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When I first explored bottoming, while in college, it seemed more painful than pleasurable physically, but so emotionally powerful. I've always been more of a side, but when I have bottomed, I'm almost always soft. One time I came from my boyfriend fucking me (an experience that solidified my sense that I am gay), although it's since been explained to me that was probably from prostate stimulation. I got raped when I was in my early 20s and didn't bottom for over 20 years. When I started again, it was so emotionally/spiritually powerful, even if I didn't cum while being topped.

Point is, someone can not get hard and still LOVE being topped.

When I first explored bottoming, while in college, it seemed more painful than pleasurable physically, but so emotionally powerful. I've always been more of a side, but when I have bottomed, I'm almost always soft. One time I came from my boyfriend fucking me (an experience that solidified my sense that I am gay), although it's since been explained to me that was probably from prostate stimulation. I got raped when I was in my early 20s and didn't bottom for over 20 years. When I started again, it was so emotionally/spiritually powerful, even if I didn't cum while being topped.

Point is, someone can not get hard and still LOVE being topped.

When I first explored bottoming, while in college, it seemed more painful than pleasurable physically, but so emotionally powerful. I've always been more of a side, but when I have bottomed, I'm almost always soft. One time I came from my boyfriend fucking me (an experience that solidified my sense that I am gay), although it's since been explained to me that was probably from prostate stimulation. I got raped when I was in my early 20s and didn't bottom for over 20 years. When I started again, it was so emotionally/spiritually powerful, even if I didn't cum while being topped.

Point is, someone can not get hard and still LOVE being topped.

When I first explored bottoming, while in college, it seemed more painful than pleasurable physically, but so emotionally powerful. I've always been more of a side, but when I have bottomed, I'm almost always soft. One time I came from my boyfriend fucking me (an experience that solidified my sense that I am gay), although it's since been explained to me that was probably from prostate stimulation. I got raped when I was in my early 20s and didn't bottom for over 20 years. When I started again, it was so emotionally/spiritually powerful, even if I didn't cum while being topped.

Point is, someone can not get hard and still LOVE being topped.

When I first explored bottoming, while in college, it seemed more painful than pleasurable physically, but so emotionally powerful. I've always been more of a side, but when I have bottomed, I'm almost always soft. One time I came from my boyfriend fucking me (an experience that solidified my sense that I am gay), although it's since been explained to me that was probably from prostate stimulation. I got raped when I was in my early 20s and didn't bottom for over 20 years. When I started again, it was so emotionally/spiritually powerful, even if I didn't cum while being topped.

Point is, someone can not get hard and still LOVE being topped.

Some guys turn bottom specifically because they can't maintain an erection.
Kevin Slater

It is very much a generational thing, as others have said. I'm 64. Group showers and being naked in the locker room were normalized from the time I would go swimming at the Y in grade school.
At the college  where I teach, when I arrived in the late 1980s students shared a locker room with staff and faculty, including a sauna in which we'd all sit naked, and open showers with posts with several shower heads on each. Students often showered and changed after P.E. classes or working out in the evening. It was normal to see students from a class I was teaching in the showers, sauna and locker room--something that would be almost unthinkable now, except for guys from the swim team walking from their locker room through the main locker room to the pool.

By the time of the covid shutdown, the sauna had died of old age and was not replaced. Someone donated a lot of money to create a new showplace of a fitness center. New student locker rooms were built with individual curtained showers, and my sense is few students change or shower unless they are using the pool. Faculty and staff use the old locker room as there is no private-shower option, everyone uses the open showers. There us much less use than before covid. 

It seems to me that the it's a combination of increased awareness that being forced to be naked in front of others is traumatizing for some kids, an awareness that there are indeed gay or lesbian people in the locker room, some of us being inappropriate with staring, the ubiquity of cell phone cameras and spy cams and photos that have been leaked/spread (imagine being in middle or high school and someone shares a photo of you naked in the locker room or shower), and the highly publicized cases of sexually predatory coaches (like Jerry Sandusky) that has led to the demise of mandatory group showers in middle and high school. And then people never get comfortable with being naked around others in a locker room the way most of us did. 

It is very much a generational thing, as others have said. I'm 64. Group showers and being naked in the locker room were normalized from the time I would go swimming at the Y in grade school.
At the college  where I teach, when I arrived in the late 1980s students shared a locker room with staff and faculty, including a sauna in which we'd all sit naked, and open showers with posts with several shower heads on each. Students often showered and changed after P.E. classes or working out in the evening. It was normal to see students from a class I was teaching in the showers, sauna and locker room--something that would be almost unthinkable now, except for guys from the swim team walking from their locker room through the main locker room to the pool.

