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Ok, update. So I chatted with Damiano after our session tonight and clarified he is indeed married to Anthony (aka porn star Saxon West). They moved to Philadelphia together, but after years of marriage and the move they are now separated. Legally I don’t know, but in practical terms yes. Damiano confirmed he is now dating escort Teddy Hunter in San Diego. I don’t know if Teddy is/was with anyone else. That’s all I know. Damiano is a masseur of course, but he go-go dances too. Damiano used to escort many years ago. He accepted my invitation to do a group play session and it went amazingly well. I’m honored he joined me, my client, and Damian Quantas. I won’t elaborate further here except for these general details that massage clients might appreciate even though they are not directly on topic of his massage services. I will have to try Damiano’s massage sometime, maybe offer a trade or just hire. Then an update is in order. He looks exactly like his photos, better even. My god the ass on this guy. It’s like a cartoon how bubbly his butt is. But it’s all real and very sexy. He wears XXL underwear. Fantastic body. Enchanting eyes and smile. Super sweet demeanor. Endearing accent. He’s from Bologna, Italy. He handles himself well. Very professional. I have a lot of respect for Damiano. What a charmer, and a joy to work with!

Pekers is a bar in Dallas.

@NJF that’s all well and good. More power to those with the luxury of time and money to enjoy leisure on work trips. If I had that luxury, I would much rather choose a place I personally want to visit (versus where is good for business) and take a real vacation. No planning my time or accommodations around clients. Just rest, relaxation, and enjoying new experiences. My approach is work hard, play hard. I hustle on work trips. I relax on vacation. Trying to do both at the same time makes both goals less achievable. At least for me. More power to those who mix both. I can’t.

Awww, we will miss you @Coolwave35! I hope he does well emotionally and mentally during this break from the forums and presumably from hiring. He’s a romantic. I have no idea what happened but I can see how easily he might have been burned. He might have also found love and rode dramatically off into the sunset, but in these arrangements whether through Seeking or more traditional routes, the fantasy can come crashing down rather quickly when you get down to the cold reality of being in an exclusive relationship with an early 20 something escort with daddy issues. I know Seeking is not technically for escorts, but the young men in these scenarios perform exactly that function, and in this case, for much the same rate of compensation in the form of “rent money for a year”. I suppose that is easier for both parties to swallow than “here’s your fee”, and parting ways. True, he did share a lot of personal details over the years and that could backfire in any number of ways. He mentioned a crazy member tracked him down and sent threatening letters to his address. I was thinking a while back how easy it might be to identify him based on a few overshared details. I would never do that, nor have any reason to, but someone off his rocker with a vendetta/obsession or axe to grind might. I really hope he is not having to fight off some crazy stalker or something. I don’t think so, and he has more than enough means to make something like that go away. Coolwave35 was questioning a lot of things in life. Before everything went south, so to speak, his Antarctica companion was really making him think about why shouldn’t he retire and live his life well? At what point is enough enough? It’s an interesting question. So many of us would only dream to be in his financial position, and I’m sure most of us would never work again, unless we simply enjoyed our work more as a hobby than an obligation, or took a sense of pride or identity in it. Maybe after doing some soul searching he decided to make a life/career change and that could be at least some part of why he is disappearing from online now. Speculation, all speculation. We will miss you, Coolwave35. Cheers to a great run. I wish you health and fulfillment whatever you do in life.

