feel most connected.  Followed very closely by the soft kisses afterwards with your mouths close but not always touching  
And I agree, mister_mister could totally do what I describe above! 

To me, the best kissers start off with the soft kisses. Then ease into the tongue action. Slow and shallow at first and as things heat up, then it gets deeper and faster. Grabbing the back of his head and holding him there while you kiss is equally hot. Then slow it back down to where your lips are so close, but not touching, and you can feel and hear each other’s panting. All the while, your bodies have been mashed together and writhing against each other. Then after a few seconds you repeat, maybe with a dick inside one of you. If he’s doing it right, you don’t even think about. You don’t even wonder what to do next. It all just happens blissfully. 

To me, the deep kisses and probing tongues is the hottest part. That’s when you feel most connected.  Followed very closely by the soft kisses afterwards with your mouths close but not always touching  
And I agree, mister_mister could totally do what I describe above! 

In my experience, if you have ever swallowed cock, no pill is gigantic.

Is the Truvada pill really that difficult to swallow? I mean, if one can deepthroat, a truvada pill should be no problem, no?

Hi all I lost track of this tread.  I commented back in October 21.  I have since seen him three times and he is really a great fun guy.  He is definitely a flirt, he sent a happy valentines text 😄 

73 years old?  He is at least 74.  Age shaver.  LOL

On the whole “neither of us had lube” - am I the only one wondering why the client didn’t don’t have any himself? 🤷🏼‍♂️

I’ve had friends (both fellow hobbyists and non-hobbyists) say the same - “he didn’t have / didn’t bring lube / condoms”. As I have said to them, I say here:

As a sexual active man, you make sure they’re in your nightstand at home, and in your Dopp kit when you’re traveling. Period.

I don't find this controversial at all. In fact, it makes COMPLETE SENSE!!!!

I get what you're saying, and I don't want to overly dissect things, but I still find it hard to see how his reply to you was objectively a dismissal.  I can totally understand that it subjectively felt like a dismissal, but the average person reading the text would not likely come to that conclusion based on what he wrote.  He even thanked you for the offer.  Some could argue that you dismissed him by not replying to his text, until 12 hours later.  True, he did not ask any follow up questions, but there is no reason to if he only wishes to consider professional photographers.  I imagine that he thought the conversation was over once he told you he was not interested in being photographed and you did not respond with any other interest in meeting.  I have never met with anyone, so I don't know what an interaction like this is supposed to look like, and I'm sorry you have been rushed and scammed by others in the past.   It makes a person understandably wary, and in some cases we can become extra sensitive to how a message is given to us.  Maybe this is part of the situation?  I am nobody to judge or guess what goes on in another person's mind, but it is incredibly difficult to view text messages objectively if we have been hurt or disappointed in the past - it is too easy to read a tone into them that may not have been intended.  Or the guy is a jerk - but I can't come to that conclusion on an objective basis.  This is part of the issue with social media and virtual relationships - too much depends on our assumptions of one another, and not enough is based on real life connections.  

Wow! How much are flights to the UK right now? 😂

This was your original statement. You are in the wrong. Learn from this.
(1) Making a broad statement. Off of zero to little interaction on a forum to damage the character of a provider isn’t ok.
(2) You showed us all how you did not communicate effectively to the provider. He turned you down and your feelings were hurt. 
(3) You’re now telling others to move on. It’s clear via your messages, you did not move on when Lewis told you NO. You had to text him a day later to call him “dismissive”. A day after commenting on this forum and calling him conceited??? Your interactions do not make sense. 
No this isn’t a Del Taco. This isn’t a restaurant. This isn’t a typical  “customer service industry”. 
Therefore you need to learn how to better communicate with providers. You are the person looking for a service. Communicate effectively what you are seeking and maybe your outcomes will be better. 
Looking at peoples emoji reactions I’m not alone In this thinking!

Hey hey hey... oh, wrong Albert

To me, the best kissers start off with the soft kisses. Then ease into the tongue action. Slow and shallow at first and as things heat up, then it gets deeper and faster. Grabbing the back of his head and holding him there while you kiss is equally hot. Then slow it back down to where your lips are so close, but not touching, and you can feel and hear each other’s panting. All the while, your bodies have been mashed together and writhing against each other. Then after a few seconds you repeat, maybe with a dick inside one of you. If he’s doing it right, you don’t even think about. You don’t even wonder what to do next. It all just happens blissfully. 

To me, the deep kisses and probing tongues is the hottest part. That’s when you feel most connected.  Followed very closely by the soft kisses afterwards with your mouths close but not always touching  
And I agree, mister_mister could totally do what I describe above! 

https://rentmen.eu/mister_mister
soft kisses on the lips, deep probing tongue.... this guy kisses like a conversation.  He's ruined me...lol

I don’t think these are authentic posts. This guy is stringing us along just for the fun of it. Nobody can be this stupid. We’re being jerked around. 

This is good to know. He’s been on my radar while in Miami and has moved up the list a bit with this new information. Thx!! 