By the time of the covid shutdown, the sauna had died of old age and was not replaced. Someone donated a lot of money to create a new showplace of a fitness center. New student locker rooms were built with individual curtained showers, and my sense is few students change or shower unless they are using the pool. Faculty and staff use the old locker room as there is no private-shower option, everyone uses the open showers. There us much less use than before covid. 

It seems to me that the it's a combination of increased awareness that being forced to be naked in front of others is traumatizing for some kids, an awareness that there are indeed gay or lesbian people in the locker room, some of us being inappropriate with staring, the ubiquity of cell phone cameras and spy cams and photos that have been leaked/spread (imagine being in middle or high school and someone shares a photo of you naked in the locker room or shower), and the highly publicized cases of sexually predatory coaches (like Jerry Sandusky) that has led to the demise of mandatory group showers in middle and high school. And then people never get comfortable with being naked around others in a locker room the way most of us did. 

It is very much a generational thing, as others have said. I'm 64. Group showers and being naked in the locker room were normalized from the time I would go swimming at the Y in grade school.
At the college  where I teach, when I arrived in the late 1980s students shared a locker room with staff and faculty, including a sauna in which we'd all sit naked, and open showers with posts with several shower heads on each. Students often showered and changed after P.E. classes or working out in the evening. It was normal to see students from a class I was teaching in the showers, sauna and locker room--something that would be almost unthinkable now, except for guys from the swim team walking from their locker room through the main locker room to the pool.

By the time of the covid shutdown, the sauna had died of old age and was not replaced. Someone donated a lot of money to create a new showplace of a fitness center. New student locker rooms were built with individual curtained showers, and my sense is few students change or shower unless they are using the pool. Faculty and staff use the old locker room as there is no private-shower option, everyone uses the open showers. There us much less use than before covid. 

It seems to me that the it's a combination of increased awareness that being forced to be naked in front of others is traumatizing for some kids, an awareness that there are indeed gay or lesbian people in the locker room, some of us being inappropriate with staring, the ubiquity of cell phone cameras and spy cams and photos that have been leaked/spread (imagine being in middle or high school and someone shares a photo of you naked in the locker room or shower), and the highly publicized cases of sexually predatory coaches (like Jerry Sandusky) that has led to the demise of mandatory group showers in middle and high school. And then people never get comfortable with being naked around others in a locker room the way most of us did. 

It is very much a generational thing, as others have said. I'm 64. Group showers and being naked in the locker room were normalized from the time I would go swimming at the Y in grade school.
At the college  where I teach, when I arrived in the late 1980s students shared a locker room with staff and faculty, including a sauna in which we'd all sit naked, and open showers with posts with several shower heads on each. Students often showered and changed after P.E. classes or working out in the evening. It was normal to see students from a class I was teaching in the showers, sauna and locker room--something that would be almost unthinkable now, except for guys from the swim team walking from their locker room through the main locker room to the pool.

By the time of the covid shutdown, the sauna had died of old age and was not replaced. Someone donated a lot of money to create a new showplace of a fitness center. New student locker rooms were built with individual curtained showers, and my sense is few students change or shower unless they are using the pool. Faculty and staff use the old locker room as there is no private-shower option, everyone uses the open showers. There us much less use than before covid. 

It seems to me that the it's a combination of increased awareness that being forced to be naked in front of others is traumatizing for some kids, an awareness that there are indeed gay or lesbian people in the locker room, some of us being inappropriate with staring, the ubiquity of cell phone cameras and spy cams and photos that have been leaked/spread (imagine being in middle or high school and someone shares a photo of you naked in the locker room or shower), and the highly publicized cases of sexually predatory coaches (like Jerry Sandusky) that has led to the demise of mandatory group showers in middle and high school. And then people never get comfortable with being naked around others in a locker room the way most of us did. 

It is very much a generational thing, as others have said. I'm 64. Group showers and being naked in the locker room were normalized from the time I would go swimming at the Y in grade school.
At the college  where I teach, when I arrived in the late 1980s students shared a locker room with staff and faculty, including a sauna in which we'd all sit naked, and open showers with posts with several shower heads on each. Students often showered and changed after P.E. classes or working out in the evening. It was normal to see students from a class I was teaching in the showers, sauna and locker room--something that would be almost unthinkable now, except for guys from the swim team walking from their locker room through the main locker room to the pool.

By the time of the covid shutdown, the sauna had died of old age and was not replaced. Someone donated a lot of money to create a new showplace of a fitness center. New student locker rooms were built with individual curtained showers, and my sense is few students change or shower unless they are using the pool. Faculty and staff use the old locker room as there is no private-shower option, everyone uses the open showers. There us much less use than before covid. 