Hey @FrancisCA I have yet to change my rates when traveling and it suits me well. That’s also because I am strategic about where and when I go. I stick to the US in large part because prices for masseurs and escorts abroad tend to be so much lower. It takes more time and money to get to/from other countries. Accommodations aren’t always that much cheaper either, but it varies widely by destination. Sometimes food and other costs are lower. Travel has to be profitable for it to make business sense. Ask yourself if the rates you plan to charge wherever you go are going to make the trip worthwhile. How busy do you want to be? If you want a vacation or sightseeing tour with the opportunity to work a little if/when the opportunity comes up, that’s a different approach altogether. When I travel, I am focused on work only, and I mostly stay busy. No time to look at sights or do leisure activities. The way I see it, your home city bills remain more or less constant, in American $. Rent/mortgage, car insurance, health insurance, utilities, phone, subscriptions, etc you have to pay whether or not you’re traveling. Maybe you consume less energy or water at your place while away and those bills dip slightly, but most everything else is the same. Your income when you travel needs to cover all the bills you normally pay every month when working in your home city PLUS cover your accommodations and other travel costs AND produce a compelling net profit after expenses. Otherwise you’re just putting in more effort and taking on more risk for the same or less $ as you would make just staying home. So…sure, I could go to Europe, for example, and try to price myself for local market conditions, but I would make half or less than what I make in the US, and not receive tips, as the tipping culture is quite different. Meanwhile my bills at home pile up and I’m spinning my wheels doing the same labor for less. For me at least, foreign work travel just doesn’t make business sense. Maybe it would if my home country were somewhere other than the US.

Maybe he is just prospecting. A lot of providers do this. So frustrating for clients. He just viewed, he didn’t actually engage. Most of my RentMen viewing is business related, but some of my views are a spark of curiosity.

I third LaffingBear and Whippoorwill. San Jose is kind of a desert for providers. I’m not sure why. I figured with all the tech money sloshing around Silicon Valley a healthy market would develop, but I discovered to my surprise and delight while visiting a couple weeks ago that San Jose is underserved. My clients were kids in a candy store seeing me in San Jose proper. Most of my clients there tell me they go into SF for their needs because they can’t find the right providers in San Jose. Consequently, they end up visiting their masseurs and escorts less frequently because it’s more difficult to access them. Also, beware of the fraudsters. There are some well known rings of Asian and Latin American scammers working together offering ‘massages’. You will see mention of them in other threads on San Jose in the spa section. Do your research, read the ads carefully and always verify location ahead. Be safe, and good luck.

Here’s how I look at it, I keep metrics on all my clients. Periodically I update and sort everyone to see who is paying me the highest dollar amount over a given year with tips included and put them into a few color coded tiers. I qualify escort vs massage services to quickly give me some context while I review. I also make a note on how much I enjoy seeing each one of them and likewise how much of a pain in the ass they are, if applicable. These are less tangible factors, but it helps to keep in mind as I review. The less enjoyable but loyal/generous ones are just as valuable to me if not more than those I enjoy seeing more but visit me less often and/or don’t tip. I use the hard numbers to help me look past my biases and objectively steer my attention to the best clients for my business. ALL my clients are important, mind you. So it doesn’t matter if you see me once a year or bi-weekly, if you’re tipping, or hiring more/less valuable services. I see it all clearly shake out in the numbers on a spreadsheet. The lower figures matter too, because all of those people collectively add up to a significant chunk of the pie. I track how many appointments each client makes, what they are paying, and figure out pretty quickly where my bread is buttered. At the end of the day (end of the year?) it’s all business. Who is paying my bills over the long haul, and who is demonstrating the most loyalty over time gets my highest level of attention and effort. I go above and beyond for these people.

I agree, a 5-10 min call on FaceTime or other mutually agreeable platform would be a good place to start. It’s low investment for you both and high yield on information for you both. A call gives you both a feel for the other’s personality, look, cadence, and the opportunity to ask direct questions and follow up questions. For the rate, maybe your provider needs more information from you or he would explain more of his reasoning after some follow up questions. It’s possible to have successful overnights with providers meeting them for the first time, but I highly recommend hiring them for at least one shorter session to see what your chemistry is like and then consider, if it’s a match, a longer hire like an overnight. This reduces your risks of committing to a high dollar value session and realizing after it’s too late that the hire was not worth your investment. Remember, overnights include sex, but the whole point is to savor the time together before, during, and after the sexy bits. You need more than just compatibility (or tolerability) in bed. You need some kind of connection to make it feel special and worthwhile. You spend more time during overnights with him not having sex than you do having sex. The extra value is in making the most of all that time. It’s difficult to judge how suitable you will be for one another for an overnight without ever meeting before. A FaceTime call is a good start.