Ugh! You’re right!!! A missed opportunity 😢
But maybe Face Sitting is a whole new genre of sex work? You have Escorts, Masseurs,Porn stars and now…Professional Face Sitters (not to be confused with the Professional Face Shitters which is a whole separate body). One miss type into Google could get you in the brown stuff inadvertently.
I do think face sitting is something that needs to be learned. So there’s merit in your face sitting school idea!
It reminds me of a situation I had with guy one time when I was filming a porno. We’d done a fair bit of topping a bottom guy (I was filming with another top) and the next scene we had was the bottom would sit on my face. The bottom had been heavily used and I guess we’d pumped a lot of air in….(no one had cum yet). As the bottom squatted over me, his hole an inch from my face he let out an almighty long and loud fart. I simply couldn’t continue from laughing so we had to stop and take a break while the bottom got all the wind out of his system.
It could, I acknowledge, have been much worse (as in the mistype above…) but it’s one of those things that should be taught to professional face sitters: check your face sittee (the receiver of the ass) is ok with a bit of blowback before you go down. That would be lesson 1. Lesson 2 is let him breathe a bit occasionally….
 
 

I can continuously add on to this.  If any of you have PM'd me about this specific masseur in Hell's Kitchen who provides nuru style erotic massages then you've probably gotten all these details already, BUT..
I showed up at this place for my erotic massage (although I had no idea it included nuru as well) and he answered the door in his wife beater and sweats. He smiled and introduced himself as we shook hands and he asked how I was doing. He was happy as hell that I'm black too since his exact words were "I'm always happiest when I get clients who look like me." .. He asked if I wanted to shower or if I needed water or anything, so I said I'd take some water. He told me to make myself comfortable and then hop up on the massage table when I'm ready, so I undressed while he went to get the water. As I hopped up on the massage table, he walked back into the room (butt ass naked, dick already semi hard) while holding the water. He smiled as he handed it to me, and then he smacked my ass playfully and said "Nice!". After I finished my water, he turns on the relaxing massage music and starts to oil up his hands and my body. He started with my neck and back of course, working his way down to my lower back and ass, spreading my ass cheeks and blowing on my hole a bit. He asked if I was okay and comfortable to which I replied "I'm absolutely amazing, do your thing." He laughed and continued playing with my ass and hole before moving down to my legs. Once I turned over, I was rock hard and precumming, as was he although he was precumming a lot more, so I asked him if I could taste it, and he said "Yup!" so I squeeze some precut out of the head of his dick, and tasted it. He asked me how he tastes and I said "good as fuck". We both laughed and he continued massaging my while I laid on my back. From my neck to my stomach down to my dick, which he grabbed and started stroking it. He once again asked if I was comfortable to which I replied "Even if I wasn't, my dick seems to be." and we both laughed. I came all over his hand, and then he cleaned his hand off, and I started to get up, assuming the massage was over. He told me it's not over yet, and to turn back over onto my stomach. He then oiled up his body and my back area again before climbing onto the massage table and rubbing his body against mine. While he's on top of me, he's moaning loudly as am I, while he's holding both of my hands. I felt his dick precumming against my ass, and then I felt him kinda squirm for a sec. I asked him what's wrong and he replied "I don't wanna cum yet!", so then I turned over and he's now rubbing the front of his body against the front of mine. My hand are on his ass, pulling him further onto my body, and then he starts to kiss me, which I didn't mind at all. After a little while of that, he turns me over, and climbs onto the back of me again. Now for the unexpected part, I feel him rubbing my hole which was fine, but then he leans into me with his precumming dick against my ass, and he grabs my hands while slowly pressing into my hole. I literally feel the head of his dick sliding into me, so I flinched and pushed it out of me and he goes "I'm sorry, I was just going with the flow, I hope I didn't hurt you or make you uncomfortable." I was like nah, I'm good, just wasn't expecting THAT part, LOL. But we both laughed it off, he made me cum again, I stroked him and gave him some head and let him cum all over my face, he had me looking like a damn chocolate glazed donut, but it was a good time all in all. I haven't booked with him since then since a few other forum members have said he's become very unreliable, but yeah..
 
 
 

"Benjamin are you trying to seduce me?"  Mrs Robinson was very hot as played by the beautiful Anne Bancroft, but my point surrounds the fact that she was playing a game and making her partner feel wanted and presented a very sexy and desirable companion.  Don't expect the escort to do all the work.  Yes he is getting paid, but if you want more than just getting laid, you got to work for it.  I am a fucking fat sixty something year old man with no hair and doughy old man muscles.  But that doesn't mean  I am not sexy.  It does not mean I cannot provide my partner with excitement and desire.  It does not mean I can't get him fully aroused and sweaty and breathing hard and eventually coming like a fountain in Las Vegas.  It does mean I have to work  harder to do so.  And in putting in that work, I get more enjoyment and I get a better performance from my partner and ultimately I get, a "Jeez, I wasn't expecting that" from both of us.    But I put in the work and I reap the benefits.  
So sex is like a conversation, if you want it to be stimulating and satisfying, you need to do more than just hold up your end.