It seems to me that the it's a combination of increased awareness that being forced to be naked in front of others is traumatizing for some kids, an awareness that there are indeed gay or lesbian people in the locker room, some of us being inappropriate with staring, the ubiquity of cell phone cameras and spy cams and photos that have been leaked/spread (imagine being in middle or high school and someone shares a photo of you naked in the locker room or shower), and the highly publicized cases of sexually predatory coaches (like Jerry Sandusky) that has led to the demise of mandatory group showers in middle and high school. And then people never get comfortable with being naked around others in a locker room the way most of us did. 

I would just ask, “Are you comfortable being in the nude while doing the massage, or is that not something you offer?“
And it’s either yes or no at that point. Can’t control whether a person gets mad or not…you can decide whether you want to continue things the way they are or look elsewhere.

MasterCard is going to cut OF off unless they make these changes, and other payment processors are likely to follow. I’m not at all surprised if some of the content creators are not-quite-legal, or even if 18+ have underage collaborators. And unfortunately voluntary, freely chosen sex workers are having their careers diminished as collateral damage in the effort to end involuntary sex work and trafficking of both minors and adults. 
 
Looking at OF, and also the male online findom scene, I’m amazed at how much money young men are able to make. Never occurred to me when I was 19 or 20 that I could make more than both my parents combined by jerking off for a living. Or just making videos where I tell guys they are worthless and they owe me money because I’m an “alpha.” 

MasterCard is going to cut OF off unless they make these changes, and other payment processors are likely to follow. I’m not at all surprised if some of the content creators are not-quite-legal, or even if 18+ have underage collaborators. And unfortunately voluntary, freely chosen sex workers are having their careers diminished as collateral damage in the effort to end involuntary sex work and trafficking of both minors and adults. 
 
Looking at OF, and also the male online findom scene, I’m amazed at how much money young men are able to make. Never occurred to me when I was 19 or 20 that I could make more than both my parents combined by jerking off for a living. Or just making videos where I tell guys they are worthless and they owe me money because I’m an “alpha.” 

I know that this comment is going to alienate some......
 
but in my experience with muscle worship, my straight hires always delivered the best cocky, verbal, dominant l and aggressive sessions....most getting off on the praise, touch and admiration to the point of definitely getting hard and really getting off. They definitely like their muscles admired and egos stroked
 
The gay escorts that I saw were less inclined to get really into it and seemed a little disconnected
But different strokes for different folks ?

Are there any guys that really know how to get into your head mentally and leave a worshipper in ecstasy? Those guys i feel worshippers will fly anywhere to mest or fly them in. Fellow worshippers who are your go to muscle gods?

I follow a couple of guys on onlyfans, each of whom occupy a niche that does have anyone IRL in my area. Plus I can get off quite a bit for a lot less money than an escort.
 
If one of those guys did escort work, and we were in the same city at the same time, I’d make an investment!
 
I know a guy who’d like to do porn and may start with onlyfans. He’s not into escorting, though. Separate of sometimes overlapping skill sets.

That’s so beautiful, Eric. Ot made my night and inspired me to be a more open and connected teacher tomorrow.

I used to go down to the local community college and try to get pickup games going. But they got mad that I won all the time. http://www.maleescortreview.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/kiss.png

That's funny. I also have a second instagram account for that very reason. I follow porn starts, escorts and some actual models on that account. I also have a fair number of "models" with only fans pages.

there's no hard and fast rule, but why not be prepared? i got a little kit at the container store and i've got lube, cockrings, condoms, poppers, and a few other little things in there. it goes with me nearly everywhere, and that way i always have supplies.
 
pro-tip - get a small container of lube, then buy a big contaner (yes, amazon sells it) - then you can refill the little bottle from the big bottle, so you reduce cost, reduce waste, and if you misplace the little bottle, it's not a big deal.

Obviously some gentlemen are more demanding than others and what's needed could change from one case to another.
 

 

How about “do you have an Instagram account under your escort name”?

i don't have an upper age limits that i'll see. i'm working. you want to hire me? sure. i don't care what your age is. i care who you are. i care about your experience with me. that leaves me no room to worry myself about your age.
 
i do find that i develop feeligs for clients. i try to find something to love about everyone that hires me, and i haven't failed at that yet. i feel like there's a lot of "rules" about who you can love, and "how much," and all of that, and i just don't buy it. i belive we are all fundamentally of one consciousness, and that consciousness is love. i believe we are deluded by our other feelings, which are not the real us, and i believe actively seeking out love is one way we can return ourselves to sanity.

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/09/opinion/ai-joins-the-campaign-against-sex-trafficking.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share
 
Another reason to use a well-reviewed escort. And a burner phone!