YoungBoyTommy’s RentMen Tommy checked me out and his pics make me pretty thirsty 🥵 but I am wondering if it’s TGTBT. He just joined RentMen this month. Says he’s in Manhattan in the profile text but lists San Diego, and San Diego is not listed as a travel destination. Something is fishy here. Maybe a reincarnation from some other profile, AI generated, or ripped pics off the internet? Any experiences?

That whole “jet lag” schtick was really off. I hope it becomes a plot point that makes more sense for her character later.

Ok, it’s on like Donkey Kong! Group for my client with Damian Quantas and Damiano confirmed for this Sunday. I’ll report back on my San Diego thread in the Deli, as this is Spas and Masseurs. While Damiano is a masseur, this will definitely be a little too steamy for the spa section. And yes, I realize Damian is a forum member, inactive for a hot minute, but…more to come later… P.S. Damiano’s BF is Teddy Hunter. Not sure where the mix up was with Anthony or if things have changed since the last intel, but Damiano tells me he’s with Teddy now. Potential here for bringing them both in for future group play sessions. Will see how it goes.

Damiano tells me he lives in SD. His RentMasseur ad is expired. Anyone hire him for deli services? PM me. Waiting to hear back if he is interested in doing a group scene.

^agreed! I’ll take whatever male nudity they dish out. Nice ass shot. What’s with the creepy incest vibes though? This season seems like it will be a slow burn indeed. I want more Jennifer Coolidge 😊

There is no right answer on deposits. You have to do what’s right for your business. No amount of input from clients or escorts will establish an acceptable standard across the board. Whatever you feel is the right approach for you, for your market, that’s the way to go. Personally I write these experiences off as a cost of doing business so that I am free to continue doing business the way I want to - without deposits. It serves me well 98% or more of the time. Also, screening and making decisions with your gut to begin with helps that number. When your percentage for whatever strategy you use gets out of whack I would consider changing. There is no foolproof choice free of some cost to you. All choices have pros and cons. It’s about measuring and managing that cost to your business.

@DomKingNYC we’ve all been there. Sorry this happened to you. Welcome back!

Leave a voicemail That will solve your problems. The guys who won’t get back in a reasonable time by text won’t be any better at returning calls. Hire the guys who call you back within 24 hrs. The good ones will call you back, and leave voicemails of their own as needed. The others aren’t worth your time. Let the rest of it go. I started to explain in long form all the reasons you can’t expect an escort to pick up the phone for a new contact and be ready to discuss details out loud at the moment you decide to call. But it’s not worth my breath. Even I am exhausted running through my long list. I’ll shorten to this. Clients who prefer phone calls for initial contact and/or exclusive contact fall into two camps: 1) You feel entitled to everyone’s immediate attention over the phone, even if it interrupts something important the other person is doing. You won’t hire because he didn’t pick up on the first ring. Good luck out there. It’s going to be a very long, unsatisfying winter for you. 2) You understand your providers are busy and that phone calls are the least preferred method of contact for anyone living in the 21st century, especially escorts. But you still want phone communication. So you leave a voicemail, and wait a reasonable period for a reply.

I agree with much of the above. We do not operate like other businesses. It’s just the one guy handling everything, with few exceptions. We do not have receptionists available to answer calls during specified business hours and you probably don’t want to chat with a receptionist anyway… or an AI bot for that matter. Expecting us to provide on call receptionist services and still do our jobs is… unrealistic, to put it generously. Texting is standard, unless you are using another messaging platform. Calls are long a thing of the past, unless you message to request a call first. Some of us, like myself, are happy to schedule a call. The chances of your provider being in a private, quiet, safe, undistracted environment with full availability and attention for your questions at the exact moment you want to call … is quite low. Here is a link to a related discussion with more elaborating comments:

What your escort does in his personal life: 1) is none of your business; although he may volunteer this info (or lie about it) 2) is unverifiable speculation 3) has no bearing on what he offers to his clients; it may align or not 4) has no bearing on his competence in delivering services; if he’s good he’s good 5) does not entitle you to put him in a box 6) does not make him inferior at providing the opposite role for work; he could be talented at both and maybe even genuinely enjoy both, but for any number of reasons tends to take on more of one role or the other for work 7) does not guarantee he will genuinely enjoy taking on the same role with YOU; a lot of times it’s about individual chemistry and connection, but at the end of the day he is providing a service aligned with client preferences whether your provider is genuinely enjoying it or not. 8 ) might only be presented as part of playing into a client’s fantasy; i.e. I will only bottom (or top) for YOU, to make you feel special, worthy, valuable, hot, masculine, desirable, or validated in some way For all you know, your provider is presenting a persona, to appeal to an audience. Maybe he is more desirable to more people as a (fill in the blank), and so he lists that for marketing reasons. It could be a lie, a total facade for business purposes. Or perhaps a practical decision. Also, versatile men exist. Short of hiring a private investigator to follow him around for months and invade his privacy, how on earth would you verify he only tops or only bottoms in his personal life? Is it really that important to you that he live his life in a certain way to satisfy your fantasy lasting only for an hour or two (or overnight, or a week)? Clients: suspend your disbelief. Better yet, stop caring so much. Ask your provider for what you want. If he can deliver on that, great. That’s all that matters! As to the original question: ‘More top’ simply means he is more inclined to top with most other sexual partners, most of the time. This question assumes he is having anal sex in most of his encounters, but the dynamic applies to oral sex as well. Not all sex involves penetration either. Topic for another day. A ‘more top’ guy recognizes that he is a human being with different moods and desires at different times. He also has a human body that is more or less willing/able to cooperate for different roles at different times. A simple binary label allows no room for deviation. I can’t tell you how many men identifying as total tops have switched roles after being with me. It happens. Binary identities are too limiting. We’re all on a spectrum. A ‘more top’ guy enjoys bottoming under certain circumstances, at certain times, with certain people. Maybe that’s 10% of the time. Maybe that’s 0.001% of the time. Either way, he’s bottoming significantly less than 50% of the time, which in my mind makes him ‘mostly top’, or as some might say top/vers. He might also bottom for work, upon request. I fall into this camp and I do not charge differently for it. Being mostly top doesn’t make me less qualified to bottom, worse at it, or my clients less satisfied. Nor does it take away from my mostly top identity. Clients love my ass and I get into servicing them in this way. More top just means I am usually the one topping and tend to enjoy that role the most. But at times I enjoy bottoming too, for work and for personal pleasure.

Anyone try him yet? He’s in LA, travels to other cities here and there. Taylor Sinn’s RentMen Taylor Sinn’s Website He’s publishes his porn content in the usual places. He’s interviewed in this article in September 2024.

Post your ads, gents. Clients here want to know who you are. Some of them may hire you.

I’m a pleaser. Whatever the client wants, the client gets. I don’t want/need to cum. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t. As long as my client is satisfied, I’m satisfied.

GayWellness is small but growing rapidly. I imagine within a couple years it will give MasseurFinder a serious run for their money. MF now charges their masseurs hundreds (yes, plural) of dollars a month! GW is charging similar fees as RentMasseur. I’m on there because I negotiated a discount while the site remains relatively low traffic. GayWellness

Meet Rocco Suraci, one of my eighteen runner ducks. That shirt is bananas. One of his ducklings And of course, Bjørn and Finnr Suraci, my Italian Maremma livestock guardian dogs. Bjørn, our handsome guy Finnr, his younger bully brother My boys love treats and praise And spooning Finnr gets scared of fireworks. We snuggle in the casita to calm him down. Bjørn loves rain and mud And sleeping on his back. How can we forget about Kaiya? She’s an old crotchety lady, going on 20 years now: